#is it better to have positive but distant relationships or risk upheaval by haing any one of a number of genuine unpleasant conversations

[gideonisms]

The dichotomy between believing it's a good thing to learn to get along well with others even if it sometimes means compromise vs knowing that if you are always working out how to do so and deciding how much you can get out of every compromise it has measurable consequences on your mental health and your ability to have close relationships at all