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becca-alexa · 2 years ago

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the people in my immediate circle all think i'm crazy for saying i'd want to be in a relationship for 2-3 years before talking about marriage and i think they're all insane for it but then i remember the average time from strangers to married for them is around 6 months

#becca.txt #legit do not think any of their relationships went on for longer than a year before marriage #my bestie went from absolute strangers to married in 4 months #they're adorable together but FOUR MONTHS???wild #they met around christmas and their wedding was in april - they just had their 1st anniversary and their baby's due next month #that's what happens when you're latina and religious i guess #not me thinking that 30s+ is a good age to marry and have kids and everybody thinking i'm insane 👀#don't even get me started on HAVING kids -- nobody wants to hear that i can't conceive naturally they all say to stay hopeful!...#there's still a chance!you can do it!like y'all i got stage 4 endometriosis that's taken over both my ovaries i ain't having no kids 😂#honestly i've said this before and i'll say it again - if i'm to have a marriage like some of them i'd rather stay single #i think only my bestie has a TRULY happy and functional marriage #i love her for it and her husband's an angel on earth -- everyone else's marriage is a literal dumpster fire #like my dudes if you're doing relationship counseling WHILE DATING then do premarital AND post marital couseling...#why get married???? like i am the biggest supporter of utilizing mental health services but something's not right there #and don't even get me started on how YOUNG they marry or how religious folk play round robin with each other til someone sticks #god forbid you tell anyone you don't want to get married in general or GASP!you marry a non-believer #everybody always talks shit about “missional dating” and how you can't do it!!but like... everybody does it #literally everybody #it's not a big deal #just because we're the same denomination doesn't automatically make you a decent person #and the opposite is true - just because we don't believe the same things doesn't make you a hellbound pagan #it's just frustrating y'know???idk if anybody will relate to this but i am so ready to just... do my faith on my own terms #so sick of people i've known all my life looking at me like i'm sick or something bc i'm 26 and still single #by this point if anybody in that circle tries to set me up with a guy it's an automatic aversion #not one man they've ever introduced to me is worth the light of day - and i'm not being rude #like buddy you're 30+ still living at home no job no career no education no ambitions....but he's christian tho!!#yeah sure but he's still trash #i want a partner not a baby imma have to support #just me rambling about things nobody want to hear but i gotta put this out somewhere or else i'll implode

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