#is still like. The Big Thing. and yeah theres still weird cultural junk that insists you arent a man if youre too soft | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

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Reading books about psychology and society and politics and such is fun because it really does hammer in that we have been having the exact same arguments for centuries, just wearing slightly different hats and different standards of what is or is not "normal" or "okay" to say

#we speak #reading a book on masculine identity from the year 1991. we really have been doing this for decades huh #“it is depressing to realize that nearly 40 years after the kinsey report attitudes on homosexuality have remained so hostile”#like yeah buddy we feel that way too #“i feel like some of these men are engaging in relationships because they feel the need for a more emotional connection”#“but they do not feel comfortable seeking that out from companions they do not share a romantic connection with”#yeah buddy youre feeling the effects of amatonormativity. that term hasnt been coined for you yet but youll enjoy it probably #its been 30 years and “men bottle up their emotions so that they can feel more masculine and less vulnerable”#is still like. The Big Thing. and yeah theres still weird cultural junk that insists you arent a man if youre too soft #this particular book takes the stance that masculinity is constructed and femininity is a more “default” state #but we think its less that and more like. both of these concepts of genders are constructed.#neither is necessarily more “natural” than the other but both come with baggage that will fuck with you one way or the other #something we've observed a lot is like. whether you conform or not the overarching gendered-ness of things #still causes trauma to people just by like. virtue of existing. virtue of telling people what the “right” way to be is #in a field that is primarily like. personality. feeling. what you enjoy doing or presenting like.#making categories for things that don't necessarily need to be categorized #we dunno. we think that if the guy who wrote this book didnt die in 2017 we would probably get along pretty well with him #he seems like a chill dude

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