#it was Worth a Ramble. and i still totally think you shouldn't exert energy towards trying ot make a negative person Be Nice.

[beyondthetemples-ooc]

...Feeling kinda “weird” about all the people I’ve seen in the past year or so saying that Raven is/was immature, needs to grow up, etc...?

I mean, communication and such are definitely skills that need honing and growth.

But, like...

Her “attitude”? (If somebody is being an idiot, why does it make you “the better person” to let them continue on making a fool of themselves? Why not correct them? If somebody is being cruel or unfair or dangerous to you or anyone you love, why is it considered “bigger” to love them right back? what does that even accomplish? Real talk, NOTHING.)

Isn’t it more mature to be honest than to cover your feelings, opinions, and honest personality with politeness and propriety?

You ask me, propriety is actually the immaturity option, because A) people can’t handle reality, whether it���s your personality, bad news, whatever, so you soften it up for them? Like you’re baby-proofing your interactions the same way you baby-proof your house?

And B) It takes focus away from what is really, genuinely more important.

I will never advocate that “customer service people should be kind, smily, outgoing,” whatever. They’re there to ring out your groceries, let them do that without expending energy lying to you. If you’re being rude, we both know you don’t deserve that smile, so why waste the energy?

Propriety (in a situation where there’s Tension or Displeasure) dictates that one person or another either lies about their mood, or lies about the interaction. So why is it “the bigger person” to say, “I’m going to lie about how much I like you right now”?

That’s all it is, lying. And I thought that was a BAD thing.