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@ladyjanesfelsham replied to your post “cassiopeiasara replied to your post “well that rendition of...”

Is that not generally what happens though? I mean Ethel is a super sized pain in Mildred’s ass, but she doesn’t hurt her. In my childhood experience, this is very much in the vein of how adults react to this sort of beef between kids.

yes, it’s a realistic depiction of how bully is often handled by adults. that’s why it’s dangerous. 

it’s conditioning children to expect to be mistreated, ignored, and gas lit. that their only option to avoid bullying is to befriend someone who hates them. To be friends w ppl who are willing to hurt them, mentally and physically. bc Ethel has, on several occasions, intentionally physically harmed Mildred in addition to the near constant bullying and resulting emotional strain. and Ethel’s behaviour has barely been acknowledged, let rectified in any way. 

it’s teaching children to expect to be hurt, and to downgrade the experiences of children who suspect that they’re being abused and bullied to say nothing bc it’s nothing, really, nothing’s really wrong with how their being treating and they shouldn’t make a fuss. bc even if they say something, no one is listening. 

all media carries conditioned ideas and biases bc that’s how an organic society functions: it maintains its own existence by convincing its citizens that existing status quos are necessary for a functioning and ideally prosperous future. It’s why progresses towards equality are slow and gradual, bc a living organism can only do so much growing at once before it needs to take a break, settling itself, and refuel. 

this show is no different. often, it holds what society regards as positive traits up as ideals to encourage children to care about kindness, and friendship, and working hard to become something productive. but it also replicates harmful real world standards: incompetent or uncaring adults neglecting their responsibilities, abuses of power, and the apparently inevitability of being bullied as a child and no one caring bc ‘it’s not bad enough.’ 

bc, of course, it could be worse, couldn’t it? just like every trauma sufferer thinks about the damage caused to them, no matter how quantifiable and objectively serious the harm.

narratives have purposes. primarily to entertain. but children-focused narrative have always been used to teach lessons, or give advice, and show children what society will look like when they grow up and how they should grow up  into it. and as @fanchonmoreau points out, “kids will take what they’re given.” they’re not in the habit of critically engaging w media, or anything else for that matter, in the way that adults can, and on occasion, actually do. 

to include a standard as potentially dangerous as inevitable bullying and a lack of care from adults, and impress it upon 10yos for the sake of a poorly executed plot device is negligent. this, along w the fact that the show carries no obvious acknowledgement of the bias incorporated into the narrative logic, means that the series is currently doing nothing to counteract it. bc there is no explicit awareness of what the show is, at the heart of it, actually saying about these issues.

As a result, it’s asserting a status quo that only benefits bullies and abusers by insisting on the silence of their targets. and that’s what the young audiences watching will grow up thinking is normal. so yes, it’s what generally happens. and that’s the problem.

bc it doesn’t need to be. As @cakeeatingwingedcat "Miss Cackle can do better than that,” and so can the series.  

[roslin]

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@sapphicfun is now following kiwi-cackles. Swoon <3

Oh it’s you, yay yay yay, hello! And look at that beautiful icon! *Swoons* all around, yesss.

@ladyjanesfelsham is now following kiwi-cackles. OMG!

Sorry, disappeared for a minute, got lost in your tumblr again! It’s incredibly easy to do you know. Thanks so much for the follow! ♥

@thewritermakingdreamsreality is now followingkiwi-cackles. Finally.

Guhhhh another icon set to slay. OMGs your tumblr is amazing *slams follow button* Thanks so much for the follow, friend!

/random gif but is completely giddy all the same and lowkey wants that shirt/

Thank you so much! ♥ I’m working on writing all the fic so I can get to episode 2 of my new TWW rewatch ;D

[ladyjanesfelsham]

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Clare Higgins in Phaedra.

From the stunning photo posted by @ladyjanesfelsham, present to all the Clare lovers.

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With love and kisses … HAPPY CHRISTMAS to each and every one of my followers!!! I love you guys for putting up with all of my random posts/interests and your support for Jim Day & Phyllis Friday happiness. Here’s to us, Chelsie, and a fantastic 2018!! xoxo

Top gif belongs to @ladyjanesfelsham. Bottom gif is mine. 💙💙

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Tagged by @classicalrose - thanks friend!!

Rules: Write your ten favourite female characters from ten different fandoms and tag ten different people.

(ok this is not Of All Time or anything because my fickle ass is incapable of that but ten lovelies that mean a lot to me rn?? But the top 3 are Of All Time because, I mean, look at them.)

1 Diane Lockhart - The Good Wife/Fight 2 Laura Roslin - Battlestar Galactica 3 Lix Storm - The Hour 4 Chrissie Read - River 5 Cathy Walker - Mum 6 Audrey fforbes-Hamilton - To the Manor Born 7 Caroline Elliot - Last Tango in Halifax 8 Catherine Cawood - Happy Valley 9 Grace Hanson - Grace and Frankie 10 Serena Campbell - Holby City

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I need to pick up ladyjanesfelsham from the airport in 7 hours... And that includes a one hour drive to Edinburgh.. I think I should sleep now. Can't wait to see her!!

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ladyjanesfelsham replied to your post: fam… how awkward is it when you start having those...

I found out my mom and sisters talked shit about me to each other way more than I thought they did so I just picked one and told her and soon everybody knew because family

UGH FAMILY and see that’s the thing, I don’t wanna assume everyone’s gonna talk about me and I also don’t wanna assume they won’t, right? But I’m gonna have to be like “you can tell your daughter and your boyfriend but please don’t talk to mom yet” LIKE. I WANNA JUST SEND A GROUP TEXT MESSAGE BUT I WILL TRY TO NOT DO THAT.

[lucylovesmemore]

So Amy and I were going to see Maria Doyle Kennedy this month, and Amy spent lots of pennies re-arranging her whole holiday so we could see her in Glasgow and then the gig was cancelled. So Amy was sad and we both tweeted about it and then MDK fucking tweeted her asking for her email. So naturally Amy (ladyjanesfelsham) and I are fucking screaming and going crazy all over the place. We are getting far too excited and need to calm the fuck down but seriously though. MDK messaging her.. fucccckkkk