#it's okay for her to be hostile!

[tuesday-teyz]

Out of curiosity, what would happen in butterfly reign if Wilbur was never born? what Br!Techno and Br!Theseus relationship could have been? or how the story would have happened?

Oh, that's a fun one! Wilbur is so central to much of the conflicts in the story, it is rather difficult to picture what BR would have been like without him. Let's think...

Techno immediately gets appended in status as the crown prince as the first and only son. It's not a particularly appealing role to someone who would rather crawl under the ground rather than talk to another person within his lifetime, but he handles it with grace and responsibility.

When another child is born, however, things take a turn for the worse: Tommy is small and fragile and prone to sickness besides. The Empress, too, grows weaker. The crown prince bears the brunt of new responsibilities brought about by her ailment, and as the turmoil in the noble class grows, it becomes dangerous to bear their family name.

To protect the six year old Tommy and the future of the dynasty, he is sent away to allies in Drywaters. He remains in young Queen Niki's royal court both for his mother's passing, and then for his father's assassination by conspiring noble families seeking to claim the Imperial throne for themselves when Tommy had just turned ten. A long and bloody war erupts, and terrible rumors spread about Technoblade and the heinous acts he commits in the name of wrestling the nation under his control.

Now, at sixteen years old, and a whole decade spent away from his motherland, Tommy receives a letter of summons from his estranged brother. Emperor Technoblade, bapticized in blood, is calling his heir home.

[multi-lefaiye]

i would be remiss if i didn't share this

anyway in the early days of the into darkness campaign, we found out about a canon homophobic slur in d&d elvish and almost immediately eden and hyndrol were calling each other that all the time

[djpurple3]

ok. it's amazing how different the energy duncan can have between hanging out with zoey and meeting with rythian actually. he's just kinda pleasant but awkward with zoey but with rythian he's Genuinely sinister. has Duncan changed based on who he's interacting with, or is that just the magic of a POV change?

[kariachi]

The dichotomy of true crime is that while one chunk of fuckers involved in it at licking boots like fucking fudgepops, harassing victims' families, and making accusations of people with no evidence, another chunk is sitting there minding their own business aside from going further and further down the 'fuck cops' rabbit hole with every other story they learn.

[suckinitup]

metaphorically i get the removing taylor’s powers thing- and the fact that. yknow. its a good way to make sure she cant get into more trouble, her passenger cant get her into more trouble, and she doesnt draw attention to herself. and she would have!!! if she still had her powers she would keep causing problems!!! keep solving them!! find a new mission and keep Moving. its all neat and tidy, pulling out the rot, removing everything that isnt Taylor and letting her sew the pieces of herself back together. but. in my heart. bug girl cool.

[number1girl]

my boss is abusive like straight up <3 <3 <3 not even in a "donate to my gofundme to help me escape an abusive living situation and by that i mean my roommate asked me to do the dishes" type of way. like i am literally trapped in the cycle of build up explosive incident honeymoon phase

[heartbeetz]

World's most jealous car. Okay man.

[novelconcepts]

Forever thinking about Van’s little asshole smirk while watching Jackie struggle.

[lilacerull0]

the way lila is looking at stefano... helppppp....

[itzphynix]

For years, I've been trying to put into words Why I give a single iota about Bendy & the Ink Machine, but it's such a tangled mess that no thread can be seperated -- they're all interwoven in a way that makes it hard to pick them out. The game, overall, makes me miserable, because I can see that there was love put into it, but a lot of it is thrown to the wayside in favor of a story that I think was retroactively improved by the sequel's recontextualizing of it, but is ultimately not worth the price of admission & majorly drops the ball.

It's easy to list things I don't like about it -- the gameplay is sparse, the combat is uninteresting, none of the chapters feel connected, the bugs that assault all my playthroughs & kill my saves are consistent & fill me with dread every time I open the game, the lack of thought in the contents of a chapter (chapter 3's wheel ""puzzle"" & the animatronic Bendy from chapter 4, in specifc, really grind my gears), which speaks to the amateurish & rushed way that the game was crafted -- there's a lot to hate, & it's easy to hate it. But I don't. Despite all that, I am compelled by this game, by what it's trying & failing & trying again to say.

It's really easy to understand why you dislike something. I couldn't have told you much about what I did like, in Ink Machine.

& then, I played Dark Revival. I didn't realize I liked the story of Ink Machine, until I played Dark Revival. It's a better made game, it's just not fucking interesting, to me, because it doesn't have a story worth tuning in to.

[k7tt1]

Look listen, I have seen, Blitzo / Stolas, Blitzo / Striker, Blitzo / Moxxie, hell even Blitzo / Verosika. All I'm saying is, when will it be Kitty's turn to make out with this rodeo clown 😤😤😤

[sananaryon]

Ixhel should become a planeswalker.

[irlwakko]

can you be robbed of something if it never actually existed. anyway we were robbed of villain zoey

[deepspaceclawstation]

I have to visit the great uncle (grand uncle technically but english kinship terms are weird that way) who doesn't like me (and once tried to convince me (a 25 year old) that a high-pitched sound has a low frequency) today so wish me luck I guess

[razgriz438]

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[dailymanners]

Tips and ideas for how to respond when someone is being rude to you

For personal reasons I won't get into, I have a history of just freezing when some is rude / hostile / aggressive / condescending / patronizing / etc. It's obviously not something I'm happy about at all, most people who freeze or fawn aren't happy about it and would change it if they could.

One day I confided in my co-worker, a middle aged woman in her 50's, that this is something I struggle with. Considering how confident and assertive she always struck me as, I was shocked when she told me this is also something she's struggled with.

The advice she gave me is to just memorize and practice a few broad statements or reactions that you can pull out of your pocket so to speak when someone is being rude or disrespectful to you. It's not easy if you're someone who's been conditioned to freeze or fawn, but practice helps. Practice saying these things when you're alone. Put up a sticky note next to your bed or on your bathroom mirror with these phrases and practice them when you see them. Practice saying these with a partner or trusted friend, role-play scenarios where you might need to use these phrases.

Here's a few phrases that have worked for me. The nice thing about them is that they tend to shut down the situation rather than escalating, while still letting the aggressor know that you don't find their behavior acceptable.

"Are you okay?"

This works well in professional settings, because it's not like your work place's residential bully can run to HR about you asking if they're okay (but they might if you try to retaliate and give them a taste of their own medicine). However, it still effectively sends the message "I think there's something wrong with your behavior and don't accept it". It's also not likely the response they're expecting, so it'll likely throw them off and prevent further verbal aggression.

"Could you repeat that for me? I didn't catch what you said."

This one is most effective for people you believe to actually have a conscious and might regret what they said if they actually thought about it a little more. I find that often when I do this one, when people repeat the rude/snippy/patronizing/etc thing they either shamefully stumble over their words and show some remorse, or they change altogether what they say. In the off chance they don't regret what they said and end up repeating exactly what they said, this at least buys you some time to think of a better reaction since you're no longer caught off guard by a sudden rude and snippy remark.

"Can you explain what you mean by that?"

Similar logic to the last one. Often when people are being rude/snippy/patronizing/etc they're caught up in their own emotions in that moment and didn't think it through. This is a polite and civil way of putting their rude behavior in the spotlight and making them reconsider what they said. The other advantage to this one is that in case you did misread their intentions and they meant no harm by what they said or did, this gives them an opportunity to clarify that, instead of you just feeling bad over a statement or actions they actually had no ill intentions with.

If anyone has any further examples of reactions / responses / statements that have worked for them, I'd love to hear about them. I'm new to studying the art of how to civilly yet effectively shut down bad behavior from others, so I'm always open to hearing more suggestions.