#like i can't tell them any personal things about me anymore because i'm uncomfy :(

[choccorin]

this year will either end with me killing myself or me being okay again

[onismdaydream]

HIIII!!!!! it's me again, the most obsessed and horniest yuji lover!♡🎀

Didn't have anything to do today so I have been on tumbler looking for any yuji content I can get my hands on :p! And I am just OBSESSED with headcanons, specifically yuji as your boyfriend! AHH!!!

Like, how would he first tell you he likes you? How long would it take? Ugh, now me personally, I can only imagine having a movie night alone, megumi and nobara canceled ofc because they don't want to watch whatever bs movie yuji picks :(. And then so there you are, Both cuddled up on the couch, a little to close together, and he is just.. so flustered! But why? It's not like he likes you or anything! Well, turns out he does and he JUST realized. So when the two protagonists in the romantic comedy yall are watching suddenly confess, he can't hold it back! It just blurts out of his mouth..which would be a bad thing, until you reveal you like him back!♡

Idk, I just find it soo cute, and honestly totally something he would do. 🤷‍♀️. But then like, first date? Would he take you to eat, the movies, or maybe to the mall?

Now this one, I'm not too sure, to many options and I love them all, but he would DEFINITELY make it romantic and cute ><!

Okay, but now like one of the MILLION dollar questions is.... how would he act on your period!

I'm sorry, but every single small headcanon, or fic of how ANYBODY would treat you while ur on your period is straight up Crack to me. I NEED IT. I love the wholesome headcanons. 😔🎀!

I think.. he would notice that your acting different, he cares about you after all so he notices every little thing. So when he sees you look uncomfy or maybe rubbing you hand on your thigh, trying to relieve some pain.. he asks you what's wrong! And when you tell him, I feel like he would IMMEDIATELY do whatever you want to make you feel better. LITERALLY.

"Oh. Really? Is there anything I can do?"

Chocolate? In ur hands the second you ask. Meds for the pain, he's got them? Blanket? YES! cuddles? Okay, is that even a question? OBVI!!!

Second million dollar question is how/what he would do yalls first time. Last headcanon i said was crack, but this one is like all drugs COMBINED. I like to think it would be a makeout session gone to far..

That movie you played has a sex scene, which, really doesn't bother you or him.. or it usually doesn't. Today though, a small thought forms in his brain. How would you look? Sound? Smell? Taste? Feel..? And then it's akward, because you're so close, and his hand just starts massaging your thigh, and he has to kiss you! Which at this point in the relationship isn't like super surprising, I'm sure yuji loves to kiss you. But this one feels different, yujis face is just soo pink, and he almost can't keep his hands off of you! Cupping one cheek while pushing you down on the couch with the other, so he's on top.. then one of his knees pushes your thighs apart.. 🧎‍♀️

You know the rest.

But I also like to think maybe yall are making out, you on top of his lap, but you can't stop squirming! And it really isn't on purpose, you swear.. but yuji can only take so much, And eventually he can't hide his moans anymore!

Yeah idk I feel like humping n shit, maybe cummin in his pants is SO hot. UGH

I don't think it would really be planned..😋🎀

Also, I feel like he would be super flustered and kinda embarrassed with oral. In the sense that, he could spend hours between your thighs (we all know he's a munch), but the first time you ask to suck him off, he probably turns into a whiny mess.

WHICH BRINGS ME TO THIS. Like- I'm sorry, but no matter how dominant or kinky people make yuji, which I won't lie I love, you CANNOT tell me this man doesn't whine or moan your name. You simply can't. LOOK AT HIM.!!! 🧎‍♀️🙏

I just, have so many thoughts and headcanons.. l can't control myself yuji headcanons are literally my drug. I love the subby ones, the Dom ones, fluff ones, smut ones... I DONT CARE. If a yuji headcanon exists, I WILL read it.

Omg, I have so much more but I have already made this soo long. I honestly just wanted to ask if you would ever make your own yuji head canons? Maybe you already have and I can't find it.. BUT LET ME KNOW!

I just HAVE to know what headcanons are floating around in that wonderful brain of yours!♡

Also so glad to see you liked my past rant♡♡!!!

I really hope you have a good day/night!!!! Make sure ur taking care of urself babes bc I can't survive without you><! 🎀

(Also sorry for any typos or whatever, this was 100% rushed because my fingers physically cannot keep up with all the thoughts I have of yuji.)

With a heart full of love, and a brain full of yuji,

-your horniest yuji lover!♡🎀

hi lovely <333

gonna put this under a read more so it doesn't take up too much space!

oooh headcanons are fun!! i don't post a ton, not for any particular reason, i just seem to gravitate towards snippets in established relationships.

omg yuji just blurting it out :(( what a sweetheart! he is mortified but i feel like he would try his best to play it cool, though his face feels like it's on fire from how flushed it is!! but then you tell him that you also like him and he visibly relaxes SO much and has the biggest smile on his face and he immediately wants to hug you and hold you close <3

i think for first dates, he would lean towards movies/mall, this way it's still semi-public. it's not that he doesn't want to spend time with you alone (he wants to soooo badly), but i think he thinks he has to take it slow and be sweet and gentlemanly. like he was definitely taught the "proper way" to court a girl by his grandfather, so he holds doors open for you and pulls out your chair and brings you flowers and stuff and its just so sweet of him idk. he might hesitate a bit for pda stuff, but once you give him the okay, he is constantly holding your hand or wrapping an arm around you!! maybe even asking for a kiss!! (side note: i think yuji gets all pouty when you forget to give him a goodbye kiss later in the relationship)

yes!! yuji would ABSOLUTELY be doing anything and everything for you as soon as he notices any symptoms or side effects. he's also the type to track your period on his phone lol just so he can prepare and give you some chocolate or whatever else might help! he is just like. the nicest and most caring boyfriend ever <3333

OOOH i love love love both of those for first time ughhh!! i have a fic i've been meaning to work on more but i'm just a little too fried to write much of anything, anyway its a dry humping fic with yuji because i just know he loves the feeling of it ! he can't even get embarrassed from cumming in his pants because it feels so good and he likes how dirty it is (he's a bit of a perv :3). BUT i also love the idea that he just can't help himself and he's so wrapped up in the moment that he doesn't even notice that his knee is pressing against your core... like he's licking into your mouth and grinding against you and you have to pull away because holy shit this feels great and you want more!! and it's kinda rushed and messy, barely taking clothes off but you both need each other so bad!!! (he makes up for it by taking his time with you for round 2 lol)

oh what i would GIVE to suck his dick... yuji is 100% super vocal in my opinion, like he cannot be quiet, which is why his mouth is always on you when he's fucking you! he's always kissing or biting or talking, so when you're sucking him off, he is left to just talk and make so much noise. whining and praising you because it feels so good to have your mouth wrapped around him <3 like imagine sitting between his strong thighs, looking up at him, and his eyes are half lidded, mouth open as he breaths heavily, tongue darting out to lick at his lips, muscles flexing as he tries not to force your head further down or buck his hips up.... ugh he's so hot...

i'd love to write more headcanons and other things for yuji!! its just a matter of me getting inspired or having the energy right now. work has been super draining for me so its been a little difficult to get my brain working lol but im hoping it'll pass in a few weeks

thank you for sharing these with me!!! i love hearing other people's thoughts and headcanons like its just so fun to see what's similar and whatnot :3

[bihexxxual]

someone in my afk life has been throwing me under the bus pretty hardcore lately....

we're not that close, something like more than acquaintances but not really friends. they've been to my place for movie nights and some dinners, but they never ever reciprocate, just talk and talk about how they're going to. but never actually do. I've made peace with that but it does make for an awkward, coworker-esque dynamic that they refuse to bridge the gap on.

this is perfectly fine when it's civil, but lately has been... not so civil.

like, this person has a big, invasive surgery coming up that I think they're lashing out about b/c fear. which I get. I do. but suddenly lots of random stuff is my fault for no reason..... I say I'll help them out with X on Day, they agree, Day comes around and they've "already handled X because they couldn't wait around any longer 🙄." ("any longer" being. the agreed upon date and time.) with absolutely no communication that there was an issue.

they like to visit my cat when they see him, which is fine, but my cat is a very unpredictable, very, very strong tiny predator who struggles to communicate his boundaries. I would not trust him around new people unsupervised, for safety reasons. This person always wants to "read what he's telling them" (which they are rarely correct about. they will keep petting him when he hisses and has huge black eyes, and completely ignore him when he's open and friendly) and simply WILL NOT listen to me or respect when I translate his communications, to the point that I now always put the cat in the other room if this person is coming over.

or their dog will come sit with me instead of them at movie night (I have a very comfy/squishy blanket doggo likes to sit on and doggo is old and ready for bed. nothing personal) and once doggo gets up their person will very loudly comment "oh am I WORTHY now???" (idk if me or doggo was more uncomfy!! wtf are we supposed to do with that!!)

and they want me to babysit their dog during their surgery, and handle doggo's meds while being babysat. ok! no problem! but we HAVE to go over the procedures to give doggo meds RIGHT NOW (surgery + potential babysitting is WEEKS away and would only be for 1 night anyway). and even though I have years of experience in administering meds like doggo's, there's a very heavy implication that I don't know what I'm doing and definitely can't be trusted with doggo or doggo's meds. (??? why ask me if you feel that way??)

I've stated multiple times that I'm fine with dog sitting, but would prefer to go over meds way closer to the actual date and that is? Unacceptable?? Apparently??

Verbatim, "I can cancel the surgery if that's too hard"

Like??? I've never said a damn thing about it being too difficult, but now it's hanging out there that if they cancel their surgery it'll be because *I* wasn't able to take care of their dog because it was *simply too difficult*. which is such a crock of bs!! (the meds in question are oral syringe btw. with a very tiny dog who's very cooperative with me. literally nothing difficult about the job - just doggo's human)

like. I'm keeping details simple here but lots of this is PARAGRAPHS of unrelenting texts assuring me that I'm sooooo helpful and trustworthy while simultaneously undermining and openly second guessing every. single. thing. that I have to say. right down to attacking my sleep schedule because 'they wouldn't want to bother me' (I am not bothered and have communicated this openly). Idk how to deal with this anymore tbh.

I can't really avoid this person as I will absolutely cross pass with them in daily life, but I also cannot have a conversation with them about how shitty they're being. we simply Do Not have that kind of relationship.

I know they're diagnosed with BPD, and I suspect they're probably using me to try and self-sabotoge out of their surgery (if I'm soooo unreliable to take care of doggo for a night, then they simply *must* cancel the surgery to take care of doggo themselves!) and like. I'm trying real hard to be empathetic about it. I've known them for years now and usually I just roll with things, but it's getting to SUCH an unhealthy and nasty place lately........

[cumulohimbus]

Some of us feel a HUGE amount of vitriol for masking--having stuff touch my face is a horrible sensory experience and always has been. If unable/unwilling to scan through Reddit, here are some things we do to continue staying motivated to mask:

Most straightforward thing is to remember all the other beings I care about (strangers as well -- we can't know anybody else's health situation unless they tell us) and whose lives and health matter to me. We mask to keep them safe even if they otherwise put their own lives/other being’s lives in jeopardy by not masking.

Remember that there are different kinds of masks. If one kind doesn't feel comfy, you can try others and find a type that fits better. N95s and elastomeric respirators are going to be the most effective against airborne diseases. SEAL IS EVERYTHING!!

Remembering that Covid is not the only infectious airborne disease -- it can be easy to forget this considering how politicized it was/is made to be.

If you find yourself thinking this is a moral/virtue issue that creates some uncomfy cognitive dissonance: as eldritchbauble stated, get the fuck over yourself. You're right in thinking those of us who still mask are frustrated and hurt with you about it (I don't like being bedridden for days and repeatedly blacking out because my body can't handle getting sick anymore, thanks). I don't know how much consolation this is, but at least as far as I go, I'm judging your actions (or lack thereof), not judging you as a person. I have a number of friends who don't mask anymore and we're still friends. I don't think you're a bad person for not masking, I think what you're doing (or not doing, rather) is inconsiderate. I'm not going to stop you, but it will have an impact on how much in-person time I can spend with you, etc.

If you care about personal privacy/confidentiality (and you really should), masking also helps protect your identity to a certain degree. I live in the US where surveillance is constant and relentless, and I haaaaate that. Remembering that masking helps protect against facial recognition surveillance is a good motivator to me to continue doing it.

Masking can also be a good social signal for others to not approach you, especially if they don't know whether or not you are currently sick. For those with social anxiety this can provide an extra protection against unsolicited social interactions. Doesn't work with everyone, but I've noticed masking can occasionally be a decent deterrent which I am vvv appreciative of when I am wanting to not be bothered.

As alluded to above, getting sick is miserable. It is especially devastating for me personally and other immunocompromised beings, but I also don't know of any abled person who enjoys getting sick so...?

Tired of masking! how to stay motivated? Tips on negotiating mask/COVID-related differences in relationships?

The above links to a thread with a lot of helpful responses.

[tardytothepardy]

So um for some reason the main thing about ACOSF that my brain refuses to let go of (and stop being angry about) is that whole pregnancy thing with Feyre and Rhysand. It's probably been thoroughly discussed at this point, I don't know, I wasn't part of the fandom when the book came out.

But everything about it bothers me so freaking much.

There's the overarching thing of the unreasonably* massive age gap between Feyre and Rhys, of more than 500 years (which isn't exclusive to them, I know, I don't feel any better about it being a thing with Nesta and Cassian, or the potential of Elain being with either Lucien or Azriel because of that gap), but there's also just the main thing I'm trying to stay focused on: the fact that Rhysand hid vital information about Feyre, from her. Information about her body, her pregnancy, her(their, I guess) child, her LIFE, for fuck's sake. And the excuse was that they didn't want her to worry about it?? I know that stress can affect your body in weird and complex ways, which is the last thing you would want with a pregnancy that has already presented itself with complications, but really?

Like, no, if Feyre had known earlier, it's not like she could have waved her hand and made it all be okay (unless Maas wanted to wave away the problem), but she still should have known! It is a massive failing on Rhysand's part to have not told her much beyond "there might be complications". She trusted that he was telling the truth, and he betrayed that trust.

Then there was the whole thing with the barrier that Rhysand put on Feyre. I don't remember if that was a thing that she agreed on, that he told her about, but she could undo it herself, right?? Please tell me that there is canonical evidence saying that, if for whatever reason Feyre didn't want the barrier on her anymore, she could take it off herself, because if not, there's a whole new reason for me to not like Rhysand. Like at that point, how is that action any better than what Tamlin did to her in ACOMAF? I suppose that the difference is that Tamlin trapped her in a house, but Rhysand personally barred her from any and all physical contact that he was personally uncomfy with.

In the book, the behavior was waved away with him being ultra protective over Feyre because they're mates and stuff, but that's just not enough for me. That's probably just a personal thing, but I can't just be calmed with "oh yea this extremely aggressive and possessive behavior is just totally normal 🤪 it's all good."

Part of the reason I don't like him very much has some to do with how he was portrayed in ACOSF. One of the things I actually liked about that book is that it wasn't from the perspective of a character that absolutely loved and adored him like Feyre's POV. Unfortunately that also means that he came off like a massive asshole to Nesta at any and every moment he could. (Yes, she was rude to him plenty as well, I'm aware) One of those moments was when he saw that Gwyn and Emerie were joining Nesta in her training, and he threatened Nesta to not do anything bad to Gwyn, as if Nesta wasn't the REASON why Gwyn and Emerie were there in the first place! It's like the idea of Nesta being nice to anyone was an impossibility simply because she was abrasive towards him. He never apologized for that behavior, I don't think. (Similarly, we didn't see Rhysand apologizing to Feyre about hiding info from her. I know it happened, but it was mentioned in passing. I would have liked it to be a more in-your-face thing, because it really shouldn't be glossed over)

The one apologizing was Nesta, for revealing that information about Feyre, to Feyre. She should not have apologized, I feel. She was completely right to tell her. Were her motives great? No, she was angry, lashing out, aiming to hurt, but what she said is nothing to apologize for. Feyre said that herself when talking to Cassian about it later. She said she was glad Nesta told her, and that she could rely on her sister to tell her the truth. I really feel like there should have been a scene of Feyre saying that directly to Nesta, though, because we know, as the readers, but she doesn't.

I just,, I don't understand how what Rhysand did was a thing at all. Why put that in the story at all? (Further, why have the pregnancy have complications in the first place? Storywriters do know they can write a pregnancy without major, life threatening complications, right?) Surely Maas doesn't want Rhysand to be a bad guy, as much as I've seen people on here say that he's one of her favorite characters. Actions such as the ones he took in ACOSF don't provide depth to him, for me. There's already depth to him, this just makes him come off as a bad partner who is willing to let his partner die in fear and confusion rather than allowing her to process the information for herself. (I say "die" because everyone thought she was going to die, not that he would kill her or neglect her purposefully in some way that would directly lead to her death)

I don't think I have a point or a solution to any of this, but it's just something that has consistently bothered me about ACOSF, and it's probably been discussed to death and back already because the book has been out for almost a year now.

*I say unreasonably because really, what is the point of any of them being as old as they are? The ages of Rhysand, Azriel, and Cassian (and Mor and Amren, for that matter) haven't really been useful for the story very much. Like, Cassian and Mor (I think) mentioned in ACOSF that they knew the Valkyries when they were around, but that's all I can really remember about it. There doesn't need to be a point or reason for everything, but I want to think there is a reason pertaining to the plot for why these characters are so vastly older than their LIs. Just a crumb of reason for why Rhysand's soulmate isn't even 25 when he's over 500 (Cassian too, for that matter). It's weird. I don't like it. (The age gap thing is the same reason why I didn't like "Twilight")

[shinyrockluvr]

I know I said my first post would be about tarot but idk this one just got finished first lmao

Boundaries FAQ

q: who am I allowed to set boundaries with?

a: everyone. even family members, your managers, your long time partner who's been doing that thing that genuinely hurts your feelings but you don't know how to tell them. you can give everyone guidelines on what you are and aren't okay with.

q: I dislike a boundary someone has given to me, can I tell them?

a: they've already given you a boundary, and I am sorry but you disliking the way it makes you feel comes secondary. you cannot set boundaries with people without respecting theirs. accept their decision without giving them any stress over it.

q: someone is knowingly crossing my boundaries, how do I get them to stop?

a: it's not worth the stress. if they already know your limits or at least know they're really bothering you but continue to do it, you are completely allowed to ghost people who hurt you and I encourage you to get out of that situation asap.

you'll also find that actually putting a boundary in place with some people might make them confused/upset/angry. it's important to know that their reaction isn't your fault, and you're allowed to leave the conversation and/or relationship.

Scenario

this kind of thing happens to a lot of people and has more or less happened to me as well. take note of your responses and what they're trying to do to guilt you.

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relative: are you coming to (insert a family gathering)? we would all like to see you there.

you: no, I can't because (someone you're uncomfy around) is going to be there. I would like to see you all too but I have too much anxiety around this person/people.

relative: can't you two just work it out for the sake of family? your grandfather hasn't seen you in weeks.

you: I'm happy to come see grandpa any other time, I realize I haven't seen him in a while but I can visit soon after or even before.

relative: you're hurting the feelings of all your little cousins/nieces and nephews/siblings, I hope you're happy. I'm also deeply hurt as well.

you: I don't have to be around this person for the sake of anyone else's feelings. they put me in a very anxious mood and I won't compromise on this. I'm sorry if you feel hurt, but you and other's feelings on my decision aren't my responsibility and I won't be blamed for it.

relative: well I know where I stand with you now, and your younger (sibs/niece/nephews/cousins) would be extremely hurt to know you don't care about them. I've never seen (person who makes you uncomfy) ever treat you badly anyways, they're a reasonable person!

you: I'm leaving this conversation. I feel like words are being put in my mouth, I'm being made to feel like this is my fault when it isn't, and you're too upset to understand what I am actually saying. I hope you decide to understand and believe me at some point, but I'm not spending anymore energy on trying to convince you.

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at this point you'll probably want to mute the messages, hang up, leave the room, etc. after this stressful interaction make sure you take time to assure yourself that you aren't at fault for the person's hostility.

the red parts are parts where the person is trying to guilt trip you, to make you feel bad in order to roping you into doing what they want. notice that the person (you) being guilted does not accept it and refuses to allow the relative to blame them.

the pink parts are the parts where they attempt to gaslight you into thinking you actually don't care about anyone, as well as invalidating your discomfort about the person in question by strongly insinuating that you're either lying or overreacting. you assert yourself against and refuse to validate their accusations.

this is just a brief intro for how to set healthy boundaries and communicate them. I want to go into specific types of boundaries in a different post. I hope this helps!

[creatureheart]

As much as it would be nice, I strongly doubt they have.

It might have been over a year ago that the talk about xenos/neos happened, but they were very adamant at the time, and the way they spoke about calling oneself a creature had the same kind of feeling when I heard it. Especially the whole calling yourself a creature to them is a "dissociative thing" that "others/removes the self" which very much goes back to and seems to echo how they said that xenos/neos(and nonhumaness in proximity) is a "delusional sense of self", etc, etc.

I love them a lot, but I'm also hesitant to bring things like this up because of how I know they have talked about such things in the past and while they don't scare me, I would be lying if I said I was not intimidated. More so because they are more learned than I am of things, and have their own rather set moral mindset and opinions, and I don't really want the conversation to just become a repeat of last time if I ever got to the part of talking to them about it again.

I also don't use xenos or neos anymore, so if I was to bring anything up it would be about me being nonhuman, but considering their opinion about xenos/neos being "just kins by another name" and otherkin and such being mentioned in one part of that convo, I don't think there opinion is any different on being nonhuman.

--- Which is my opinion on it as well, the reclaiming/usage of the word. I will never expect someone else to use a word they are not comfortable with for themselves. They have every right to say "no, that's not for me." But I am not them. It's that idea of "it makes me uncomfy so YOU can't use it" that annoys me to no end. I don't like a lot of things. But I don't go out of my way to tell people they cannot enjoy or think about those things. Why is this any different? I'm using it for myself, and that's it.

Can delusions be harmful? Well yeah. Just like anything else can be harmful. That doesn't mean that all of them are, or that they are inherently bad, wrong, or need to be "fixed". I will admit, I do not know enough on this topic to go too far into detail, but even I know that people should be treated with respect and care even if they are mentally unstable or delusional, because those things don't make them any lesser. Everyone is always about finding healthy coping mechanisms and such, until that coping is someone identifying with or as something, or doing something they deem "weird" and "wrong". Because obviously if this didn't work for this one specific person then it must not be healthy at all and you can't use it!! Even if, you know, it might actually be helping the person, like your example of being a dragon helping you not doing otherwise something detrimental.

I'm a firm believes of that myself, because what other people do, if it makes them happy and ain't hurting anyone/thing, then it ain't my business.

@megaraptormenace in reply to ( x )

Which is kinda what makes it hard tbh, because I know in the end, whether anyone likes it or not, how I refer to myself and what I say I am is my business and mine alone. If I am happy and not hurting others, then who cares???

But also I worry that because of their opinion on things like this it means that I can't be me entirely when around them? Like I can't even just go "I am creature" around them... I dunno, lots to think about I guess...

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@draconicave in reply to ( x )

I'mma read everything that is probably put in reply to the post so here's a reply for you, lol

Dunno if any of this will make sense and such but under the cut

That is something they know about, as in they know of queer scholars and such and have suggested that I read Stone Butch Blues and other things on identity and such because they think it would he helpful for me. Besides that I don't really know how active or how much experience they have in irl queer spaces because we live in opposite sides of the planet and have only known each other for the past five-six years, which isn't all that long compared to how much time they could have spent around people.

They have their own way of viewing things, much like everyone, and are very academic and such, which tbh sometimes I wonder if they are too academic at times. They have their own morality on things and all that and like valid, because again, everyone does and everyone is different and I dunno... head is just sitting on things recently.

The convo that was over a year ago was a lot for me at the time. I broke down for a few days afterwards because I was IDing with a few xenos and using neopronouns and yeah. To be fair the thing that started the convo, or at least what lead up to it was them venting about neos before they knew I was using them. But yeah. That convo is what had me basically drop and avoid anything to do with xenos, neos or being nonhuman for over a year until this year where I started looking into it again.

But thank you, like truly. Besides my gf there has only been ONE other person who has been like adamantly against what the original question asked. They had a rather similar opinion about it but they also worded it way worse in tone: "I think it’s fine in the matter of joking or being nonserious. If it became something like that’s how someone seriously wanted to be called I would find that stupid and likely would find it attention seeking and that person would need to reevaluate reality and coping mechanisms since that does not seem like the stance of a mentally healthy person. Demanding to be seen as inhuman would both be concerning and also annoying."

The first response I got from them when I shared the question in a server. I can understand people not liking to be called something themselves by other people, whether because they just don't like it or because of the weight it holds, like towards minorities. But someone who wants to happily and willingly call themselves something isn't the same.

Plus what is it with arguments against things like this always talking about people being mentally unstable or the idea being delusional. Like, I'm sorry? Do you equate something being a delusion or someone being mentally unstable as automatically bad?