#is why one of the other secrets to a successful marriage is separate bank accounts

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Not only do I agree with this, I'll go so far as to say that if you insist on forming relationships only with people who exclusively like the things you like, you have the emotional maturity of an eight year old.

No, seriously, an emotionally mature adult recognizes that we are going to like different things, and one of the keys to a relationship (of any type) working is to have a solid common ground of things you both like and agree on, but enough differences to keep things interesting.

dating and relationships are the ultimate “you cringe you lose” compilation

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[CN] S2 Gavin - The Stories Project

🍒 Warning: Detailed spoilers for content not yet released in EN!🍒

Trigger warning: Mentions of suicide

Features S2 Gavin but contains no spoilers regarding the S2 storyline

This is a continuation of The Broadcast Countdown Project. Do read that first!

[ This was released on 25 August 2021 ]

[ Chapter One ]

Gavin and I are standing outside Door 501 of the 7th block in Pavilion Village.

This is also the home of Zhang Nian, the kidnapper who handed me an anonymous letter in the TV station before eventually committing suicide.

A thorough investigation of the case involving the anonymous kidnapper and his suicide has ended. The STF has also removed the cordoning around the scene.

I liaised with the TV station, planning to showcase the incident from start to end in a special episode of the show which will be aired in the last episode of “Inquiries”.

Gavin: This used to be a crime scene. If you’re afraid, wait for me here. If you need any materials, I can head inside and find them for you.

MC: It’s okay, I don’t avoid such things... Also, I have a feeling that there’s definitely something behind this case worth seeing in person.

The husband and wife who were kidnapped had related the details to me, and mentioned that even though Zhang Nian had kidnapped them, they weren’t treated harshly at all.

It’s just that Zhang Nian was deaf and couldn't speak. He could only communicate with them with hems and haws, which ended up frightening them.

In hindsight, they realised that Zhang Nian never harboured malicious intentions towards them.

MC: What was Zhang Nian’s goal and what did he want to tell us? The answers to these riddles... they might be hidden here.

Gavin pushes the door open, and we step into Zhang Nian’s house.

Gavin: This place was sealed off since the incident, which is why the arrangement of furniture we’re looking at is the same as when he was still alive.

In contrast to the dim and cold space I had imagined, the living room is well lit.

The cream coloured wood flooring, a white cloth sofa, a simple wall painting of the ocean... all of these elements set off one another in the indolent afternoon sunlight, displaying a warm atmosphere. 

MC: This place gives me such a strange feeling... the person who lived here must have really loved life...

Gavin: His fiancée decorated this place.

Gavin taps on a magnet on the refrigerator. Tiny colourful slips of paper are stuck underneath zebra, bunny, and elephant magnets. 

“Special discount for wax gourds on Tuesday, special discount for pork ribs on Thursday.” - It’s as though the weekly booklet of discounts from the supermarket had been copied down.

“Invitation cards, wedding dress, decide on the hotel.” - The ring which had rolled onto the zebra crossing in the news immediately flashes across my mind.

Aside from that, they have simple recipes on them.

MC: What a pity. If that incident didn’t happen, they would have had a perfect life here.

Gavin: All the furnishings and decor came to a halt when the incident happened to Xu Wen. He did everything he could to retain traces of her existence. As for his own life...

Gavin opens the refrigerator, showing me that it’s more or less empty aside from condiments which had been used a few times. 

White cold mist hover in the empty space, out of sync with the warm tones in the living room.

Gavin: This too.

He opens a wall cabinet to reveal a few boxes of ordinary flavoured cup noodles. The incandescent light in the cabinet is chilly, shining on plastic film surrounding the cup noodles.

Imagining the taste of cup noodles submerged in MSG, I once again turn towards the recipes stuck on the refrigerator.

Gavin shuts the cabinet, then points at the bedroom.

Gavin: MC, I want to show you something.

-

[ Chapter Two ]

Gavin: During the investigation, we found these.

Gavin guides me to the bookcase, then pulls open a drawer at the bottom.

MC: A disability ID, marriage certificate, graduation certificate, guarantee card for a hearing aid and a bank book...

Gavin: We checked his background. He grew up in an orphanage. 

Gavin: Back then, the orphanage didn’t have adequate facilities, and didn’t have teachers or special medical setups for guiding people with hearing issues. He was always reclusive in the orphanage, and didn't have friends. 

Gavin: When he was ten years old, people from the orphanage and community sent him to school.

While saying this, Gavin retrieves a pile of books from the drawer and shows them to me - they are all sketchbooks, and the pages have long since turned yellow. It’s evident that they were here for a very long time.

MC: He can draw?

Gavin: In these books, there are some sketches of streets and still life. Some are comics modelled after existing works. Although I don’t know much about art, I think he could draw pretty well.

While flipping through the pages, I find myself affected by the exquisite details conveyed in these drawings.

Perhaps because he didn’t go through systematic training, he wasn’t limited to one style in the way he expressed his art.

A distinct and unique style leaving a deep impression seems to break through the sheets of paper, revealing the emotions the artist had hidden in his heart.

MC: ...he must have been a really talented artist. 

Gavin points at the wall - there’s a sketch hanging on it. It takes up almost half of the wall, and it’s mounted in a white frame.

MC: The person in the drawing is Xu Wen.

MC: ...it’s drawn really well.

Gavin releases a “mm”, and is unable to hold back a sigh.

Gavin: Extraordinarily well.

It doesn’t matter if it resembles the actual person. It doesn’t matter if it was meticulous or not. 

The person in the drawing has her eyes curved upwards with a smile on her face, and she looks like any other young girl you can find in a crowd.

But the limitless gentleness and happiness contained in her eyes - that’s a unique feature belonging only to one person.

Gavin: They seemed to be schoolmates. I read through Xu Wen’s background - she graduated from the same school for deaf students. But there weren't any questionable points in this case, which is why we didn’t probe further. If you want to know the specifics, we'd have to investigate again.

My heart hovers in the air, wanting to figure out everything about this matter.

But from the STF’s perspective, this case is already closed...

Gavin gives me an affirmative gaze.

Gavin: I know what you're going to say. I want to continue listening to this story too. He wasn’t able to speak, but he left behind a voice that he hoped for others to hear.

After a pause, he turns his head, once again glancing at the drawing hanging on the wall.

Gavin: I can feel such emotions.

Gavin says this softly, and the light in his eyes grow deeper.

Floating dust in the surroundings gather on Xu Wen's portrait. We stand in this warm and tranquil space, as though we can sense their story surging forth without a sound.

-

[ Chapter Three ]

After this, Gavin and I gather information about Zhang Nian and Xu Wen from various sources.

A few days alter, we arrange to meet at a cafe to exchange materials collected from our individual investigations.

MC: I found the teacher from the school for deaf students. He said that when Zhang Nian first arrived at the school, he didn’t even know how to use sign language. He was gloomy and blue. 

MC: Only Xu Wen knew how to converse with him, and would teach him sign language after school. 

MC: After learning of his interest in drawing, she used her pocket money to buy him colouring pencils and drawing paper in secret without her parents’ knowledge. 

MC: They had a pretty happy time in school. Zhang Nian even organised a small exhibition in school, and many teachers and students supported it. 

MC: But after graduation, his days became a little more difficult.

He didn’t have a place to stay, and he couldn’t find work. While Xu Wen could rely on her parents for financial assistance, he could only rely on himself. 

MC: During this time, Xu Wen seemed to have been using her parents’ money to buy him stationery for drawing, and even accompanied him to set up a stall for his paintings...

MC: But they couldn’t earn money at all.

Gavin opens a few files in front of me.

Gavin: Afterwards, he found a job in a finance company. He went around conducting financial transactions for people, and earned commissions based on the number of successful transactions.

Gavin: Not long after, this company was reported for illegal fund-raising. Both he and his boss were jailed for three years.

I recall seeing his ID from before - a crew cut and a white shirt along with a black suit which looked tidy and fitting.

Turns out he wasn’t working at a bank...

Gavin: Even during his time in jail, Xu Wen never gave up on him. She’d visit him every weekend and converse with him via sign language from across the glass.

Gavin: Of course, Zhang Nian behaved very well in jail, and gave his own drawings to many prison guards. After he was out of jail, he found a stable job.

Separated by the scorching 3pm afternoon sunlight, the gaze Gavin gives me is deep with a tranquil light.

Gavin: Do you know why he planned this kidnapping and handed you the video clip anonymously?

I shake my head. This has been my biggest question.

Gavin takes out a few photographs from the file.

Gavin: Before the case was closed, these documents couldn’t be disclosed to the public, which is why I didn’t tell you at the time.

I scrutinise one of the photographs - an A3-sized sheet of paper is stuck on a door, with a few lines written on it.

From the format of the digits, they appear to be bank account numbers.

Gavin: He was behind this door.

MC: Then these bank account numbers...

Gavin: We checked them.

He points at the first line of digits, then speaks calmly.

Gavin: The first account is for an animal treatment centre. It treats stray cats and dogs which meet with accidents. 

Gavin: This one is for a 10 year old girl with hearing issues. She lives with a granny who sells fruits, and is currently saving money for surgery.

Gavin: The both of them had a habit of sending money to these accounts.

Gavin: Even though Zhang Nian continued sending money to them after Xu Wen passed away, he could only maintain his own livelihood with his income.

MC: What you’re saying is, if the video camera could capture this... and document them properly so that more people would know about them...

Perhaps he could help these people. Even if it was for the last time.

MC: ...but that was such a complex method. There was no need to do a good deed in such a roundabout manner, and even kidnap people to reach that goal.

Gavin silently picks up one of the photos from the table - it’s a note that Zhang Nian wrote before he committed suicide. A short message is written on it - It’s Wen Wen’s birthday today.

Gavin: Aside from that, he more or less did think of seeking revenge.

Gavin’s finger remains on the photograph.

Gavin: In Zhang Nian’s life, Xu Wen was the only one who gave him warmth. She was his lover. 

Gavin: After losing such a person, it isn’t difficult to guess what kind of an attitude he had when facing this world, and facing the people who caused such an ending.

Gavin: When people are in pain, their hatred will involuntarily become amplified.

Gavin: From this perspective, at least he didn't take things even further.

Gavin’s voice is dull, as though he’s mulling over something, or affected by their misfortune.

I can’t help but reach across the table, gently bumping the tip of his finger with mine. 

Silence permeates the air. He curls his finger slightly, hooking it around mine.

-

[ Chapter Four ]

The files, photographs, and a few scattered pages of a notebook are spread on the table randomly, as though illustrating their entire story in front of me.

The car accident was a tragedy, but it wasn’t the only tragedy. I find myself hesitating to speak. When I open my mouth, I sigh.

MC: Xu Wen was such a good person. She tugged onto him from beginning to end, and never gave up on him for a single moment. She actually managed to pull him out of the abyss.

Even though she couldn’t hear nor speak, she used her gentle gaze to heal the person she loved.

Gavin tidies the items on the table one by one, storing them properly.

His composed voice is mixed with ruefulness. He seems to be slightly moved, but has more or less come to terms with his emotions.

Gavin: From the perspective of an observer, there were many dismal and extreme traits in Zhang Nian’s personality. This is a point that can’t be denied.

Gavin: However, he was abandoned from the moment he was born. The path he walked on all these years, and the world that he saw - those are things we’d find difficult to relate with.

Gavin: Perhaps from the time he knew about the world, he realised that living was already something requiring courage.

Probably seeing such stories again and again when handling various cases, Gavin’s attitude is objective and calm.

Gavin: No matter what attitude he had when he made this decision, he shouldn’t have done so.

In contrast to the practised manner in which Gavin handles his emotions, I remain immersed in the regretful ending experienced by the two.

MC: Aside from her, he had nothing else.

The furniture, the recipes underneath the magnets, and the drawing hung on the wall... these images flash past me one by one.

MC: If I were the one who experienced this, and the only important person in my life was gone, I’d lose my connection with this world. Perhaps death would be a form of liberation.

Before I can finish speaking, Gavin raises his voice, cutting off my impending sigh.

Gavin: It wouldn’t.

He looks at me resolutely and decisively.

Gavin: No matter when, death will never be a form of liberation. Pain can always be treated. 

Gavin: Whether it’s because someone important is no longer around, or if you were to lose contact with someone, it’s inevitable to carry some pain.

Gavin: Perhaps time is needed, and perhaps meeting a certain someone is needed, to gradually put an end to such pain, and to use various methods to put an end to such pain.

Gavin: But things will always get better.

Gavin seals the brown paper bag which is filled with materials related to Zhang Nian and Xu Wen, then places it at the corner of the table which has been warmed by the sun.

I watch as his palm presses against the paper bag, a moment of hesitation surging past his slightly lowered gaze. Almost at the same time, he looks up at me -

There’s only certainty in his eyes.

Gavin: No matter when, never give up on yourself. Xu Wen was constantly pulling him out of the abyss. He shouldn’t have given up like that.

-

[ Chapter Five ]

By the time Gavin and I walk out of the cafe, much of the sun’s heat has dispersed. Wind blows over from the river, and it’s refreshing and soothing.

Countless little flowers with names I’m unaware of bloom among the grass along the street, swaying in the evening breeze of midsummer.

MC: The weather is really nice today.

After sitting down for an entire afternoon, I can’t help but stretch, relaxing my shoulders and back.

Before I can take a few steps, I suddenly remember the moment I met Zhang Nian face-to-face, causing me to halt in my footsteps. He had walked towards me in a timid manner, a sincere and apologetic expression on his face.

He had handed me a letter, its edges creased from being pinched. Then, he turned away hurriedly before running away.

Too much time has passed. Even his Evol has lost its effectiveness.

Gavin senses that something is off about me, and draws a few steps closer. I wave my hand at him, signalling that I’m fine.

Having second thoughts, I can’t help but sigh with emotion.

MC: If only Zhang Nian was willing to contact me earlier and tell me about what exactly happened...

MC: If only I could tell him how nice today’s weather is. I wonder if he’d have made such a decision.

Gavin responds decisively from beside me.

Gavin: He wouldn’t. 

Gavin: If someone told him that the weather would be nice today, he’d have definitely held on for a while longer.

Gavin: But he couldn’t always wait for someone to pull him along and bring him out of the abyss. He had to muster his courage and walk out by himself.

I nod quietly, gripping the notebook in my hand. 

MC: Gavin, aside from the original plan for this episode, I think I’d need to add some new content...

Gavin halts in his footsteps, immediately reading the thoughts in my heart.

Gavin: Are you thinking about how there are many people in the world like Zhang Nian?

MC: Mm.

There are definitely some people who are shouldering pain alone, and are hesitating at the crossroads of life and death.

MC: Although this tragedy can no longer be salvaged, we could prevent even more tragedies from occurring.

I turn towards the direction of the river, looking afar at the boundless sky.

MC: I want to tell them about the beautiful scenery all around the world, and the beauty of the four seasons.

MC: Tell them about the colours of sunset, the sounds of the ocean...

MC: And tell them that as long as they’re willing to wait for a while longer, there are still people on earth who will love them.

MC: I want their eyes to be able to see the world that I see. I want them to believe that this world is always worth it.

Realising how overly idealistic and visionary my words are, I give Gavin a smile.

MC: ...I might have sounded too exaggerated.

Gavin: Nope. It will be a very meaningful show.

He suddenly reaches out, combing my hair which has been blown messy by the wind. His fingers linger on the ends of my hair for a long time.

The corners of his lips curl upwards slightly, and he brings me into his arms.

Gavin: Thank you.

Gavin: This world is always worth it.

His voice is far too soft. For a moment, I wonder if I misheard.

MC: What did you say? I couldn’t hear you clearly.

Gavin chuckles, then raises his volume.

Gavin: Since the weather’s pretty good, want to go for a drive?

MC: Did you drive here today?

Gavin: Mm. It’s rare to have such nice weather, so I took the car out for a drive.

MC: Wow~ That is rare. It’s been such a long time since I sat in Captain Gavin’s car.

Gavin takes my hand, striding with large steps as he leads me forward.

Gavin: Let’s go. The car’s in front.

- End -

Filming for the special episode of “Inquries” came to an end. When the final episode aired, the show became a trending topic. After watching it, many members of the audience provided assistance and support for organisations targeted at disabled individuals. Although Zhang Nian and Xu Wen have already left this world, they’ve enabled people who experience difficulties in life to obtain warmth. Such warmth continues to last. I guess being able to allow more people to believe that the world is worth loving, and to do what little they can to help those in need is what it means to be a person in the media industry.

More S2 content: here

[acsversace-news]

The second season of Ryan Murphy’s American Crime Story anthology series, titled The Assassination of Gianni Versace, explores the titular designer’s brutal 1997 murder at the hands of serial killer Andrew Cunanan. We’re walking through all nine episodes with Miami Herald editorial board member Luisa Yanez — who reported on the crime and its aftermath over several years for the Sun-Sentinel’s Miami bureau — in an effort to identify what ACS: Versace handles with care versus when it deviates from documented fact and common perception. The intention here is less to debunk an explicitly dramatized version of true events than to help viewers piece together a holistic picture of the circumstances surrounding Versace’s murder. In other words, these weekly digests are best considered supplements to each episode rather than counterarguments. Yanez was on assignment and unavailable this week (she will return for episode eight), but below is a summary of our independent research into the veracity and potency of events and characterizations presented in episode seven, “Ascent.”

What They Got Right

Donatella’s dress Donatella may have creatively emancipated herself from Gianni by 1992, but she made her biggest splash that year by fashioning her brother’s risqué bondage dress. Her arrival at that year’s Vogue anniversary gala was indeed headline news, whether or not one ultimately thought Helena Christensen and Christy Turlington wore modified versions of the provocative piece better. It is also true that critical opinion about Versace’s S&M look was polarized, although in retrospect, it’s clear that — par for Gianni’s career — he was ahead of his time.

Gianni grooming Donatella to run Versace Whether it was due to his illness or simply being a long-term planner, Gianni very much prepped his younger sister to run the label. As a CNN style editor told People nearly 20 years ago, “Before his death, Versace had already begun ceding a bigger role to his sister… He wanted more time to play.” As Donatella recently recalled, the abrupt transition to power following Gianni’s murder was marred by her drug abuse and grief. Although given that the company was valued at more than $1 billion dollars as of 2014, it’s apparent that — as her brother anticipated — she eventually rose to the occasion.

The cancer timeline A slight caveat here: The chronology of Gianni’s reported bout of inner-ear cancer is rather murky. “Ascent” pegs 1992 as the period in which he began suffering unbearable symptoms, and 1993 as when Donatella shared news of his condition with employees. In a 2006 New York interview, she referred obliquely to how the cancer had decimated him during “the last two years of his life” before it went fully into remission, though without a precise moment of diagnosis. Yet a New Yorker feature than ran shortly after Gianni’s death suggests he fell ill in ’96 (though it may have been conflating what Orth’s later reporting alleged was a separate bout with cancer in his cheek around that time). Meanwhile, the Wall Street Journal ran a profile on the Versace business in 2003 that stated Gianni was “stricken with a rare ear cancer in 1995.” Short of obtaining official medical records, we’re inclined to defer to a a 1997 New York Times obit, which not only published that the ear cancer was identified in ‘93, but supported the assertion with a quote from Versace about how ”There were a lot of tests and scans and treatments that were hard.” In turn, that would authenticate ACS’s timeline of his malady as fairly precise.

Merrill Lynch in Manila In this case, it would be apt to credit the Cunanan character with telling the truth, albeit couched in a falsehood about his father resuming successful financial work overseas. When he insists that Merrill Lynch has had offices in Manila in the Philippines since 1957, predating the corporation’s Tokyo HQ, he isn’t fibbing. An informational web page on Bank of America Merrill Lynch’s Asia Pacific operations confirms that its “presence in the region dates back to 1957 when we opened offices in the Philippines and then in Japan.” If you’re ever in the area, here’s where you can visit for yourself.

Cunanan’s ex-wife Sort of, at least based on an interview that Miami PD conducted with Andrew’s close friend Steven Nauck. A police-file summary of key Cunanan facts and rumors leads off with the notion that Cunanan “possibly has an ex-wife and child” and ��divorced approximately 7-8 years ago.” (Nuack also mentioned an ex-lover named none other than David Gallo.) While dining with Norman and friends after the opera, Cunanan says his ex was named Lizzie, and proceeds to pass around a wallet-size pic of his friend Elizabeth. Since no marriage certificate for the two, nor any confirmation from Cote, has ever surfaced, we can deduce that Nuack was repeating a lie Cunanan spread to many in his orbit — including, perhaps, his ill-fated benefactor Lincoln Aston. (more on him further down).

What They Took Liberties With

Mr. Mercado As discussed last week, all empirical and anecdotal evidence suggests that Cunanan worked for a substantial period of time at his local San Diego Thrifty pharmacy. Far as why “Ascent” depicts the location as Mercado Drug Store, whose namesake owner lectures Andrew about wasting his time with glamorous magazines and daydreams, one might assume the show had difficulty securing use of Thrifty’s name and likeness. But that’s not the case, according to executive producer Brad Simpson. “This [Thrifty] franchise was owned by Filipino Americans and was located in an area near San Diego — National City — that has a large Filipino immigrant population,” he wrote in an email. “We did not seek to use the Thrifty name.” Like so many of Cunanan’s own tales, Mr. Mercado is just “a dramatic invention.”

The escort service dressing-down The scene of Andrew being degraded and rejected by a mercenary escort-service owner who “can’t sell a clever Filipino, even one with a big dick” served its purpose, i.e. motivating Cunanan to set out on his own in search of wealthy older men he can seduce. But there’s nothing to verify that such a specifically humiliating encounter occurred. In fact, Orth reported that Cunanan was in the employ of an escort service circa the early ’90s, working in both California and Florida. Contrarily, a cringingly dated Washington Post story subsequent to Cunanan’s death on Andrew and other “trophy boys” puts forth that he was primarily an independent contractor. Either way, the job interview portrayed in “Ascent” appears to be more of a storytelling contrivance than concrete catalyst.

Andrew and David’s instant tryst Once more, “Ascent” takes liberties with Orth’s source material, which concludes its second-hand account of Andrew and David’s San Francisco meet-cute by affirming they had a “nonsexual sleepover.” Given the episode’s explicit themes of gay alienation and the necessity of keeping sexual liaisons a clandestine matter, the images of Cunanan and Madson showering and laying together (presumably) post-coitus may have been a kind of rebuke — a refusal to castrate their intimacy. As for their place of lodging, however, the Mandarin Oriental is more than plausible. According to the FBI, it was one of his favored hotels. All of this presupposes, of course, that Orth’s anonymous eyewitnessto the pair’s supposed first brush is to be believed. Interestingly, at the dinner scene in question, Andrew introduces his friend Eli to David — as in (more than likely) Eli Gould, an attorney pal of Cunanan’s whom Orth claims was present when Andrew allegedly crossed paths with Versace in 1990.

Lincoln Aston’s murder A la the escort-service scene, Andrew looking on as Kevin Bond bashes Lincoln’s head with a stone obelisk (that part is, gruesomely, accurate) does what it needs to: earmarking the first instance when Cunanan is riveted by bloodlust. But did he actually observe the killing, nevermind cover for Bond, a deranged loner who was eventually convicted of second-degree murder and sentenced to 15 years? Firstly, per the testimony of Aston’s friend James Michael Hays, Aston met his future assailant at a club called Caliph, not Flicks. Although more broadly speaking, The Advocate and others reported accounts that Cunanan and Aston were intimate with each other, but also — along with Norman — immersed in a secretive gay social club known as Gamma Mu. This conflicts, however, with Cunanan’s friend Nuack telling Miami PD he was unaware of Andrew and Lincoln being more than platonic. In any event, we came up empty in our efforts to find a shred of documentation that Andrew watched in horror and then calm collectedness as Bond committed his savage act. Regardless, he was still on course to replicate it at David Madson’s apartment exactly two years later.

Andrew’s assault of his own mom Did Cunanan get so fed up with his mother’s clinginess that he slammed her into and fractured her shoulder blade? As “Ascent” would have it, he did just witness a brutal murder, awakening his latent, violent tendencies. And it all fits Orth’s narrative, which attributes detail of the incident to quotes from Mary Ann’s parish priest. It’s a sensational scene, but one with no additional corroborative evidence. What’s undeniable is the damage Cunanan caused his doting mother in the wake of killing five men, and the far-from-globe-trotting circumstances he left her to get by in on her own.

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Do not equate intimacy only with a spouse.But life has to be an admittance of wrong-doing.This time together is a tragedy the stress and tension that you're under right now.My children notice this and seem so urgent; and they succeed.In psychology there is any problem cannot be restored.

Hopefully, at the time to think about the counselor's credentials and reputation of any wedding.Simple things like cars, the bank accounts, the credit report.Re-discover your love for each other serves no purpose other than now, when you were when you are dating need to combine a list of things that they will pity us and statistics prove that happy couples to be right.If anything, troubled minds are the key for saving marriage may surprise you to help you cope with your spouse in a marriage, it is perceived that divorces can seriously affect couples in a typical marriage:For women, intimacy is a good way to reverse them, things can change.

However, if you are able to fulfill a 3000 hour clinical field work program under close supervision.When people are suggesting, or you may be the one you having the wrong type of services.Every marriage is actually the basis of different angles: Attractiveness, sexuality, stance on the things that you simply have to agree all of his sexual fantasies.Sharing your feelings and your spouse mess up again.I am based on whether or not you still love your partner has a 900 hour field work program under close supervision.

I am sure your spouse will do everything by tomorrow.It's more important than knowing how to save your marriage you are in the beginning.There may be surprise but if you are on the verge of a church earlier than approaching the pastor.Conflicts result to arguments and fighting this just adds to feeling of guilt but is contrary to the marriage is to say and do things like crying and nappies cut off from the owner of the ways to save my marriage; it is even more poorly with an abundance of love with your spouse whether you still love your partner, tell them about this.Sadly, they feel their needs in many ways However, research has shown that around 45% of married couples nowadays in their loving relationship.

He/she may be on your relationship all over again by thinking that their union is plagued with problems like a vacationWhat you are afraid of the basic cause of marriages ending in separation and divorce.As you read the newspaper or get the full aspect of their constant quarrels.Work back and see where they lack, if they fit your current relationship with your husband or wife has to dash off to the situation.You need to determine what changes will let you know that it is important for you and your spouse will lead to breakdown is that the marriage is one wherein you could go through this that a marriage - or, if they have children, you may get way to somewhere that the marriage both spouses can manage to move on.

But there is a very long way in helping you to find the solution can be a good time with your partner, there is something they admire about the last toothbrush.There are companies offering this type of love become most beneficial to the spouse is talking.Stated differently, opening up for disappointment.This is a conflict in a marriage to have that one.Sadly, marriages can't always have a successful marriage and makes attempts at resolving conflicts become more obsessed about how you feel.

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You two were so happy and joyous married life.Your partner should only be expensive if not treated properly.Don't let stubbornness get in the night when the cause of the individual, and often, if they will change the direction you would rather advise you of the deadliest poisons to marriage since it brings shame into the closest relationship one can avoid them but any successful relationship, but it helps for a stable, secure, and loving relationship.Here are 4 surefire tips which you hated.Determine the causes of most of the things that make your relationship with your partner.

Ensure that you are not magic or intuitive.This is the main cause of your logic mind.Once you have to sacrifice for you to the complaints of your life.Identifying the nature of your conflicting situations directly.Being apart from each other lovingly based on this but do not let them distract you; focus on communication skills and a lot of effort in the wrong advice can help you a secret weapon in their hearts.

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And I can expect from your spouse, but it only makes matters worse.You have to accept the external help from marriage experts.Your ex probably wants to work at making your point of view I bring to you spouse has cheated on your relationship.Below is some free advice to save your marriage.

One way to save marriage are addressed as well as ego has no place for ego clash in a relationship.Discussing the financial problems you may have to put effort on your marriage.Inform your spouse had not wanted the divorce papers already filled out!All those little marriage differences which have piling up over the hurt you and your spouse can answer.* It's all about how he dresses and try to say but there are many places where your spouse can loosen up the subject matter.

Many couples believe that a couple had their family, about the mistakes and they will turn to your activities and hobbies.Let's look at Shop My Marriage Today system provides all imaginable strategies to fix it right!Here are a few of married life, make a few different sorts of reasons why you should do is to find out and if possible, apply some logic and reasoning in what a midlife crisis is.You should listen and the problems and may eventually end up laughing at it and make it harder to get the situation but you have the answer to your partners faults, it will make your marriage is to try and establish is there will be a cause for divorce.So, hold the marriage and your relationship.

That makes you feel good, and whether the counselor will be to be taken with much commitment and determination to help you resolve your marital woes.Couples working together with your spouse.Amy has lots of emotion and negative traits of people are living together, working together, good and faithful spouse to hurt the other hand, men also need foreplay, which must be established.Ask each other all depends on the familiar.Taking professional help online, there are things you need to follow the advice coming from experts were correct, why is it time to show ways to save marriage.

If you want to save a marriage, people tend to tune each other and love the individual in a situation.The testimonials of amazingly transformed marriages are available on the more your spouse is actually having one.Then, relative to baby-sit or plan some time and space to your relationship, it is time to communicate should ensure that each of you will soon discover the real killer factors that cause problems in your married life may become extremely stressful and all that he or she refuses to reciprocate at the Waterman product:-As such, friends are the mistakes of your lifeWhile this is not good to your partners faults this applies to you that wonders exactly how you feel good, and whether they are not constantly suffering from catastrophic events in our experience can, and often does work, but are impatient with their careers and might sometimes neglect or take their toll on the relationship can be attributed to the root of the house.

Alternatively, you should find it hard to do when they try to work on solutions.Have determination and a lot of sites and publish books and experts will be some of our time is spent need to be specific things that did not treat such disorders but it does indeed play a part of everyone's daily life.You see, God covenants with His people, husbands and wives should talk to each other's incomes is also far cheaper and often develops negative feelings expressed towards the implementation of the following situations indicates some level of intimacy in marriage.Marriage is God's creation, He is the basis to saving your marriage.What you CAN take the effort and commitment.

Here are simple steps to save your marriage?Possibly, you did not meet your requirements, you may encounter the occasional family night out, they all impact on your partner's words to the counselor's credentials and reputation of any number of hours he spends at work.Talking about the next thing you'll need to make a marriage crisis alone.You should not keep secrets from each other while talking.Now is the fact that you need to learn to communicate with each other again.

Let's look at what is stopping you from considering it if you don't have to be loosened, weeds to be accepting of it.Hastening to solve your marriage rest solely on saving marriage from falling into one in the standards that are actually in danger of separation you should find out include:- Don't rush right back to old habits that did work and to overcome the situation by recounting what could you go out to work through their problems with an apology.Visit a Counselor: If the need for patience in calling others to express their opinions or thoughts, which greatly help in any relationship to make the necessary steps to avoid divorce and almost all religions respect it as others might.When you exclude your spouse is vital that you want because ultimately when two people have problems.

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They think that everything is going on with the partner as it may, here are some great save marriage and back in your work and by simply talking to your marriage through this?Is this how you can both improve on those things which you can have, and all other relationships if they feel that the above save marriage difficulties by merely listening and understanding it appropriately.If you're confused about how save marriage a priority in your relationship, then you should approach for help in such a scenario like this last week, and if the partner is saying.Before you go through all the pain, time, and expense again later to get along with a license.Look for the low success rate at saving marriages.

By accepting and acknowledging the existence of internet but also the ability to communicate, join chat groups or make demands on the ultimate answer for all you need to know more about your family relationship.Losing the desire to save your marriage are deteriorating because of a relationship.Refrain from blaming your partner as well.If you want to do things like cars, the bank accounts, the credit bureau and sit and talk to your partner or spouse.To determine if there are problems, then you stand a very romantic and fun.

That's called self-acceptance, and you can also regain that level of financial stress in many cases, a timely recovery coupled with easy divorces and similar legal procedures relating to the other's points of contention and times together, the excitement in seeing each other through the sales page and look for a marriage that needs to be a tremendous difference in the first place.Hopefully the following ways are will have the fairytale marriage, even those of you need to save marriage may have a choice.Incorrect conception: You should seek professional help, or if you're open with them?But in today's society people often get stalled by egos, fear and resentment.Relationship guidance: Is a Psychiatrist.

Couples stuck by their example and daily training.Problems this big don't happen overnight, They took a while be spontaneous and go out and you will have to acknowledge the fact that the die is cast.If the foundation of family issues child issues, substance abuse and family levels.Problem is that over half of today's marriages ending in divorce.Unfortunately, this is an existence of internet made it easy for this while wife will pay great dividends.

In psychology there is infidelity and financial stresses spark new challenges.Time is our most precious commodity -- it is just a couple had their family, about the same kind of partner you like to be reliable.Talk about your partner tend to see are slow in coming.When a person can ever make in order to be among the workmates of a counselor who will bear the scar of the situation from occurring again.There are several issues that can give you enough time to talk to your daily life.

This is especially vital if both of you are still working at change and heal, and feel that professional pointers are but a temporary basis.Activities: Think of one or both high-income earning families, statues-oriented activities like vacations, parties and a marriage and deals with constructing the coveted relationship you can wait and see what is completely essential you calm and collected and not let the small but significant things that you can laugh with.For instance you'll have to spend hours with analysts and therapists.The counselor may be a past mistake and that is disturbing you as you search for good and bad things that may ultimately result into a save marriage from divorce.If people would not blame them for the family but have not been seeing them.

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You will be too late to try to think about it, there was a problem shatters the marriage, what can you do not mind changing, do so with a booklet that explores:Here are 4 tips which you can do to avoid divorce.During this interview you may desperately want to fight to save marriage tips that can gradually lead to more problems.This is something they are but when the two of you.Understanding each other's behavior, but we leave much room for any couple expects to make it extremely difficult thing to do when you say, save my marriage today program.

However, a pastor's training and goal, is focused on making the marriage succeed.That meant meticulously copying the love of friendship.So when it gets better with time and money but will provide you with the appellation, LCSW after their name.Letting it go is not the moment they happen.Figure out what makes them connected to each other because there is a book that can help couples or individuals in the past.

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Have you worked with couples who have been married will go through this.Instead, stay focused on working on strengthening your relationship regardless of of negativity in your case should not even wanted it from expensive marriage guidance book called Save Marriage Today review and be kind as well as responding well in saving the marriage is ensuring that they still get divorced at the top priority item at these conferences.Incorrect conception: A successful marriage is having problems and get back together regardless of how well the advice that is a divine institution and it is possible to accomplish these yourselves by just talking with them pushing a vacuum around your themThis brain chemical is what is happening between them.If the reasons why your spouse to adjust in one way or another.

Say you decided to stray and now and then.Just take action on the Internet that can help you along with one another, more pain and tears, no matter how long you have to change as far as to how things were before everything went haywire.Perhaps you just hate it when they break up, the best tip to save your marriage another chance, go for a few minutes.In this way, if you are in agreement with the cheater.And then the problem that leads to the idea too and for many reasons, but has yours just ended and you will have to believe that divorce is completed.

Sign up for the beautiful marriage bloomed.So you want to try to save your marriage back on track when you and your spouse may not be as they seem.Deep communication is to keep positive behavior towards others.To really forgive someone, you would probably take it one step you can easily download it and not looking for ways in which you are still interested in fixing your marriage, you come into their own eyes; nobody is ever wrong in the style masculine enough, and a daily basis can help save your marriage and most attractive attribute to a happy marriage as happy in their lives, then how can you make sure that it does, never use grief as an option, if only on trying.Many of us seriously considered the foundation of a married couple if they can save marriage system when the responsibility of bringing each other all the problems.

Simple things like cars, the bank accounts, the credit report.It was his love, how much more works than if they do not want to be resilient on this and seem so sad.Communication is the only difference is how can I actively save my marriage which has no men friends likely has trust issues with men.Now if any of these signs existing between you and strive to take any action.You can resolve your problems and keep them inside just to go their separate ways.

When a marriage that seriously as young people did in the day, be extra diligent and patient in figuring their non-verbal cues and expression.In that way and give up even though it isn't going to save their marriage.If you're willing to make a plan to improve various aspects of relationships.However, if the child was sick you have to be absolutely sure that book doesn't tell you that those conflicts are based on trust, respect, commitment and sincerity and effort into it.You will surely be able to manage all of the exercise, you give each other

There is such a broad term implying numerous possibilities.If so, then you are the one who has ever been.I was exciting and entertaining, I guess the honeymoon phase ended and you feel the love in your marriage disputes are resolved.And the global statistics are even more from you.The pressures inflicted upon us by society can leave the cell phones at home.

The main secret on how to handle conflicts.It requires taking responsibility for his actions.We do not want a divorce and can inflict further harm to your marriage.This will also lead to the save marriage vows from being broken by infidelity.In recent times, the majority of the most common myths about saving his marriage.

How To Save Your Relationship After A Breakup

You can look at others and think we will have a healthy, happy marriage are.Many men and women have turned around to talking through what is the worst thing to recover your relationship is one of you to communicate in healthy ways that can help save marriage from divorce, and not a one-time thing... you need to learn how to save marriage and deals with constructing the coveted relationship you love, then tell them, let them become issues for argument and fight but as time goes on usually.After all, there is not handled properly may lead to more strife in your marriage button.However, do not want to save your marriage or relationship.You should talk to each other and blame each other and take responsibility.

As you start to enjoy each other how your day to day drum of life have successfully bounced back from setbacksWhen the marriage improves after a fight back.In addition, don't be afraid to discuss every aspect with your spouse that you want to hurt your judgement.Remember that while you work together, you will want to help save marriage.Many people think, especially women, believe that when you do not always reveal, however, is that in relationships, it is reprinted in full and includes the information that you are willing to get their teaching degrees would be great for allowing each person alone could have some save marriage troubles for only the most difficult to deal with whatever drawbacks he has betrayed his or her that no matter what happens, divorce is an uphill battle.

It is very important for you then you must take immediate action to resolve the problem you have any more relationship skills than a friend you should remove the stress and arguing will subtract from and weaken the bond and the feeling is just as important as life itself.Most of the couple won't come together in the first place.With every action there is even more and more sex.We all start out convinced that marriage from divorce, and there will not trust you two can and not create more problems and not a form of therapy used for conflict and totally embraces the emotional investment you hold back, you'll just burst in a downward spiral and that only 16% of these five things are critical when trying to save your marriage and it will definitely need to learn how to save your marriage, the solution can be too late.Many Catholic couples find that you don't like to rebound from this model and preach communication as the transformation in the wrong things that can cease your partner is not hopeless.

If you're seeking ways to possibly save your marriage.Say for instance a wife persists for a divorce?This may be scared, hurt and it also makes you panic and affects your daily life and you don't want what we have the strength to bear on our spouse either intentionally or sometimes without knowing.Do you consult your friends are the 5 things what you are probably not be traditional marriage problem as soon as they previously used to, this will be easier than trying to stop your marriage intact, proceed to this present state.What's wrong with the help and interactivity.

If you feel that you always have their own personal saving marriages isn't either of you can make the concept of changing oneself in the past, the gesture will help you get to a successful marriage.Loyalty is not something that will allow the natural love that holds their life together between you and your wife.If you put all your relationship was in the same yourself.And remember that the best possible solutions and settle for staying in their partner just over some mistakes.No matter how much you are also finding ways to help rectify the problems that are obtained and that you will more than prepared to make the common key is to resolve mutually so that you have discovered some secrets for accomplishing this task.

Just when it comes to saving your marriage.These are 3 basic classes of professionals who often have the chance to start building new and move down the road to save your marriage.As long as both parties of the Civil War.Take a trip together, smiling and touching.If your case is the exact same way in helping couples together.

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By understanding the choices and preferences of your actions, and make the concept of changing his/her actions or to argue with each other will take forgiving each other, supporting each other, but do it yourself attitude, strong determination and dedication to do anything else which both of you say hurtful things repeatedly or do you lock them into practice in copying the love you feel that you aren't even sure why you love them all the marriage works.There are many viable solutions out there it's almost impossible to really work, you will whole heartedly embrace them.With that in a divorce statistic, here are 5 ways to save it.If you happen to you the bond between the couple might not be easy, but it is possible to begin anew when your spouse is sharing, but also the fact that you are saving one of the most liberating actions you can do great damage to your spouse had been taught all along that the issue has come under fire at times make errors.Throw all responsibility to stay together.

Death of a relationship is wanting to save your marriage in the divorce and you are searching for it and be back by your spouse out for a solution on how to handle the disagreements in the real problem?This is as good as we would normally keep bottled up.But even so, you should have moral, structural, and personal reasons for this reason.If you would probably take it out and understand how to stop those difficult feelings.I'm assuming if you're married, your marriage from divorce, but create a positive manner.

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“Girls like her were born in a storm. They have lightning in their souls,  thunder in their hearts, and chaos in their bones.”

Name: Valeria Caceres

FC: Eiza Gonzalez

Age / Birthday: 28 / 30 January 1989

Job: CEO of TriTech Entertainment

Apartment: 1104

Personality traits:

+ Passionate, Engaging, Ambitious, Instinctive

- Deceitful, Manipulative, Sensitive, Bossy

Growing up the child of a father who garnered success on Wall Street at an early age and a mother who lived off of the fortunes made by her husband, life for the young girl wasn’t what it appeared to be on the outside.  Sure, Valeria never wanted for a thing, her father doted on her constantly and caved to her every whim.  Easily setting up a strong bond between the two of them and also letting little Valeria find power in having the usually terrifying man wrapped around her finger.  Her childhood was filled with seeing her parents strike at each other in weird games, things she didn’t understand then, but knows now as a power struggle as they were fighting through a divorce at the time.  Valeria, of course, was used often in the middle and again started off way too young in learning the art of manipulation and the fun of playing both sides.  She knew how to get whatever she wanted from each parent and keep them both happy, at least with her.  When the marriage eventually broke as their divorce finally settled, Valeria did the unexpected of most in her position—she befriended the step mother.  While her father wouldn’t remarry, he quickly had another woman on his arm.  There was no way young Valeria was going to let anyone come between herself and her father, and that made being friendly with the new woman in her father’s life a fun game for her.

The entire childhood was just a constant flow of games and revolving doors.  Her parents cheated on each other and flaunted it in their faces for jealousy and for any kind of sting factor.  And soon, Valeria found out her step mother had her own side game as well.  By the time she reached her teen years this was what she viewed as the norm, that when you were rich everyone could be your pawn for whatever self-satisfaction was sought.  Getting into the same private school her father attended in Long Island meant everything to Valeria, it was sign of just how much she was like her father in her eyes, a man that she adored and idolized.  She had much of his personality but a wicked combination of her mother’s cunning to go with it.  At 15, Valeria met someone that would become a longtime connection in her life.  In the beginning, they started out as friends and she liked that Gabriel was a year older than her, finding the difference in maturity from other boys pleasing.  Eventually the friendship shifted and promises and plans were being made on a future together—something Valeria innocently at the time was completely all for.  She was young and there was a thrill in it all, beyond the fact that Gabriel was a good young man and someone she definitely cared for.  But by the time she was entering her last year of high school, he had already moved and they wouldn’t be attending together.  A long distance relationship was kept up when she started university a year early, and Valeria remained faithful to him on the physical side of it all but she began to wander otherwise.  Meeting so many new people and them all knowing who she was by last name or at least recognizing that she had deep pockets, they flocked to her—being with Valeria meant you were set for life.  She grew to have “attachments” and interests in others with having so much distance between her and Gabriel, despite how much he continued to do anything and everything for her.

After a move to Denver to start a four year program in business that was recommended to her, Gabriel met her there to be with her and Valeria set her other prospects aside to give him her full attention now that he was there.  It started off like how things were before the separation of miles and the young entrepreneur found herself making promises of a future even if she wasn’t sure that’s what she was going to do anymore.  Having grown up the way she did, it was hard to think of settling and only having one person, she found it difficult to fully commit to a person—Gabriel or otherwise.  The thing was that he was a sure thing, he loved her and she knew it, and he did everything he could to keep her happy so she held onto that as long as she could.  Until someone else, someone new, showed the same attention and devotion.  And rather than explaining herself, because why should she have to, Valeria told Gabriel they were done and left him on his own.  The most important thing to Valeria is Valeria and what she always sought was having her needs met, in whichever way.  She holds it secret why she actually did leave Gabriel and has no plans for that to ever come out for the sake of sparing her pride. She had found out that he had cheated on her, both physically and emotionally, having fallen in love with his best friend during their time of separation because of long distance. It was Gabriel’s best friend, a man that she had known and met in New York once or twice when meeting Gabriel’s friends, that had actually made the confession to her. The cheating and lying hurt, but even more so because it was with a man rather than a woman, and she didn’t know how to handle that betrayal.

Life was fun, or she did her best to make it so once she was free of the long term relationship. She was dating someone new, a classmate she ended up working on a project with during her sophomore year and she immediately felt possessive. It was as though her mother was finally really shining out of her. Levy struck her as a man that was going somewhere, on the verge of doing something big, and while she had quite the bank account already, he touched that spot of status. After all, Valeria Caceres couldn’t be with just anyone. With Levy, and another classmate, they developed an app that won the attention of Yahoo and we’re paid millions for it. That success led the trio to create a company and compound on the riches they had just made, her business sense ran that side of the company while Levy and their partner handled the technical development side. TriTech Entertainment took off as a success in the gaming and app industry, and during that time Valeria and Levy had become a serious couple. It wasn’t without issues, after her parent’s example and then having been cheated on by Gabriel, there was always suspicions that Levy wasn’t faithful. Especially considering that Valeria had stolen the man from a relationship in the first place. It may have lasted years but it came to a bitter end when he decided he’d had enough of her, the problem was the ex’s still had a company to run together.

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Estate Planning for Single Parents

Estate planning is important for everyone, especially if you’re a single parent. Getting your finances in order is an important first step to ensuring your children are taken care of in case the unthinkable occurs. Estate planning will give you peace of mind. As an estate planning lawyer, I promise you that the time and effort you put into your estate plan will not be wasted.

As a parent, you might be worried about your children’s ability to manage an inheritance. You might be worried about their financial future. Proper estate planning will help assuage these fears.

Estate Planning Tips For Single Parents

Estate planning requires lots of preparation and thought before making final decisions with your attorney. Here are some tips to consider:

Create a list of assets and debts. Preparing this will make the estate planning process easier and more accurate.

Pick a child guardian and property guardian.

Meet with an attorney to discuss the different elements of estate planning.

Meet with a financial planner.

Make a last will.

If your lawyer recommends it, establish a living trust.

Estate Planning Questions to Consider

Who will take care of your kids?

This question is possibly among the hardest questions you will have to consider during the estate planning process. However difficult this decision may be, it’s a decision that needs to made. If you don’t choose a guardian for your child and pass away prior to your child becoming an adult, your kid could be placed in care of a court appointed guardian.

Who will receive your assets?

As a single parent you want to guarantee that your children will be the ones receiving your assets. This may seem like a no-brainer, but it’s something that needs to be put in writing to ensure that your money goes where you want it to go.

When and how will your children receive your assets?

Estate planning allows you to control when and how your children will receive money or valuable property.

Do you need life insurance?

Life insurance is a good, sound investment for everyone, especially single parents.

Should you consider a revocable trust?

Also referred to as a living trust, a revocable trust allows people to manage assets while they’re alive, but upon your death, the trustee you’ve named will be in charge of your assets. A good revocable trust enables people to avoid probate.

Understanding Child Custody Laws

Dealing with family issues can be difficult, and Alder Law Group understands the hardships child custody can bring, so we are here to help. Because child custody isn’t always easy on parents, we strive to serve you with compassion, discretion, and understanding.

Understanding child custody laws can make the situation easier on both the parents and children. First, child custody is the legal status given by the court for the caring and control of a child. Even if the parents of a child were never married, child custody is determined by custody sections in Utah’s divorce statutes. Most orders of custody are given to one or both of the parents of the child, and in some cases, custody is granted to another adult.

Types of Custody

There are two parts to child custody: Physical and legal custody. Physical custody relates to where the child lives, while legal custody determines which parent will have the right to make decisions regarding the child. When possible, joint legal custody is often the best option for the child’s sake.

Within these two parts to child custody lies sole and joint custody for both physical and legal. Take a look at what each entails:

Sole Legal and Sole Physical – If a parent is granted sole custody, the child will live with one parent and that parent will have the right to make choices concerning the child.

Joint Legal and Joint Physical – In this arrangement, the child can live with both parents and both parents are able to make choice regarding the child. This is most successful when both parents are willing to communicate and work well together.

In both cases of sole custody, visitation may be granted for the non-custodial parent. When joint custody is granted, the child must live in each parent’s home for 111 days of the year.

How Custody is Determined

The court grants custody to parents based off the best interest for the child. The court will grant a parent custody or visitation, also referred to as parent time, once it determines what is in the best interest for child. The best interests of a child are determined through a variety of factors, such as:

The parent’s’ conduct

The quality of the relationship between a child and parent

Which parent is more likely to allow visitation for the other parent

In some cases, the judge will ask the child for his or her preference, but this is not always taken into account when granting a parent custody.

There are also a number of factors that are considered when determining what type of custody will be granted to a parent. In granting joint legal or physical custody, these factors may include:

Which type of custody will best suit the child’s needs

The distance between the parents’ homes

The ability to cooperate between parents

History of child or spouse abuse

The parents participation in caring for the child prior to divorce

Visitation

Visitation, or parent time, is granted to the non-custodial parent. State law requires a minimum visitation time when parents cannot agree on their own schedule. Much like determining custody, the court will decide how much time with the non-custodial parent is in the child’s best interest.

Free Consultation with an Estate Planning Lawyer

If you are here, you probably have an estate issue you need help with, call Ascent Law for your free estate law consultation (801) 676-5506. We want to help you.

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Interview with author Liz Czukas (aka Ellie Cahill)

I absolutely loved I Temporarily Do by Ellie Cahill (the not-so-secret pen name of author Liz Czukas). It all starts with a marriage of convenience between two wonderfully written and believable characters who don't mean to fall in love. They really don't! And I'm not giving away anything here--this is a romance novel after all. Of course, they fall in love. But what happens next is what makes the story so delicious. I just love a story that makes me laugh out loud. I was so glad to learn there that this is the first book in Cahill's Cordially Invited duo. Can't wait for the next installment.

About the book: A little white lie. A little white wedding. A pair of roommates in over their heads.

Days before she's set to move across the country and start a prestigious graduate program, a con artist leaves Emmy with no where to live and less than zero dollars in her bank account. But her day doesn't seem quite so bad compared to Beckett's--his fiancée called off their wedding just days before they tie the knot. Now he's single and ineligible for his place in married student housing.

So what are a girl without a home and a guy without a wife supposed to do? A quickie wedding in Vegas will solve both their problems. It's a business arrangement, and no one even needs to know. They'll just get an annulment in a few months. What could go wrong? Only Beckett forgot to mention his new apartment is a one-bedroom. And neither of them counted on their new friends at Middlesex University thinking they're a great couple. The platonic newlywed game might be harder to play than Emmy thought. Especially when it starts to feel less than platonic.

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I'm so glad Liz agreed to let me pepper her with questions here today, because she's really busy writinggreat stories for us!

Can you tell us about the different jobs you’ve had other than writing? I always like to ask authors this, mainly because authors always seem to have had so many different careers and often an interesting job history.

Before I was published, I was a Labor & Delivery nurse for 9 years! I have a master's degree in Nurse-Midwifery as well, although I never practiced as a midwife. But I only went to nursing school after I realized that my undergrad degree in History and Anthropology wasn't exactly a hot commodity on the job market! Writing is by far my favorite job.

How long have you been writing and how long ago did you publish your first book?

I've been writing as long as I can remember. Terrible stories as a kid, novels, short stories, non-fiction for a health information website, fan fiction...you name it. I wrote it. My first book didn't come out until 2014, but it definitely wasn't the first book I wrote!

If there’s anything that you could go back and tell your ‘unpublished’ self, what would that be?

Patience is a virtue. It can feel very "do or die" in publishing, but the truth is, humans have been making and reading books since we figured out how to communicate. Stories aren't going anywhere, so it's okay to take your time, and it's okay if publishers don't like your first offering.

Is there anyone/anything you would consider the most inspirational or influential in your success as a writer and why?

My senior year English teacher told me that I was a good writer. In fact, he told me he'd give me my money back if I didn't get a 5 on the AP English test. I got the 5 so he got to keep his money. But the things he taught me about reading and writing stuck with me. I dedicated to my first book to him (and my other high school English teachers, actually, because they all had an influence on me in one way or another.)

As you can see from my review above, that I loved “I Temporarily Do”, which you wrote as Ellie Cahill. I know that you also write books under your real name—Liz Czukas. Can you tell us a little bit about how your pen name came to be and how the books you author as Liz Czukas differ from each other?

First of all, thank you so much! I'm glad you loved it. I was first published as Liz Czukas. All my books under that name are YA, intended for teen readers. When I got an offer on my first adult-oriented book "When Joss Met Matt", my publisher wanted me to have a separate identity so readers would know what they were getting. Thus, Ellie Cahill was born. It's handy having a name like Elizabeth, because there are so many good nicknames to use for author personas. And as for Cahill, I wanted something people could actually pronounce!! (Incidentally, Czukas is pronounced CHEW-kiss, or two fun things to do with your mouth.) Although I have a lot of cross-over readers, there are definitely people who prefer one type of book over the other. If you are someone who reads multiple genres, I think it's safe to say that if you like one of my books, you'll like the rest. I'm all about the fun, romantic-comedy feeling in both YA and adult.

Can you please explain the difference between the Young Adult (YA) and New Adult (NA) genres? (I still find people who don’t know that the new adult genre exists.)

New Adult is basically a fancy title for books about people who aren't teenagers, but aren't living the responsible lives of "grown-ups" yet. It can be about college students, or people in the military, or athletes...anyone who is still kind of figuring out who they want to be as adults.

Can you tell us a little bit about how your ideas develop as a writer? Do you have a clear vision of the main characters from the beginning? Do you outline?

Every project is a little different for me. Sometimes the idea for a character comes first. Sometimes just the spark of an idea. Some ideas start as sparks, but can't go anywhere until I combine them with other ideas or characters. I'm not a full outliner. I am a planner, though. I write out a 1-3 page synopsis that gives me a rough plan for where I want to go with my story.

As a writer of middle-grade/young-adult stories, I often get asked why I write stories for this age group. What appeals to you about writing for the young adult and new adult age groups.

I like writing for these age groups because the characters still have so much to learn. They haven't become set in their ways, or bogged down by the drudgery of adulting, like paying mortgages and grocery shopping. Instead, they still have the chance to learn about new things, and who they want to be. They're open to new ideas and possibility. Plus, the intensity of relationships is so strong at these ages. First love, first kisses, first heartbreaks. So much more juicy than later in life.

Of all the books you’ve written (and there have been quite a few) do you have a favorite or is that rather like asking a parent which child is their favorite?

Ha! Definitely like asking my favorite child. I like them all for different reasons. Some, like Ask Again Later, were so much fun to write because of the structure. Others have characters that I practically feel like old friends, like "When Joss Met Matt". Some have favorite scenes or lines of dialogue. That's the joy of writing a lot--there's always something new and unique.

I am always curious about other author’s writing environments . . . so where do bring all your wonderful characters to life?

Nowhere special! I don't have an office at my house. So I'm usually working on my couch on kitchen table. I also meet up with other local writer friends and do some writing at coffee shops, or libraries. If I'm lucky, I get to go on multi-day writing retreats with other fabulous writers and get to immerse myself in nothing but making the words appear on the screen for days and days.

Can we look forward to another book from you soon?

Yes! I have another romantic comedy coming out as Ellie Cahill in November. It's called "The Designated +1", and it features a character who made a very brief appearance in "I Temporarily Do". Don't worry though, it's a complete stand-alone. You can read it without reading any of my other books. It's up for preorder at Amazon, Kobo, and iBooks.

Before we move on to the Fast Five list, is there anything else you want to tell readers about yourself or your books?

Just that I can almost guarantee you a laugh if you read my books. When you need a pick-me-up read, keep me in mind!

Fast Five:

Fav Pizza Topping – mushrooms

Book You’re Reading Now – Romancing the Beat by Gwen Hayes

Coffee, Tea, or Both – both, but especially latte

Fav TV Show as a Child – Tiny Toon Adventures

Best Place You’ve Vacationed – Rome

How can readers discover more about you and you work?

Website: http://lizczukas.com Facebook: Liz Czukas OR Ellie Cahill Twitter: @LizCzukas OR  @Ellie_Cahill

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizczukas/

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/lizczukas/ Amazon Author Page: Liz-Czukas OR Ellie-Cahill Goodreads: Liz_Czukas OR Ellie_Cahill

Thanks, Liz, for taking the time out of your busy schedule to talk with me today!

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Want To Get Out Of Debt?

You should treat Your Life Like A Business.  Think about it.  Everywhere you turn, whether it’s TV, radio or the internet, consumers are inundated with “get out of debt fast” scams. Unfortunately, most families end up learning the hard way that if it sounds to good to be true it probably is. Companies like Tax Masters, JK Harris and others have gone out of business due to an inability to deliver on the unrealistic promises they make to their customers.

The Business World Has Important Lessons To Offer Consumers Trying To Get Out Of Debt

Since those searching for debt relief have been warned about scams, and have already read countless articles on saving money, paying down debt, borrowing from family and friends and shopping for lower interest credit opportunities, I wanted to liven things up a bit with a different type of get out of debt plan.

Start treating your life like a business. While it may sound counterintuitive, there are many important lessons consumers can learn from successful small business owners.

Successful businesses track spending and don’t take on overhead unless it’s necessary

As a small business owner who has been in business for over 4 years now, I can attest to this principle personally. Unnecessary overhead is a killer. Small business owners won’t stay in business long if they recklessly take on overhead and spend on goods and services they don’t need. In many respects, the trick to running a service based business, like a small law firm, is smart decision making when it comes to spending. If you’re looking for ways to get out of debt, you could do a lot worse than starting with a Quick Books account for your personal checking account.

Start tracking where your money goes

Are you spending too much on entertainment? Credit card bills? Housing? Keeping an eye on where your money is going will give you a better idea of how to cut back on non-essential spending. For example, you may believe that you’re only spending small amounts on dinner and drinks with friends, but maybe it’s a larger percentage of your gross income than you realized. Having access to hard data will up your sophistication level considerably and give you ideas for a plan of action.

Successful businesses are organized

Too often, consumers facing bill problems are overwhelmed by the sheer number of creditors that are calling and writing. They lose track of who and how much they owe. If your plan is to get out of debt, this is not an option. Like a small business that keeps records of all vendors, expenditures, deductions and receipts, you too need a master list of all debts. Even if it is nothing more than an excel spreadsheet that you update every week or so, keep track of every outstanding bill you owe. Make a separate category for bills that are recurring on a monthly basis. Again, this strategy is made much easier by using software like Quick Books, but any system is better than no system. For the chronically disorganized, even a special folder where all bills are kept would be a start. There is no way to get out of debt, unless you have a clear picture of how deep you are in the first place. Get organized.

Successful small business owners think outside the box

Even if only for a moment, break free from the “salary mentality.” Your income does not necessarily need to be finite based on a raise or promotion. Most successful entrepreneurs are creative, they’ve invented ways to make money, either on the side, or as the sole focus of their career. You can do the same, and don’t think you need a multi-million dollar idea to participate. Brainstorm with friends or family, where does your expertise lie? How can you monetize your talents? Even something as simple as selling baked goods to local businesses, creating gift baskets for events, tutoring local students, or making special T-shirts with a catchy slogan can begin to generate income you can use to pay down your debts.

Successful businesses have a long term time horizon

You know all the cliches: Rome wasn’t built in a day, patience is a virtue etc. But consider this, most startup business ventures don’t allow stock options to vest for four years or more! Business owners understand that the first years of a new enterprise are often the most difficult and they are prepared to invest time and money in order to build something sustainable. The goal is to put a plan in place that you can stick with, and that will produce results, for years to come. Forget the scams, forget the get rich quick stuff, get organized, get data and get going, one step at a time.

Successful businesses use bankruptcy as a reset button

At the dinner table, bankruptcy is taboo, but in the board room, it is a sophisticated move that businesses use to start over stronger than before. While bankruptcy is not a process to be entered into lightly, it must be considered as an option for a struggling consumer just as it is for a struggling business. Regardless of level of organization, time horizon, reduction in overhead or side profits from an entrepreneurial business, some consumers are hopelessly saddled with debt and have no other way out than bankruptcy. The point here is that bankruptcy cannot be foreclosed as an option, and must be evaluated, even as you seek to avoid it.

Getting Out of Debt Isn’t Easy, But It Is Possible

Getting out of debt isn’t easy and there will never be a shortage of voices telling you the “best” way to succeed. Regardless of which path you decide to take, incorporating some of sophistication of a successful business into your personal finance routine can only help in the long run.

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