#kindness is underrated

[nerdygaymormon]

[liesandnights]

No one will know the violence it took to become this gentle.

[blitheringmcgonagall]

The most annoying part of the canon v fanon Sirius debate is that canon Sirius never had a romantic partner but people will insist that he does. I’ve seen bullying over this and that’s when the debate stops being a bit of fun y’know?

I think that we need to let people come up with their own ideas! Bullying is never okay. As I previously mentioned, while we get a reasonable amount of backstory regarding Sirius, he’s most definitely NOT the main character in the series.

Just because we don’t get information about his love life, or lack thereof, doesn’t prove or disprove what his sexual orientation was and whether or not he was interested in dating/sex etc?

JKR clearly says that canon Sirius is not gay for Remus. She more or less invented Remadora to prove this point as apparently lots of HP fans were convinced Wolfstar was canon (but it being the 1990s etc, they thought that she couldn’t say it openly) and she wasn’t happy about it.

I genuinely think all options can be defended:

Asexuality/ace spectrum/Grey-A (canon says he had no interest in girls/boys looking at him and no GF/BF is mentioned in the books)

Gay (for RJL - the whole “embraced like bros, Lie Low At Lupin’s, 40 line stare, buying presents together” etc)

Straight (he’s got posters of muggle women and motorbikes on his wall)

Bi/pan (both of the last two)

Personally I’ve read really excellent ace!Sirius and Blackinnon fics. And as you probably know, I personally think of Wolfstar as canon. @plecotusauritus explains it really well in a humerous post:

Plus, they are the star (brightest star Sirius) and moon (Moony) in canon. And JKR herself confirmed lycanthropy = equivalent of AIDS in 1980s etc (yeah I know, it’s not great and in fact terrible/horrible comparison when you add Greyback etc; but anyway the AIDS link unwittingly despite herself gave Remus a non-straight background, in fact the way she wrote Remus and Sirius had the director assume Wolfstar was canon!)

Having said all that, in canon, while the classmate was ogling Sirius, he was completely oblivious of her interest as he was too busy staring at James Potter. Ahem. Make of that what you will…!

I completely respect you thinking he never had a romantic partner. Who knows? JKR says that he was too busy playing hard/messing with his bros on his flying motorbike and fighting a war to want any serious relationship. She doesn’t confirm did he have one night stands or other types of encounters. And most people at this stage don’t really care what JKR thinks of Sirius.

The whole point of fandom and shipping and fanfics is to imagine/reimagine all the massive gaps in our knowledge of a character. It’s ok not to stick to the canon info, otherwise the fics we read would be extremely limited, short, and all very similar and boring after a while. I personally prefer when a character’s personality isn’t changed completely (ie when they retain the features that make them recognisable from the original story). But I am very happy to alter other aspects of them - like their race, colour, sexuality, religion etc. Also if you are writing a comedic piece, the characters will not be written the same way as when you write a more dramatic/in depth/ Angsty fic or a very fluffy one?

Everyone should feel free to use their imagination and also not worry about people bullying them for their alternative views. We should all be secure enough in our views that we don’t feel the need to bully others who disagree with us. I’m sorry if that’s happened to you or to people you know 💗💗💗💗💗💗

[beautifulandraretoevenexist]

Someone at work said ‘you’re looking brighter’ to me today and I nearly cried.

I don’t know if people get how much comments like that help you keep going up the steep climb back to yourself.

[motherkatereloyshipper]

I shared your story of being kind to mormons again today with a friend IRL for the umpteenth time. I hope you're ok with that.

I aspire to be even just half as gentle and positive influence on the world as you are in your story.

I hope life is treating you as well as you are treating others!

Hello!

What a sweet thing to say!

From one neurodivergent human to another it can be interesting to watch how are interactions with others effect not only the world around us, but our own mood and attitudes, I hope you can find some of the kindness you have shown me to show to yourself.

I have another scan today to look at what I foolishly did to my head, so I am so grateful to you for your kind words lifting me through a rough day 🧡

[theblueescapist]

RAoKs are the best

[calmlb]

It’s been clear that the Tanizakis aren’t siblings from the very beginning

here’s some evidence now that it’s been confirmed canon…

everyone who’s read irl Tanizaki’s book knew that Junichiro & Naomi weren’t siblings as soon as they introduced themselves

BUT just because the Tanizakis aren’t siblings doesn’t mean you can’t feel uncomfortable about them. if you feel uncomfortable, GOOD. that’s exactly what they want

the Tanizakis, Mori— they all use these disturbing ruses to disarm or distract people in order to protect themselves, or to accomplish their goals. this is a writing device that asagiri commonly employs as a way to parallel the irl literature (it’s actually ingenious)

there are 4 main indicators that have always made it clear to me that Junichiro & Naomi are not siblings:

1. most obviously— their character designs. Harukawa is extremely intentional with character designs, & she very intentionally made Naomi & Junichiro look nothing alike

their eye shapes are purposely different

their color palettes are contrasting

even their differing styles of clothing have meaning

this was all done so that the audience could PLAINLY see that they’re not related— so that WE know that they’re lying when they say they ARE related

2. how the people around them respond to their act.

the general reaction is “don’t question it”— which is exactly what they want. “be distracted by how uncomfortable you feel so that you look away from what we’re hiding” (this is likely a protective measure)

3. most importantly, this is meant to parallel irl Tanizaki’s book “Naomi,” where the main character Joji picks up Naomi to raise her into his ideal woman, but since she's so young (& a minor) they call each other cousins (Joji makes no sexual advances on young Naomi btw)

however, his plan backfires because when Naomi gets older & they get married, she flips the script on him & manipulates HIM so that he's under her thumb (which is why bsd Tanizaki is at a domineering Naomi's mercy). Joji let her have her way because of his masochistic tendencies

4. lastly is the emphasis that Asagiri and the Tanizakis themselves put on calling each other siblings.

over & over, it’s “my brother this” & “my sister that”

like they’re desperately trying to convince us that it’s true (“don’t let your lying eyes deceive you”)

here are just a few of many examples from the light novels…

again, if you’ve read “Naomi” you knew that Junichiro & Naomi weren’t siblings as soon as they introduced themselves

just like if you’ve read irl Mori’s works, it’s clear that bsd Mori isn’t a pedophile

just like if you’ve read No Longer Human you know that Dazai’s an unreliable narrator. he makes you think he’s a bad person bc he believes he’s a bad person, but those around him see him differently (btw this doesn’t mean he’s never done anything “bad,” though bsd isn’t about morality— but that’s another discussion)

anyway, i’m so excited for the Tanizakis backstory to be revealed so that we can better understand why they use this defense!!

also let this be a reminder to READ THE LITERATURE if you’re able to!! even reading synopses & analyses of the coordinating books makes bsd make much more sense 🥹

reminder that this how you’re supposed to react while reading bsd:

also, if you’re interested in a post explaining how Mori isn’t a pedo, i wrote this analysis on twt. OR you can read this document that one of my moots sent me (remember: analyzing a character does NOT mean you condone any actions they may or may not commit!)

[abyssal-ilk]

thinking about sten again. thinking about him calling the warden kadan and never explaining what it means. thinking about him offering to take the warden back with him to par vollen, but it's never actually an option the warden takes, even if you agree. thinking about how sten responds the best to a warden who stands their ground even if he doesn't agree with them. thinking about how he loves sweets and art, and how he plays with kittens. "it's training," he says. but come on. he's playing. thinking about what else he's had to justify to himself for liking.

and he calls alistair kadan! shale as well! do you think it was ever extended to the other party members? just,, agh

[garebeary]

Agreed.

Fuck self-sufficiency. It's time for Interdependence. Always offer help and always accept it. Cook meals for the people you love. Grow fruits and vegetables and give them to your neighbors. The "independent" person is merely the perfect version of a Consumer, eating directly from the palms of Corporation. Fuck self-sufficiency. Need one another.

[pievyl]

PLZZZ can you do that one basketbot scene from tpot13. there is so little content of them 🙁

I'M SO LATE TO THIS sorry anon.... hope you didn't die from starvation

robot lover and her lover robot i don't know

[baoxie]

🥀 sylvain + ingrid 🌼

[laylakeating]

NEW GIRL REWATCH | 1.08, Bad in Bed

[scottguy]

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So many rock songs have been written about the pressures of words & socializing.

'Running around' is often the euphemism for talking in rock songs. Thus you get:

(Actual lyrics are between parentheses)

Run Like Hell -Pink Floyd

(You'd better run!!!)

Bertha -Grateful Dead

About a bossy uncaring person

(I had a hard run... running from your window.)

Dire Wolf - Grateful Dead

about hanging out with 'the guys' and hoping to not be 'murdered' by the most charismatic one.

(The dire wolf collects his due while the boys sing round the fire... Don't murder me... I beg just please don't murder me...)

Saint Stephen -Grateful Dead

About one person is an example of how nearly everyone struggles with talk, and this pressure never ends.

(Stephen would answer if he only knew how. & .....

Can't you answer? Yes, I can...

But what would be the answer to the answer.. then?)

New Speedway Boogie - Grateful Dead

( Now I don't know... but I've been told... it's hard to 'run' with the weight of gold ... other times I've heard it said... it's just as hard with weight of lead. )

Symboolically here:

Gold = intelligence

Lead = not so bright...

There are many dozens (hundreds? Thousands?) more but these are the lyrics I know that have actually applied to my life when, bright as I can be, just didn't have the right words every moment because smart doesn't mean fast. And speed is essential to having some level of 'wit'

Remember, wit is overrated. Kindness is all you are required to offer. If that's not enough.. fuck 'em. Find nicer people to hang out with.

Feel free to add other lyrics from groups not quite so old.

Shoutout to all the people who...

Are always talked over in group settings

Rehearse what they are going to say loads of times in their head and still end-up with their words coming out jumbled

Take longer to process jokes/people's speech

Just get brushed-off when they ask people to repeat their jokes

Always feel like they are seen as an acquaintance rather than a best friend by others

Find parties overwhelming and feel boring for preferring nights in

Feel lonely but also don't know how to go about making friends as an adult

Feel embarrassed/ashamed for not having friends

[yogurtlid10000]

Uururughhh mtmte medics ive never drawn them before so theyre probably a bit off FIRST AID IS SSSSOOO UNDERRATED HES SO EPIC (Pharma one is inspired by patchworkpoisons design ofc :333)

Oh and i MADE A SHORT COMIC (cringe)

GELP ok thats it idk i did this quickly just now lalala (if u squint there’s a gravity falls reference) HOPE MY HANDWRITING ISNT TOO MESSY

@shakerofthebutt9000 im tagging u for the first aid art omg

edit: ERR I FORGOT TO SAY THERE ARE SPOILERS FOR MTMTE 4 AND ON IDK 💀💀💀eeebeeeheeheee he

omg I forgot to say a food today! OysterMushroom

[roman-o-cheese]

Me when I remember Frank Zhang’s is a child of the god of war whose mother died in combat and thus his mothers death is tied to his existence, and he will spend the rest of his life deconstructing that guilt.

Frank didn’t kill his mother, but his father is the incitement of all war. A soldier does not become a soldier without being at least acquainted with war, and in many cases they will fall to it, much like Emily. I’d be surprised if, in some capacity, Frank didn’t see Mars as a murderer. Like he understands that, on a wide scale, Mars did not kill Emily Zhang. But Mars started the war that killed her. And since Mars is his father, I think he’d feel disgusted with that fact, even if he logically knows that that’s not the case.

And then I think about how out of all of the gods Frank assumed he was the child of, Mars was never in the question. I almost wonder if he kind of knew, but convinced himself it wasn’t true. I mean his mom was a soldier, there’s a logical connection with the war god there. But the idea that he was a product of what hurt him and his family so much was too painful to consider. So he swore himself to his unshaken kindness. If cruelty took his mom, he would do anything in his power to counter that.

[scottguy]

So unless you're truly a mean spirited person... like yourself.

Being socially awkward, like at least 75% of people feel either occasionally or always, does NOT make you a bad person. You know what's far more cool than "wit"? Kindness.