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Hey Sheila... my parents found out about my cosplay page where I modeled a few NSFW cosplays and they told me to take it down. I'm over the age of 18 but I just felt so forced to stop my hobby. This cosplay passion that I have feels so limited now and I'm so devastated that they cant accept this makes me happy. Any advice for what to do? I already tried talking to them but they just call it "porn". Should I post in secret?

I guess the question is, “do you still live with your parents?” If the answer is yes, definitely don’t post in secret. 

Not to sound like a traditionalist or anything, but more so, dont post in secret because living with the constant anxiety that you are going to get caught is not worth it. Ive been there and no, that paranoia is never worth it. 

If NSFW content is really what you want to do, you gotta sit down and talk to them, in a very open and collected way. Explain to them why it is you do what you do, and why it makes you feel valid, or heck! Motivated. Anything to tie it to your ambitions for the future. 

And maybe it needs to be a compromise. Because if they do pay for your living, there is something to be said for respecting that, even over the age of 18. Remember that your parents have probably never thought about you in the world of adult content, or NSFW context and that seeing you like that is GOING to cause them a knee-jerk reaction of NOPE NOPE NOPE. Thats their daughter, and they’re more likely worried about the people consuming your content then you. (From my experience anyway.) 

So maybe it needs to be more baby steps. 

Cosplaying what you like, but in gradual steps towards your goal. Get them used to the idea that you do have a space on the internet that you express yourself and is private from them.

I know when I started doing sexier cosplays, it was like shorter skirts first. And my parents would say things like “thats okay, but be careful not to be showing your chest.” So it was legs, chest, then crop tops, cleavage. And now when I go as Quiet from MGS5 they just shake their heads and laugh and say “Okay but just dont show me those ones. Just show me the nice modest stuff.” 

They eventually grew to accept it, but it was gradual. Not all at once. I imagine your parents were mostly shocked. 

This is anothe reason you dont want to post in secret. Its better to be open and honest and get there slowly, then sneak around, get caught, thrown in the DISTRUSTFUL corner and shunned forever because they think you are a prone liar. An unreasonable but common practice for most parents. Anyway I hope this helps! I know it super sucks right now. But even a few years over 18, you are still young and have plenty of time to discover that area of yourself and have fun with it, even if its right away! And of course, theres other fun aspects to cosplay that arent NSFW Im sure you can still partake in.