#just under a different user 👍🏾

[apocalyptic-byler]

how we touched (and went our separate ways)

But they have time— not much time but time regardless —until the plan commences, so Will decides to humor him.

“Then…the whole world will end,” he says, his own light yellow makeshift mask hiding his small smirk. “I don’t think the others would like that very much— Hawkins going up in flames because you wouldn’t let me go.”

or, Will and Mike before battle.

[mithliya]

This may sound stupid but I promise I'm asking this in 100% good faith and genuine curiosity. If a lesbian is attracted to a transwoman under the impression that they are female, how does learning that they're male change things?

There are some transwomen who pass so well that I genuinely have no idea they're male unless they explicitly say so. I'm a lesbian, and if I were attracted to one of these individuals I would probably lose that attraction once I find out the truth, but why is that?? (It's pretty obvious why if they have a penis, but for the sake of this scenario let's say this hypothetical transwoman has vaginoplasty) I've never seen a neovagina so idk whether they look like the real thing or not, but if they do this whole thing just makes even less sense to me. If someone looks and sounds like a woman I'd be attracted to, with the only physical differences being a lack of internal sex organs and probably slightly off-looking genitalia, why am I suddenly completely unattracted when I find out they're not a woman?? Is it bc of male socialization?? Or do the slightly different-looking genitals make THAT much of a difference???

Once again I am a lesbian I'm not saying that lesbians can or should be attracted to transwomen, I just find human sexuality confusing. This is probably a better question to ask a sexologist or psychologist instead of random tumblr users but whatever.

i have a degree in psychology n im doing my second rn 👍🏾 but i don’t think asking a psychologist or perhaps even sexologist will give u much because research into sexuality is pretty far behind and saturated with bias. in fact the most prominent research you’ll find will be arguing that lesbianism basically does not exist so it’s not like they’d explain the phenomenon ur describing.

anyways, i think it’s the same mechanism as when u might see a guy from afar, think he’s a woman, have interest in him as a result, but lose interest when he comes closer and u realise he’s not a woman. your perceptions are frequently updated to match ur reality (unless there’s dysfunction) so you might think someone is of the same sex & therefore have some interest but finding out they aren’t will remove that internet. vaginiplasty does not actually change someone’s sex nor does it magically result in an actual vulva so i don’t think that’s relevant. if it was purely about genitals then perhaps we would only be attracted to someone when actively seeing them naked.

also i think the awareness that ur actually quite different in terms of reality & experiences can play a role as well