#leave mspec people alone Literally why is it your problem

[the-meme-monarch]

aww you don't like when people have multiple seemingly conflicting labels about their gender and/or sexuality? tell me more about how black and white and uncomplicated you think people are

[nonbinarymlm]

Stop listening to misinfo about other LGBTQ+ people! Stop hearing something bad about another LGBTQ+ identity or symbol and just assuming the bad thing MUST be true without double checking!!

Don't assume lesbians/wlw are TERFs because of a double Venus symbol and be wary of lists that give common wlw or lesbian symbols/words like that as signs of TERF dog whistles without any disclaimers! (Febfem and radfem are pretty much TERF only, but Venus symbols and the word lesbian and that stuff shouldn't be treated as a sign of bigotry!) If there's a wlw character in a show or a creator you don't like, leave them alone instead of obsessing over any imperfection they might have. (If they're a blatant bigot that's one thing, if they've occasionally made mistakes or imperfect choices don't try to destroy them over it.)

Also, stop making jokes and snide comments about bi women having boyfriends or interacting with men, it will always be biphobia. Stop believing that women with men are "faking" being LGBTQ+. Stop believing that people are faking being LGBTQ+ in general. Even if they're harmful to the community, their LGBTQ+ identity isn't the problem.

Don't assume mlm/gay men symbols and stuff are evil or mean to lesbians because of some un-fact-checked claim! The mlm/gay men specific flags AREN'T a hue changed version of the lesbian flag. Even if it is based on the lesbian flag, the lesbian flag is based on the leather and bear (a mlm term) flag. If you find it easy to assume the worst about mlm (especially femme mlm) and to assume mlm content is inherently sexual, that's internalized homophobia that you need to get over. If you get angry and offended over mlm content that you don't personally like (who has time to get mad about the Boyfriend comic or Heartstopper??) then just don't consume it, don't latch onto to literally any reason to call it problematic.

Stop believing the worst of trans people. Stop policing trans people who use imperfect words to talk about their experiences or hating on trans people who use words for their own experiences that you don't like. Trans people struggling to try to describe the intense bigotry and hate they face that can be so invisible. Just communicate your own experience and lift other trans people up, don't put other trans experiences down or down okay them or assume what they must be to describe your own experiences. Listen to others and believe them.

If you're cis and LGBQ+, give trans people the benefit of the doubt and don't believe anyone who tries to tell you that trans identities or "ideology" is bigoted no matter how they dress it up. Give trans people space, respect, and listen to us about our own experiences.

Also, listen to intersex people and make space for them, don't just lump them in under trans issues.

Stop mocking LGBTQ+ identities that you don't understand. Start listening to why people made them. If someone made the identity to target other LGBTQ+ people, then that's a problem. If you just don't understand why the person uses that label or think the label is odd, leave it alone. Mocking things just because you don't understand them is gross, cruel, and often leads to bigotry. LGBTQ+, marginalized cultures, and neurodivergent experiences are often harder to understand because they're not mainstream. Let aspec and xenogender and unusual mspec people be, they're not the mainstream, we're the community they have. If someone with an unusual identity is getting bigoted, then you can correct the bigotry without blaming it all on the identity.

Stop eating our own! Stop believing the worst you hear about other LGBTQ+ people and spreading misinfo about fact checking. Stop it with thinking an identity isn't LGBTQ+ enough or is problematic just because you don't like it. Stop spending your energy on who's "really" LGBTQ+. Stop. It. It doesn't matter and it's almost always harmful.

There are laws being passed to refuse access to trans healthcare, to target LGBTQ+ teachers, to take trans kids from their parents and force trans kids back in the closet, to police any gender non-conforming children, to censors LGBTQ+ fiction and people, to genuinely harm the LGBTQ+ community. Focus on that. Get involved in your local community. Lift each other up because these times are hard enough.

Stop targeting other LGBTQ+ people online because of your personal feelings that are, honestly, likely based in some kind of internalized prejudice. Start doing things where it matters. Start focusing on solidarity.