#its just. inherently flawed like. no matter what lmao unnecessary judgment and bitterness towards harmless things is ugly end of story

[littlebabycrybtch]

i understand that as minorities we have to distance ourselves from our oppressors most of the time but. ngl ppl have let themselves become So Wildly Disconnected from just knowing about the actual bigotry happening in the world and how it works, how its evolving and resurfacing, that its fucking up our politics big time. like. ppl out here literally genuinely think that transphobes and homophobes have not only the Want, but the community knowledge on how to distinguish and separate their treatment of ~the mogais~ from other lgbt+ people. REGs rely so much on discourse now that their fatal flaw is the assumption that cishets understand or talk about these same niche ideas of gender and sexuality in the way that they do. that they want or would even allow a safe median between cishet and lgbt+ to exist. that they care about this. yall. you need to realize that your oppressors do not care about the same stuff you do. they could not care less about who you relate to, its solely about rejecting everyone they dont relate to, and the line is extremely fucking thin. they flat out dont have an interest in understanding or comparing the labels people use, if you’re not cis or not straight, they will have a loud vocal huge problem with your existence, bc they have their OWN hypercritical restrictive ‘you dont belong in my community’ stigma, and its been around for much longer. they are relentless and will never base who they give privileges to on Your beliefs. prejudice is not nuanced. your oppressors would not respect you more whether or not certain groups existed. they oppress people like you for power, out of hate and bigotry. the root of prejudice is literally ignorance, and in this case revolves around the idea that anything that diverges from cisheteronormative ideas deserves to be socially rejected. no amount of bootlicking and trimming the community will make us all cishet, so it will never be enough. you have to fight for acceptance, not conformity. you need to put supporting people and fighting injustices above your own misunderstandings or cringe feels.

you dont need to like interact with or listen to homophobes more or some shit, but to ignore and isolate yourself from their rhetoric so heavily that you no longer keep in mind the actual consequences of the real world when forming your own ideas, is creating an extremely diluted and selfish echo chamber of beliefs. sorry to be blunt but like. stop thinking you have the power here. the oppressors do. they decide whos gonna go below them, whether you agree or not. start paying attention to that and doing smth about it even when u dont want to. stop obsessing over the perfect rules in your hypothetical perfect world and fucking LISTEN to the ppl still suffering in the real world under the real social issues, even the ones you think are wrong and dont make sense, because hey guess what! they dont. they never do. theyre still happening and you need to listen. stop living in fantasy land where everything that makes you uncomfortable to care about is just banished. you arent being oppressed by tucute asexy mogais, you’re being oppressed by Cishets, and to nobodys surprise! so are they. its just truly deeply not gonna get better for Anyone unless we keep wildly radically pushing for the open acceptance of harmlessly divergent identities like please for the love of God just get this through your head or people are just going to keep using this same judgmental nitpicky mindset to excuse their bigotry towards You