#it’s FINE to call nick or ray or anyone your perfect angel baby whatever!

[kinnbig]

Apparently us Boston apologists gotta stick together cause this is getting ridiculous the takes I'm seeing and the woobie-fying of characters like Ray, Top (even Nick now!) to villainize Boston to the extreme are WILD.

YEAH! Boston is an asshole and a bad friend - and so is everyone else in this show fjckskcks they’re all toxic they’re all manipulative they’re all shitty people.

like. Ray is absolutely manipulating Sand - he knows Sand is struggling financially and so he literally pays him to spend time with him, offering him ridiculous sums of money that he knows Sand can’t refuse - offers twice to pay him for sex - and then follows him to his place of work and continues to push for them to sleep together a second time, even after Sand turns him down - but we’re not talking about that in the same way!!

and I think it’s due to a mixture of things - I think it’s partially that FirstKhao are an existing established pairing that fans want to end up together no matter what - but I do think a lot of it is about Boston being shown to be sexually active and promiscuous.

I think the age-old stereotype of the sex-obsessed, promiscuous, predatory gay man continues to influence people’s reading of Boston as a character. they see all of these characters being toxic and manipulative and selfish - but one of them is also shown cruising, propositioning multiple men, and having explicit on-screen sex with multiple partners - and centuries of media tropes and homophobic stereotypes have conditioned us to see those traits and conclude villain.

and again! I’m not saying that Boston is actually a perfect angel or that no one’s allowed to dislike him as a character or talk about his flaws - and I’m not talking about Ray here to suggest that he’s a villain and we should all be writing think-pieces about how toxic and manipulative and predatory he is instead. and I’m definitely not arguing that people should stop the fun tumblr blorboification of these characters! there’s nothing wrong with being like “Ray is my poor little meow meow” or “Nick is a babygirl who has done nothing wrong in his life ever” etc etc - it’s fun and silly and we all have our favourite guys.

I’m only pointing out that firstly, the majority of this woobification is applied to every character but Boston - who is unfairly considered unforgivably manipulative rather than a poor little meow meow for traits that are celebrated in other characters - and that secondly it is, like you say, being used to further villainise Boston by portraying the others (but especially Nick) as innocent unsuspecting victims to Boston’s evil manipulative Predatory Gay ways.