#it doesnt matter except in whatever ways being perceptibly queer/gender nonconformist worsens how cishet men treat me

[3liza]

the very idea of "a boyfriend" makes me sick to my stomach now. that's how badly i have been treated. and none of it was worse than about, hmm, probably 30% of women experience anyway. i see women putting up with this shit all the time and its always the same shit and we're always just expecting it and prepared to deal with it and say "oh it didnt bother me :) i dont mind :)" and romanticizing the constant annoyance and inconvenience and nastiness and mundanity. if you are a young woman attracted to men at all heed my warning. get rid of them the first time they perform that casual disrespect. and let the next one know what your policies are.