#it's also odd bc mum doesn't access my accounts with the same spending habits even tho I've been working longer than big sis since the move | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

lemememeringue · 3 years ago

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love dysfunctional families and how what you think is a financial issue is actually just a breakdown in communication bc two ppl just happen to trigger meltdowns in each other constantly

#mine #following up on a previous sibling meeting I had a talk w mum abt bills #big sis and I provide the majority of the income and mum pulls from our accounts to actually pay bills and such #this largely works bc neither big sis nor I have the mental capacity to keep track of accounts rn and mum is a control freak #however recently big sis complained that she was paying more on things she didn't even use and mum was taking advantage #which is not rly unusual but mum normally tells us when she buys smth extra so big sis should've at least known #it's also odd bc mum doesn't access my accounts with the same spending habits even tho I've been working longer than big sis since the move #anyway according to mum she hadn't done that and she was v upset bc big sis yelled at her and a bunch of other irrelevant stuff idc about #it took me a half hour to pull out useful information from mum. yanno.. like how does she split the bills #the answer to that is that it depends on her fancy. she doesn't have an actual system in place #and when she gets upset instead of talking things out like an adult she just pays w her own fund and needlessly stresses when money's tight #money is not tight. she just had a part time freelance gig. of course that's not enough to sustain us.#so then I had to calmly suggest creating a new joint account that we all pitch into just for bills #and she can do the calculations based on last year's spendings so we can contribute a specific percentage of that each month #this is the THIRD time I've sat down w her and suggested this #but at least this time she was feeling mildly agreeable after getting her crying out and insisted that I have to talk w big sis #I did. big sis was already down w this idea bc she had ALSO suggested this three times before but mum doesn't trust her so #it's a needless headache #so now I come february I'll have to check up on mum to get an actual breakdown of the spending habits #I've been keeping track of where my money has gone but I know the other two well enough to know they haven't kept as close an eye on it

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