#it doesnt even fucking matter bc apparently most ppl are fkn incapable of hearing u 😒 | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

ugliestfawn · 11 days ago

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realizing that communication actually doesnt matter as much as ppl say it does, bc most ppl glorify it and see it as a magical solution when in fact communicating your feelings/wants/needs only work if other ppl are receptible to it. which... most ppl arent, both bc many dont want to bc it requires too much effort of them and it's easier to shift blame on others not "communicating", but also bc many many ppl just have brains that arent wired to understand others, or other viewpoints and perspectives. thus, no level of communication will make someone who isnt capable of receiving it hear you. most efforts to "communicate" are completely wasted. and it's frustrating, but what can u do?

#one of my main examples of this is...#i clearly stated in the beginning of someone expressing potential interest in me #that i have feelings for someone and i cant help that or do anything abt and its just how it is #but that person continued to call me stupid for not just stopping my feelings for my person #thats just an example *i* FEEL is obvious #even if u tell someone or warn someone or give someone a head ups #if they arent capable of comprehending it or you... it wont matter #they will still hurt / punish / get mad at u for not being what they want #so yeah... makes me wanna scream #humans are just too much fkn pain in the ass </3 #i barely even see the point in being upfront or direct or honest anymore #it doesnt even fucking matter bc apparently most ppl are fkn incapable of hearing u 😒#i've always thought it so important to be considerate to others #not waste their time... not give them fair warnings etc etc #but more and more i feel like 9/10 they just fkn lash out on u anyway #maybe i should just be sketchy and dodgy and vague distant and detached and avoidant like everyone else is #and just protect myself and my own selfish desires and needs and wishes. everyone else does that.#i just am not wired to look at ppl and see what they can give me or what i can use them for #thats why i often am just upfront and honest. i dont see ppl as merchandise or their sole purpose being to serve me and my needs #im just a human and theyre a human and we have a mutual thing going #but no. nooooo. thats how *i* work. i've learned that now #most (not all but far too many im tired) look at others and automatically calculate how they can use them #what they can get out of talking to u. what they can take and get from u. how to make u act the way they want to #idk where im going with this.... uh. i just dont see the point in communicating. ppl dont listen..#bc they dont want to cummincate. they want u to shut up and act like the marionette they see u as. they dont wanna hear u out or understand #they want u to just behave and act how they tell u. thus communicating is a total waste of energy 9/10 times #like .. for example on here. i can put like warning im mentally ill in my bio. but ppl will still be personally affeonted when i act that #way to myself ... most ppl just are not capable of listening to others or processing the fact that others dont exist for them #it doesnt matter how much u try to be honest or direct or upfront bc they dont care. they dont hear it. they wont adjust or respect u.#so why even bother communicating? or warn? or be direct? none of that even makes a lick of difference its so futile

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