#its the. oh ur chronically ill so even tho the book suggests going to 2-3 weekly meetups | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

mejomonster · 9 months ago

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My mean brain is cycling on "you should look up how to find love" again. Despite knowing ill see 200 articles ive read before, 10 books ive read before, and probably 20 new ones to depress me

#rant #its the. oh ur chronically ill so even tho the book suggests going to 2-3 weekly meetups #u literally can barely get thru a workweek. an event out must be saved up for in energy and ur already using it for once a month for friends #other week for fam or grocery store trip or therapist #its the advice of OH GO ON A DATE WEEKLY UNTIL U LIKE SOMEONR despite 1 matching 10k ppl on #tinder and none of which wanted yo actually date. 2 no one ive ever liked liking me back (just dating me to idk have casual fun until #they met someonr they actually liked) so like... i cpuldnt meet 1 new person weekly to ask on a date #if i tried. 3 im demiromantic and demisexual so honestly id need 4-12 dates or week of chatting w a new person #to even DEVELOP feelings if im gonna. which means i cant do 1 new person a week #id need instead to juggle getting to know 4 for like 4 months #which i am too chronically ill to have the fucking energy flr 4 dates a week or even 1 to be frank #and i peraonally prefer to focus on knowing 1 new potential crush at a time so i would want to spend 4 months on JUST getting to know one #person. slowing down my ability to follow the advice #and then ALSO if im run ragged exhausted and bedridden from too many social outings per week #well i wont be fun to date. i wont want to date. ill be too ill to.#ill be struggling to keep mu job and doctors appts and feel worse than if i didny just date at all #ideally id like to meet new ppl i can call or text. and just chat with daily that way #and just a couple dates a monyh or more dates chilling at one of our homes #so its easier for me to not worsen my physical health #but those Choices ppl typically arent up to agreeing to until theyve DEVELOPED a CRUSH and like u enough #to be willing to compromisr and except less dates/casual hangouts more #and then again. im demiromantic and demisexual so i do NOT wanna kiss for like 3 or more months #j wont even really know if im falling for tjem for that long #and a lot of strangers may want to know if i like them MUCH sooner before being willing to do more #casual dates and less frequently.#also again just. problem uno: finding anyone who has the capacity to maybe like me and willing to go on a date #or better yet willing to BE MY FRIEND and let me take the time to see if i develop a crush #because like. if someonr will wait 3 months for me? sure lots of ppl wpuldnt. but thats step 2 #step 1 is meet anyone whod even be open to seeing if They could Like me romantically #and being chronically ill i dont have energy to go out much

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