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Make Your Relationship a Blessing: Choose Halal Love Over Haram

If you are dating someone, then please consider getting married as soon as possible. Engaging in haram relationships is not blessed at all. They are prohibited for a reason, and indulging in them, even if you wake each other up for Fajr, does not make them any more rewardable. If you truly love someone, you would be aware of the afterlife and the consequences of dying while in a haram relationship without seeking repentance. Not only would you suffer, but you would also drag your "loved one" down with you in severe punishment. If you truly love someone, you wouldn't want that, would you? Why not make it a blessing? If this person is such a blessing in your life, then why not get married and receive blessings from Allāh instead of wasting years of time, effort, and patience behind someone who might even change their mind or easily leave because haram relationships offer no protection, commitment, or blessing from Allāh. Please take this as advice from me. Please turn your haram relationship into a halal one before it's too late. Don't disappoint Allāh if you don't want to lose your loved one. Perform Istikhara, make duā, and proceed.

Sincerely wrappedinamystery x

[anotheraldin]

Assalamu Alaykum, I hope you’re well, could I please, please ask for your advice on something?

The guy I wanted to marry gave up after his father disapproved of me due to cultural reasons. It’s been two months and he hasn’t reached out after his father ended things between our families while we were on the verge of finalising things between families and getting engaged. To say that I’m heartbroken is an understatement. We were in a haram relationship previously (only chatting and online, nothing else) and I did realise my mistake, repented, cut off contact with him, asked him to repent too and then genuinely strived to make things halal, made a lot of duas, istikhara, etc. I stuck by him through thick and thin for three years, did everything in my power and beyond, fought my family and everyone else for him but he let me go just like that. I try to justify his behaviour in an attempt to ease my pain, and sometimes think his heavily cultured upbringing and his deep sense of blind obedience and respect towards his parents was the reason why he did what he did but my family disagrees.

They tell me that he was never all in from the beginning and he constantly talked about things not working out between us even to them because he was okay with either outcome. I was always the one making all the compromises and sacrifices in order to marry him and he always made me do most of the work (in the relationship, between our families) too.

Despite all of this, I guess I still want to hear it from a man’s perspective, could you please tell me that if a man truly, genuinely and sincerely claims to love a woman, is it true that even if he struggles or doesn’t know how, he would do everything in his power but never give up on her and never let her go? If he truly loves her but believes he is not worthy of her or deserve her, would he still find a way to become better or he’d be okay with seeing her marry another man?

He was so good with his words and made so many promises to me and my family and he never followed through but it has really, really messed up with my head and I really don’t know what to believe. He promised to stick by me and fight for me. He even promised he would force his parents and I know being their only son, they would have yielded if he did but him not reaching out means only thing and that he didn’t force him much like he claimed he would.

He’s on a trip, travelling and having the time of his life while I struggle to get through every day and feel like someone literally ripped my heart out. I don’t even know if I’ll ever be able to love someone and ever get married. I struggle so much with trusting the Qadr of Allah. I’ve always trusted Allah no matter what I gained or lost. This is the first time I genuinely begged and begged Allah for something but I still didn’t get it. I sometimes wish I didn’t pray istikhara because I just feel like it would have been better marrying him and being with him for a short while and having that time with him as his wife than never having married him at all.

I know I’m the reason I am in this mess and I deserve this pain because I disobeyed Allah and got involved in something haram and I take full responsibility for it. But I just really need to hear it from a man’s perspective. Sorry about this long paragraph, I would really appreciate your response though. Thank you so much. Jazak Allahu khayran.

Wa 'Alaikum As-Salaam!

First, I'd say that I don't think you did anything that was sinful from your description of it tbh. The issue of free-mixing and holding conversations with the opposite gender isn't as simple as "it's forbidden" as people make it out to be honest, so don't feel as if this is some punishment. Especially after it sounds like you tried to do whatever you could to ensure Allah places a blessing between you two.

It sucks and it's not a pleasant thing to go through. Heartaches are usually like that, but they pass in time. It is true that things like this mess with your trust going forward but it's something you'll be able to discern a bit better the next go around as well so while the present isn't enjoyable, it will provide you with many lessons learned going forward at least.

As far as your question, I will say that most men, if they're honest and of good character, will definitely go all out for love if that is what is truly felt.

From what you're describing of his reaction afterwards and the amount of time that's passed, it sounds like he was putting doubts into your heart and looking for a way out, but wasn't willing to address the emotional baggage that comes with moving on and instead just threw it all on you to handle.

Sadly, that's a thing that many people do when they are over a relationship, talking stage or whatever, and wish to move on but don't address it before doing so. You're left with more questions than answers, and the doubts that are present after it aren't an enjoyable thing to maneuver through.

But in time, it'll improve and the thoughts will become less and less until they're passed. I'd say that if he seems to be living the life on social media and hasn't contacted you in any way, then just disconnect so the reminders aren't there, make du'a that Allah places peace in your heart and replaces what you lost with something better anon.

May Allah make it easy for you and may He place a rightful and ideal spouse in your life for you anon. You sound like a good person with a lot of heart and I hope you continue to be that way.

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1The Meaning of Istikhara

1The Meaning of Istikhara

The word Istikharah is derived from the root khayr. In its origins, the Arabic word khayr meant “everything that is excellent.” Khayr is a broad term that encompasses all that is excellent. Istikharah means “to seek the good”. ” This is the definition of istikharah. So, Istikhara literally means “to seek the excellent,” and when you recite the Istikhara dua, you are asking Allah (SWT) for the…

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Salam. So the sticky situation I’m in is…

I currently have two guys who want to come ask for my hand that I was talking to at the same time. One guy I was talking to longer than the other and I started to like him but the things we were doing were totally haram but I was sticking around because I really wanted it to work between us but then about 2 weeks later my friend tells me about a guy that wants to get married and I said yea let me give it a shot because I’m looking to get married as well. Long story short the new guy is a great guy I’ve never met someone so respectful. He doesn’t even want to text without our parents meeting so they met today and my family loves his family. The other guy has done stuff in the past and he has a lot of female friends and does a lot of things I’m not okay with but he always makes excuses for them. He recently told his mom and friends about me and I like him a lot even tho he has a lot of flaws but we’re so much alike and we get along so well. I feel like the other guy is way too person. I just don’t know what to do. I’ve been praying to Allah to give me a sign who is the one but I don’t feel anything 😔. The last thing I want to do is break these guys hearts or make a fool out of them 💔

Wa 'alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I'm going to be very straightforward in my answer because I feel like that is exactly what you need. I advise you as a sister:

you said it yourself sis, "he has a lot of female friends and does a lot of things I’m not okay with but he always makes excuses for them." If you're not okay with who he is, do you really think the marriage will work out?

He made you do haram things that you were uncomfortable with, you are already changing yourself and not appreciating the person you are sis. Try to find someone you can live comfortably with, you can be your authentic self with. If someone makes you change yourself, let it be for the better, not for worse.

Keep in mind our goal is Allah, and someone who pushes you to haram is not someone you should marry. We should marry the one who makes our dunya and akhirah easier. Also keep in mind, you will be marrying the father of your children, make sure you choose a good role model for them.

To be really honest, the one you were talking to longer, you yourself already know that he isn't the one. Read your ask again, you have written that all over it. Or maybe read it as if someone else sent that ask to you. You are having a hard time accepting it because feelings have factored in now. Whereas the other one, you actually admire his qualities and can see him as a valuable addition to your life.

I keep a litmus test (I read it on a post), ask yourself, "What if my son were to turn out exactly like the man I'm considering to marry?"

Do istikhara my lovely sister, and try to think less with your heart and more with your mind. Meaning, think about what you really want, what are your goals? Does he match up with them? Will he allow you to reach those goals and help you to reach them? Who do you want to be? Will he be an ease to the person you want yourself to be or a hardship? How will add value to your life?

Keep your Allah and then yourself at the center of it all and decide which of the two matches up the most.

The world tells us love is everything but truly love is not enough. You can absolutely love someone and they can be the wrong person for you. You can absolutely love someone even when they pose great harm towards you and don't benefit you. Think with putting your feelings on the side my dear ukhty.

The better you understand yourself, the better choices you can make for yourself.

May Allah make it easy for you and grant you clarity, may He grant you someone who will bring out the best in you, may He grant you a marriage full of joy, may He grant you a love that lasts into Jannah, allahumma ameen. <33

[bintturaab]

Assalamu Alaykum, I been having difficulty making this decision and insha’Allah if you can give me some advice on it that would be great.

What’s your opinion on a sister wanting go to college(online, insha’Allah) but is hesitant due to the fear of not having enough time to seek Islamic knowledge? Also, do you think it’s of any benefit?

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

Okay, so, first of all, I firmly believe that educated believers are definitely an asset to this ummah. There is so much you can do when you possess knowledge/skills in a specialised/various fields. If your intention behind what you're studying is to aid the ummah, whether it's through financial means, dawah or whatever else, then bi idhnillah your education would be counted as ibadah. That's the beauty of our religion; the intention shapes and defines an action.

With that said, whatever field of education one chooses to pursue (after careful deliberation that this will bring benefit), it can't be done in a haram way. Co-ed unis/colleges in a secular/kafir environment contains so much fitnah and haram. Idc how many arguments people bring forward, I've witnessed it myself and I cannot, for the life of me, find any justifications for it. May Allah forgive us and rectify our affairs. However, if it's online, then that's awesome because there's none of the on-campus haram/fitnah involved unless your coursework includes you having to do haram stuff.

So, I think, a sister should definitely go to college online, but think about what subject you're going to study, if you like that subject, if that aligns with your future plans and if that would prove to be beneficial. There are plenty of stuff out there that would be an amazing skill to acquire, but also plenty of stuff out there that is nothing but a waste of time. So I'd suggest, make a pros and cons list, think it over, make istikhara and shura, discuss with trusted people and then decide. I feel like it's very important for women to be educated to survive in this current world, because unfortunately a LOT of Muslim men nowadays are nowhere near what a Muslim man should be, and take advantage of the vulnerabilities of women. But, I also feel that being educated is important as a mother as well, it'll help you raise your child better; oversee their education and homeschool, if necessary.

As for the issue of not having enough time for seeking ilm, I'd say that depends. Online classes can be very hectic, but if you plan out your courses - how many you'll take per semester/term (if you've got that option), and if you divide time and days accordingly, I think it's possible to balance it out and do both. It would also depend on what subject you're studying and how much time you'd have to give outside class time. Time management and course organisation is the key to balance between deen & dunya studies. At least according to me. You can also pursue Islamic education on a university/college level if that's an available option for you.

I hope this helps in some way. May Allah make things easy for you, ameen.

[expoet]

Why do you think it has become so difficult for people to get married? Whats stopping them?

I feel this answer might need an essay of some sort lol but I’ll try to simplify as possible.

In short - Haram has been made easy while Halal has been made difficult.

From an outside perspective, I think one needs to take in account several contributing factors e.g. financial difficulties, racism, culture and several other reasons.

I knew this Somali brother who pursued a Somali sister but her father rejected him as he was from another tribe - this happened a few times and it’s very saddening.

It’s things like this that tests a person patience who may eventually fall into sin, which all stemmed from culture drawbacks.

Another major reason, I think brothers and sisters simply cannot find a safe place to search for “active looking marriage seekers”. I’ve come across many apps that my friends have used in the past but it hasn’t worked out for them. I believe their are certain groups chats I.e from telegram, could that be a solution ?

However, as mentioned in my previous post, Allah is the best of planners. You may come across someone who is 10/10 in your eyes, but Allah has someone whose 100/100 planned for you :)

One who is on the journey to find a spouse, they should ensure their connection with Allah only builds stronger, as they should attribute their odyssey with Dua and Istikhara.

May Allah grant our friends and loved ones Jannatul-Firdaous.

[islam-reflections]

I have a question I’ve been thinking about it might be weird but do you think allah swt would just change his mind about things? For example let’s say me and this guy are having problems and I get signs that everything will be okay and my istikhara prayer was good but then we have problems again would that mean allah changed his mind and doesn’t want us being together anymore? Basically Does Allah swt add things to our future or is everything already written and he doesn’t change a thing

If there’s a haram relationship involved the only sign Allah is giving you is to end it, move on and get closer to Him.

[modestybae]

Salam sis i hope you're fine I just want your advices i know you give most of the time the right advices, so I'm in love with a guy, but I never told him or talk to him you know it's Haram and I always make duas if it's good for both of us I hope we get married but since last year some ikhwa came to ask for my hand and I always refuse cause I'm in love and I can't marry someone and loving someone else and recently a brother asked for my hand and I feel that my dad is ok and he appreciate him

Part2 : and my dad constantly talk about him and wallah I don’t know what to do I have a deep feeling that maybe the guy I love loves me back cause our families know each other they are too close so even if I marry someone else I’ll be always in touch with them I’m so confused I don’t know what to do I prayed salat istikhara for the guy who asked for my had and th more I pray istikhara the more I get attached to the guy I like pray for me sis 💕 I really need your advice take care 💝

Wa alaykum assalam love 🌸

I feel you tbh.

The thing is, what you’re feeling for the guy isn’t love. You can’t love someone without knowing them, and by knowing them I’m not talking about stealing glances at them when they aren’t looking. I mean he-doesn’t-like-to-add-ketchup-on-the-fries-but-has-them-on-the-side, type of knowing them (very specific sorry 😂). So what you’re feeling right now is just infatuation and interest, and you’ve built an image of him which you have fell for, and it can be wayy off from who he really is. I’m not brushing off your feelings, but I just want you to comprehend the fact that who you think he is and who he actually is can be entirely different. 

If I were you, I wouldn’t consider any other guy until I’m 100% sure that I have no feelings for anyone else. It would honestly be unfair to the new guy.

Why don’t you talk to your dad about the guy you like? Or talk to someone that can deliever that message, and if the guy you like is interested a meeting can be organized.

This advice sucks I’m sorry 😭 I’ll be praying for you though inshallahh 💕💕And if there’s anything else I can help with, please let me know.

May Allah grant you the husband who would be best for your dunya and akhirah and may He grant you happiness in both worlds 🌸

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Dua to make someone love you madly

Dua to make someone love you madly

Istikhara is halal or haram Are you in love with someone? Perhaps you have your heart set on a boy or girl and you plan on marrying them. Can I Make Love Istikhara To Get My Love Back But, it is natural for doubts and confusion too often creep in. If that is the case with you, then you need to make sure whether that person is right for you or not and if you are actually going to end up marrying…

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MARRIAGE

BASIC THING

If you're marrying a Muslim, Don't marry those who don't pray since not praying will take you out of fold of Islam that the one who neglects the prayer is a kaafir includes the hadeeth of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): "Between a man and shirk and kufr there stands his neglect of the prayer."

*Muslim Man can marry Jewish and Christian women Also.

MEETING

Majority of scholars say that a man is allowed to look at his fiancée's face and hands, because the face indicates beauty or ugliness, and the hands indicate the slimness or plumpness (literally, 'fertility') of the body.

LOOKING ANYTHING ELSE IS SINFUL(HAIR,NECK,FEET)

If the father of girl is present you can also ask Questions to each other.

From Abu Hurayrah:

"I was with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when a man came and told him that he had married a woman of the Ansaar. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to him, 'Have you seen her?' He said, 'No." He said, Go and look at her, for there is something in the eyes of the Ansaar."

(Reported by Muslim, no. 1424; and by al-Daaraqutni, 3/253 (34)

APPROVAL OF MARRAIGE

Girls Father's Permission is mandatory

Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him):

There should be no nikaah (marriage contract) except with a wali (guardian).

Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1101

If girl father's say no, the girl can't marry the person she wants.

if she runs away from home and marries the marriage will not be valid and she will be committing Zina.

Men Don't need Parents permission they can do as they like.

IMMITATING NON MUSLIM

In Islam Engagement is permissible, Exchanging rings is not permissible.

Ibn Umar reported:

The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever imitates a people is one of them."

Source: Sunan Abi Dāwūd 4031

Wearing dresses like Christians for engagement and other is not permissible.

ACTS OF NON MUSLIM Mehendi,sangeet, haldi

All this is not part of Islam

Anyone who does this thinking it's blessing and beneficial will be out of fold of Islam

The most evil matters are those that are newly invented, for every newly invented matter is an innovation (Bid'ah). Every innovation is misguidance, and every misguidance is in the Hellfire."

Source: Sunan al-Nasā'ī 1578

MAHR

Giving Mahr is obligatory

(interpretation of the meaning): "And give to the women (whom you marry) their mahr (obligatory bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart...” [al-Nisaa' 4:4]

You can gave a hadith complete volume or Tafsir of Quran as mahr since it will be useful for both of you after Marraige in sha Allah

Uqbah ibn 'Amir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, "The best marriage is one that is easiest."

In another narration, the Prophet said, "The best dowry is one that is easiest."

Source: Şahih Ibn Hibban 4163

SIMPLE NIQAH

Simple Marraige is best way

Doing unnecessary innovation festival and organize non mehram free mix will only bring Major Sin.

Just A Girls Father and 2 male witness are Required for marraige.

Those Call Non mehram and do innovation and keep music and dance the total number of sins done by All will be accounted to the person who organized the program

"Whoever calls to misguidance will have sin upon him similar to those who follow him, without detracting from their sins at all."

Source: Şahih Muslim 2674

RELATIONSHIP BEFORE MARRIAGE

Haram relationship is not permissible before marriage.

If 2 people love each other they can tell their parents and get married.

Jabir ibn Abdullah reported:

The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, "Whoever has faith in Allah and the Last Day, let him not be alone with an unrelated women without her guardian.

Verily, the third of them is Satan."

Source: Musnad Ahmad 14241

CONCLUSION

There are many more Things which can't be discussed.

Don't forget to Pray Istikhara prayer after choosing someone to marry.

May Allah grant Us Pious Spouse Ameen.

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As salamu'aleykum wa rahmatulilahi wa barakatuh

I used to be in a Haram relationship but then I made an overall tawbah and started to practice the wa iLlahi-l-hamd. Allah saved me!

But I often think about that person. Actually I was in love with, but we were just friend. Fact is I felt like I touched the soul of that person. How to be sincere in repentance even though I found our time together special ? What Can make me hate those Times ?

Wa 'alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

alhumdulilah, I am happy to hear you made tawbah and rectified your affairs, may Allah keep you steadfast, ameen.

Is there a way for the both of you to get married?

Getting married to this person seems to be best if she was someone who is allowed for you to be married to, do istikhara.

You asked for forgiveness and changed your ways, in sha Allah your tawabah was sincere. May Allah accept from you, ameen. As for remembering the times you had together, you don't have to hate it to regret it. Moving on takes time. Make dhikr of Allah every time the thoughts come to you, you will find peace, tawakkul, and purpose; and make dua for Allah to make it easy for you. It's a process, be patient with yourself.

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Sanasto

ADHAN/ATHAN: Muslimien rukouskutsu

ABAYA: Täyspitkä peittävä väljä mekko, joka peittää kehon käsiä ja päätä lukuunottamatta

AGIDAH:Elämänkäsitys

AKHI: Veli

AKHIRAH: Kuoleman jälkeinen elämä

ALLAH:Jumala, yksi ja ainoa olemassa oleva luoja. Universumi ja kaikki mikä on olemassa, on Allahin tekemää.

ALHAMDULILLAH:Kiitos ja ylistys Jumalalle (lausutaan lopetettaessa tekoa kuten syömisen jälkeen tai esim.kun muslimi pelastuu jostakin tilanteesta eikä käynyt kuinkaan hän voi sanoa Alhamdulillah)

AL-AMIRA: Yksi- tai kaksiosainen tuubimainen hijab, joka vedetään pään yli ja laskeutuu rintakehän tasolle. Kaksiosaisessa on alla pienempi osa, jonka päälle laitetaan pidempi osa.

ANSARIT: Medinan alkuperäisiä asukkaita, jotka kääntyivät/palasivat islamiin ja pyysivät Profeettaa (rauha hänen sielulleen) muuttamaan luokseen asumaan

AWRAT: Monikko sanasta awrah. Ihmiskehon osat, joita ei tule paljastaa muille (aviopuolisot pois lukien)

AYA:Koraanin jae

BARZAKH: Välielämä maanpäällisen elämän jälkeen

BIDAH: Innovaatio,ihmisten keksimä tai uudistama asia islamissa,teko, josta ei ole todisteita koraanissa tai sunnassa.

BILAL: Alunperin Umaiyah bin Khalafin orja, joka kääntyi muslimiksi vastoin isäntänsä tahtoa. Hänen isäntänsä kidutti häntä julmasti, mutta Bilal ei kadottanut uskoaan. Myöhemmin hänestä tuli islamin ensimmäinen rukoukseen kutsuja, muadhdhin, joka kuulutta adhanin.

BISMILLAH: Allahin nimeen. Lausutaan yleensä aloittaessa jotakin.

BURKA/BURKHA: Vartalon kokonaan peittävä yhtenäinen musliminaisen asu, jossa on kasvoverkko josta käyttäjä näkee läpi. Pääosa on muotoonommeltu ja myssymäinen. Käytössä yleisemmin Afghanistanissa ja Pakistanissa. Yleisimmin vaaleansininen. Syöminen tai juominen ei onnistu tämän kanssa, toisin kuin niqabissa se sujuu.

BURKINI:  Musliminaisten käyttämä koko vartalon peittävä uimapuku. Burkini on uimapuku, joka peittää koko vartalon lukuun ottamatta kasvoja, käsiä ja jalkoja

DAWAH: Kutsumista islamiin

DEEN: uskonto

DHIKR: Allahin muisteleminen

DUA: Pyyntörukous, jota voi tehdä vapaasti ilman rituaaleja

DUNYA: Maallinen elämä

EID:  Tarkoittaa onnen paluuta tai juhlailoa.Eid-ul-Fitr on ramadankuukauden päätösjuhla ja Eid-ul-adha hajj:n päättymisjuhla. Muslimit toivottavat Eidinä toisilleen "eid Mubarak"=

FARD: Pakollinen teko islamissa

FATWA: Pätevän lainoppineen mielipide Islamin soveltamisesta

FIDYAH: Uskonnon mukainen lahjoitus, henkilölle joka ei ole voinut paastota ramadanin aikana

FIQH: Islamilaisen lain tulkinta

FITNA:  Koettelemus tai houkutus. Esimerkkinä kaunis tai komea ihminen on fitnaa, ja jos hän ei ole mahram on vältettävä katsomasta häntä, jotta hän ei aiheuttaisi koettelemusta tai houkutusta. Fitnaa voi olla myös kaikissa niissä asioissa, joilla Allah on siunannut fitnan kohdetta.

FITRAH: Ihmisen Jumalalta alunperin saama puhdas olemus.

GABRIEL: Arkkienkeli, joka välitti Allahilta Koraanina tunnetut ilmoitukset Profeetalle (SAAS).

GHUSL:Tarkoittaa kokokylpyä puhtaassa vedessä. Veden on kasteltava koko keho ja hiuspohja. On sunna aloittaa oikeasta puolesta. Sen jälkeen tehdään rukouspesu (Wudu) ennen kylpemisen lopettamista. Puhdistautumiskylpy on tarpeen, kun halutaan kääntyä islamiin, kuukautisten jälkeen ja seksuaalisen kanssakäymisen jälkeen.

HADITH: perimätieto,(todennettu) kuvaus siitä miten Profeetta (rauha hänen sielulleen) toimi, mitä hän sanoi ja ajatteli.

HAJJ: Pyhiinvaellus Mekkaan

HALAL: Sallittu käyttää tai kuluttaa islamin mukaan

HALAQA: Uskonnollinen kokoontuminen

HARAM: Kielletty islamin mukaan, josta muslimin on pysyttävä kaukana

HASAN: Ilmaisu kirjaimellisesti tarkoittaa ”hyvää”. Hadithissa, jossa on alusta loppuun jatkuva kertojien ketju, jonka kertojat ovat luotettavia ihmisiä, joilla on tarkka muisti ja muistiinpanot (kuitenkin vähemmän kuin Sahih hadithissa). Kaikki kertojat ovat puhtaita poikkeavuuksista tai muista raskauttavista huomautuksista

HASANAT: Allahin antama palkkio muslimille

HAYA: Häveliäisyys, ujous, kainous

HIJAB:Musliminaisen käyttämä huivi, asu

HIKMAH: Viisaus, islamin filosofia

IDDAH: Musliminaisen odotusaika avioeron tai aviomiehen kuoleman jälkeen

IFTAR: Paaston rikkominen ramadanina, yleisemmin tarkoitetaan ateriaa joka syödään Maghrib rukouksen jälkeen.

IQAMA: Toinen rukouskutsu, joka tehdään kun rukous on alkamassa

IMAAMI: Rukousta johtava henkilö.Käytetään myös moskeijaa ylläpitävästä muslimimiehestä.

IMAN: Usko islamissa, henkilö jolla on vahva Iman on vahva usko

INSHALLAH:Jos Jumala tahtoo (muslimi sanoo kun aikoo tehdä jotakin myöhemmin, hän ei tiedä mitkä on Allahin suunnitelmat. Ei tarkoita samaa kuin ehkä, koska muslimin on pyrittävä pitämään kiinni lupauksistaan)

ISTIGFAR: Allahin anteeksiannon pyytäminen

ISTIKHARA: Rituaalinen rukous kun pyydetään Allahin johdatusta tärkeissä elämänvalinnoissa.

JAHANNAM: Helvetti

JAMA’A: Kokoontuminen, yhteisö

JANNAH: Paratiisi

JANNATUL FIRDAUS: Paratiisin korkein taso

JAZAKALLAHU KHAIRAN: Allah palkitkoon sinut hyvällä (kun muslimi kiittää miespuolista muslimia)

JAZAKILLAHU KHAIRAN: Allah palkitkoon sinut hyvällä (kun muslimi kiittää naispuolista muslimia)

JIHAD: Uskonnon vuoksi kilvoitteleminen ensisijaisesti itsensä kanssa. Jihad on niitä asioita islamissa, jotka ei ole meille henk.koht.mieluisia, mutta muslimin on niitä tehtävä. Musliminaisen jihad voi olla luopuminen jostain islamissa kielletystä asiasta tai huivin käytön aloittaminen.

JILBAB: Yksi- tai kaksiosainen musliminaisen koko vartalon peittävä vaate päästä nilkkoihin, joka jättää kasvot, kädet ja jalat nilkoista alaspäin paljaiksi. Yleinen kiinnitystapa on pääosassa olevat nauhat, joilla sidotaan kiinni niskaan.

JINN/JINNI: Henkiolento

KAABA = kuutionmuotoinen rakennus Mekassa. Kaaban ympärillä on moskeija nimeltä Masjid Al-Haram.

KIBR: Ylpeys, ylimielisyys

KHIMAR: Musliminaisen putkimainen väljä vaate joka vedetään pään yli ja ulottuu vyötäröstä lantiolle jättäen kasvot näkyviin. Alla käytetään usein alushuivia, joka on usein tuubimallinen tai niskaansidottava. Käytetään abayan kanssa.

KHUTBAH: Islamilainen luento

KUFI: Muslimimiesten käyttämä korvien yläpuolelle jäävä neulottu päähine.

MAHRAM: Miespuolinen henkilö jonka kanssa avioliitto on kielletty. Naisen aviomies tai muslimimies joka on islamin mukaan sallittua seuraa.

MASHALLAH:Kiitos ja ylistys Jumalalle, kun ihaillaan jotakin (kaikki tulee Allahilta ja näin lausumalla ei esimerkiksi mahdollisen katseen kohde joudu pahan silmän kohteeksi)

MAKRUH: Vältettävä islamissa

MISWAK/SIWAK:  Salvadora persica -puun (tunnetaan nimellä arak Arabiassa) juurista tai oksista tehty hampaidenpuhdistustikku.

MUBAH: Neutraali islamissa

MUFTI: islamin lainoppinut ja pätevä antamaan fatwan

MUSHAF: Arabiankielinen kopio Koraanista

MUSLIMAH: Musliminainen

MU`MIN/MU`MINA: Vahvasti uskovainen mies/vahvasti uskovainen nainen

MUNTAQABAH/MUNAQQABAH/MONAQABAH: Niqabia käyttävä musliminainen

MUSTAHABB: Suositeltava islamissa

MUWAHID/MUWAUHIDDUN: Yksijumalaisuuden kannattaja/salafi

NAFS: oma kyltymättömyys, ego

NAJIS: Likainen, epäpuhdas (esim. virtsa). Lika tulee puhdistaa vartalosta, vaatteista ja rukouspaikasta

NASIIHAH: Vilpitön neuvo ja neuvonanto

NIQAB: Musliminaisen vaate, joka peittää kasvot tai niiden lisäksi myös koko pään

NIYA/NIYYAH: sydämessä oleva aikomus tehdä asia Allahin vuoksi

QADAR: Kohtalo jonka Allah on määrännyt

QIBLA:Suunta, johon päin muslimin tulee suorittaa rukouksensa. Myös vainajan kasvot sekä teurastettava eläin asetetaan qiblan suuntaisesti.

RAA: RadiAllahu anha, käytetään Profeetan (rauha hänen sielulleen) naispuolisista kumppaneista. Suomeksi tarkoittaa että Allah olkoon häneen tyytyväinen.

RA: RadiAllah Anhu eli "Allah olkoon häneen tyytyväinen". Käytetään yleensä Profeetan (rauha hänen sielulleen) miespuolisista kumppaneista.

RIBA: Korko (muslimilta kielletty)

RUQYAH/RUQIA: Pahojen henkien karkoittamista ulos riivatusta henkilöstä

RUKU’: Kumartuminen rukouksessa, selkä suorana 90 asteessa, kädet polvien päällä

SAAS/SAWS:Lause lyhenne, jota käytetään aina mainittaessa profeetta Muhammedin nimi, pyytäen hänelle rauhaa ja Allahin siunausta (sall'Allahu alaihi wa sallam)

SABR: Kärsivällisyys

SADAQA: Vapaaehtoinen almu. Hyväntekeväisyys. Voidaan antaa rahana, ruokana jne. Sadaqaa on myös auttaminen Allahin vuoksi, ystävällinen sana ja hymy on sadaqaa.

SAHABI (mon. Sahaba): Profeetan (rauha hänen sielulleen) seuralaiset, jotka viettivät aikaa hänen seurassaan.

SAHIH: Kirjaimellisesti tarkka ja virheetön. Hadiith-tieteessä se viittaa hadithiin, jossa on jatkuva kertojien ketju (jälkimmäinen kertoja tuntee aina edellisen kertojan), jossa jokainen kertoja tunnetaan oikeudenmukaisena ja hyvämuistisena.

SHAHADA: uskontunnutus islamissa

SALAF AS-SAALIH: Hurskaat edeltäjät. Termi viittaa kolmeen varhaiseenmuslimisukupolveen, eli Profeetan (saws) seuralaisiin, heidänoppilaisiinsa ja näiden oppilaisiin. 

SALAH/SALAT: Rukous

SALAM ALAIKUM WA RAHMATULLAAHI WA BARAKATUH: Muslimien käyttämä toivotus, joka tarkoittaa "Olkoon rauha, Allahin armo ja siunaus kanssasi". (tähän vastataan takaisin: Wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakatuh)

SAUM: Paasto

SHEIKKI: Heimopäällikkö, arvostettu tai Islamin oppinut henkilö.

SHIRK: Suuri synti islamissa, shirk tarkoittaa epäuskon tekoa jossa palvotaan jotakin muuta Jumalan lisäksi. (Muslimin kuuluu palvoa vain ainoastaan Allahia.)

SIRWAL: Muslimien käyttämät leveälahkeiset housut, joissa haaraosa on alhaalla.

SUJUUD: Polvistuminen maahan rukouksessa, niin että otsa, nenä, jakämmenet osuvat maahan, varpaat osoittaen kohti Qiblaa, kantapäät yhdistettyinä

SUNNAH:Profeetta Muhammadin (rauha hänelle) perimätieto, joka koostuu hänen lausumistaan, teoistaan ja ratkaisuistaan ja jonka mukaan muslimit toimivat. Sunna on toinen islamin tärkeimmistä lähteistä.

SUTRA: Rukoilevan henkilön edessä oleva esine, jonka etäisyydelle, korkeudelle ja tarpeellisuudelle on omat määritykset.

SUURA: Koraanin luku.

SWT: Lyhenne sanasta Subhanahu wa Taʿālā joka tarkoittaa; Kunnioitettu ja Ylistetty olkoon Jumala. Käytetään Allahista puhuttaessa.

TAFSIR: Koraanin suurien selitystä historiallisesti ja kielellisesti

TAKBIR: kun sanotaan Allahu Akbar (=Allah on suurin)

TAQWA: Hurskaus, itsensä suojelu Allahin vihalta tekemällä asioita,joita Hän on käskenyt ja pysymällä poissa asioista, jotka Hän onkieltänyt. Koraanin jakeet 2:2,49:16,8:29, 65:2-4 ja 3:76 kuvailee tätä hyvin.

TAWHID: Jumalan ykseys

TAWBA:katumus Allahille puhtaasti suoraan sydämestä vakaasti katuen ja aikoen muuttaa tapansa.

THOBE: Muslimimiehen pitkä kaapu

UKHTI: Sisko

UMM: Äiti. Esimerkiksi umm Khadija tarkoittaa Khadijan äitiä

UMMA: Muslimiyhteisö, kaikki muslimit yhdessä

UMRA: Pieni pyhiinvaellus, joka tehdään muulloin kuin hajjin aikana

WAIYAKI/WAIYAK: Samoin sinulle, jos muslimi on sanonut Jazakallahu-/jazakillahu khairan. Waiyaaki vastattaessa naiselle, waiyaak vastattaessa miehelle. WAIYAAKUM: Samoin teille, käytetään useammalle kuin yhdelle vastattaessa.

WALI: Musliminaisen laillinen huoltaja joka on muslimimies. Musliminaisen edustaja avioliittoa sovittaessa.

WALIMAH: Hääjuhla

WUDU/WUDHU:Pesu ennen rukoilemista on määrätty Koraanissa ja se on eräänlainen symbolinen puhdistautuminen ennen Allahin eteen astumista.

ZAKAT: Almu, raha-, vaate- tai ruokalahjoitus.

ZAMZAM:Vesilähde, jonka enkeli Gabriel osoitti Haagarille, Ismaelin äidille, kun tämä etsi vettä janoiselle Ismaelille.

ZINA: Aviorikos, haureus, islamissa kielletty intiimi suhde aviottoman parin välillä

Sanakirjan koonnut: S.L, tämän sivuston pitäjä.

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Istikhara

A step by step guide to have a direct link with Allah (SWT).

This life is a combination of constant trials and the choices we end up making. Often, we are faced with life-changing decisions where we find ourselves unsure and uncertain of which choices would prove to be beneficial for us. The truth is, man, can never be truly certain about what will turn out to be better for him – only Allah (SWT) possesses that quality. It is only Him who is All-Seeing and All-Knowing and it is only Allah (SWT) who knows what is better for us, not only in this world but in the Hereafter as well. So why do we delude ourselves into thinking that we can achieve success or happiness in our affairs in this world or the next, without Allah’s (SWT) guidance? We cannot.

Hence, Allah (SWT) has equipped humanity with a special tool of guidance, which serves as a direct link between man and Allah (SWT): the Salat al-Istikhara. The word istikhara literally means to ask Allah (SWT) for guidance when it comes to making a decision regarding something. In other words, it means to seek Allah’s (SWT) guidance in making the ‘right’ and more beneficial decision by means of prayer. The Holy Prophet (PBUH) used to encourage all his companions to offer Salat al-Istikhara for all their decisions – no matter how big or small those decisions were. The purpose of the prayer is to fully surrender to Allah’s (SWT) will and command and trust Him to lead you to what is better for you.

Here is a step by step guide on how to perform the istikhara prayer:

When do you pray Istikhara?

If you find yourself at a crossroad and you do not know what is the ‘right’ choice or what is the ‘better’ decision to make, you offer the prayer of istikhara. However, it is only applicable for a decision that is related to something that is permissible. Deliberating on things, which are sinful or haram in nature renders the istikhara prayer invalid. For example, if you have two job offers and you do not know which one you should go for, you should perform istikhara in order to come to the right decision. The individual seeking Allah’s (SWT) help in making a certain decision must have good intent and sincerity in his heart.

However it is not necessary that you only do istikhara for decisions over which you have a dilemma, you can also do istikhara for any decision you are about to make no matter how big or small it is.

How do you offer Salat al-Istikhara?

Once you have made the intention of offering istikhara, you must offer two rakahs of prayer after performing your obligatory prayers (any obligatory prayer) and upon offering the two rakahs, recite the following dua that has been provided to us by the Holy Prophet (PBUH) in the following hadith:

“The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) used to teach his companions to make istikhara in all matters, just as he used to teach them Surahs from the Quran. He said: ‘If anyone of you is deliberating about a decision he has to make, then let him pray two rak’ahs of non-obligatory prayer, then say:

“Allaahumma inni astakheeruka bi ‘ilmika wa astaqdiruka bi qudratika wa as’aluka min fadlika, fa innaka taqdiru wa laa aqdir, wa ta’lamu wa laa a’lam, wa anta ‘allaam al-ghuyoob. Allaahumma fa in kunta ta’lamu haadha’l-amra (then the matter should be mentioned by name) khayran li fi ‘aajil amri wa aajilihi (or: fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa ‘aaqibati amri) faqdurhu li wa yassirhu li thumma baarik li fihi. Allaahumma wa in kunta ta’lamu annahu sharrun li fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa ‘aaqibati amri (or: fi ‘aajili amri wa aajilihi) fasrifni ‘anhu [wasrafhu ‘anni] waqdur li al-khayr haythu kaana thumma radini bihi”

(O Allah, I seek Your guidance [in making a choice] by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power, I have none. And You know, I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things. O Allah, if in Your knowledge, this matter (then it should be mentioned by name) is good for me both in this world and in the Hereafter (or: in my religion, my livelihood, and my affairs), then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge it is bad for me and for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs (or: for me both in this world and the next), then turn me away from it, [and turn it away from me], and ordain for me the good wherever it may be and make me pleased with it).” (Bukhari, 1166)

After offering Salat al-istikhara, surrender to the Will of the Almighty with your whole heart and put your trust in His infinite Wisdom and guidance. It is important to note that offering istikhara does not necessarily mean that the answer will come to you in the form of dreams or visions. In fact, Allah (SWT) embeds the answer in the heart of the believer and guides the course of action the believer takes from then on. Once you pray istikhara and you leave your affairs, and their possible outcomes, in the hands of Allah (SWT), you will feel yourself being inclined towards what is better for you – the answer resides in the natural direction that you start taking post istikhara, you must trust it. Allah (SWT) unfolds events in a certain way that automatically lead to the outcome that is beneficial for you in not only this world but the Hereafter as well.

Moreover, you must also learn to exercise patience. You cannot expect the answer to just drop in your lap from the sky the very next day. Allah (SWT) will present you with the right direction and answer when He feels you are ready to receive it and when the time is right for you. Until then, you must follow your gut and keep striving towards what you want to achieve. Keep making dua and have tawakkal – Allah (SWT) will never let you down and inshaAllah the decision you make after the istikhara will be the better decision for you.

If you have surrendered to the Will of Allah (SWT) and you trust Him to guide you to what is best for you, then you have nothing to worry about.

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Part 3. A two months before ramadan we stopped talking to each other to get closer to Allah. We started talking two after Eid finished. Ever since things have been a little awkward between us. He knows how much I want to get married. All our friends are getting married, many of our friends are mutual and I feel like im the only one thats waiting. im scared that im gonna be waiting and then he decides he doesnt want to marry me anymore. What do you think is the best thing to do right?

Honestly it doesn't sound like he's serious. Just because he isnt fully financially ready doesn't mean he can't take the steps to get things moving. Like he could go to your family, present a five year plan, and y'all could talk about marriage. If he isn't ready to get married then why wait? If he's not ready and you are then why wait? You are ready, your parents seem like they are all for you getting married so you need to ask yourself if this brother is worth the wait..The longer y'all continue to talk to easier it becomes to fall into haram. I think you need to make istikhara and think about if you're wasting your time waiting.

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Assalam Alaykum, I need advice I’m regards to a relationship.. I am in love with a man and I have been for the last year , he tells me we’ll get married when he gets a suitable job and after this and after that.. He tells me he loves me as well, I really truly love him but he’s asking me to wait about another two years for him.. I would wait but this relationship is haraam both him and I know that but he says it’ll be alright since we’re going to get married in the end.. what do i do ?

Walaikom assalam wa rahmahtullahi wa barakatuhu my dear sister,

I don’t know the full story of this man and his character but I can tell you one thing with certainty - a haram relationship will not benefit you in any way.

First, are both your parents involved? If he wants a long engagement because he wants to be stable financially, okayyyy, but then include both parents!? Parents or family members should always be involved, otherwise - what is his intent?

Also, if it’s haram because you’re doing something physical, then why would he need to marry you? I know this sounds harsh and I hate to make quick judgments about people but there are many men who think like this and manipulate women into believing they will come around eventually. Does he show guilt or remorse for anything haram? Do you really want that type of person as your husband and father of your future children inshAllah.

Love isn’t enough sometimes my dear and I know that sucks to hear and process but that’s the clear reality. And, if he really loves you with pure love for the sake of Allah ﷻ and to only bring you the best - he’s going to 1) talk to your family 2) work on not doing anything haram & 3) push for an earlier marriage (whether that means a long engagement with nikah or living a bit frugally for the first years while he gets a better job).

Don’t accept anything less for yourself. You may love him, but that cannot push past everything you both will go through in life - a relationship in Islam will.

You know in your heart this relationship isn’t working as is and needs some change, otherwise you wouldn’t be seeking advice. That’s a mercy from Allah ﷻ that He is guiding you towards something better - away from any haram.

I hope this helps inshAllah and you’re able to make a clear decision for the sake of Allah ﷻ about what you need to do. Definitely make istikhara ❤️

Lastly, you’re not alone. Many girls go through this and get past these situations onto something better or make these situations turn into something halal. You can do it too, trust Allah ﷻ and follow His guidance and commands 💜