#ismhsd hhhhhh

[flowermist7432]

Kinda mouthing into the void cause it's eating at me since it keeps happening around my life daily and even happened recently, and my secret vent account kinda reaches no one. To anyone who needs to hear this. Don't compare your trauma to others who "have it worse" to minimize your current state of abuse.

By compareing experiences others have it, not only does that make it so it minimizes how bad it is and so you can justify how technically yours/others situations are okay actually- intern totally covering the fact its still abuse; but its also insainly uncomfortable.

I can't tell you the painful heartbreak it is to attempt to talk to someone who use to be in my situation that its not okay- only for my own traumas and abusers to be brought up in tern to be like "its not as bad as [X] so."

Its.. so depressing. Its uncomfortable. It's also infuriating. The fact that my own traumas are used to cover up abuse because its "not as bad" is the quickest way to grind my gears. Stop it. Never EVER tell me its not as bad as mine. I dont fucking want to hear that! It impedes process to get out of this dumb cycle of excusing abusers and abuse because they arent like mine or like others.

There's a whole darn musical called Six where the entire showing is about these women of history trying to see who had it worse like it was not only a competition but also used to make the others feel like theirs wasnt even worth being mourned over. Which caused an awful divide and fighting amongst them all, but in the end they realize that it doesnt matter who had the worst time, its about how they all were done wrong and thats all that matters. And no amount of fighting over who's neglect was the most terrible, it does not make it better for either party.

Anyway thats my thing. So uh.

TLDR; Dont compare others or your abuse to someone else's because its "not as bad as theirs" cause its not okay and also makes me incredibly angry and sad--