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sipilosopograsya · 5 years ago

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SIBLING CHALLENGE

IMPORTANT NOTICE: I know this is quite LATE & medyo long post (mejjj lang naman, mas mahaba pa din ECQ at pasensya ni Mama 😂) I want us (YES US kahit dito man lang magkaroon ng US 😂) to learn something about our life as a PASTOR'S KID a.k.a. PK (sama ko na din Pastor's wife or hubby).

You know, while growing up we struggled a lot finding some reasons that being a PK is good. Bcuz why not? We were born into this way of life & it happened to be our path. So why not try to find a reason na MASAYA AT MAGANDA MAGING PK.

We are identified as "Ay si (my/sibs name) yung anak ni Pastor..." and for me I think that it's normal. That it's fun too. That it's okay. That it's awesome bcuz you are like a "star" being recognized. You have some privileges like mauna ka sa pila pag may pakain si ate member lalo pag birthday ni bebeh niya. (VIP ka ghorl 😂? Tapos lukatam tay nalanlanit nga "steropom" adda papansit ken sweet-taba na) Pag may regalo kay Pastor kahit di sa iyo nakikiregalo ka na din Nakikibukas, nakiki "Papa akin na lang yan" kahit di alam kung saan gagamitin ang kurbata. Syempre, halos lahat ng pacontest pagdating sa BIBLE, MYTHICAL ka boi kasi katabi mo matulog ang BIBLE. Halos unan mo na nga eh. Always present ka sa lahat ng camp, fellowships maski convention ng mga pastors kahit di ka belong makagala ka lang. 😂

But here's the catch. Believe it or not (& this is the reality) there is also an expectation, actually HIGH EXPECTATION from the people around us that as clergy kids we ARE OUGHT TO BE SO HOLY & SO PERFECT. It's like WE ARE NOT ALLOWED TO COMMIT MISTAKES (kulang na lang pati sa exams bawal kami magkamali). And of course I am so sure that there are people or church members WHO EXPECTS US TO BE IN THE MINISTRY & some of them might think it should be. That is why sometimes PKs can feel THE PRESSURE. The pressure to always get it right, or be seen to be doing the right thing or acting perfectly or holy.

Kaya pag nagkasala o nagkamali ang mga PKs nakita ko at masakit sa akin kasi we are so quick to judge and just recklessly label PKs "Wala kang kwentang anak ng pastor", "Anak ka pa naman ng pastor.", "Walang kwentang nagsisimba". Sometimes we put them in public embarassment reiterating that they are "Mahina", "Di kayang lumaban." Just because they do not speak up or fight back. Tuwing may umiiyak at nagsusumbong telling that they are "the victim" madalas we are already concluding na "Masama ugali" "Hindi na nahiya" without even listening to the other side of the story.

Now I/we want you to know that it's not bad if we expect that PKs should set a good example. BUT PLEASE, IN CASE THAT THEY COMMIT MISTAKE OR SINFUL ACT, PLEASE REMEMBER, JUST LIKE YOU, PKs ARE A WORK IN PROGRESS TOO. DO NOT EVER CONDEMN THEM OR EVEN DISQUALIFY THEM TO BE PASTOR'S KID. Hindi komo, "ANAK NG PASTOR" hindi na nagkakamali. Hindi na nagkakasala. We should never identify PKs as "PASTOR'S-KID-PERFECT". God made us all different,maaring yung kahinaan mo kalakasan nila or vice versa. Let us stop labelling PKs as "ANAK KA PA NAMAN NG PASTOR" etc. Bcuz they are so much more than that! Lalo na mga toddlers o kaya mga bata na PK pag nakipagrambulan o nakipag agawan ng laruan sa kapwa niya bata sa church sasabihan agad ng "YANG ANAK NI PASTOR PASAWAY DI NA NAHIYA ANAK PA NAMAN NG PASTOR" na parang walang karapatan na mapagdaanan yung ganun na facet ng buhay niya.

✓If they committed a mistake or just in case a sinful act? Then, CORRECT them instead of cursing or throwing hurtful words.

Consider the ff.

RIGHT PERSON (tama ba yung tao na sinasabihan mo? Baka mamaya si ate or kuya member pinagsasabihan mo ng KAMALIAN nila NA WALANG KAALAM-ALAM. WAG NA I-INVOLVE MGA DI NAMAN KASALI, o wag na magtawag ng mga makikinerbyos)

RIGHT PLACE (WAG NAMAN HO SA KUNG SAAN-SAAN KUNG MAARI SA ISANG ROOM NA KAYO LANG O KAYA SA PARSONAGE)

RIGHT TIME (di lang ritemed ang RIGHT, Dapat maski oras din.)

RIGHT WORDS (Humingi ng Wisdom and knowledge Kay Lord ng sa ganun hindi ratattattaat boom booooom lang masabi natin)

If they need to undergo chastening or disciplinary actions then so be it. Do not leave them astray. Help your pastor in guiding them.

"If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector."

Matthew 18:15-17

✓ENCOURAGE them instead of embarassing them. Encourage them just like how you encourage your children or fellow Christians.

"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing."

1 Thessalonians 5:11

✓PRAY FOR THEM TOO! (MADALAS ITONG NAKAKALIGTAAN, tanungin mo mga church members kung pinagpepray ba nila mga PKs or Pastor's Wife/hubby iilan lang ang sasagot ng "Oo"). Hello? They also need our prayers. Just as how much you need it! They also experience being low in faith, depression, anxiety, stress etc. Di sila laging STAY STRONG 💪

"Pray for your brothers and sisters. Keep your eyes open. Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out."

Ephesians 6:18

✓How you respect your pastor, RESPECT them too mapa PK man yan o PASTOR'S WIFE/HUBBY. Ishakehand o ibeso mo din sila wag mo nilalagpasan para saan pa at paborito mo kantahin ang "Kumusta ka na? AKO'Y NAGAGALAK NA IKA'Y AKING MAKITA?" kung snob ka naman. I included them kasi meron talagang mga na-eechapwera lalo na kung mababa lang pinagaralan ni Pastor's wife o kaya hindi siya pastor. Regardless of how we perceive other people to be, they are God's creations! Let this sink in.✌️

"Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of the believers, fear God, honor the emperor."

1Peter 2:17

✓PART SILA NG FAMILY or ng CHURCH, THEY ARE "VALUABLE". We can show it by giving them a gift too. Hug them. Tap their shoulders. You can also tell them that "it's okay we got your back." Compliment or appreciate them. REMEMBER THEM ON SPECIAL OCCASIONS, or greet mo din sila tuwing birthday nila O kung ayaw mo niyan tandaan mo there are 5 LOVE LANGUAGES. Mamili ka na dun.

"Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor."

Romans 12:10

Last na ito. They might have imperfections. Sometimes they go through their worse to worst phases in life. There are times they might show their weaknesses too but I am 100% sure they are willing to be changed day by day through God's mercy & grace. Remember to love them just as how God loves you. Remember to forgive them just as how God forgives you. You know JUST LIKE YOUR PASTOR, PKs have their own battles too & so with your Pastor's wife/hubby. Hand in hand help each other for God's glory.

JUST A THOUGHT FROM OUR EXPERIENCES AS PKs. 💖

Love,

Certified PK.

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