#kit Connor forced to come out

[yourbestbuddie]

“The truth is every queer person has right to come out on their own terms and on their own timeline. They also have the right to choose not to come out at all.

The forced conformity of the closet cannot be answered with the forced conformity in coming out.”

- Alex Claremont-Diaz, Red White and Royal Blue

Those who participated in bullying this then eighteen year old child actor into coming out on social media, calling him a queer baiter because he played a bisexual character on a lgbtqia centered Netflix series really didn’t understand what that show was about.

This is a show about acceptance and love and just being yourself and showing that there are no social ideals that you have to conform to. You can be masculine and like guys. You can be feminine and like girls. This is a show about being confident and who you are but it’s also a show where they’ve made it clear that you only come out when you’re ready, and on your own terms.

It’s representation for so many people gay, lesbian, bi, trans, arocace… it’s showing that representation which is so important for so many people.

To those people who forced him out of the closet through constant bullying you’re not supporting the ideals of this show at all. You’re not being progressive by publicly harassing an actor who played a queer character because he’s seen with people of the opposite gender, so “he couldn’t possibly be queer himself”. You’re being a fucking asshole who couldn’t get it through their thick heads what this show was trying to get across to their audiences.

The term queerbaiting is being thrown around so loosely these days that even playing a queer character on show and not labeling yourself as such yourself is queerbaiting. Queer actors play cishet characters all the time. Are you going to bully them into announcing that they’re straight? I mean by your logic they have to be for playing that character or else it’s morally wrong.

Kit Connor played a bisexual sixteen year old who just realized he was such and had a whole identity crisis. He was scared and was worried that people close to him wouldn’t support him. His ‘friends’ are homophobic assholes and his brother is a bully. He’s scared that people he loves won’t accept him. He’s scared they won’t think of him the same way. When he tells his mother that he’s bi he gets that moment of relief when she hugs him tells him she’s sorry if she ever made him feel like he couldn’t tell her that. He’s relieved that she accepts him for who he is and that she doesn’t think of him differently than before she knew.

Kit Connor never got to have that moment with his mother because people who call themselves fans harassed him to the extent that he was forced to come out to social media before he was ready.

People need to just be more fucking aware.

[justarandomgirly]

Reminder

[nickmybeloved]

"...and I don't want to have to sneak around, pretending we're platonic BFFs"

[woebegotten]

Can we all please leave this poor, anxious child alone? Baby boy is doing his best for us.

[poems-of-a-lover]

i will never understand the "stop casting straight actors as gay characters" argument. people just wanna out gay actors so they can have a better grasp on who to hate.

[kruemel8]

[theamazingannie]

I’ve literally had multiple people ask me straight to my face if I was bisexual because they suspected I was and even tho I knew in all three of those situations that the person I was talking to was safe (either queer themself or an ally), it was really scary to be forced in that moment to come out without my consent, or feel forced to lie about it in order to protect myself, regardless of whether I needed to or not. I can’t imagine being a world famous celebrity and having fan pages dedicated to my alleged sexuality, analyzing every behavior I did and whether or not it was queer, calling all of my relationships PR relationships or beards because they are so convinced I am a homosexual. Either erasing my bisexuality to call me a lesbian or forcefully outing me. People who don’t even know me. It’s scary and honestly creepy enough having someone who knows you personally do it, but someone who’s never even met you? And doing it in front of the whole world? I would never feel safe enough to come out, not just because of the risk of homophobic attacks, but because the people who claim to support me are the ones that made me do it

[ikkan]

fans of celebrities be normal challenge when the celeb talks about their gender and/or their sexuality

[alexiaugustin]

im going to be so honest for a second here but i genuinely think that this whole kit connor was forced to come out narrative is blown out of proportion like yeah people need to stay out of celebrity’s private lives but at the end of the day it was just jobless people on twitter accusing him of queerbaiting and it’s just.. not that deep? like these people had nothing on him and would have moved on to get mad about some other random shit in no time because that’s how fandom cancel culture on twitter works like. kit connor still decided to type out that tweet and come out instead of just logging out idk

[alexisinnocent]

Idea that there aren’t people using the new wave of aesthetic appreciation of gay culture for profit is weird to me. Obviously no one should be harassed about it, but if people don’t want to engage in the media where people are profiting off the queer community without being in it then that’s fine.

This isn’t like being the “straight” president of the GSA in high school. There’s being in community with people (being spaces, working in collaboration, building connection) and then there’s profiting and commenting on the community.

[heartstopper-lover123]

Was listening to this song from Young Royals:

Then, I started going on tangents with my brain and started remembering when Kit Connor was forced to come out as bi in Octeber 2022. Then I started to cry because the song just seemed to fit ao perfectly, and it's just really sad. So here I am on my bed, crying, no sobbing because my brain can't stick to one thought. Thanks, brain.

[uglygreenjacket]

Watching season 2 of Heartstopper knowing Kit Connor was forced to come out in such a heinous way, all while showing up to play a character who was allowed the space and love to come out in a way he wanted to is just… heavy.

[count-horror-xx]

Literally fuck all of y'all that made him feel like shit

i wish everyone who made kit connor feel he had to come out a very merry FUCK YOU. you forced an eighteen year old into coming out publicly, before he was ready, when he stated many many times he wanted to keep it private. how many more times does this shit have to fucking happen before some of you fucking clock that YOU CANNOT QUEERBAIT IN REAL LIFE. this is the natural end to the discourse of ‘if somebody is in the public eye playing a queer person they owe us their sexuality’, and it’s DEEPLY FUCKED UP, they do NOT owe you an answer, and this mindset JUST FORCED AN EIGHTEEN YEAR OLD TO OUT HIMSELF BEFORE HE WAS READY TO

[nic-coughlan]

watching heartstopper season two and nick's journey of slowly and surely coming out bisexual to everyone makes me ache for kit connor bc he didn't get that, he got forced to come out and stop the accusations and it still makes me sick to my stomach he never got what his character had

[chaussetteblanche]

I had this idea in my head for a while; With Kit Connor x gf reader, where she comforts him when he was pressured to come out

thank you <3

pairing : kit connor x reader summary : you are by kit's side as he deals with being forced to come out word count : 900 words warnings : swearing

note : the fact that some so-called "fans" watched the show and had the nerve of accusing him of queer-baiting and pressured into coming out when he was only eighteen is just disgusting to me, check yourselves y'all

You'd been dating Connor for a while. Being an actor, you'd met at some party he had attended with the Heartstopper cast. You'd met Yasmin first, and had immediately hit it off. She was unbelievably funny and down-to-earth. She had introduced you to the rest of the cast, and, naturally, you'd been drawn to Kit. You had exchanged numbers through shy smiles and shaky hands, the rest was history.

Dating someone in the acting world was both a blessing and a curse. As an actor, Kit understood and could relate to your struggles with roles, management, fame, social media... just the industry in general. You bonded over similar experiences as bisexuals who could pass as straight and who didn't always bother with labels or clarifying their sexualities. But as an actor, he was also often on the move, filming thousands of kilometres away from you or in a different time zone altogether.

But even with all this, being with Kit was easy. You both clicked, you just worked. You communicated your feelings and needs and even though you'd had your fair share of arguments, you loved him more than anything. He made you and your life so much better.

So you can imagine that when people he started being accused of queer-baiting and being pressured by people who missed the meaning of the show entirely to come out, you didn't take it well. You loved Kit with all your heart and would tear the world to pieces just for him.

"I just can't believe these people! How dare they? How can they just- sit there and demand this of you!" you'd ranted one night. "You're eighteen for Pete's sake! You don't owe them or anyone anything! Fucking cunts, it's just ridiculous that they think so!" Kit watched you from where he was sitting on the couch, running a hand over his face. You sigh, licking your lips as you trudged over to him. "I'm sorry," you speak softly, standing in between his legs. He looks up at you, shaking his head. "You've got nothin' for apologize for, luv," "But I shouldn't go off like this, it's not fair to you, this negative energy..."

He pulls you into his lap, wrapping his arms around you and burying his face in your neck. Your hand immediately goes to his hair, gently scratching his scalp as the other wounds itself around his shoulders. "I would make them vanish off the face of the Earth if I could, I swear, I-" "You did all you could, my love, it's already more than enough." He meant the countless posts you'd made concerning his situation as well as other actors', speaking up on the issue in many interviews... He was right, you'd done everything in your power. But it still wasn't enough. And it was killing you.

"But it's not, though. They just won't stop! Where is their bloody decency? And you don't deserve this, any of this. It's so unfair." "I know," He lifted his head up to look at you. Your hand cupped his jaw before you kissed him deeply. "I can take it," he assured against your lips. You pulled away, frowning. "But you shouldn't have to. It's so unfair. I wish we could just shut them all up, tell them to fuck off." "But you've done that already, haven't you?" he chuckled. "Yes, but clearly the message didn't get through." He pressed a sweet kiss to your lips. "Stop worrying about me. I'll take care of it." "What will you do?" "I don't know yet, but I'll figure it out."You'd seen the tweet before you'd seen him. He was supposed to come over to your place for Halloween, you were planning on attending a party together, dressed as Shaggy and Velma. You were halfway through getting ready. You had your outfit on and were just getting started on your makeup when your phone started blowing up. Confused, you picked it up, seeing Kit's tweet everywhere. You slapped a hand over your mouth, scrolling down Twitter. Even though you were furious at the people who had brought him to this, you couldn't help but feel proud of him for taking control of the situation and coming out on "his own terms", if they could be qualified as such.

Your doorbell rings and you all but run to open the door. Outside stands Kit, looking absolutely beaten. You bite your lip, eyebrows furrowing. "I just saw," you breathe. He walks in and pulls you into a big hug, sighing shakily into your hair. You rub his back. "Oh, baby," you coo, "I'm so sorry, you don't deserve any of this,"

You usher him to your couch, closing the door and start making some tea. You set both your cups down on the coffee table, sitting down next to him. You take his hands in yours, caressing his knuckles. "How do you feel?" "I- I'm just disappointed, I guess. I thought people, especially after watching the show, would be more understanding, empathetic... just- more human, I guess." "Yeah, people are disappointing." "But I wanted to be the one to say you, you know? I didn't want that taken away from me, I didn't want to be outed." "And you were totally right, you took control of the situation and I'm so proud of you. You changed the narrative." He gave you a small smile.

Kit laid his face in your lap, hugging your thighs. "It still sucks, though," he spoke, voice muffled. You nodded, running a comforting hand up and down his back. "Yeah, it sucks. Do you wanna stay here tonight and watch some scary movies?" "Yes, please."

[beck404]

“I think ‘forced’ isn’t the right word I would use, but I would say that I would have preferred to do it another way” - Kit Connor for British Vogue

Credits to: Alasdair McLellan for British Vogue!

Kit opened up about coming out and his experience with bisexuality in his recent interview with British Vogue.

He shared how natural it was for him to come to terms with his sexuality, and even tho his family were supportive and accepting, it was completely different in his all-boys school, where he wasn’t really accepted in a lot of ways. “I was in a very heteronormative atmosphere”

This really shows the reality of being a part of the LGBTQ+ community, not being accepted by society since they are predominantly heterosexual and how genuinely hard it is to find a safe space to truly be yourself.

He also said he doesn’t regret coming out, “In many ways it was really empowering” he told Vogue.

He talked about Heartstopper and how much it meant to him to be part of it!

You can read the rest of the article here!

I’m so proud of Kit. This interview was so intimate without going too far, and the way Kit talks about how he currently feels with his sexuality and being out makes me really happy. I hope he knows how important he is to the bisexual community.

If you guys have a chance i really encourage you to read the whole article, he talks about a lot of stuff but it’s really eye-opening to hear his experience with queernes and being open about it. I promise you is worth it.

also WE’RE 30 DAYS AWAY. WTF.