#it was Worth a Ramble. and i still totally think you shouldn't exert energy towards trying ot make a negative person Be Nice. | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

beyondthetemples-ooc · 6 years ago

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...Feeling kinda “weird” about all the people I’ve seen in the past year or so saying that Raven is/was immature, needs to grow up, etc...?

I mean, communication and such are definitely skills that need honing and growth.

But, like...

Her “attitude”? (If somebody is being an idiot, why does it make you “the better person” to let them continue on making a fool of themselves? Why not correct them? If somebody is being cruel or unfair or dangerous to you or anyone you love, why is it considered “bigger” to love them right back? what does that even accomplish? Real talk, NOTHING.)

Isn’t it more mature to be honest than to cover your feelings, opinions, and honest personality with politeness and propriety?

You ask me, propriety is actually the immaturity option, because A) people can’t handle reality, whether it’s your personality, bad news, whatever, so you soften it up for them? Like you’re baby-proofing your interactions the same way you baby-proof your house?

And B) It takes focus away from what is really, genuinely more important.

I will never advocate that “customer service people should be kind, smily, outgoing,” whatever. They’re there to ring out your groceries, let them do that without expending energy lying to you. If you’re being rude, we both know you don’t deserve that smile, so why waste the energy?

Propriety (in a situation where there’s Tension or Displeasure) dictates that one person or another either lies about their mood, or lies about the interaction. So why is it “the bigger person” to say, “I’m going to lie about how much I like you right now”?

That’s all it is, lying. And I thought that was a BAD thing.

#tt fanalysis #rhs makes yet another post about teen titans #i wrote this like 3 years ago (maybe more?) and i still kind of Feel It #raven #this touched A Raw Personal Nerve re: Me Being Honest and Blunt instead of forcing Pleasantness and Politeness #leading me to get badly emotionally neglected and verbally abused all throughout my childhood. so YEAH #it was Worth a Ramble. and i still totally think you shouldn't exert energy towards trying ot make a negative person Be Nice.#because you can't do that. only THEY can make that decision.#and i don't think snarkiness and negative mood are signs of immaturity? ??? being Positive isn't a sign of Maturity either???#but i got called names a LOT in my childhood for that so of course i'm coming at this from a stance of Defensiveness and ''why the fuck tho'#actually come to think of it my father STILL lashes out at me for Not Being All Sunshine and Rainbows when he wants to attack me.#i didn't articulate Exactly Why Calling Those Things Immature bothered me back then but that's where i was coming from.#honestly for a teenager i still think she's Pretty Damn Mature.#she's Insecure and Shit At Dealing WIth Emotions. but those aren't signs of IMMATURITY they're just....#really Skills and Learning Experience she hasn't had yet. some people NEVER get those skills and that doesn't make them Immature. ??#hell *I* wouldn't have the skills to cope with a lot of the same shit Raven copes with if it weren't for HER!#and also the organizzation i'm in focusing so much on Personal Growth and Healing and Love. but like....#....that didn't mean i was ''immature'' just because i had social anxiety? ???? don't infantilize mental illness or ptsd-related things?????#anyways. it's all subject to interpretation but i had to Get That Out and figured i might as well publish this.#(yet another post i found in my drafts =w=;; )

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