#like i’m not about to discompose cuz some guy used a word in a sentence

[cicada-dyke]

being gnc/visibly queer can be so fucking tiring at times. like sure it’s fun to mess with an old lady in a supermarket who will try to be polite and end up calling you mr. lady, it is however less amusing when you’re helping your friend move in and he has to tell you to be careful because his roommate ( whom ,mind you, i didn’t even know like not even appearance wise ) “doesn’t like me”. it’s so tiring to be the one trying to be “the cool lesbian”, to be chill with whatever question might cross their mind, to reach out to smilingly shake hands with my friends boyfriend, right after hearing him “whisper” some disgusting shit about me in her ear. it hurts to see them being all lovey dovey and act like he didn’t just call me a slur behind my back. it sucks for her to come to me and tell me that her new boyfriend said “yeah johnny is cool for a lesbian” but he still misgendeders me because he doesn’t get it. why is it on me to attempt to make amends with someone who’s mad at me before i even introduced myself