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my experience.

My Husband has a child with another women and is doing an amazing job dealing with the struggles of her constantly labeling them with different illnesses and disorders and constantly booking appointments with doctors and other professionals. From birth my Husbands ex attempted to diagnose their child with intolerances and issues that were only present in her care but not ours. we went to many appointments and put a toddler through many test of the ex’s pressure. Even when test came back negative- she would not believe the lab results were correct and would demand more tests to be done.  The first example of this was intolerance to dairy but the child could drink cups of full cream milk without showing any reaction in our care. The mother would claim that the child would vomit, get a rash and have bad bowel movements in her care. The ex first made a doctors appointment to get the child diagnosed with dairy intolerance. This doctor was unable to make the diagnosis as they were only a general practitioner so they were referred to another doctor who specialised in intolerances. At each appointment my husband of course let the doctors know that the child was not showing any reaction in our care but the ex still pushed for tests to be done until she received the diagnosis she wanted. The second doctor had a blood test done for the child which came back to be negative to dairy intolerance. The ex then asked for a stool test to be done. This test also came back negative for dairy intolerance. After this the ex made an appointment with a pediatrician who said the child does not have a dairy intolerance but may at sometimes be struggling to process the protein found in milk- which the child will grow out of very soon. Even after being told many times that the child did not have an allergy to dairy, all medical records state that they are. 

From birth until 2 years of age, the mother claimed that the child was allergic to dairy, suffered from stress relating to sleep, wouldn’t eat foods of certain texture, allergy to sugar, had an eating disorder, behavioural issues including extreme violence towards women and needed to participate in programs ran by professionals to assist with trauma.  My husband and his ex have split custody of their child and as I stated above- we saw none of the symptoms that the ex mentioned. My husband constantly suffered accusations from his ex claiming he was causing stress, abuse and trauma to their child and he was the reason the child was showing so much violence for her.  At 2 years of age the ex claimed that their child was hitting her and saying “daddy said hit women” when the child had never spoken the word “women” before or had the ability to make a full sentence.  We had to record, photograph and take videos regularly to prove that the child was happy, healthy, mentally well and unharmed in our care. We often had to prove that bruises that appeared on the child (probably from play) when they were a toddler didn't occur at our house when the mother asked about them, with time stamped photographs. The ex often would tell us what food not to give to the child or what activities the child shouldn't do due to health risks. We would often receive print outs of information the ex had found on the internet about different health risks we needed to be aware of. These included; screen time risks, swimming pool water diseases, chocking hazards, the dangers of essential oils and many more.  On one occasion we mentioned that the child had learn how to eat popcorn safely and really enjoyed it- we later received a print out of how pop corn was a chocking hazard and shouldn’t be given to children (even though the child has been eating popcorn with us for many months safely. It felt like an on going battle of new labels we had to prove were incorrect. The ex didn’t work, have other children nor did she appear to have any other hobbies as most of time was spent on making up more and more issues that the child had. The ex was apart of a large family who all had their own label. For example, the ex had claimed to suffer from anxiety and was allergic to dairy and gluten but would often eat both, one of her siblings had an eating disorder, another could’t eat foods of a certain texture, and another had severe health risks related to breathing. In the mothers care, the child was treated as if they has serve sensory issues and autistic traits with terrifying behaviours as a toddler. The ex would plan out the child’s day with the same routine that included sensory activities, a set meal plan and meditation. At this age the child in our care was very active, always trying to make others laugh and would pretend to be characters in their favourite tv shows (builders and fire fighters), really loved to help around the house and always wanted their dad to be with them.  Recently the ex wanted to obtain a mental health plan for the child and gave incorrect information to the doctor the make it sound as if the child was suffering with bad mental health. My husband and his ex were both asked a set of questions to help decide if the child needed the mental health plan or not. Questions included; does the child eat well, sleep well, engage with others and does the child self hard and make comments referring to self worthlessness. My husband answered, the child has a large appetite that has never changed, the child has a regular sleeping pattern and is very willing to go to sleep, the child also sleep independently, the child is always engaging positively with others and has never self harmed or uses any negative language about themselves. The ex answered, The child never eats for me, the child in terrified to sleep and will uncontrollably cry and the child cosleeps with me, the child always wants to be alone and the child will often hit themselves in the head and say “i’m bad”. The mother also claimed that the child would often hurt her and her family but we had never seen the child do that in our care, if they accidentally hurt someone in our care during play time they would immediately say “sorry” without being asked too and cuddle the person. It is so upsetting to see a young child be put through so much. I can see that the child loves their dad so much but the ex wont give up on attempting to make the father look like a bad person who is causing the child health risks.  I have witnessed the child not want to cuddle their mother, not listen to their mother when asked to do something, not want to return to their mothers house and show me and my husband complete love and affection.