#it's that or deleting my entire tumblr all side blogs included. and also myself. there are irl friends who follow my main.
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Sometimes I post a text post on this blog then get a note on my main blog (for some random post on there) and it absolutely never fails to make my heart stop in a second of blind panic thinking I've casually posted some ramblings about being an omega to my main blog.
#I don't mind saying I read the occasional omegaverse fanfic or whatever on main which is true and not really an underestimation either#but it's more like my posts here are so often something like 'waaah im in heat i hate it' that turn into incoherent ranting in tags#at times about which pixel men I find attractive and would like to help me through said heats#that it's genuinely a moment of true horror for me every time#seriously I'm gambling with my cardiac health having this as a side blog and not a fully separate one#if this blog mysteriously disappears one day IT'S BECAUSE I ACCIDENTALLY POSTED TO MAIN#okay#and HAD to delete all traces immediately#it's that or deleting my entire tumblr all side blogs included. and also myself. there are irl friends who follow my main.#listen they're cool and accepting but I would never survive the level of mortification#(i know they wouldn't sweat it but I don't want them to know my private life!!)#(I don't want them to be hanging out with me and then randomly think 'oh right this person is into knotting and heat cycles' even if they-#-don't necessarily MIND it!!! it's a mortifying thought! I want the cover of normalcy and to not be poked fun at!)#also I don't want to risk any drama in case it's actually somehow a turn-on for anyone in my extended friend circle#or even mainblog mutuals who live nearby but aren't irl friends#in a ridiculous turn of events I think this only solidifies my prev post#this screams 'omega pretending to be a beta for convenience (and because trauma)'#gamietxt#i do always double check which blog I am posting to but I'm not immune to forgetfulness so the thought that MAYBE... maybe I didn't check#is enough to terrorize me
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I'm not sure if any of this is as important to say as I feel like it is, but just in case, here it is.
Idk about you, but I'm really tired of having things taken from me because the cc's were abusive. I say this with an emphasis on the fact that supporting their victims and condemning their actions is far more important, that I'm not giving that man a single cent anymore. The most important thing the community can do is support the people he hurt. But It's still gonna hurt to purge my playlist because we, as a community, were lied to. And something I derived comfort from, especially in the wake of recent personal events, has been taken from me. Not by the community or by the people coming out; by him and his actions.
So seriously thank you for creating a space for people to talk about what's going on, because it's so easy to feel guilty right now for having feelings about this situation. Especially as a neurodivergent person whose main comfort is music, including music (and YouTube videos) he made.
I just feel like it's important to put this out there. The community as a whole needs to support the victims, but it's also okay to feel betrayed and it's okay to look at his songs in your playlist, dreading deleting them, for a while. No one will hate you for that. You're not a bad person for that. They're just songs or videos, but they're content that mattered to some of us. How dare he ruin that for all of us. How dare he.
Now that I've written a whole entire novel, please take care of yourself. I know I'm an internet stranger but I almost didn't write this because I think that it's important to emphasize that while I'm glad to see Tumblr users creating a space to talk for those of us who don't post and such, I also think it's way more important that your blog be a safe space for you yourself.
- a rambly anon šŖ
yeah, trust me, I'm fucking sick of this too. you're not selfish for feeling upset about deleting his songs from your playlist or not being able to watch vods of his for comfort anymore. you are not a bad person for having an attachment to someone who lied to his audience about who he was. you are human. you are allowed to be upset.
also, to veer slightly from your point but to bring something else up, while I know there are varying opinions on the community in this I personally don't think I want to let this make me stop hoping for people to be good. yes, it might seem like an endless pattern of people you like being revealed to be assholes. and for some people, they might want to leave the community to avoid that disappointment again. for me, I'm not going to put cc's up on a pedestal and expect them to be great people, but I'm not going to expect the worst from them either. keep my expectations realistic, but not pessimistic. content creators are flawed human beings like the rest of us, and sometimes they can be really shitty people, but sometimes they can be good people too. and I'm always going to hope for the latter.
and thank you for thinking of me. honestly the reason I've slowed down answering asks the past few days is precisely because I've been trying to take care of myself. I've gone up and down in terms of how I'm doing, and when I'm not feeling up to it I don't touch my inbox.
and despite everything that's happened this morning, I've had a good day. I got myself a cinnamon roll. I'm drinking green tea and it's sunny out. I saw flowers blooming on the side of the road and it made me smile. focusing on the little things, you know?
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hi! hope this reply finds you.. eventually. I accidentally deleted your ask when I actually wanted to delete another one (sorry) but I was meaning to reply to a few people in a single post anyway and took provisional screenshots! so this was a lucky coincidence!
thank you for reading Children of the Red Dust! my pride and joy :D but since you know me from word of honor I.. kind of guess why you would be confused by my previous post about my āfandoms of interestā, as u say.
so, originally (I believe it was around either 2017 or 2018, cannot guarantee on that Iām afraid) this was a side-blog spurred from my need to compartmentalize and gush about my experience of re-reading a few of my favorite fics from the hobbit fandom. back then, in fact, I was in a slump and needed to pick myself up. so I decided to revisit fandoms who had brought me joy in the past, one of which was the bagginshield ship. hence a ānostalgiaā blog!
coincidentally, one of the authors of a particular fic among those would have later on (in 2020) influenced my decision to try reading mdzs since they were considering writing a fic about it. they were (and still are!) one of my favorite fic authors, so I trusted them completely on that and thatās how I stepped into the world of danmei!
first it was the untamed, then winter begonia and finally word of honor, through which you have come to meet me :) isnāt that magical?
now. in regards of your second question.. thank you for letting me ramble about my new shiny interests! :D
so hereās a handy list:
1. hotd & r//haenicent :
oh, where do I start! thatās a tough one bc Iām mostly vibing in here?? like. donāt get me wrong, I love the show as it is and I do enjoy the lore behind it a great deal. Iām mostly absorbing the content and let it either shock me or impress me depending on whatās on screen. I do see the flaws but I honestly donāt care about them. Iām just vibing, as I said. but I do like to see people posting meta about the reasoning behind each character! and I love reading about the actorsā ideas behind their back stories and motivations!
my ship of choice is mostly based on the fact that I do like me some toxic-ladies-twice-divorced energy in the room and I should add that I havenāt probably been able to watch killing eve yet just so I could prepare my tastebuds with the hotd female leads first. I especially love the modern!au edits Iām seeing floating around and for now thatās enough to keep me from starving until the new season arrives.
2. the devil judge :
honestly, my focus would be gone on all planes of existence wasnāt it for @/amethystinaās fic (I donāt want to bother her with me tagging her on this, but do trust me and go read it bc itās gonna change your life!) Who Holds The Devil. seriously, my anxiety has been so bad recently but there she glows, the most massive brain in the universe, bringing us frequent updates despite her busy schedule (and, apparently?? she wrote an entire 100k words fic in the strangers from hell fandom on a whim?? so if thatās your vibe you can go feast on that baby and have a fucking party while youāre at it. thank me later)
no but for real. itās almost camp. almost. the drama, I mean. all it needs is a feathered boa and it checks out. outlandish villains that do be sounding a little too similar to IRL egotistical capitalist pigs, dangerous pretty ladies, rich bitches (Kang YoHan included), mysteriesā¢ļø, boytoys and sassy teenagers. there are a few complains I have, ngl, but the vibes are immaculate imo. I would also offer, in a similar vein, kdramas like little women (a recent favorite of mine!), beyond evil (a classic at this point) and, on a bigger scale, the glory (which I have yet to watch, contrary to the first two).
3. helluva boss :
this one caught me off guard, ngl. I used to see it trending on tumblr often but thought it was just the most recent western brand of animation that people get hooked on for the witty dialogue and vaguely philosophical themes being explored (as u can see idk anything about these things, I thought it was similar to adventure time or smth, the fool that I was!). what I got instead was great animation and complex three-dimensional characters overall. now Iāve rewatched the entirety of the available episodes perhaps ten times. honestly, my anxiety really needed that.
as with hotd, Iām just vibing.. but Iām very engaged. I felt almost euphoric at the thought that animators and artists could just.. have fun with it? Iām sure thereās an enormous amount of work involved in the production of every single episode, so Iām just leaning back and enjoy the show. bad gays are hella entertaining and Iām here for it. coincidentally, around the same time I started actively watching the series I found out about a new queer short film that is being developed called the lovers! itās gonna be a long wait but itās gonna be worth it :D
4. donāt hug me Iām scared :
this was a fun one. when it first came out (idr when tho) I remember being very uncomfortable with the material. it reminded me of Flat Eric, a yellow puppet used in dance music videos of some artist or smth: it used to terrify me as a child and dhmis evoked the same reaction out of me in the beginning. but then I watched some video essay on the matter and I grew more accustomed to the feel of it and became interested in the though process behind it instead. first video I watched on the topic was about an interpretation of the show through an autistic perspective and the other was a.. I believe a 3 or 4 hours video making an overview on the whole lore behind it.
Iām not very interested in āfinding out what does this all meanā or anything of the sort. Iām just here for the cosplays xD no but really, people are so inventive! and they make merchandise and dolls and drawings and full on costumes all on their own! thatās creative as fuck! and itās unsettling and evocative at the same time. Iām baffled by everyoneās talents and Iām merely wishing to be as good as them ahah.
5. dune & the hunger games :
not sure how this happened. I have read the latter series but not the first, I donāt have time for that. but I can digest a movie or two and the visuals are very interesting to me! also I am a bene gesserit simp and I hate them and their ways in equal measure. idk why but thatās how it is. similarly, I want to see how the cast for the prequel of hunger games does! Iāve heard the lovely viola davis is in it and Iām thrilled to see her being unhinged :D
but mostly, I re-evaluated the entire hunger game trilogy by reading meta posts and fics exploring the story from different perspective in the past and this new movie reignited the interest for the time being, so Iām excited to give it a try! dune, on the other hand, is new for me and itās helping me bond with my dad on our shared love for sci-fi. whatās not to love??
6. succession :
Iām honestly not sure about this one. I plan to look more into it but idk when I will have the time ahah. if nothing it will entertain me with rich people drama which is always obnoxiously fun to tap into when capitalism fucks me over one way or another. we will see!
thank you for letting me talk into the void xD hope you have a great day yourself!
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Heard something on the radio that got me so much that I dug up this post I made over a year ago, to reblog it with this addition:
(Editing this to add a Google Drive link because apparently Tumblr is failing to display audio files in reblogs now. Don't know what new glitch that is but it's really annoying, I think it's affected a bunch of my old posts.)
Well, you can add one to my list of comedians who talk about who's the best musician in Rufus Wainwright's family and don't throw a mention to Kate McGarrigle. Who is the best musician in Rufus Wainwright's family. It's his mother. And his aunt. Always has been, guys. (Also in British comedians glossing over Canadian musicians, it's absurd to suggest the best version of Hallelujah is not kd lang, but that's a different issue.)
Tell me anything anyone else in their family has done can match the harmonies in this:
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Though if you do like his family, there's always this lovely song from the same album that's about the time Martha Wainwright met Kate McGarrigle's ex-boyfriend and it makes Kate remember her youth:
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And there's an entire album where various members of their family, as well as some other legends including Emmylou Harris, feature as well:
See, the McGarrigle sisters aren't just part of my weird obscure Canadian folk music, they're quite famous! The very famous American Emmylou Harris even wrote a beautiful song in tribute to Kate McGarrigle after she died.
Anyway. To be honest it was weird that I picked today to reread that post from which I've reblogged this - I dug up that post because it complained about people discussing Rufus Wainwright's family and leaving out the McGarrigle side, but I'd forgotten this post also contained some of the freaking out that I did early last year when I heard a Daniel Kitson recording in which he mentioned a specific Twitter and Tumblr blog about him that he didn't like. The recording was from several years before I started this blog, and I eventually got myself to relax about it by reminding myself that since then, everyone came to believe Tumblr died out - that's why I'm on here, because Tumblr is the place where my posts are least likely to be seen by any actual famous people since no one knows we're here - so it's not like he's still checking this website to find/complain about blogs that write about how great he is. Since I made that post, Daniel Kitson has written and performed a show that mentions he hasn't Googled himself since late 2019, so that's actually fine, because he wouldn't lie to us, right?
Having said that. Having said that. Interesting that the post I was going to reblog today anyway contained my "Daniel Kitson searches his own name on Tumblr???" scare, because since I started writing this post, I've had another... I mean... guys, did everyone else know that famous people have access to the same internet that we do? Like, the exact same one. All the same websites. They use the same Google as us, and it turns up the same results. If we put things on the internet they can see it too, even if we're on Tumblr. And I may have been reminded of that this weekend. I actually had this post written on Friday night, but saved it in drafts to give a quick edit and post on Saturday morning, but then I didn't, because I got scared into thinking that instead of making any more posts about a particular Radio X show, I should maybe delete my entire blog and hide under my bed for the rest of my life.
I'm going to be honest - I've put this post up anyway because I feel so very strongly about the Kate McGarrigle thing that I cannot stop myself from expressing that opinion even if I might have decided to try to avoid it. However, I had three more posts related to that radio show in my drafts, and I've now deleted them all, because I've decided that actually, the world maybe doesn't need to know every single thing I think about a couple of people's comedy.
I'd finished episode 250 of the Radio X show, only 14 episodes to go, but to be honest, I kind of can't listen to John Robins' voice right now without cringing at the thought of everything I've ever written and imagining people might read it, so I might put the radio show on hold for a little bit. So close to completing it, but I cannot bring myself to listen right now.
Part of my problem is I don't have much of a concept of how famous British people are, so I tend to assume that if I've heard of a British person, even though I live in Canada, they must be so incredibly, hugely famous that the internet is absolutely full of people talking about them so there is no way my tiny little blog on an obscure little website could ever cut through all the other people who talk about them and come to their attention. It's possible, however, that this may not be true. Yesterday I briefly thought that maybe I should implement a rule where I only mention people by name on this blog if I'm pretty sure they're famous enough so on any given day I could only be one of hundreds of people who mention them on the internet. Which meant there was one moment when I was staring at my ceiling, and briefly cut through the freaking out to blankly ask myself, "How famous is Matthew Crosby?" Because I'd thought maybe I'll go back to the Pappy's podcast. I nearly Googled "how famous is Matthew Crosby?", before deciding that isn't really the issue here.
I'd had a re-listen to a bunch of Kitson's old stuff penciled in for after I finish the Radio X episodes anyway, so I'll just just jump into that early instead, and that's fine because Daniel Kitson promised us that he hasn't Googled himself since 2019. Which is good. I would like for no comedians to ever Google anything again, except for Canadian musicians, which they all need to Google more often.
Putting this behind a ākeep readingā link because itās entirely unimportant, and because I specifically said several weeks ago, several times, that I would stop discussing Daniel Kitsonās music taste.
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Please block @vaestra for being lesbophobic, biphobic, and transphobic
Please note that this person is neither a lesbian or bisexual from what I can tell based off their about. I am also assuming they are TME.
All of their sideblogs will be listed at the very end. All proof will be under the cut and will have the text transcribed to the best of my ability.
The biggest thing that made me make this post is that this person supports bi/pan lesbians and one of the posts he has floating around is literally just his quiet support for bi/pan lesbians. The post in question is the first one listed under the cut.
The bi/pan lesbian label is inherently transphobic because it excludes nonbinary identities from lesbianism, even though nonbinary lesbians exist. I am not a lesbian, so I donāt feel entirely comfortable discussing why itās lesbophobic beyond the fact that lesbians cannot be bi/pan because theyāre lesbians and vice versa.
I commented on this specific post telling him that the post could be taken out of context as support for Bi/Pan lesbians.
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crescairis: i get that people are more comfortable with defined rules and structure but i also think q*eer people lost when they started resorting to dictionary definitions for what labels mean
crescairis: the q*eer umbrella is meant to deviate from the norm of rigid boxes and definitions and to decide that lesbian means Only this, bi means Only this, etc, is directly contradicting what q*eer means. each and every label is going to have a unique meaning to the person using it and that is how itās supposed to be. if youāre not comfortable with thatā¦sorry?
My aforementioned comment has since been deleted, but this was the response I received from him.
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vaestra said: @childescatgirl actually it WAS my intention and you are the exact kind of person this post is talking about! go the fuck away!
Some more lesbophobia and transphobia taken from his about and DNI
Note: The first link provided was locked behind a paywall, the second link provided was written by a cis person, and the third one minimized transmisogony. The fourth link provided is a tumblr postā¦
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We acknowledge that transmascs are affected by TERF ideology, as well as the existence of transmisandry. (Some very good articles on the subject: [#1.] [#2.] [#3.]
We acknowledge that the terms femme and butch are open to all q*eer people; [hereās why.]
Their DNI
Iām not a lesbian and I am TME, but TERF ideology mainly targets transwomen. Yes, other trans and even cis individuals can be impacted by TERFs and their ideology, but itās specifically harmful towards transwomen and to detract from that and focus so heavily on transmascs individuals being harmed by TERF ideology is just a little weird imo. Itās up to you whether you think thatās a bad thing, but I included it because I myself am transmasc and it just feels weird.
The next transcription is only partial and Iām going to censor part of it because the words used make me uncomfortable. I will make the censored parts with brackets.
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you use the ānonmen loving nonmenā definition of lesbianism, and/or you donāt believe in [lesbian boys]/gaygirls and or mspec lesbians/gays
you think q*eer is a slur that shouldnāt be reclaimed (any personal discomfort with being called q*eer will be respected)
you donāt think transmisandry exists, you donāt think transmascs are harmed by terf ideology, and/or you think the discussion of transmisandry is inherentky transmisogynistic
you think the terms butch and femme are for lesbians only (they arenāt)
This Userās Side Blogs Include
@/contaiuolo
@/crescairis (this was the side blog that the post was originally posted on)
@/fuckvriska
@/daylightsanctum
Iāll say it here again too, but I am trans and bisexual.
EDIT; I didnāt know butch and femme could be used by people other than lesbians. Thank you to everybody who corrected me. Iāll admit I didnāt bother reading the link attached to it because it was a tumblr post. I assumed this person genuinely meant like anybody could use them including like men. Which, unfortunately, is a take Iāve seenā¦ š¬ my bad
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Why people keep telling you to block them if you support Pholo (Penumbra Edition)
Or: why jitterbug-juno really deactivated
I love when people categorize this as fandom wank. Really makes you feel like youāre putting the onus on either side of the conversation.
Iām making this post not because I want to stir up spoiled milk, but because I want it out there that this wasnāt a purity culture war.
The TL;DR version of this is that fans of color tried to tell Rab (prev. jitterbug-juno) not to post her Omegaverse (or A/B/O) fic. And instead of taking the L, she posted it on Ao3 and deactivated.
But, if you want context, well, buckle in. CW for mentions of racism and transphobia.
What did jitterbug-juno do?
Before I get into this I do want it out there that I will not be linking Rabās fic, but I will show you this screenshot of the summary of it.
[ID: It is a screenshot of a fic, āAs You Areā by Pholo.
Summary: Peter can hide his scent glands behind cologne; makeup; concealer pads. He can quash his heats with suppressants. He can divert the urge to nest and fawn.
But he canāt feign another genderās subvocals. He lacks the anatomical capacity. Mag taught him to distract from his silence with fast, flashy words. For longer heists he relies on social convention. Traumatic mutism is uncommon, but remarked upon by enough war vets and soap operas to be widely recognized. Peterās marks assume heās been harmed long before they assume heās a closeted omega. It would take quite the backwater brute to ask why he doesnāt murmur or chuff or growl.
On the 'Blanche there are the usual furtive glances. Juno makes clear to Peter that should he ever want āto talk about what happened,ā heāll be there to listen. The gesture annoys Peter more than comforts him.
āNothing happened,ā he wants to scream. āThereās nothing to talk about!ā
There are 14 comments, 85 kudos, and 11 bookmarks /end]
You decide what youāre doing with that information, but honestly, Iād rather you donāt give it anymore engagement than it deserves.
There was a period earlier this June (yes, even though itās only the 10th, at time of writing) when Rab was posting snippets of the aforementioned fic on her blog and tagging it appropriately, putting it in the attention of pretty much the entire Penumbra fandom.
Whatās Omegaverse or a/b/o and why is everyone so against Rab for it
If you know what Omegaverse is, I donāt have to tell you why itās controversial. If you donāt know what Omegaverse is, well, Fanlore said it best:
a kink trope wherein some or all people have defined biological roles based on a hierarchical system, with the terms originating from animal behaviour research. There may be werewolf, knotting, or other animalistic elements involved, or the characters may be otherwise purely human.
The term is generally written with slashes (a/b/o). Many fans, particularly ones from Australia and New Zealand, are uncomfortable seeing the term without slashes because it is also an Australian slur for aboriginal people.
I wonāt get into the history or the heaps and tons of other discourses (mostly about fictional male pregnancy, homophobia, transphobia, sexual assault, etc.)Ā that go on within that. Weāre here specifically on Rab v. Penumbra fans of color and weāre staying there.
Anyone whoās been in Penumbra enough to realize that everyone draws the Junoverse characters in a certain way knows that a) Juno is black, b) Nureyev is Asian, and c) as a fan you have to be aware of what youāre subjecting or saying about either of them because of the political repercussions that come with it.
And despite that, Rab proceeded to write Peter Nureyev, a gender nonconforming gay Asian male character that is widely headcanonād as trans, into a fic using a kink trope that relies heavily on animal behavior.
Unlike most people new to fandom, Rab is aware of what Omegaverse is and is very much white. She is (and if she isnāt, should be) aware of the racist undertones that writing him in would get.
I couldnāt get a screenshot of what snippets Rab was sending out into the ether, seeing as a majority of my friends would rather not have seen any at all (I have all of the usual tags blocked so I wouldnāt have seen it either way), but needless to say, Rab got attention for it. Both positive and negative.
Anne (@hopeless-eccentric) even posted a satirical fic, in the odds that Rab was just writing this thing to be āthe firstā to write Omegaverse fic in the Penumbra tags.
But, Iām assuming more than one fan of color came into Rabās inbox and messaged her about it, but someone I know (who would like to remain anonymous) was gracious enough to take a screenshot before he sent his in and let me use it for this post:
[ID: A message to jitterbug-juno about to be sent by a sender whose name is censored with a black bar. His messages says:
āas someone who is a person of color i think the nature of the fic you are writing right now is extremely racist and attributing animal characteristics to lgbt people of color is not at all appropriate, especially when you are someone who is white. i have to ask you to not publish this fic and to reflect as to why you would want to write this in the first place, these tropes are extremely harmful andā
There are 33 characters left to write into the message. /end]
I canāt speak for whoever else sent asks about the fic she was writing. If anyone was actually not-so-gentle with her, well, minorities donāt really owe it to you to be gentle about what they can tell is bigotry-tinged behavior.
But, the message was clear: this is different from your garden variety, lily white straight male character m/m kink fantasy. This is an actual queer Asian character that a lot of queer Asian people feel attached do. Do not post the fic.
What happened next: the beginning of the end
The next morning, I woke up to most of my friends being frustrated by this post on Rabās account:
[ID: Dated 5 June, a post by jitterbug-juno:
āGonna leave the fandom for a while. Wishing you all well.ā
The tags say the following: not sure if iāll be back, thank you so much to everybody whoās read my fics, and whoās sent asks or engaged with my art or any of that, youāre amazing and Iām sending love /end]
That... was not what fans of color wanted, but it was definitely an action they took. Some celebrated, as they were very much wary of Rab for having caused much of the same category of drama in fandoms like Voltron: Legendary Defenders and Warrior Cats. This also meant that she was probably not going to post the fic either.
Some, myself included, were relatively pissed, as theyād wanted even just the measly bit of accountability. An apology or an acknowledgement of having been called out in private and that theyāll take time to consider why. But instead we got Rab leaving in the face of fans of color telling her not to post her Omegaverse fic.
Well.Ā The next day...
[ID: Dated 6 June. A post by jitterbug-juno titled, āWell... that was short-livedā
āI gave the situation a lot of thought yesterday. The reaction to my omegaverse previews made me figure I should leave the fandom. It seemed like the safest option.
But you know what?
Hell.
I donāt want to leave. The fic discusses the tropes of omegaverse and I spoke to several POC on Twitter, and Iām going to post it with plenty of tags so people can avoid it if they wish. Iām not going to be chased out of this space.
Thank you to everyone who sent messages yesterday. I shouldnāt have made that post about leaving. It was really reactionary. Iām okay and I appreciate your support so much.
(bolded on the post) To those who are angry and uncomfortable with me: Please block me. If youāre going to talk about this fic on Tumblr and Twitterā and this may sound oddā PLEASE NAME ME as Jitterbug-juno or Pholo. Donāt vague me. That way people who donāt want to see this discourse can add my name to their block lists.ā /end]
That certainly was short-lived, she wasnāt kidding.
This got a lot of outrage. Again, the fic is up on Ao3 and she has not taken it down. A lot of POC were pissed and I didnāt see a single fan of color actively support what she was doing, at least, not in my friend group. Everyone started making those posts to block them if you liked the fic or Rabās content in general, in accordance to what Rab wanted.
Perseus (@mraudiodrama) noticed/pointed out that Rab deleted the part where she said she spoke to several POC about releasing her fic, as well as the part where she said she refused to be chased out of the fandom. This was an incredibly pointed detail to edit out, according to some.
[ID: A screenshot of jitterbug-juno's last post taken 11:00PM. Much of it is the same except the following bolded words are removed: "The fic discusses the tropes of omegaverse and I spoke to several POC on Twitter, and Iām going to post it with plenty of tags so people can avoid it if they wish. Iām not going to be chased out of this space." /end]
That same day, Rab deleted her blog. I actually caught this one on tape, believe it or not.
[ID: A screen recording taken at 12:01 PM of someone scrolling down jitterbug-juno's account. The posts and asks about Omegaverse and her post about leaving and coming back are conspicuously absent. /end]
Initially, I thought she deleted all mentions of it. I wanted to see firsthand if the rumors about her deleting portions of it were true. If she added things where she was saying that she wanted to write it because she was autistic and wanted Nureyev to be autistic too, regardless of the numerous QPOC telling her not to do it.
Instead, it turned out, she deleted her blog.
And now, we're here. The fic is still up. Her blog is down. Rab's public Twitter account @nataclinn is quiet about this. Her @cushfuddled Twitter account is on private after her run-in with the Warrior Cats fandom, according to a friend. And her Tumblr @cushfuddled account has nothing but memes.
Again, I didn't make this post to stir up drama. I wasn't even obsessively making this post as a call-out because she isn't in the fandom anymore. I just want it out there that this isn't a purity culture thing that got out of hand in a fandom as niche as Penumbra. This was a case of someone being called out and failing to acknowledge it before running away. And I want all that out of the way before I say:
If you are on Rab's side of this debacle, I, a queer person of color, want nothing to do with you either.
#the penumbra fandom#jitterbug-juno#pholo#racism#white drama#im not tagging this as fandom drama or fandom wank because that erases the fact#that this was legitimate criticism of a white person#the penumbra podcast#junoverse#i put it in a readmore so its not gonna clog up much#but if anyone doesnt want me to tag this w the fandom tags i'll remove it#once again though this is the furthest thing from anti/proship discourse
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I didnāt think Iād be doing this, but itās gotten to the point where some things have to be said.
Someone from my past has been making vagueposts about me lately and I canāt allow it to go unaddressed any longer. They are disingenuous and at times downright false, and they imply a certain type of relationship that simply did not exist.
If at this point you donāt know exactly who and what Iām talking about, please scroll by. Iām not going to be mentioning her by name and Iām not here to drag additional people into this big mess. This is solely to address any misconceptions for those who have already seen this personās posts and are left confused by the strange phrasing and missing information.
(TW: harassment, emotional abuse, stalking, vomit)
This person and I met online in the spring of last year. Soon after, she confessed to me that she had a crush on me. I wasnāt interested for a variety of reasons (distance, not knowing her very well, and a lack of attraction on my end) and I gently let her down but suggested that we could still be friends. At no point did I promise a romantic relationship with this person.
We got to know each other better as friends. For a while, it was genuinely fun. I did not harbor any romantic feelings but I did enjoy being her friend. But in the summer, we began to spend more time together, and thatās where it started to go wrong. In reality, it was gradual, but it felt very sudden because the realization that things had changed came all at once. Her flirting had become a lot more aggressive and she was implying to other people that there was something between us. Playful teasing had turned to something far more demanding, and we were talking to each other nonstop, up to 10 hours per day every single day. When I realized how drastically our interactions had changed, I tried to pull back. I became very uncomfortable with how much couple-like behavior had emerged on her side when I did not want to be in that kind of relationship.
My decision was met with a lot of resistance. She was upset at me that I wanted to cut back on the amount of one-on-one time spent together, and she also was upset when I took a week-long break from Discord as a whole. We had our first argument over this. I thought we reached an understanding, but at the end of the conversion, she expressed her need for significant quality time between us, leaving me feeling like I hadnāt been heard at all. Itās worth noting that I hadnāt cut her out entirely at this point. We were still talking almost every day, but we werenāt on voice chat for hours on end any longer. I just wanted interactions that were closer to a normal friendship rather than a romantic relationship that I had never consented to.
It got worse leading into fall. The flirting continued and escalated. She drew āfriendship portraitsā of the two of us with strong romantic undertones. As she continued to push, I drew back. She didnāt like this. I was met with passive aggression when I tried to set boundaries and put a comfortable distance between us.
September is where it reached a head. On September 17th, she coerced me into a video chat that essentially served as an intervention for my choice. I had a bad feeling going into it, but she insisted that we video chat rather than text chat. I reluctantly agreed under her false pretense that it would be a conversation solely about fandom matters, but within 5 minutes, she was crying on video. I became very uncomfortable and I continued to look at a document on my computer so she could compose herself. She calmed down, but as soon as I claimed to be done looking at it, she turned the crying on again.
For about an hour, I was berated. She was crying and yelling, not allowing me to get a word in edgewise. She was, once again, very upset with me that I had been pulling away from her. I desperately wanted to leave the call, but I knew that thereād be hell to pay later if I did. I forced myself to sit through the whole thing. When she was done, I was shaking. She expected me to speak but I was unable to form words for several minutes and I was additionally berated for not saying anything, even though I had already been cut off many times. When I was able to pull myself out of the state I was in, I told her that our interactions had become far too romantically-focused for my comfort and that I didnāt want her to flirt with me anymore. I then ended the conversation as quickly as I could.
I vomited several times after we hung up and was shaking for hours. I couldnāt sleep that night. A few days later, I lost clumps of hair. It is stress-induced alopecia areata that Iām still receiving treatment for. I donāt say any of this to garner sympathy, but I want to emphasize that this was not a conversation that I look back on fondly. It was traumatic. This unfortunately is relevant later.
At this point, it is safe to say that I did not want to associate with this person any longer, but this was not an option for me. There were fandom commitments that tethered us together, and I knew Iād have to weather out the storm. If I didnāt, I would tear friend groups apart, drop commitments that I cared a lot about, and potentially ruin both of our reputations in the community.
I tried to maintain some distance without angering her significantly, but it was all downhill from here. She continued to disrespect my boundaries and push me romantically. Flirting occurred less commonly in private chats since I would shut it down, but in public spaces, she continued to flirt with me, and I felt pressured to allow it in order to avoid awkwardness in group settings.
Her romantic interest turned into obsession. She became fixated on my Tumblr posts and Discord statuses, accusing me of referencing her when this was seldom the case. Jealousy arose about my friendships with other people. She didnāt trust me to make my own decisions with my friendships and disrespected my decisions when I made them. There was also a huge increase in emotional manipulation and guiltbaiting. Whenever calm and rational criticism of her behavior was given to her, she would exaggerate and call herself a terrible person so that the criticism would be dropped in favor of coddling and comforting her. It was impossible to bring up serious issues without her playing the victim.
She also became increasingly hard to deal with in a team environment. I often felt as if I was being disciplined for not loving her in return. My ideas were constantly nitpicked and shot down. I was condescended to. I began to feel unwelcome in group spaces because of these behaviors. I felt like she was pushing me out of public spaces in hopes that I would flee to private ones, though I tried to avoid that as much as possible.
In November, a flip switched. The romantic harassment almost entirely vanished and all her interactions with me became unkind. In some ways, it was refreshing because the worst of the stalking subsided, but the hostile environment was not easy to deal with. I retreated from fandom in order to avoid it as much as possible.
Finally in December, my fandom commitments finally ended, giving me the ability to end my friendship with her. Right before this, she spoke negatively of me in some public ways. One of these actions I cannot name here because it would reveal her identity, but it spoke ill of a community that I oversee.
The worst, however, was a fanfic that she published several days before I cut her off. She projected her and I onto the main couple of the fic. I was cast as Gabriel and she was cast as Nathalie. The further I read, the more sickened I became as the references became more overt.
Near the end of the fic, Gabriel and Nathalie have a huge argument. I was shocked to find exact quotes from our September 17th video chat in the dialogue of the fic. They were large sections of our conversation. At the end of their argument, Gabriel admitted all wrong and they make amends. As a couple.
I felt ill reading this. I still feel ill thinking about it. I hate that one of the most traumatic conversations in my life still exists on the internet for anyone to read, twisted into a scene that is meant to be read as good and romantic. I am reminded of all the harassment that I endured and I hate that that is a feeling I now associate with one of my favorite ships. There are other creators involved as well whose work has now been tainted by these real-world associations that had no business being in a fanfic.
After this, I cut her out of my life entirely. I was considering less drastic options, but this was the last straw that I knew we could not come back from. I removed her from several of my social circles and blocked her on all social media.
Before I blocked her, I sent a letter explaining in explicit detail why I would be cutting her out of my life. Despite this, she has recently claimed that she was never given a reason.
And thatās where we are now. My life has been more peaceful since December and I have begun to come out of my shell. For a couple of months she left the situation alone and that was fine with me. I was happy to peacefully coexist as long as I wasnāt having to interact directly.
However, my friends began calling my attention to recent posts on her blog that implied I had destroyed her mental health. Some of them have since been deleted. While I was willing to let the first one slide, these posts have increased in frequency while pushing an increasingly false narrative. I donāt enjoy the implications that I did something horrible to her by not consenting to a relationship.
Iām sure she will disagree with my take on things, and thatās fine. If she disagrees with my reasons with cutting her off, that is her prerogative, but I cannot allow her to claim that I didnāt give any reasoning when she did receive it through multiple channels of communication.
And I hope I havenāt gone a step too far in revealing that this person was in love with me. I debated not including it, but Iāve realized itās an unavoidable issue that is central to the entire situation. At the root of it, I was romantically pursued and harassed. I cannot defend my reasons for cutting her off without disclosing the base motivation for the majority of her actions.
So thatās my story. Iād ask those who read this to please refrain from engaging in any harassment. This post has not been made with the intention to hurt her, as can be evidenced from months of me holding my tongue. I really did try to let her preserve her dignity, but I was left with no other options after being smeared multiple times. My purpose here is transparency.
I genuinely do wish her well, for both our sakes. I really hope that this will finally end her obsession and allow her to move on. But whatever happens, I refuse to be a doormat any longer in this situation.
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Just wanted to say that I saw your post about Blond Boy Romance discourse and wanted to thank you for such a succinct write-up about Anders. I got into the fandom in late 2019 and i was SO confused about this huge gap in art and fic. Like, dead links and missing blogs and deleted posts. And I couldnāt figure out what happened because no one was talking about it, and Iām very shy after a mess in my last fandom. So...yeah. Thank you for writing that up, itās nice to finally know what happened even though itās really depressing. Also, thanks for staying in this fandom. Youāre a wonderful example to others and an amazing creator.
Hello wanderingnork, and a very belated welcome to the fandom!Ā šš¾ Well. Welcome to whatās left of the fandom anyway LOLĀ ā¤ļøĀ
Thanks so much for reaching out and sending me this really kind ask message (the post being referred to is my addition/reblog here) but yeah, I guess for those who werenāt in Dragon Age 2 fandom or the Anders side of fandom between December 2017āJuly 2018 you wouldnāt have seen how horrifying the bullying got. Iāve seen at least 3 people who arenāt friends with me reblog my post saying that what I described was why they themselves quit DA fandom or the Anders side of fandom too.Ā
And those are the Anders fans who DIDNāT delete their Tumblr blogs. Obviously the ones who DID delete and/or quit arenāt here to confirm that they, too, quit over that Anders wank in 2018.Ā
The worst of it was that the wank was started entirely by a group of Anders fans who ā to my knowledge ā still see themselves as the real victims to this day, even though they only stopped their callout posts and bullying (both in public and behind the scenes in private) when they learned that the Anders fanartist they were bullying was considering taking legal action. (You KNOW things are bad when fandom wank gets so bad that it becomes actual harassment that breaks the law.) And like I said, they posted some pretty shitty things about those of us who were friends with this artist too, causing many of us to block them.Ā
They backtracked like fuck in July 2018, but after seven months (maybe more?) of constantly bullying this one popular Anders fanartist (whoād repeatedly apologised, deleted the NSFW sideblog AND the offending art, and posted how the whole thing had driven that artist to a breakdown and suicidal thoughts), maybe it should never have got that far?
I donāt know how active they are in DA fandom now ā but I DO know one of them notoriously posted that us blocking them was ābullyingā, and that ābullying is child abuseā for āchildrenā like themselves... despite the fact that they admitted they were 23 and therefore were very much not a fucking minor or child. (They had a lot to say about how WE should have been responsible for theirĀ āonline safetyā as well, and that Anders was theirĀ ācomfort characterā whom they only wanted to see sweet fluff content for, and they regularly triggered themselves by searching out Anders content that was less than fluffy or sweet to complain about on their blog. Not to mention how many of us queer POC Anders creators in our 20s and 30s ā including the Anders artist they bullied āĀ were accused of being āwhiteā and āboomer-passingā for defending Anders content they didnāt like LMAO)
Iām so sorry to hear about the huge gap in art and fic you experienced on coming in to Tumblr Dragon Age fandom, but given how many creators took one look at the bullying and thoughtĀ āfuck this, Iām leavingā and either deleted their blogs or Anders posts/fic/art/meta or simply left for kink-friendlier fandoms, I am honestly not surprised to hear this. I am also sorry to hear that there was a mess in your last fandom too; and I hope that this fandom is better to you.Ā
Dragon Age fandom is a difficult fandom to be in, but trust me when I say there are lots of good people in it. Theyāre just harder to find, and often theyāre not as prominent or in-your-face as the nastier types. But I know theyāre there because Iāve found them, and I treasure them, and Iāve been here since 2014.Ā
I think really all we can do is block the haters as much as possible, and carry on creating whatever the fuck we likeĀ ā and tagging appropriately. I learned my lesson from that wank in 2018: if someone(s) is really determined to destroy you and just wants you gone, there is no apology or deletion you can give that will be good enough. Besides, there are so many problematic themes and content in Dragon Age canon that I donāt think itās reasonable to ask creators to completely shy away from exploring those if they want to, or from making OCs that mirror a canon characterās traumatic background, or from writing/drawing canon characters as anything less than healthy and wholesome and pure (which NONE of them are in canon, anyway) ā especially if itās tagged and warned for.Ā
I mean... we all paid Bioware to purchase and play this 18+ game with its uncomfortable, difficult and sometimes problematic themes and content. I feel that if the Dragon Age franchise was so terrible and traumatic and problematic for someone when playing, then I do question why they joined the fandom afterwards. And I donāt think the onus should fall solely on fandom creatorsĀ ā who are doing this for free, unpaid, in our spare timesĀ ā to create perfect, unproblematic, wholesome content that just wasnāt in the games themselves.Ā Different people have different definitions of what isĀ āperfectā,Ā āunproblematicā orĀ āwholesomeā anyway.Ā
(On that last point: look at how the people behind The Mess callout tried to accuse people ofĀ being racist for romancing Cullen with pale-skinned Lavellans; back in 2016/2017 you got accused of being racist for romancing Cullen with darker-skinned Lavellans. How times have changedĀ š¤Ā Thereās a LOT of content in this fandom that I donāt like, or that squicks/repulses me, but as long as itās tagged in a way that I can avoid it, Iām not gonna police what people create. And if thereās one thing Iāve noticed the Dragon Age fandom IS very good about doing, itās that most people are careful about handling problematic topics and content in a sensitive way. So thatās not a thing I worry about.)Ā
Anyway. Iām rambling. But yeah, that recap of 2018 (which several people have confirmed is true now) sums up why there is such a huge gap in Anders fanart and fic, and is why very few people create Anders content anymoreĀ ā I know I myself abandoned a Garrett Hawke/Anders longfic in 2018 because I didnāt want to create for Handers fans if the only ones around were bullies who believed they were victims. But itās been well over 2 years now, so.... I might get back to writing that fic. The Gym AU is still very much alive in my brainĀ šĀ
So! Thatās what happened... but despite everything I want to emphasise that there IS much good in this fandom, even if itās harder to find among all the shit there isĀ š© and that I hope your stay here is a good one. Thank you so much for saying you think Iām a wonderful example to others and an amazing creator, though!Ā ā¤ļø I donāt know how many people will agree, but I do try!Ā
But yeah, if thereās one thing Iāve learned from being here since 2014Ā ā and from surviving several attempts to run me out of fandom (including for having an elf/human OTP) and off this platformĀ ā itās this: The people change, and the characters and subjects being wanked over change, but fandom wank itself never ever changes.Ā
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WOW!!! Warning: there are some SERIOUSLY AWFUL HATERS out here on Tumblr!!! \(Ā°oĀ°)/
Okay, I donāt exactly know how to put this, but Iām gonna try anyway.
What Iām gonna talk about, happened yesterday, but I was kind of in a SHOCK because of it, so I totally didnāt know what to say... But I DO know that Iām INCREDIBLY DISAPPOINTED and also VERY MAD! Someone TOTALLY insulted me PERSONALLY and even told lies about me as well! It's completely unjustified. That much I know for sure. This person is so hateful, that even though Iām no hater, itās kinda contagious and I feel like hating that person back. Especially after what all that already happened before the person did what he/she did. What a filthy TRAITOR!
So this person makes fan art and I was a great fan of it. I even had drawings of that person on my laptop lock screen and background. I knew they all were on his/her Tumblr page, but I had no account yet, so I couldnāt like the posts or something else. Eventually, after seeing more interesting stuff on Tumblr, I decided to create an account for myself. One of the first things I did, was following this person, liking a lot of his/her fan art and I wrote many kind comments in which I let him/her know how much I loved the art. I also sent some private messages to this person to tell him/her these things personally (and it were long messages, not just some short sentence like āI like your artā) and that Iād love to see more of the characters he/she drew. He/she replied with aĀ āthank youā and said he/she would indeed make more and I said that I couldnāt wait.
Then (and this was yesterday) I looked at the list of the ones I follow and noticed there was one less. I went to our chat and from there I tried to go to his/her page, but I couldnāt manage to do that (which was because the person blocked me, apparently). I just looked up the page in the search bar and there I saw the message... IT WAS AWFUL. Not only the message itself, but also (and especially) the TAGS. This person was literally talking about ME and didnāt care a thing about letting me know that. It was absolutely disgusting to read it all and I was all like:Ā āWHAAAAAAAAAAT?????!!!!!!!!!!ā This person HATES and SCOLDS me, because (he/she said) I donāt support the lgbt+ community. Because Iām homophobic. The person said Iām not being oppressed for being straight... Like, WOT?!
Let me start off by saying this: YES, I donāt support the lgbt+ community, because thatās MY choice and MY opinion. Iām thinking for myself and nobodyās gonna tell me what I must think of anything! Exactly THAT is what annoys me the most! They all want to impose their opinions to me, with violence if it has to. They canāt even respect my opinion, but they expect me to agree with and support THEIRS??? Besides, almost the entire world is already supporting it all. Gay pride here, trans pride there. Those flags are everywhere! Theyāve even got a WHOLE MONTH of lgbt+ pride now! Countless people praise and glorify - if not, worship - them and theyāre gonna talk about oppression??? Come on, man! If it was all to have the same rights as straight people, to be equally treated as them, it wouldāve been lgbt+ NORMAL, not PRIDE.
But thatās another story. What Iām REALLY ANGRY about, is THIS:
I LITERALLY have written on my page that Iām NOT homophobic or something alike. LITERALLY! And Iām not! In fact, I know quite a few gay people and I never got into a fight with them because of it. I may not agree with you on several things, but if you wanna be gay, go ahead! Thatās not my problem. You do what you do, but let me do what I wanna do as well. And donāt go bothering me, telling me I have to find this normal and that normal... However, now even THAT isnāt enough anymore! IĀ must support it or some people will hate me, apparently! Anyway, does this person really think Iām BLIND or something? Or PLAIN STUPID maybe??? Well, guess what... IāM NOT. I already had SEEN posts of this person about lgbt+ pride. Did I scold him/her? No. Did I talked bad words about him/her behind his/her back? No. Did I sent private messages to him/her in which I expressed my hateful feelings??? NO!!! But what I DID do, was following this person, liking his/her content and saying many nice things about his/her art. And then you go talking about me like THAT? I 100% donāt get it. Like, seriously, WHAT THE???!!!
Of course, after reading the (very personal) message, I immediately changed my laptopās lock screen and background. How I wish I could delete this personās page from my internet...
I thought it would perhaps happen in the future. The far future. But it seems itās already reality today: you canāt say youāre straight anymore! Because thatās THE ONLY THING I did. My username: not-gae-cuz-i-like-straight-wae. Do I say I hate homos? (Yes,Ā here we go again.) No! My profile picture/the name I use for my drawings: straight weh/straight wayzzz. Do I say I hate homos? Again, no! The title: this blog is not geh. Do I say I hate homos? Once again... No! The banner: hetero pride. Do I say I hate homos??? NOOOOO!
I SAID HETERO PRIDEĀ AND IT APPEARS THAT BECAME AN ILLEGAL THING TO SAY. WELL, IāVE SAID IT BEFORE AND IāLL SAY IT AGAIN: I FIND IT QUITE NORMAL TO BE HETERO, BUT IāM HAPPY TO BE NORMAL.
You know, I actually COULD feel oppressed for being straight now, because this person basically discriminated me for merely saying it! (By the way, there was someone else like that and he/she started to spam long texts and pictures in our private chat, saying he/she was streaming it to Discord. Iām pretty sure that isnāt even allowed! Eventually, I had to block that fool.) Iāve seen so many usernames that includedĀ āgayā,Ā ālesbianā, ābiā,Ā ātransā, etcetera, but when I includeĀ āstraightā in my username, Iāve committed a terrible sin, according to some people! These things are seriously happening, but I still canāt believe it...
Someone choosing to be gay may be none of my business, but I also never said a hard word about it. Just that I DONāT support it unlike almost everyone else these days. And why would you give a darn crap about what I think, huh??? There are MILLIONS of people to back you up!!! Often, I only need to turn my head to see another lgbt+ supporter. I canāt even watch TV anymore without flags turning up on the sides of the soccer field or sometimes even in the stands! So what the FRICK are you whining about??? (Maybe Iām talking to you specifically, maybe Iām not, but Iām pretty sure youāll know if I do.)
At first, I was shocked by the message and I gotta be honest, I was really SAD too. It came so unexpected and definitely not on the right day (my birthday, Iāll have you know... no joke, I couldnāt even celebrate it due to my school tests, but then I was taking a break after some studying and I do had to see THAT message). I suppose it hurt me more than it should have. But well, the longer I think about it, the more happy I am you showed your true self. The HORRIBLE and RUDE person you are. The truth is one of the most important things in life and Iām glad to have found it out once again. The last thing I want to say, is that Iām not hateful towards those you claim I am hateful to, but now, I DO despise YOU.
#you can f off yourself#stupid morron#i'm sorry y'all for having written a message like this#but some toxic person posted a very rude message about me#and i had to do this#i was just being friendly to this person#complimented him/her for his/her drawings#and then this#no#i won't accept that#if i'm being friendly to you#and then you post a message#addressed to me personally#as loathsome as that person's message#you will get it back#straight in you face#so please#don't be a jerk
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l0chn3ss update
I feel like the last time I ever really active on tumblr was in the year 2016, so i want to address my absence between 2017-2020. Part of it is because I feel like I owe it to my friends and mutuals who I just basically left on read and another part is because Iāve always treated this blog as a personal blog that documents my life and my growth. I put off writing this for a long time but now that I have a huge paper due, now is definitely the time.
You are welcome to skip but I will address a few hard hitting questions I feel should be answered, especially since I feel like I departed like an anti-hero of a bad tv show.
Where I am currently: I am in grad school to obtain a masterās in library and information science. I have a full time job at different middle school libraries, though I work from home now. I also tutor kids on the side to pay for my tuition because I basically make minimum wage. Quarantine messed with my head at first, but now Iām feeling much better and Iām trying to reconnect with friends and close a lot of loose ends.
TLDR:Ā I took an extended break because tumblr mobile sucks and my laptop needed serious repairs. I made a huge migration away from social media in 2018. I prioritized my education and in-person connections, which fell to shit because of my fandom involvement in the past. I did not like the direction of the main fandom I participated in and knew that many of the people I once respected did not respect me in return/ Us versus them mentality. I recognized that I treated my life on tumblr too seriously and took petty drama personally. I am sporadically on tumblr now because I genuinely enjoy the social connection and because I still like running fandom events.
Yes, you can reblog this. Iād love for this narrative to be heard.
Long version: To preface this, this post is being written to give myself closure and because I really am procrastinating on my final big paper of this semester. Iāll be tackling on the points in the tldr in a longer narrative that will appear to be in an expository fashion, which I recognize will be a source of contention, but my intentions are to throw it onto the table so that I can be freed. I can let it go and move on. Iām no longer a 20 years old who cared too much of what other people think and will think; I think differing perspectives are important and I want to give myself a chance to say my piece. That and I recognize that I lost the audience that I once had, so I doubt this will be an issue at all. Itās been 4 or what ever years, letās just not.
Back in 2015-2016 there was a huge back and forth between three groups of people in the SE fandom. The reason why Iām not listing out the name is because I donāt want this to show up in the tags. Iād say that the three groups could be seen as quite literally the soma shippers (mostly white, demi sexual girls), lgbt centric bloggers (very kid or star oriented, very fed up with soma), and the people who were deemed as alright to soma shippers (c r ona, ste inm arie, jac k im centric people). There was a constant (and understandable) tension between the first two groups while the third was like the weird cousin that everyone in the social circles liked because they sprinkled in soma for the masses. Donāt argue with me on this-- this was literally how the fandom was in 2015 and you know it.
The main issue was that one group felt that they were being inclusive towards identities and sexualities while the other felt that they were not. I remember that one of the arguments was that soma WAS an LGBT ship because people headcanonned the members to be demisexual. However, the other side of the argument was that it wasnāt good representation of a gay pairing. Now that we can look back at this 5 years later, I have two things to say: 1, I now very much understand why the argument broke out because of how heated the topic is, and I do believe that I lean more towards theĀ āother sideā now that Iām not wearing rose tinted glasses, but 2, I need to make it clear that demi people are lgbt, but a headcanon is not fact and ship diversity was the main question at hand, not the ship itself. This argument lasted for weeks, destroyed my friendships, and no matter what I felt I did in the moment (which was to mend the fandom), it was taken as an insult.
(Side note: Somethings that I remember was being in someoneās DMās to encourage them to participate in the large fandom events more, but once they twisted my intentions and rallied their friends, I became their enemy. I also became the modsā enemy but then again, when was I not? I was made fun of for sayingĀ āqueergender,ā a term that is now currently being widely used, quite openly by someone I wanted desperately to be friends with. I was outwardly mocked by popular users who only apologized behind closed doors but didnāt bother to clear things up with their followers. Adults who were in their 30s quite literally attacked a 19 year old. It was in that moment that I realized I would never become friends with either side, and not because I didnāt want to.)
I bring this up because as I begun to stop writing soma fics, I also begun to see and understand why people moved away from it. It wasnāt the ship itself, it was the culture surrounding it. However, on tumblr we have the ability to connect intensely with the content we produce. Therefore, the ship itself began to be connected with the shippers and their attitudes towards outside pairings-- that attitude being tied into elitism.
I say this with every ounce of love I can because I once had the exact same mannerism. When you become so tied into one pairing to the point where other ships appear to threaten the existence of it and you react negatively towards it, you become rancid.Ā The popular tagĀ āeverything is somaā takes a very dark turn. Even if readers consume another pairingās work, they will be obliged to sayĀ āI ship soma more BUT that was cute.ā They will read an entirely different topic and wonder why soma wasnāt inserted into it in the background. They will reject pairings that separate the two as if breaking them up is sin and an insult.
The only reason why I stopped writing my soma fics in 2016 was because I saw a real need to fill in the gaps of other pairings. I took what people were saying to heart and I wanted to change my ways and my perceptions. I saw the animosity of the ship culture and rejected it. I wanted to use what little influence I had to make the fandom just a bit more accepting. In 2016, I donāt think the fandom was ready for it. In 2017, they still werenāt ready for it. In 2020, I see hope, but I wonder sometimes if itās masqueraded pity because of previous treatment.
In the middle of it all, I went from being the soma angst master to becoming the weird person everyone once knew. I was the friend that people excluded from group chats and I justĀ āwasnāt the same.ā Cliques grew extremely large in power in 2017 and exclusion hurt like a bitch.
The straw that broke the camelās back and completely shut me down was in 2017 when I was graduating as a bachelor. There was a fandom event that I decided to go all in to. For context, there used to be a huge debate on how many times a person should enter in an event, but in my mind, the more exposure the better. My graduation and the event took place at the exact same time, which was cool, but what hurt me was what happened after.
I was lucky enough to be accepted into field school (when you travel to do outdoor excavating) for my major. Iām an anthropologist-- it was an honor. I didnāt plan in advance for it, and if anything, I thought that I would be committed completely to the events and my 5 or what ever entries at the time. Iāve always prided myself in communicating with others, so I made sure to let my partners in the event know what was going on. I was so excited to be going on my first ever excavation and no one at the time said anything otherwise, in fact, they all seemed incredibly supportive.Ā
What I didnāt know was that I would be called out by name in the event feedback response by one person who felt that I didnāt take the event seriously enough and that I shouldāve prioritized my time accordingly. Two of the mods let me know because it referred to me directly, though the name of the submitter was not included. It was not only a slap in the face, but a dumbfound moment that reminded me that wow, fandom content really is someoneās life out there. My enforced silence because of lack of internet in the woods actually upset someone and made them believe that I wronged them, because I put my real life ambitions first before a fandom event.
It was then when I woke up and I remember very clearly thinking to myself: I donāt want to be like them. I donāt want to treat my fandom life seriously. I want to participate in fandom for fun, not out of duty. I donāt want to prioritize this life because in the end, if I am hated for putting my work and education first, then I donāt want it.
(For context, I suspect that it was the same person who made a 200 note call out on me during the fandom tension. I respected this person immensely, but I also treated them like the flawed person I believe everyone is. Iām sure because of this, Iām pretty much trash in their eyes, which is totally fine. They have really cute cats so they canāt be all too bad. Donāt look into it too deeply.)
Once my month long field school was up, I was already used to not being on the internet or any of my social media accounts. I didnāt play my mobile games for a month. I didnāt read the news for a month. It was like going cold turkey on the internet, which reshaped my habits entirely. The only time that I had online within that time span was during the weekend, but I spent my time working on my projects and catching up with friends instead of being on apps.
I was also completely fed up with tumblrās mobile app at the time, so one by one, I deleted my apps. Good bye to tumblr, snapchat, what little I used of instagram, twitter, everything. The only thing I kept was facebook, which was because it is the main platform that I use to message my boyfriend. That meant that any friends I retained from the fandom (who I still contact now) were also friends who had the chance to add me on facebook.
This was the cause of my 2 or 3 year hiatus on tumblr, and therefore the fandom. I occasionally checked back every 6 months to do a few fandom events, but I have several unopened messages and notifications that I havenāt been able to get to. I open my instagram for a few days once a year, and I only go onto twitter if my friends tell me (through facebook) that they dmād me a post there.
When I left my online persona behind, I quickly strengthened my in person connections. New drama that erupted every other day became replaced with starbucks and boba runs. Reality TV shows replaced fanfiction. Text messages replaced the tumblr activity feed (which still doesnāt work on mobile BTW). I study at cafes unironically with friends instead of typing alone in my room. Overall, it opened my world considerably.
I still like making fun of myself and I try not to take myself seriously. I still make self depreciative memes to send to friends but then double up with kermit heart pics. Iām still a plot bunny, I still write my fics, I still watch my anime, I still play video games, I still sleep at 4am, I still take my depression medication, I still love potatoes, I still use my voice for people who canāt find theirs yet. But I think Iām in a much healthier mindset now, even if I still make stupid shifty posts calling out bad behavior.
Nowadays, Iām working on my Masterās degree in secret. My parents donāt know about it because my mom doesnāt like that I want to go out and do unladylike things like getting an education. I tutor kiddos and Iām really good with younger children, but Iām not going to do anything with kids because I just donāt want to. Instead, I want to work at an archive or a museum to bring my library interests and my anthropology background together. If I had my dream job, I would be a marine archaeologist; however I love my boyfriend of 8 years whom you probably all remember and I really came to terms with my grandeur dreams. Iām extremely happy with living in a small town with loved ones now, and I donāt need to move somewhere far away from my parents to be content. Itās a huge realization.
From 2018 to 2020 I got into actual drama in person while I was job hunting. Adult people suck and honestly itās kind of embarrassing how ill equipped some people are. Even so, I currently work in middle schools as a media assistant. One of those realms is the library, and honestly itās like fulfilling a prophecy. As much as I love the social aspect, public schools are an absolute train wreck.
Iām going to wrap this up now. This post is meant to help me close the past and move forward because the fandom cultureĀ feelsĀ different now. Things from several years ago donāt need to resurface. I want to enjoy my life fully, and fandom life is one of those aspects that I truly did enjoy. Iām going to keep using my voice and act like a fool, but Iām also not going to be losing sleep because of this. People are going to talk about you no matter what, whether positively or negatively, and itās important to not take it personally.
Idk, go enjoy yourselves. Do things for yourself. Itās more fun that way.
#nessingaround#this was cathartic#huge thank you to my friends who stuck by me and to my friends who welcome me back with open arms#big shout out to my disney girl gang and another big shout out to 'ma girls'#another thank you to my sweethearts on google hang out#and thank you especially to the group of se lgbt users from 2016 who truly did open my eyes to the severity of the fandoms actions#even tho u still hate me and have me blocked hahaha i consider this growth
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Fact, not Fiction
Well itās been long enough and Iāve decided to just write this all out so everyone doesnāt have to read a series of reblogs and that they can have all the information in one place. Without further adieu *cracks knuckles* letās get started.
So this entire story between Beka (Impala-dreamerā) and Vanessa (flamencodiva) is being told one sided, so Iām here to tell the other side and yeah.
Vanessa had unfollowed Beka, not blocked, unfollowed because she didnāt appreciate the way that she did things and who she is as a person. Beka had messaged her asking why and the entire thing was born.Ā
āI blocked you because you ruined my night, by writing me a 90 page essay on why Iām terrible and called me a Narcissist who only cares about people who kiss my ass.ā Now, I want all of you to pay attention to how Beka so expertly framed her message to make her out to be the victim. Vanessa had unfollowed her, not publicly said anything, not messaged her anything because she wanted to keep from conflict and not make it a spectacle. Then, Beka makes a post that includes the above quotation making Vanessa out to be the villain. Beka had asked exactly why Vanessa unfollowed her and she told her why, she didnāt sugarcoat it because if she did, then that would be unfair to Beka. Beka then proceeds to post about it in order to make herself out to be the victim, once again claiming, āYou are a very mean, heartless person, and you think the world revolves around you and it does not. Not everyone has to like you.ā I had initially made a reblog of that very post including this quote and I had responded with -
Ā āPlease allow me to bring to light a situation that had occurred about a month or two ago. I donāt remember exactly what it was, but you had posted something that required follower interaction and after only a single hour, you had ran to the pond discord server and began complaining about how no one looks at your account and your followers donāt like you. From then on, you had gotten a lot of support from a lot of the writers in the pond. I did not want to say this because of privacy, but the fact that you have given zero privacy to Vanessa with this post, Iāve also decided to shed light on something as well.ā
This was one of the many situations and events that Beka had complained about her followers. Unfortunately, I have nothing but my own word along with others that have been subjected to or have witnessed events like these. Constantly, I have found Beka complaining about how one of her ficās flopped, how her followers donāt interact with her, and how she doesnāt like the drama from Tumblr. I think we can all agree with not liking the drama on Tumblr, but when you yourself are creating that drama, it makes it nothing less than hypocrisy. Throughout the entire post of Bekaās response she never explained anything and only told her side of the story - meaning that she is playing the victim. She expertly weaved her web of deceit and left things out on purpose to gain the support of the public so she can have all of the attention. Another thing both myself and MANY other people agree on is that Beka loves attention, constantly posting about things that make people feel bad and send her messages of encouragement even though the very things sheās complaining about, she has started. Allow me to provide some examples.
The fact that she included her almost getting into ātwo accidentsā already makes everyone feel bad for her, getting roped into her web. The repetition of her saying that sheās the ābad guyā implants into everyone's head that sheās pleading. What else screams out āGuys come support me because everyone is making me out to be the bad guy.ā Maybe you really are the bad guy, ever thought about that? The āsheā that she is referring to is Vanessa and I donāt think I can find a single example of her āterrorismā ever. Oh do you mean when she āterrorizesā other writers by reblogging their stuff with encouraging messages? Is she āterrorizingā her friends when she tags them in a funny gif set? If so wow, she really does terrorize people, youāre right!Ā
This really made me laugh out loud.
Let me start off by reminding all of you that Vanessa is also considered a ābig blogā so you going after her for doing everything you have listed here is wrong, but when you do it, youāre allowed to complain about it? Let me also direct your attention over to the hashtag, āIām outā The sheer amount of times I have witnessed Beka hashtag something with āIām outā is abysmal. Itās another technique she uses to get people to message her going āoh no please donāt leave!ā And what makes me know that for a fact is that every single time she says that sheās āoutā I see her responding to asks from people sending encouraging messages. Iām really fed up about it and I just want to share it with all of you who might not be aware of all of these things so you donāt blindly follow and defend her. I used to follow her myself, but when I realized all of these things, I separated myself from that negativity and attention seeking.Ā
The second I had made my initial reblog, Beka had blocked me even though I had said nothing negative and only shed light on something. That shows that sheās trying to cover it up so her image doesnāt get tarnaged. Does this not show how desperate she is to play victim? In this entire little post, she didnāt address a single thing that anyone had responded with and instead found more things to complain about, once again leaving things out to keep her status as the victim.Ā
Now, some people might take what Iām about to say as insensitive but Iām really only stating the facts because I am not appeased by Bekaās self victimization.Ā
#fine if you want me dead, ...who said that they wanted you dead? I apologize but I donāt remember a single person saying that. This is yet ANOTHER way she is trying to get people to go āOh no! Donāt think like that! Donāt listen to the haters!ā It really baffles me how good she is at playing the victim but also at how ridiculous her antics are.
Another thing I want to add in is a post that Beka had made however many months ago talking about how the āSPN Familyā was becoming negative and toxic.Ā
Now to be honest, I think that we can all agree with this at least somewhat and I was actually proud of Beka for writing and posting this. That is, until she made it ALL about herself again.
The second that post was posted, many people tried to spread positivity and love to a lot of others by tagging all of their friends and saying that they are grateful for them and that they love them. Beka then posted the picture above. Thatās when I knew she really hadnāt changed at all. Sheās proving herself that she just wanted attention in that post by saying āBeka who?ā Meaning that she wanted everyone to go to either her DMās, the comment section, or her asks to send words of encouragement as ALWAYS.Ā
The reason this is so long is because if I simply claimed that Beka was an attention seeker, it wouldnāt make sense to have no evidence or even just a single piece of evidence. So Iāve provided many, and trust me, there are more.
This entire thing is simply to educate everyone who is either involved or is curious in the current situation, even though it seems like a diss, itās really me just exposing Beka with facts, not fiction.Ā
Since Beka deleted my reblog off of her page, Iāll just paste what I said here.
This entire situation really disheartens me.
Let me start off with the fact that Vanessa (flamencodiva) has DELETED her account because of this.
The fact that you came after her for wanting to be Tumblr famous is really wrong and allow me to explain why it is. Vanessa is a close friend of mine and I talk to her almost every single day. She is THE most selfless person I have ever met and is always trying to make others happy even if it makes her sad. She constantly reblogs everyoneās writing to encourage new and upcoming writers, and writers who have been around for a while to spread POSITIVITY. She has never once complained about notes, likes, or follows so I genuinely want to know why you felt the need to say she wants to be Tumblr famous. The only reason she went on anon for that message is because you blocked her so she had no other way of contacting you about why you had blocked her.Ā
She had privately messaged you to keep this between the two of you but you decided to turn it public, which doesnāt make her the victim, it makes YOU the victim. Right now, everyone who have seen this post knows YOUR side of the story but not hers. Yes, she comes across aggressive, but thatās only if you give her a good reason because you had upset either her or one of her friends which she cherishes.Ā
āYou are a very mean, heartless person, and you think the world revolves around you and it does not. Not everyone has to like youā
Please allow me to bring to light a situation that had occurred about a month or two ago. I donāt remember exactly what it was, but you had posted something that required follower interaction and after only a single hour, you had ran to the pond discord server and began complaining about how no one looks at your account and your followers donāt like you. From then on, you had gotten a lot of support from a lot of the writers in the pond.Ā
I did not want to say this because of privacy, but the fact that you have given zero privacy to Vanessa with this post, Iāve also decided to shed light on something as well.
Her deleting her account ABSOLUTELY discredits your argument of her wanting to be famous because now she has no account, no followers, no fics, nothing.
Iām not writing all of this to create more conflict, only to further educate a lot of the people reblogging this and supporting Beka and being extremely negative to Vanessa right now. I personally have unfollowed you for personal reasons but I have not blocked you because I do not deem it necessary and I do not encourage negativity. This post really just oozes negativity and self victimization so I had decided to throw in my ten cents. You can come after me for this or not itās really up to you but I did not write this with the intent to attack or diss, only to educate. Have a nice day everyone ā¤
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So, a couple things.
I think there may be a few things worth addressing because this has just spiraled into something that does not remotely resemble reality anymore. This is likely to be my last lioden-related interaction on here for a long time. I apologize for the novel.
First of all, any of the things, which I am still confused about what all you folks are going on about, has not happened in the Breed Only Beauties discord server. I don't understand what exactly these anons would prefer for me to do. I can't ban individuals based on alleged actions outside of my server, that doesn't seem logical or right to me. I canāt moderate actions outside of my server. If something happens in the in the server, create a ticket. I am not psychic and can not address things I am not made aware about. Everything that we are made aware of is addressed promptly.
Second, there's a ticket system in the Breed Only Beauties discord server which will connect you immediately with the admins and has an average response time of about a minute. So to say admins/moderators aren't doing anything is simply not based in reality. Many users have received warnings and have adjusted their behavior. You can also typically get an instant response you if DM any of them directly. Helpers, by the way, can not see tickets. If you are curious what most tickets are about, itās failure to use trigger warnings. Well, actually most tickets are people testing the ticket system (please do not do this), but that doesn't really count. If you need something in the sever, create a ticket if it is actual issue in the server. For everything else, create a Tumblr post apparently.
Some, well at least one person, has complained about the choice of Aggy. I will not be demoting Aggy from the helper position. I am unaware of the alleged actions of Aggy that would warrant this (besides of course the favorite crime of guilt by association), and Aggy was chosen as a helper due to merit. They have exhibited nothing that would contradict this initial assessment, and has been doing an excellent job. If you have an issue with Aggy and believe you have evidence of why they should not be a helper, please create a ticket in the server or DM me. I am always open to being proven wrong.
Fourth, no I will not arbitrarily kick an individual because you do not like them or do not get along with them. This applies to people on "both sides". They will have to break the rules either severely enough, or enough times to be kicked. You not liking them is not an appropriate reason to have someone banned from the server. Pretty much everyone has been and will be given a chance in this server, even if I get DMs from people bemoaning their entry. So no, everyone, I will not be kicking someone because they are a clown gang, I will not be kicking someone because they are friends of Jax, I will not be kicking someone because you think they may be the user that bought out your mispriced trade last year or kinged a lion similar to yours. None of these are valid reasons. If you have a valid reason, please create a ticket or DM me. We will instantly kick users who underage, who engage in clear-intent scams, steal art, or engage in any activity that would result in a ban from Lioden.
Unfortunately, I can not dedicate my entire life to volunteer to watch every channel in a pet sim server for a small community. Realistically, this is not even dependent on my mother's condition. I just humanly can't do that, because sleep is a thing, and nor would I want to. I don't even want to spend most of my free time doing it. If you see something, report via the ticket system. As much as the salt blogs care to insinuate, I do not bear the weight of responsibility of the actions of individuals who sometimes chat in a server I set up for everyone to enjoy. I am not these peopleās parent, nor can I control any individualās actions. Also, if I were to chose to leave the server be and let the weeds grow wild, that would not make me a ābitchā as one anon so eloquently put it. Anon, you are not entitled to the volunteered time I put into building a little community for Bob. Everything I, the admins, and the helpers, put in is volunteered and not at all a given, or requirement. If I can not drop everything in a momentās notice to service a voluntarily run discord, that does not make me a ābitchā. It is not, and will never be, my sole or number one responsibility in life. Itās a game. And to insinuate that I am somehow less than or a bad person for not being able to manage the server 100% of the time is unreasonable and cruel. Look, Iām only human. And the users chatting in Bob are only human. And there's going to be squabbles, and people are going to complain about stuff, and not always get along, and thatās okay, because that's part of being human. But Iām not always going to be online to catch it, so please use the ticket system.
Also, on to the anonymous user who posted and the salt blog who permitted this comment,ā hey fun fact anon, i'm aware she's dealing with her sick mother but that doesn't excuse the terrible moderation. if she told her mods to step up or do something, they could do something so she could do what she needed to do. she's a bitch, and terrible owner. she has the power to do stuff, but does nothing.ā What is wrong with you? How on earth does this progress anything, and why was this permitted to be shared? I understand everyone enjoys salt, and everyone is stressed due to the global circumstances stances right now, but moderators and posters please keep in mind there is a human on the other end of the keyboard, and thanks to the 2020 energy I think everyone is going through something. I have my mother's situation, but everyone has something right now. I have an open DM policy with players in and out of my discord, where if you have anything you need to talk about I can always provide a safe and confidential place to talk, and many, many users have come to me upset about even just the tiniest thing shared on these blogs. These words and comments genuinely hurt people, and it doesnāt take needlessly calling someone a ābitchā because they can not dedicate their life to moderating a discord server to do that. You can hurt people with much less. This request is to everyone, including individuals in the Bob discord server. I don't think anyone deserves to be just berated or cussed out needlessly by anonymous randos, not myself, not Roxanne, not Jax, not the clown gang, not Noluck, not BO breeders, not applicator lovers, not the Lioden staff. All these individuals are people who are just doing the best they can right now, I'm sure. Even Roxanne and Jax are nice, normal and understanding people if you talk to them one on one.
Yes, my mother is dying from liver failure caused by cancer. It is an awful and ugly death, especially for someone who is far before her time. Her medication to manage the pain and rising liver toxicity she is has made her very not herself, though we are finding a better combination. There are still some good days ahead I hope. She is combative, physically and verbally, and can not physically do most basic actions herself. She keeps fighting us to go back to chemo, even though it did nothing to help the tumors and would just quicken demise. It breaks my heart because I know she just wants to live and wants to fight it, but she is going to die where she lays. I just really hope I get to have a fully aware conversation with her before she passes, and that she knows I love her so much despite me being a bit of a hellion in my teens. I think it would be hard to watch if I was an observer, unfortunately I am active participant.
On the matter of me deleting things that violate our rules in server. The alternative would to be leaving up things that violate our rules, which would be the same as deeming it acceptable. This is just the strangest complaint I've seen on here. If there was a delete, someone is essentially being spoken to/receiving a strike/ECT. According to Tumblr, I'm quite the paradox, apparently, I somehow both manage to completely disregard the server while still managing to delete stuff every time insert your favorite salt blog character here does anything. Congratulations Bob, you got yourself a girl that can do both.
At the end of the day, the Bob server is a pretty mundane lioden server. If you don't like breed only marks/bases, itās probably pretty boring. Itās really nothing like how itās portrayed here. If itās toxic then my vocabulary is far too limited to describe the anonymous culture on platform youāre reading this on. Usually I would suggest joining us and checking it out, but after watching the last 48 hours on Tumblr, I think Iām likely aquantited with enough users from this platform for now. If anyone is still reading, thank you for your time, I'm appreciative of it. Writing this really helped my headspace regarding the community. I should have never read the blogs to be honest, so some of this does fall on my shoulders. I won't likely answer questions, I apologise in advance. I still love you all, and I know this is just a tiny fraction of the Lioden community, but today it just feels incredibly bad.
#lioden#pet sim#petsim#dalton#breed only beauties#lionews#COAL#lioden salt#toxic culture#anonymous#jax#game culture#discord#salty lions#salt#cancer#tumblr#tumblr toxicity#tired
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What We Lost: Returning to Tumblr in 2020
On December 17th, 2018, Tumblr banned 'adult content' across the site, marking the end of an era. The ban was the result of a cavalcade of issues which reportedly made maintaining NSFW content unfeasible for Tumblr. Now, it's 2020. I'm back on Tumblr, and I can't help but meditate on what we've lost both on Tumblr, and across the globe in 2020.
Part One: Tumblr and Adult Content
*Things we lost to the flame Things we'll never see again All that we've amassed Sits before us, shattered into ash
ā Bastille, "Things We Lost In The Fire"*
A bit of personal history: Tumblr was the primary community I used in various forms from 2012 onwards, associating with various fandoms, doing what I could to design interesting things. The various communities I was involved in intersected with social justice communities, and eventually I dug into those further and tried to learn to better myself in the process, starting along the path to becoming the person I did.
Part of that process was also learning to love my own body, a thing I was not particularly good at and still struggle a bit with nowadays. One of the ways I did this was by making 'adult content', or more plainly, pornography. It was a unique opportunity to experiment with femininity and sexuality - something I'd been very closed off from as part of my upbringing - in a supportive, fun environment. Experimenting with my self image first in this way, in semi-private, led to me experimenting more publicly and eventually embracing aspects of that as part of my day to day life. That's right: making pornography was part of what led me down the path to figuring out I was trans and embracing that part of me.
Making porn on Tumblr was a great time; the adult content creators and consumers community on the site was largely supportive of queer people and sexuality, different body types, all manner of things. It was - in my experience - a healthy and fun place to be, and certainly one of the better places you could be on the internet for a visual medium like pornography. Tumblr's format made it easy to share both adult content you made yourself, and stuff you were curating. Vex Ashley wrote that "this sharing was so desperately vital for women and other marginalised people whose sexualities are often overlooked or infantilised in media about sex in preference for the tastes of the traditional porn consumer ā the straight white guy" in a eulogy and love letter to Tumblr's adult content communities.
Tumblr's format remains novel to my knowledge as well: the notion of having a large image-focused feed which also allows for easy sharing and curation, gorgeous, high resolution pieces and photos to be uploaded with relatively little compression, custom arrangements of photosets, and personalized theming of your blog. There was, and remains, lots of potential for expression on Tumblr., and its focus remains unique. Twitter and Mastodon's focus is on what's written, Wordpress doesn't have the sort of interlinking of blogs that Tumblr does, and Facebook is... Facebook (read: evil).
I think the novelty of that format is what made the announcement of the ban on 'adult content' so impactful. Even looking back at the framing of it is gross: the post posits that 'adult content' is something which is negative, and says that removing it is working towards a 'more positive' Tumblr. There appears to be an attempt to try and strike a balance in allowing conversation about sexuality and such, but this is the killing blow. A huge portion of the community, including countless queer and furry artists, needed to find a new home online.
3 months after the ban had hit, traffic had reportedly dropped off 20%. Recent data from SimilarWeb, the outfit which published that initial data, shows that visits to the site have dropped off a little bit more, but have stayed otherwise pretty consistent. August 2020's data shows about 317 million visits. [1] In other words: any hope that this move would allow Tumblr was dashed. A massive portion of the userbase deleted their accounts after archiving them; Tumblr and the internet at large had lost a massive, vibrant chunk of community, and it was completely in vain.
I lost contact with a bunch of those folks I was following on Tumblr for years. The mass exodus left both people who wanted to find and share artwork and adult content and the people who made it completely adrift. Years later, some artists are still picking up the pieces. Archaic policy like SESTA/FOSTA being brought into the picture has left very few standing when it comes to adult content, Twitter included. Who knows how long that will last? If something happens to change the way that Twitter handles adult content, for example, what options do casual creators like myself have?
Fortunately, platforms like OnlyFans exist. But even those are at potential risk from legislation like the EARN IT Act, not to mention the danger this poses to Twitter and to the internet at large. OnlyFans and its ilk, as they exist right now, are fantastic for sex workers because they offer pay-gating and a variety of features to make sure sex workers get paid. But they leave those of us who want to be able to curate the content they enjoy or casually create their own content freely without real options, and without real community.
We stand to lose a lot, and as always people in the margins will be the ones most impacted: the queer, the people of color, the disabled; all will suffer greatly if adult content is found without a home. Media dealing with queer themes is enough to be considered "adult content" by some and it's not hard to imagine what we could be staring down the barrel of here.
What have we lost in eliminating platforms like this?
Part Two: 2020 and the World
*These are the things The things we lost The things we lost in the fire, fire, fire.
ā Bastille, "Things We Lost In The Fire"*
Meditating on what we have lost seems to be a running theme for the year 2020.
January: New Year's Day. In Aotearoa New Zealand, smoke covers the skies from a fire a literal ocean away. The Australian bush has been on fire, part of one of the most and it has turned the skies of a nation not it's own orange at midday, across thousands of kilometers. What did we lose in those fires? What stories and history? What wildlife, what species? What will remain afterwards? What will grow anew?
April: Aotearoa New Zealand hits the peak of COVID-19 related lockdown with the entire nation moved to Level 4, meaning that nothing except truly essential services, such as roadworks, pharmacies, and supermarkets were open. During that time, I thought a lot about how some of my favorite small shops were doing; the bakery with astonishingly good pies, the charming dollar store which always has a few things that catch my eye, the coffee cart near one of the local parks every morning. As a nation, Aotearoa acted early to deal with COVID-19 with a strong hand, and it was risky for all of those small shops across the country. What would we come out the other side of the lockdowns having lost, both in terms of human cost and cost to the places around us?
May: Following the murder of George Floyd at the hands of Minneapolis Police officer Derek Chauvin, massive protests against police brutality, racism, and white supremacy break out across the United States of America. Daily protests have continued to the time of writing in some cities. George Floyd is one of 781 people killed by police in 2020 at the time of writing in the United States alone [2]. 1099 people were killed by police in 2019 [3]. What incredible lives and stories have been lost in the process? Are those stories being told now? How do we prevent this from happening again? (Hint: defunding the police will be a start, and supporting the cause now is a good choice too.)
It is now September: The incompetence of the US Government has allowed COVID-19 to spread beyond control, leaving tens of thousands of deaths in its wake; lives and stories which must be remembered and their stories carried on by others. The western coast of the United States is on fire, blanketed in smoke and ashes. Massive west coast cities like San Francisco gain an apocalyptic feeling as the skies turn orange, like they did for me in January. Friends of friends lose everything in small Oregon towns. The costs of the prolonged fires will be paid by people all up the coast; it's their health outcomes which will suffer. What will we lose as a result of this in the future? What can we do to make things better?
I want to be clear: this is not a comprehensive list, and is centered around the things that me and my social circles have been aware of and talked about. Even with that consideration, we have to reckon with massive, ongoing, and far reaching concerns. The loss felt as a result of all of the above issues is staggering, and far reaching, and we must fight to ensure that loss is not in vain. Voting alone is not going to solve these concerns, and there's more to concern yourself with than any one person should have to cope with. There's not a magic bullet to solve all this stuff though.
Rather than pretend that I have one, I want to propose a couple things to close this out: one bit of advice, and one plea for yourself and others.
The advice: pick your battles carefully. Pick issues you want to focus in on, and fight for those things to make things better where you live, and in your social circles. Choose things to care deeply about first. Keep caring about them.
The plea: think carefully about the questions I've asked throughout this piece, and think about the things in your life and communities that you have lost. Think about how to make sure those losses are taken with you and learned from; to take lessons learned and better yourself and the people around you. Think about the things you don't want to lose, and how to fight like hell for them.
Move forwards to something, and some place better than where we are now. Stand united with the people around you, and press on.
*Do you understand that we will never be the same again? The future's in our hands and we will never be the same again.
ā Bastille, "Things We Lost In The Fire"*
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References
[1] Data provided by SimilarWeb; accessed on 15/09/2019 at 5:30am. (https://www.similarweb.com/website/tumblr.com/)
[2] Data provided by Mapping Police Violence (https://mappingpoliceviolence.com); accessed on 15/09/2020 at 4:08am NZT
[3] Data provided by Mapping Police Violence's (https://mappingpoliceviolence.com) database, downloaded on 15/09/2020 at 4:08am NZT. Count obtained using the following formula:
=COUNTIFS($'2013-2020 Police Killings'.F:F,">=1/1/2019",$'2013-2020 Police Killings'.F:F,"<1/1/2020")
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pazam: a mess, truly a mess
so i usually dont do these kind of posts, i guess you could say its a call out of some sort? but i never liked that word, i prefer rather to just compile sources on WHY people would believe that a certain person is not truly as nice and understanding as they seem. consider this more of a psa post, detailing on whats going on with pazam on the sfm community, why so many people are against them.
So, a while back, tumblr user jymble made a post on the main tag stating that pazam was transphobic. they linked back to this post, which contains screenshots of pazam in a group chat stating that they do not feel comfortable with the idea of trans people. now, this did happen 9 months ago, true. however, for the record, pazam is already an adult, 24 years old, so they should have some tact. and as further and more recent events will show, they actually havent changed that much at all, at least not as they claim.
the screenshots should be in the post, but here is a transcript
[Screenshot one]
Pazam:
What????? Why?????
I literally HAVE NOT been doing ANYTHING malicious to them
And if it did I apologized
Yes I do have discomfort about them but I keep it to myself
Why are you doing this????
[End screenshot one]
āThemā here refers to trans people in general. Notice the defensive and victimizing stance they almost immediately take upon being confronted about their feelings on trans people.
[Screenshot two]
elliott:
of COURSE you dont
sammaku:
Like specifically
Elliott hush
Pazam:
This whole concept of transness and changing your gender physically
I hate to say it again but it weirds me out and it makes me question my own gender which flings me into anxiety, depression, and obsession
sammaku:
Its fine to not understand but are you willing to learn about it
Pazam:
I donāt want to talk about this anymore
sammaku:
That depression anxiety and obsession just comes with gender issues
(the rest of the text is cut off)
[End Screenshot two]
notice once summaku asks them if they would at least be willing to learn about it, pazam immediately deflects it by saying they dont want to talk about it anymore.
[Screenshot three]
Pazam:
Seriously??? Thatās all it takes????
Wow Iām a moron
Iām sorry for all the trouble Iāve caused to you
@.aziraphale @.elliott @.sammaku
I just donāt get this stuff period
And Iāve gotten into trouble with this stuff before
Iāll probably never understand it for the rest of my life but Iāll try to be more tactful around yāall
Especially since youāre all young
And Iām like an adult
[End screenshot three]
While at first this would seem like they had finally learned their lesson and apologized, the things they add on after the @s become quickly worrying. Not only do they admit toĀ āhave gotten into trouble with this stuff beforeā, meaning they have probably shown their transphobia in other places and been called out, but they also stand firmly on the fact that they will never understand it orĀ āgetā it.
And of course, as jymble points out, the implication that the people they were talking to were only acting like that because they were young.
A while after this post was made, Pazam had posted an apology, and went onto contact jymble asking for the post with the evidence of their transphobic to be taken down. The reason? They were afraid people would see it and think they were still transphobic and not give them a chance.
In this more recent post, you can see the conversation play out between Pazam and jymbles. Long story short, Pazam feels that itās unfair that that post is still up after they apologized, and jymble of course said they would rather not take it down, people deserve to know what they did and take their own conclusions, even if that involves avoiding them. How does Pazam respond? By flat out deleting the apology post. Iād love to show the apology post to give you both sides of the story but I cannot anymore, because Pazam in a very bizarre move just deleted it because they got mad a trans blogger wouldnāt take down their post with proof.
Hereās the transcript of the screenshots:
[Begin Conversation]
rebloggidy (Pazamās personal):
Iām by no means transphobia-free after learning what Iāve done but at least I know my actions and am making an effort to be a better person towards trans people.
rebloggidy:
Hi again. So I hate to be that person but would it be ok if you took down that post about the transphobia claims? I know it took me 9 months to apologize but if people only see your side of the story and not realize the post I saw theyāll take it out of context and still think Iām transphobic. Do you understand?
jymble:
... i already told you im not taking down the post.
[jymble sends a screenshot of her own message in a previous conversation, the screenshot reads as follows:
however, i dont think im taking the post down, nor am i entirely comfortable with you interacting with me either. people deserve to know how you acted with this stuff, until youre really and truly *better* with it instead of just trying, and i was a direct target of it]
jymble:
you oughright told me "im by no means transphobia-free", word for word sorry, but i told you before. im not taking the post down.
rebloggidy:
I remember that. But what I'm trying to say to you is that if people who read it out of context will immediately think I'm still transphobic without the other side of it (my comment)
And I don't want people to think that in the future
jymble:
if people make assumptions without looking at the entire situation, thats on them
i am not deleting the post and thats final. people have a right to know what youve done, and they have a right to be uncomfortable
rebloggidy:
I'm ready to take down my post because frankly, I'm sick and tired of having to justifiy something that I did 9 months ago, and that people grow and learn even not 100% during that time and I'm ready to move on.
I'm still into smile for me and feel free to make a blacklist of my name so anybody who rbs my work on your dash can have it hidden or something.
Take care.
[End conversation]
a lot to unpack here, but perhaps most notable is when jymble simply stands her ground and tells pazam she wont take down the post, pazam straight up decides, without being told to or anything, that they should take down their apology. later on, they made a post stating why they deleted the post, and saying they hadĀ ābeen forced toā.
I also would love to link it here, but as of now of writing this, like, not even an hour or so after I had seen that post, it got deleted. The only memory I have of it is a conversation I had with my boyfriend about Pazam, in which I copypasted a fragment from that post that read:
ā So for those wondering where the apology post went, I was forced to delete it. I wanted to archive it in some way so I could pull it up for reference, but there was no way I could. Also I didnāt really want to see it every time on my blog because quite honestly itās upsetting to look at.ā
There are some lies and twisting of truths here. Pazam wasnāt forced to delete it, they decided they should do it as a way to somehow get back at jymble. And the excuse that it was upsetting for them to look at is just inexcusable, what matters most, letting people know of what youve done and that youre sorry, or just never addressing the situation?
But, well, Iām just hoping youāll take my word for it. As you see, Pazam has officially deleted ANY traces of acknowledging this situation on their blog.
This worries me. If Pazam is truly as concerned that they will be seen as transphobic as they claim, why are they deleting anything that could give them a chance of showing their own side of the story?
Now, that is the end, for now, of Pazamās history with transphobia. However! It is not the end for some other very shady things.
Namely, Pazam has consistently whitewashed characters from Smile For Me, specially Kamal, and when called out on it, simply deletes the asks.
Want to know how I know this?
I sent them an ask myself. I had come across this picture of Boris and Kamal:
And I knew that this wasnāt right. I can understand using light colors and doing watercolor, but if they can make Borisā hair brown and vivid enough, why not Kamal? He looks like another character completely, or like heās deathly sick!Ā
So I sent them an anonymous ask, perhaps a bit exhasperated, true, and my wording could be better. It went something like:Ā āi am begging you to draw kamal with darker skinā.
I waited, checked. But nothing came of it. They never answered it.
Pazam flat out ignored when they were told they had drawn a canonically brown man with skin way too light. Not even a lone text post sayingĀ āhey anon, i dont agree with youā orĀ āhey anon im sorry it wont happen againā. Nothing. No word, no opinion.
And with this situation going on with them evading responsibility, I canāt say Iām fully surprised.
And, yet another thing. People had expressed concern over the fact they had drawn their Flower Kid, who is 17, in very intimate and close positions with Dr. Habit. It included nuzzling faces, cuddling in bed together, wearing his coat...
And they did hear the claims this time. As of now, their Flower Kid is 24, according to them.
Except... They do not look 24. At. All.
this is a 12 year old. at best. short body, stubby legs, big head. those are all attributes of a very young character, usually children. like, legitimately, thats how childrens anatomy is in real life. the younger the person, the bigger their head is in proportion to their body.
We have already had an adult trying to justify drawing their flower kid who barely looked like an adult if at all in intimate situations with Habit. Letās not let it slide by again.
And yes, Iām aware Pazam claims that those pictures were not supposed to be interpreted as romantic,Ā āonly platonic fluffā and that they intend to keep it that way, but I have talked to my boyfriend who is a survivor and he said it very well could be a case of someone just trying to cover their tracks.
BUT, all that being said, maybe this one particular instance could be just us being wary. Still, it does not diminish all that they have done, specially ignoring the whitewashing claims.
What you are going to do with this information, I do not know. Maybe you donāt care and will keep reblogging their content. Maybe youāre disgusted by them. But Iām just here to give you the facts. Personally though, Iām not willing to give them much of a chance after the way theyāve behaved. They are 24 years old, three years older than me, and I think I could do a better job of handling a situation like this, frankly.
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FAQ
1. Where do you find those AUās?
Well, mostly those are the AUs that cross my dash - when I happen to be active on tumblr. So you see, it is a bit restrictive and means there are probably lots of AUs I never found and I donāt even know exist! Every once in a while, I try exploring blogs or using tumblr search engine. It gets me results, but not as much as you would expect (tumblr search engine is not the most effective tool for that kind of things...). My ask box is also open in case you want to suggest a new tag/new post (see Q4 & Q5).
2. Are new AU tags meant to be added on the list?
I intend to. But it vastly depends on the AUs that cross my path (see Q1) and of the time I can manage to spend on the list. But I am always happy to discover new AUs :) On a side note, I intend to edit this version of the list rather than posting new versions. As long as I donāt have to split it again it should be fine!
3. Do you continue tagging the posts you reblog?
Yes, I try. So if you click on the same tag now and then in a few months, you may see new posts. āMayā of course, because I donāt encounter every AU everyday and some AUs are more popular than others...
4. Can I suggest an AU tag?
Yes please! The more tags the better. I canāt guarantee Iāll add it to the list though. Maybe I already use a synonym (or a concept too close to create a new entry). I also need to have more than two posts about an AU to create a tag (otherwise, it will be tagged asĀ āOther AUā and possibly āOther /thematicName/ AUā). So it is best you also suggest post(s) bond to the AU you suggest (please send me links to those or directly submit the post(s) otherwise I might never find them!). It can also take me a few weeks to effectively add the new tag to the list since I must check possible affiliations/redirections/proximity (seeĀ āHOWā section of ABOUT) and see if it fits in any thematic list.
I must also warn you that I reserve myself the right to refuse an AU I am really uncomfortable with (typically heavy gore and obvious/graphic abuse). I try to be inclusive but there are some things I canāt bring myself to reblog. You can try reblogging and tagging that AU yourself, then create a post with a āyourBlogName.tumblr.com/tagged/tagNameā type of link, and I might add a link to that one post in the list. To be discussed. However, I will not add a pe /dophilic AU to the list. Ever.
5. Can I suggest post(s) for existing AU tags?
Yes, please do!! You can send me the link via an ask or submit it. Just try to look at the postās notes beforehand (āsee notesā) to see if I havenāt reblogged it already.
6. Can I suggest a new thematic list?
Yes you can! I canāt guarantee Iāll have the time to make it, but it could happen. Please try to provide an explanation for the theme (to make sure I get what you mean), with maybe a definition and an example of which tags you can see belonging to it (and which you think donāt). Note that all the tags appearing onĀ thematic lists already exist in the general AU list, so I wonāt come up with new tags for a new thematic list.
7. What about Kylux adjacent?
I only included technicians (Matt/Techie), since it was the first adjacent paring to emerge. Also, since Matt is a radar technician he is still technically in the Star Wars universe. I wish I could haveĀ ātrackedā every adjacent pairing but there are so many and I lost count. It would have taken me an incredible amount of time I didnāt have. If you happen to have your own tag list referencing all/part of those adjacent ships, you can contact me if youāre ok with me adding a link in my AU list redirecting people to your blog for Kylux adjacent.
8.Ā The same post appears twice or more for the same AU. Is it normal?
No, I try to have each post to only appear once for each AU. BUT this list has been in the making for so long and some tags have so many posts that it is sometimes difficult to avoid duplication. If it bothers you, you can send me the links to those posts (all of them please) and Iāll try to settle it.
9. I am confused as to why you tagged a certain post like you did. Could it be a mistake?
It could. I do my best but sometimes it is hard to sort posts into tags. It could also be that the post comes from a series of posts and that it only becomes clear that the serie belongs to an AU when you read/see all the posts. Both scenari are an option, so feel free to message me about it.Ā
10. I am the OP of a post and you definitively tagged it wrong...
Ooops sorry! Please send me an ask so I can settle this!
11. I encountered a broken/incorrect link inside the list...
That is not normal. All of the tags displayed in the list should be working. This is however possible. There are many tags and I might have made a mistake. Please send me an ask with the name of the broken tag so I can fix it!
12. In ABOUT you said that there needs to be more than two posts for an AU to become a tag. Yet I found an AU tag with only two posts...
It happens. As I said in ABOUT, this is a general rule, and there are exceptions. If there are only two posts, but (one of) those posts are(/is) long, contains multiple art or a combination moodboard/fic, I might decide to make it a tag anyway. If, on the contrary, you spot a tag with three or more posts that doesnāt have a proper tag in the list, please let me know!
13. I donāt understand why you tagged a specific postĀ āotherā alongsideĀ already existing tags...
āOther AUā is a default tag I use when there is no existing category fit for a post. A post tagged āotherā can also be taggedĀ āOther /thematicName/ AUā if it fits in any of the thematic lists. Also, you must remember that posts can be multi-tagged as a same post can have multipleĀ ādimensionsā. For example, it can depict a scene happening on a boat (āCruise AUā) where Kylo happens to be a secret agent (āAgent Kylo AUā). Thus, ifĀ thereās a specific dimension about an AU that would justify the creation of a new tag, but I donāt have enough posts of that kind to actually create it (yet), the post will be taggedĀ āotherā, even though the other(s) dimension(s) are already depicted by existing tags. Letās pretend that in the previous example,Ā āAgent Kylo AUā was not yet part of the list. I would have tagged itĀ āCruise AUā andĀ āother AUā (+ āOther Jobs AUā). I might even have added theĀ āAgent Kylo AUā tag for internal purposes (so I can check how many of them I have and determine if it is time or not to add a new tag to the list).
14. AĀ āRead Moreā/redirection link on a post doesnāt lead anywhere...
AĀ āRead Moreā link redirects you to the OP blog. If the blog has changed name/been deleted or if the OP removed the post, you will end up nowhere. It is sad but you wonāt be able to read the full post and there is nothing I can do about it. When it happens, you can however send me a message so that I can precise on the post that theĀ āRead Moreā option is not an option anymore (please send me a link to my reblog of the post otherwise chances are Iāll never find it). Same goes for any other redirection link(s) present on the posts. If the page you were supposed to land on doesnāt exist anymore, I canāt do much about it, save warn people about it.
15. You reblogged comics in the wrong order...
Reblogging multiple pages comics is difficult. Either you reblog it entirely at once, either you reblog each page as it goes (the comic appears thus in reverse order in your blog). And if you miss some, it quickly becomes a mess. I tried to reblog relatively short comics at once, starting with the last part (so that the first page appears first when people scroll/navigate) but I often couldnāt. Some comics are not even complete, either because they were left unfinished, either because I just lost the thread. If there are navigation links within the posts, it is probably best you follow those. If not, maybe try to open the pages in different tabs and to order those accordingly. Or, and this is probably my best advice, try looking on the OP blog. They probably have a tag for their comic and it may make things easier!
16. You reblogged one of my posts and Iād rather not have it referenced by your list...
No problem! Please contact me Iāll untag it asap!
17. I have a question regarding the list that is not referenced above. Is it ok for me to ask it?
Yes, of course. Just be sure your answer doesnāt already lies in the ABOUT section (and refer to Q18 in case my answer doesnāt come too fast...).
18. I asked you a question but am still waiting for an answer...
Obviously (except if you were sending (anon) hate), I am not mad at you. I might need a few days to answer you. If a week has passed and I didnāt post an answer, chances are: 1) I didnāt see your message (tumblr eats it sometimes) or 2) Iāve been out of tumblr (busy with work, on holiday or something) or 3) my brain is not really complying at the moment. I do have down periods and, when it happens, I might not have the heart/energy to answer. It can last a few weeks or several months. I try to look at my inbox when I come back on this site but I might miss a message if too much have been sent. In any case, you can try and send your question again later.
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- new beginning
Hi everyone!
I started this fresh, little blog of mine to collect my thoughts on everyday things! I am trying to see this tiny internet hideaway as some sort of... personal diary! The idea behind it is to return to the root of blogging. However, my first language is not English so I was contemplating on whether I should go for German or English. In the end I settled for English (obviously!), since I wanted to be able to reach more people like me and maybe even inspire some others along this journey. Anyways, letās finally jump right into it!
About Me
My name is Bianca Arina - Bianca comes from the Italian wordĀ ābianco/aā which meansĀ āwhiteā orĀ āpureā. My second name, Arina, origins from the Greek goddess of peace which I quite enjoy since Iād consider myself as someone whoās looking for a peaceful environment. I am not very fond of confrontation! As of right now I am 19 years old, I was born in January 2001 which makes me a Capricorn. One of my interests include astrology so I am just gonna throw in my Moon and Rising sign as well! As a Capricorn Rising and a Leo Moon itās a little difficult. The Capricorn traits such as hardworking, stubborn, loyal are definitely quite defined within my personality, but I can also see that I can have a slight egocentric side to myself which may reflect the Leo. By the way, I am not that new to Tumblr as you might think! Actually I had a blog that was supposed to focus aroundĀ āFitnessā and Kpop. Sadly it was hard to really be positive about my own body while using slim,petite girls as inspiration so I decided to delete the entire blog as I had gathered quite a following by members of the eating disorder community. As a result, I wanted to return to the blogging community once more - this time with a different mindset! This blog is meant to be like a little safe space for me: a place where I can share my experiences, thoughts, my failures but also my greatest achievements! For now I want to focus on achieving not only a healthy lifestyle with a balance of proper diet and fitness, but I also want to return to my most authentic and creative self. As a child I always dreamed of becoming a writer and the process of writing always struck me as mesmerizing and amazing. Being able to paint whole landscapes, personalities and worlds peaked my interest and probably never truly left me. Sadly, the older and further I got with my education the less I was able to do the thing I loved the most which was expressing myself. Less time was spent writing and more time was spent in front of school books and studies, I slowly lost my motivation but now I am trying to return. Furthermore I want to use this blog to just document my life and to keep track of myself while I am achieving the healthiest and happiest version that I can be! I truly want to be able to embrace life, overcome hardships and reach for my dreams while I enjoy all the little things! Thank you for reading my first blog entry, hopefully I can make some friends on this journey!
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