#intp emotions

[earthling-wolf]

Ti Platonism

Ti is a function that defines an object by its essential nature (Ji) while experiencing the object as having an inanimate (T) character. Objects are registered platonically, thus triggering an impersonal relationship to that object's character, causing it to be understood from a universal, general, and removed place. This occurs even if the objects are technically alive. In this case, the entities are registered by their universal and general properties as instances of timeless human forms rather than as specific living essences.

Search for Universal Axioms

While it might be said that all types seek a truth of a sort, the quest for truth has a particular meaning for the Ti user. They are not satisfied with acquiring information, and indeed, they generally avoid information but are instead drawn to eternally narrow their search down to what they believe is the core of a thing - beyond the senses and the confines of space or time. They will aim to eliminate as much as is unnecessary until only the essence remains. To them, truth means landing upon some elusive and singular convergent principle or nexus that gives formulation, symmetry, and justification to everything else in the conscious universe. The Ti user is on a quest for a philosopher's stone. They will dig for it in all manner of philosophies and theories of the mind, which can cause them to become obsessive in their pursuits and abandon all sense of context in their research. They may forget that they are not making tangible progress towards any scientific or objective aim but instead are diving headlong into a conceptual challenge. Indeed, it is an epistemological challenge with the bait of the One Truth at the end, which they chase. Moreover, whether the Ti user ever knows this truth is irrelevant to the visceral belief in its existence. Even if they have come to doubt all truth and have entered an existential dead end in their pursuit so that they only know that they know almost nothing, they were led into this territory by an inarticulated but deep-rooted suspicion that something is there just waiting to be crystallized into knowledge.

Reductionism

For the Ti user, the world is often seen as a place of incongruences and complexities, paradoxes and mysteries. Everything operates from unchecked assumptions on top of assumptions with no explanation for why any such thing is to be believed. The world seems utterly chaotic and nonsensical, which causes great stress, especially in pursuing axiomatic truth. In order to alleviate this, Ti often executes a reductionistic methodology wherein all unjustified things are negated to eliminate all untruths and see what is left. In its purest sense, Ti will not wish to adopt any form of knowledge or information if it does not understand its underlying formation. It will feel that if the starting premise within them is incorrect, the entire foundation is faulty, and all else that can be built from it will be askew. Therefore, it obsesses over the accuracy of the first few blocks and cornerstones of its epistemology, forcing Ti often into an infinite regression loop of doubt. If told "go to school," then one may think, "What is school?" and from there, proceed to ask, "What is a degree?" and "What makes the knowledge gained at a school desk more valid than what is self-taught?" This can be frustrating to family members as it may appear that the Ti user is rationalizing their way out of responsibility when, in reality, they are contending with the existential questions of meaning, value, and purpose  - which often must be addressed for them first before a single finger can be lifted towards a task. This can be problematic as Ti will tend to reduce social norms/ideas/things down to parts without putting them back together. These thoughts will occupy the Ti user's mind continually and may cause things to lose their value as the process of reduction strips away all meaning. At its most extreme, this can lead to existential dilemmas and nihilism even when nothing in life suggests a reason to be unhappy. As Ti is a subtractive process by nature, it acts as a diagnostic process that identifies misalignment in any premises system. Hence, it tends to be far better at identifying what things are not than what things are. It is often up to the other functions to counterbalance Ti's influence and provide positive affirmation for reasons, motivations, and purposes.

Castle Construction

However, if enough of a theoretical foundation has been set in the Ti user's mind, then a crystalline structure emerges at the core of their being. Like the growth of an ice crystal from water, a theoretical castle begins to form. Each block of this castle is a premise or argument that helps structure the incoming information of reality in such a way as to create an interpretive scaffold. For Ti, this scaffold serves as a sort of Rubik's cube or kaleidoscope that allows the complexities of life to be viewed and understood from a convergent point. Should there ever be a mismatch between the reality outside of them and the kaleidoscope's prediction, the Ti user hurries to try to reformulate and refine their instrument (to fix the Rubik's cube), but an instrument they must use. The Ti user does not interface with reality directly but does so through this instrument, which acts as their proxy and go-between and allows them to make sense of things without necessarily needing to engage in the difficult task of materialism or empiricism. This leads inescapably to forming a personal theory, often beginning with the phenomenology of the mind/consciousness. One such example of a crystalline theoretical structure is René Descartes' "cogito ergo sum," which, through his efforts and thoughts, was the cornerstone he came to develop and which helped him make sense of all other premises that cascade from this first axiom. However, each Ti user may place a different conclusion as their starting premise. For some, the fundamental principle may be consciousness; for others, it may be bodily experience; and for others, it may be God or love.

Ontology & Linguistics

The Ti function is inherently philosophical, producing in the Ti user a gravitation towards what we might call ontology. It becomes essential for the Ti user to define things in and of themselves. In this sense, Ti seeks to describe reality absolutely and almost as though they were to vanish themselves from existence. It must be able to be true without them in the picture; otherwise, it is not valid. Ti seeks a timeless abstract definition for everything by this metric. The Ti user usually seeks to encapsulate the essence of a thing through semantic precision, meticulously working out where the boundaries lie between two adjacent thought groupings. There is little more satisfying to them than when data suddenly clicks into perfect arrangement, revealing a fundamental truth. The Ti user lives for these rare and magic moments of clarity, and by engaging in this differentiation process, they gain a firm mental grasp on the world, dissipating the fog of the unknown. The further the Ti user is from clarity of definition in their thoughts, the more internal dissonance will be felt. This can also make the Ti user a bit of a grammar nazi, and their semantic proclivities can lead them to spend hours discussing starting terms without ever making headway related to the real-world problem in question. The Ti user may be highly stimulated by such a discourse even though the original point of the discussion has been left far in the past. More than a few Ti users thus take to linguistics for their proximity to philosophy and their capacity to organize the very structure of our knowledge paradigms.

Perfectionism

Additionally, there is a perfectionist quality to the Ti user wherein their desire for purity of logos is at once a desire for purity of the self. Indeed, the Ti user's success in building this logic framework is tied to their sense of identity, as they may view themselves primarily as truth-seekers and truth-speakers. There will be an ethical quality to their pursuit, which manifests in a value of neutrality, honesty, authenticity, and clarity. Lack of neutrality, honesty, or clarity will be sensed as a transgression that they avoid in their behavior and may depreciate in others. As a compass function, Ti will strive for a type of nobility of character that it can sustain only if it feels honest with itself and avoids as many impurities as possible in its thinking. This high personal standard can cause the Ti user to become entirely mute as their ignorance forces them to retract any opinion or utterance they cannot firmly stand behind. The strong Ti user may be a very silent presence at school or in the workforce, speaking only occasionally and after minutes or hours of reflection on what he wishes to say. If their logical devotion is towards an art project or creative endeavor, the same bottleneck may appear, causing them to hesitate to publish any works until everything feels perfect. They may feel their works are never quite precise enough and will spend countless hours refining them, aiming for their writings, paintings, or manifestations to capture their thoughts and intentions without compromise. This can lead to negative feelings and self-blame for mistakes or misinformation.

Stubborn Alignment to Framework

While the Ti user may not know many things, he will stand firm by what he does know. The Ti user can be stubborn and difficult to negotiate with if they have fixated on specific ideas they feel are true, and so long as their idea remains in their head, their heels remain sunk in that interpretation. This can make them impractical in many real-world situations when the consequences of their carefully crafted definitions collide with specific necessary actions and obligations. They often refuse to participate in something that seems necessary to some but misaligned to them. Moreover, while no pressure, external circumstance, or logistical necessities can bend their opinion, a properly aimed rebuttal can radically shift their stance in moments. The Ti user's logical apparatus operates like a lock combination. When the right inputs (deductions) are received, the gates of their thoughts suddenly reconfigure, allowing for a completely new mental trajectory to be possible and new actions to emerge from them. However, without this reconfiguration, they may remain deadlocked in certain conclusions or philosophies even when those conclusions harm them. The strong Ti user must reason his way out of a particular conceptual hole and cannot simply ignore it or choose a more convenient path that does not fit into the structure and rules of their self-made castle.

-Behaviors Under Stress

Emotional Shutoff

When the stress and gravity of life cause a fall out of emotional health, the strong Ti user's already faint emotional energies become even more deeply coveted. Unable to operate meaningfully in the environment, they will flee entirely from the world and into a protective barrier. They will shut off emotionally and may become suspicious and avoid intrusions to their private space. This can lead to a very isolated experience where they feel they can only rely on themselves to figure out the answers to emotional problems, which are often treated as intellectual problems. Driven equally by feelings of self-sufficiency and fear of emotional openness, they will aim to shoulder their pain alone.

They will meet the problem with callousness. What is not felt cannot hurt, and here, their natural capacity for dispassion is repurposed and used to strip power away from the heart. They may sever their connection to others with surprising ease and forget the magnitude of their inner affect. What is non-ideal is rejected as they continue pursuing the ideal in themselves and others. However, the content remains present but buried in the unconscious, and they may harbor unresolved feelings for years at a time – often freezing their heart in the process. Merciless as they may be, they will intellectualize their decisions, satisfying their need to act from just premises and retain a proper sense of self.

Wailings and charged emotional reactions may be perceived as irrational, inappropriate, and to be avoided. However, as stress accumulates further, their logic will become gradually distorted as they aim to rationalize what is essentially an emotional objection. Unable to clearly and cathartically convey their heart's voice, having stripped it of its power, their inner pains will emerge through distorted logical arguments and skewed claims. Their tendency to intellectualize matters of the heart will lead them to push the narrative into a form that aligns with their repressed feelings. As their stress furthers, they may disconnect themselves from others entirely and fall into schizoid tendencies.

Hyper-Focus on Imperfections

In another scenario, if the Ti user's heart remains open, they meet the problem with honesty of feeling. In their pursuit of authenticity of self, they allow the full gravity of their situation to hit them, and they familiarize themselves with their darkest disappointments, losses, and despair. Because they are perfectionists, they will turn their attention to themselves to understand what is wrong. They may come to feel responsible for all that is not going well in their life and will be prone to episodes of melancholy and deep ruminations about their shortcomings. Worse yet, if a conclusion emerges ("I am horrible," "I am responsible") that cannot be rationally refuted, be it true or not, they will need to continue believing it in order not to betray their compass, even if believing such a thing causes continual pain. Moving past certain damages can be challenging unless their paradigm changes to reinterpret their past in a way that puts them in a more merciful place. They will have trouble accepting positive emotions just for the sake of it, without cause to feel positive. They will feel dubious about any trajectory of healing that is not somehow justified in a certain sense. In this way, they do themselves no service; holding onto their negative beliefs so adamantly can be the cause of their demise.

[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: Do you have any suggestions on dealing with nostalgia? I’m INTP. Throughout my childhood, there had been a couple of relocations of my family and up to this day I’ve never felt deeply connected to a certain place.

Whenever I think about the past, I would be struck by nostalgia and a deep sense of sadness, as it seems I am never able to keep anything around me. My old toys are discovered to have been stolen (actually they just disappeared and nobody knows why so my parents assume that they are stolen) when I got to return to my old home years after; just like my relationship with my father that grew so distant before I even realised.

I know I could never possibly regain that pure joyfulness in my childhood but it pains me to think in that way. I can’t even remember any experiences in detail except once I was shaking the curtain on a decent morning, and sunlight fell on the scattering dust, making it seem like a thousand tiny fireflies dancing in the air. When I try to grasp these memories, I feel that they are like a dream that fades away too quickly, leaving me with only fragments of it.

I am afraid that my whole life will be like this as well, I couldn’t leave anything behind even after my death, nobody will remember me and my existence will be washed away helplessly by the waves of time. It does trigger me a bit when I’m told that these memories are insignificant stuff that died long ago, and they are of no importance or value. It’s definitely not true. They are like the foundation of my existence, the connection with my past self, and I couldn’t just forget them and remove them from my mind, no matter how small or scattered they are.

I do reminisce on other past events, however I can usually just accept that past is already past and move on. None of them hurts me as much as my childhood. I think this whole thing is about tertiary Si and I could get myself to stop thinking about it when I’m redirected to other ideas, so it doesn’t affect my daily life much, but it shoes up in my head when I see/think of key words that remind me of my past or when I feel down. I’m sorry for dumping all the existential crisis here, I could easily spiral into pessimistic thoughts when I try to talk about my past. I don’t think I’m ready to develop my Si at this point so should I just put it aside and focus on Ne first? Thank you in advance for any guidance.

In addition, simply out of curiosity I’d like to ask: Does inferior Si encounter similar problems as well? How would it differ from tertiary Si?

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The past isn't insignificant. You're right, it's an important part of you and it has played a crucial role in making you the person you are today. Trying to deny this fact isn't helpful and can make nostalgia haunt you even more.

The kind of nostalgia you're feeling seems to be about loss or grief. It is usually a sign that you are not happy with the person you are today and/or the life you're living today - something is missing. The mental trap of unhealthy Ne-Si is to get lost in "what if" speculation. You start thinking about how you or your life could've turned out better "if only" the past had been different. This is unproductive rumination, not because the past is insignificant or should be dismissed, but because you're taking the wrong lessons from it.

What is the nostalgia communicating to you? E.g. It's very important to feel rooted and connected to the world around you; don't take important things for granted; be a part of the world so that you don't feel as though you have never really existed; etc. The right lesson to learn is to do more to root and connect yourself to the world starting TODAY, so that you don't feel the same sense of loss/grief about today at some point in the future. In other words, don't keep making the same mistake again and again of not fully cherishing everything in your life while you still can. When you're able to successfully exit that vicious cycle of regret, nostalgia will bring you warmth rather than sadness or grief.

Feelings should be accepted and understood. Once you really hear them and listen to the message being communicated, they will no longer haunt you. Trying to convince yourself that feelings are invalid doesn't work because feelings don't respond to reason. Feelings only care about whether they have succeeded in making you care properly for yourself. Until then, they won't shut up. Perhaps you should read the articles about emotional intelligence to learn constructive ways of responding to your feelings.

With regard to the last question, stack position is already explained in the study guides. Nostalgia is a universal feeling, but different types experience it for different reasons. Stack position changes the purpose of the function, so tertiary Si creates nostalgia for different purposes than inferior Si. E.g. The former would be an alert about a troubling lack of Ne development, whereas the latter would be about the need to correct Ne extremes.

[kobi-is-toast]

i tried the emotions meme, featuring the mbti analysts!

i wanted to draw them with expressions they aren't usually portrayed with

i'm an intj myself and there is rarely any happy intj fanart, so i thought i'd draw it („• ֊ •„)

[mrcarmenile]

according to the internet i’m the nicest and most empathetic intp on the planet

[arixiie]

Mbti ranked by how emotional they are. Front of each row is the most emotional among that row. This is my opinion and should not be taken seriously :)

[funkymbtifiction]

Thinking vs feeling decisions, and how to tell them apart

About the value judgement being mistaken for objective judgement thing: would a Ti judgement be considered objective even though by nature the function is subjective due to being introverted? If so I assume "objective" here means "detached from emotion".

I watched The Imitation Game last night, which is a good example of several Ti-based thinkers continually putting aside subjective value judgments for what is "rational" (objective). At one point, they finally decode the German enigma machine and spend all night translating messages so they know where every German submarine is. They realize a convoy is about to be attacked--a boat full of women and children. The first emotional impulse is to save them -- but Alan Turning (INTP) points out that if they do that, the Germans will wonder why, realize they broke the enigma code, stop transmitting, and re-calibrate enigma... so they will be where they started, with no way to decode messages. If they want to win the war, they have to let the convoy be destroyed, and then go forward making small strategic steps (like playing a long game of chess) that will allow them to win without alerting the Germans to the fact they broke enigma. And this is what they do, even though it means allowing people to die "for the greater good."

Very few thinkers mistake their logical analysis for being a feeling type, but many feelers mistake themselves as thinkers. When it comes right down to it, though, thinkers make rational decisions and suppress their emotions in the process, whereas a feeler looks at the value judgment of that decision -- the thinker knows the above scenario is how reality works and what is logical; the feeler looks at it in horror knowing how many innocent lives will be lost. Their mind automatically goes to the nature of ethics. Later in the film, Alan then asks a policeman to decide whether they were right or wrong, if they saved lives or were "monsters." Low Fe asking, "Was I moral?" because they know they were logical. But is logic amoral? "You tell me." Fe = seeking external input on what ethics are, and low Fe knowing that ethics are shaped by the logic of the situation. In another situation, say being able to stop a car from hitting a child, it would be immoral to let people die, but in a war, it's more logical to seek to end the conflict (which would save many more future lives by comparison -- that's logic plus big picture thinking).

In this situation, yes, Ti logic was objective -- because while the system he used to create the world's first computer was subjective (a Ti understanding of how machines work and how to manipulate them to get what you want from them in terms of data), his conclusions were all objective -- logically sound.

I can't evaluate what you asked me, in terms of whether ethics or logic drive your decision not to drink -- every reason you gave not to do it aligns with all of my reasons not to do it, except that I also as a Fi type consider it wrong for myself.

What determines a thinker or a feeler and at what place that appears in your cognitive stacking is determined by how much balance and weight you give to one determination over the other, and whether you can accept the alternate or not. A thinker defaults to what is logical in a time of crisis even if it pains them emotionally; they still focus on the logic of the situation. A feeler has to fight through their emotions before reaching that logical conclusion and many of them do not feel capable of doing so when feeling is dominant.

[majorbitchwillgraham]

The INTP avatar vs. What I look like

With this picrew

[seariii]

Seari spoilers(?)

[rainswept]

speaking of personality types i will die on the INTP freminet hill

[gutsheapofrawiron]

thinking ab how different fi and ti are and yet istps seem to get mistyped as isfps a lot by people.... maybe it's because ti can superficially appear fi-like because the logic only has to make sense to the individual, making it seem like an ""emotional"" function instead? like when some line of logical, ti-produced reasoning does not at all seem rational from an outsiders perspective, so then it ends up looking like a personal emotional moral thing instead

[earthling-wolf]

Adaptive: agreeable Fe

Universal Love / Compassion

Although anyone may come to this conclusion, adaptive types more often leads the individual to believe "we are all one family", one humanity and we all have an intrinsic connection to one another as well as a shared narrative of joy/pain and a moral obligation to our fellow man. It believes more powerfully in the ability of everyone to make a difference in the world, and to be a force towards that difference. It believes that if everyone lent a helping hand to everyone else, we would have no need for wars or conflict. Nobody would be left out, and by the simple fostering of good-will, solutions would arise to any social problem. This translates more generally into good-samaritanism. Taken to a deeper level, this can mean an advocacy for global peace and democracy. Adaptive types will tend to prioritize the group over any one individual, and will also see it fair and necessary for resources to be distributed more or less evenly. If called forth to serve, it will serve. It will heed the call both to satisfy a personal value of goodness, and to affirm their character and trustworthiness to the collective. Acts very much define this facet, and an adaptive attitude feels one only truly cares if they act out that care in deeds and words. This also leads adaptive person to be very verbal, and perhaps overly saturated, with its expressiveness in order to ensure the sentiment is communicated.

Adaptation

As the name implies, another quality of adaptiveness is adaptation -- specifically the adjustment of oneself in order to meet any necessary social conditions. An adaptive attitude carefully tracks the energies of the social environment and intuits what is the acceptable protocol, then proceeds to blend into that energy. The adaptive person may wear many faces and will switch between faces depending on the crowd they're in, in order to seamlessly adjust to the needs of each setting. They may excel at Pickup Artistry and at reading the nuances of social and sexual energies. And while this can help them create a highly prosperous social network, it can lead to a somewhat vague or diminishing sense of self, as they slowly start to lose their center to the many personas they have created for themselves. But adaptive Fe's adaptability is not limited to the building of personas, and can also be motivated to adjust as is necessary for their own ethical convictions. If one's personal relationships are suffering from frictions stemming from their own behaviors or habits, adaptive people will take measures to correct themselves; going through transformations of character. Whenever they discover areas for improvement, they may remake themselves according to a higher image. The adaptive person will feel that they are prioritizing the ideal (often God) above themselves, and submitting themselves to the requirements of the ideal.

Politeness

Following from the aforementioned, adaptiveness is prone to manifest politeness and the automatic assimilation of a social programming or etiquette in order to maintain their rapport. Adaptive types will feel a strong anxiety whenever they are out-of-step, and this feedback quickly shapes their behavior in an unconscious way. "That which will offend" is not said and in some cases not even consciously thought. It becomes necessary to provide everyone with a smile and to be on good terms with all people. Adaptive people may not be able to stand the thought of having enemies or being disliked. This can be terribly debilitating and restricting as adaptive person may feel they are always walking on eggshells. They may secretly resent having to always yield and not show their true opinions, even if this self-regulation was their own choice. It may even be the case that non-standard or non-polite forms of expression are indeed socially acceptable given the right execution, however the adaptive person will not be the most daring to risk experimenting with alternative outcomes and will feel most safe following a known set of words and expressions. Over time this can lead to psychological distortions and to a splitting of personality due to how the darker aspects of directiveness have been repressed and not given true representation or validation. Words are minced; criticisms are withheld. And this fragmentation of self can lead to intense volatility when the person falls under stress.

-Under Stress

Social Cowardice

Adaptiveness often manifests as cowardice; an inability to confront problems, challenges, difficult situations or people. The most straightforward expression of this is lying. Rather than saying "no" to something one is being asked to do, an adaptive person will lie and say they will do it even when they know they will fail at it later. They may downplay the negatives of something in order to retain a positive image, or aggrandize their accomplishments in order not to lose face. When asked if they still love someone, they will say yes to prevent hurt feelings in the immediate moment. When confronted and asked to explain, they'll say nothing is wrong or will make excuses. This cowardice can become very distressing and troubling to their life, sabotaging many relationships both personal and professional. They may not consider that they are in fact damaging the situation rather than helping it by their concealment and dishonesty. However, they will rationalize their actions as being for the greater good even though fear is the truer motivator in them rather than a genuine wish to aide the situation or the people involved.

Martyrdom

Another negative effect of adaptiveness is martyrdom. Like the aforementioned cowardice, adaptiveness will often not have the spine to speak up for its own needs and will be prone towards quietly taking abuse. They may be paid a very low salary at work and never ask for a raise, or ever complain about their position. They may take on all church responsibilities and bury themselves in obligations to everyone else. If this behavior is neurotic, they will work themselves down to an early grave for not knowing when to stop giving. At other times, their own ideology may persuade them into this martyr behavior as they sacrifice themselves for a greater cause. But adaptive Fe's martydom is not always a result of heroism; it can at times be just as much a result of shame and failure. The adaptive person may not feel they have the personal value or right to assert themselves due to a feeling of low self worth. This can cause them to take on the attitude that they "deserve" what is happening to them; that it is fair and that they're in the wrong. In severe cases this can lead to suicide where what seemed like a perfectly kind, beautiful, polite woman is found dead from the excessive toll she incurred for living a life of emotional debt to herself.

Making Others Dependent

A different result that might arise from an adaptive attitude is an encompassing feeling of importance in the eyes of others as nurturer. The ego becomes fixed in an identity as "provider" and "supporter", giving their life a purpose. In order to feel valued, adaptive individuals may want to make others dependent on them in order for them to feel they have some greater meaning to others or the world. If she is a mother, then she will be possessive and use her children as her reasons for existing. This expression of adaptive qualities crosses over with what Jung called the dark mother archetype; the over-protective woman that suffocates and consumes her children. This expression will work to unconsciously make it difficult for the other person to leave them. While outwardly wishing for the freedom of their dependents, their actions will speak otherwise. In a million subtle ways, they will secure their value to the party in question. They may say "we can use my car, you don't have to buy your own" and thus ensure their place in the morning drive and its conversation, as well as pave the way towards a more difficult emancipation. The same will happen in romantic affairs. In its worse form, this obsession with the dependent party can lead to jealousy. Other friendships or connections are discouraged or even prohibited, isolating the individual beneath the adaptive person’s faint smile.

[mbti-notes]

I'm a 22 year old INTP worrying about social anxiety on a regular basis. The irony is that I have a few decent set of friends and family, and I feel comfortable around them, but for everyone else, I constantly worry if I've done something wrong, even if there's no sign of that. Though my Ti allows me to detach from emotions enough that by behavior, I don't really let my insecurities control any of my decisions, yet my mind keeps thinking of all the possibilities with Ne. Nothing's wrong, so why?

You seem to be expressing a troubling contradiction. Is there or isn't there something "wrong"? If "nothing's wrong", why worry and why should I bother to answer you? If something's wrong, why "detach" and try to pretend a problem doesn't exist? Nothing may be wrong externally but that doesn't mean something isn't wrong internally. The two don't necessarily link together. Generally speaking, when people get trapped in a psychological contradiction, it means they're unable/unwilling to face up to the real issue or the root of the matter. As a result, there are no clear answers and no clear path forward, so they stay stuck in a rut of ambivalence.

Your question is about emotional life, which relates to emotional intelligence. What do you understand about feelings and emotions? Do you believe they just come out of nowhere for no reason? Do you believe that a stranger like me knows better than you about the contents of your mind? If so, it indicates a troubling lack of self-awareness that needs to be remedied through improving your emotional intelligence (see the dedicated articles). Feelings express something important about you, so not listening to them means not really knowing yourself. And how can you care well for yourself when you're blind to the truth of yourself?

Worry is often related to hope. To hope is to set up excitement and expectation for a desired outcome, as visualized through Ne, so misusing Ne is usually related to fear of hopes getting dashed. Such fear commonly manifests as worry, as intrusive thoughts about negative outcomes or worst-case scenarios.

It's important to remember that intrusive thoughts aren't really "thoughts" but feelings in disguise. The more a person resists feelings, the more the feelings are forced to take a disguised form to get through, such as repetitive thoughts or physical ailments. There is a message being conveyed by negative feelings and emotions, and they will keep intruding upon you until you are willing to hear it. Feelings aren't "irrational". There is logic behind them, but you must reflect in order to grasp their meaning.

For example, why do people feel socially anxious? Oftentimes, the anxiety is merely the surface, conscious experience of something deeper going on. What is the deeper issue? It could be any number of things depending on the individual, such as:

Self-worth issues or fear of being inadequate: Does it not make sense to worry about doing something off-putting or offensive when you're hoping for people to accept/like/love you?

Self-esteem issues or fear of failure: Does it not make sense to worry about making a mistake when you're hoping to put your best self on display?

Emotional avoidance issues or fear of hurt: Does it not make sense to prepare for the worst when socializing is risky and unpredictable and could lead to a painful rejection?

Unresolved feelings from the past: Does it not make sense to feel apprehensive in social situations when you've been wounded by many negative interactions throughout life?

If getting stuck in a psychological contradiction means you are unable/unwilling to address the real issue, then resolving the contradiction involves finally facing up to it. For some people, this means learning to acknowledge, accept, and embrace their weaknesses, aka, all the things that are "wrong" with you. Taking the above issues as examples, the contradiction you are trapped in might indicate that you don't really want to admit the true extent of:

how much you really want people to accept/like/love you

how little faith you have in yourself or your social abilities

how ill-equipped you are to handle painful feelings/emotions

how you haven't really healed from previous hurts/harms

Unless you're willing to physically damage your brain, feelings and emotions can't be stopped. But they can be understood and interpreted and laid to rest intelligently. The first step in addressing a psychological issue is to be honest about what's really happening, to admit the problem. I'm not a mindreader. I can't tell you exactly what deeper issue lies behind your insecurity. It's up to you to reflect and tell the whole truth to yourself. Once you get to the very heart of the matter, a better path forward should reveal itself.

[intpleasefreeme]

INTP having car problems and waiting for AAA and texting INFP

INTP: hey are you at your apartment?

INFP: yeah, whatcha need?

INTP: well Chad (car) is having battery and alternator issues and I'm in the apartment lots. So I called AAA but I don't want to be alone when they show up.

INFP: okay

INTP: it will be a while before they show up, so I'll text you when they are close.

2mins. later

INFP: *coming out of apartment knocking on car door* hello

INTP: hey it's going to be a while

INFP: I know you, it sounded like you needed me here for emotional support. I brought my stuffed animals too to help.

INTP: awww thank you 🥺

[austeregreen]

I'm not calm

My family tends to say: "You should be more patient toward your sister. You know how nervous she is."

My family also tends to say: "It's a pity that she cannot be as calm and peaceful as you."

And also: "You should help her. She isn't as good in dealing with her emotions as you."

The thing is: I am not.

I am not calm. I am not peaceful. I am not stoic. I am not all these things they want me to be. I'm just good in hidding this turmoil and panic, and sense of inadequacy, constantly eating at me. I'm just good in wearing this mask everybody expects me to wear.

Sometimes I wonder what should I do for them to see me the way I really am. It's probably better that I don't know.

[coffeeandinsanityy]

the fact that earlier I use to be this big empathetic person, being sad for others and feeling emotions too much..but now sometimes, I feel I'm being too apathetic or stoic uk? like yes i do hear other people's problems, try to understand their pov but smh I dont feel sadness or emotions rushing through me that much, like they did before. I feel this sense of logic flowing through me and now I think more with my head.

[boqorka]

Types of Emotions

Emotions are complex psychological experiences that are often difficult to describe. In general, emotions are categorized into six main types:

Happiness

Sadness

Fear

Anger

Disgust

Surprise

Each of these emotions can be further broken down into subcategories. For example, happiness can be described as contentment, joy, and excitement. Similarly, sadness can be described as grief, sorrow, and despair.

The Importance of Understanding Emotions

Emotions are an integral part of human experience, and they play a vital role in our mental and physical health. Understanding our emotions can help us to manage stress, communicate effectively, and build stronger relationships with others.

Additionally, understanding emotions is important for personal growth and self-awareness. By recognizing and acknowledging our own emotions, we can develop greater empathy and understanding for the emotions of others.

The Impact of Emotions on Our Lives

Emotions can have a significant impact on our lives, both positive and negative. Positive emotions such as happiness and joy can improve our mental and physical health, enhance our creativity, and foster stronger relationships.

On the other hand, negative emotions such as anger and fear can be harmful to our mental and physical health, damage our relationships, and impact our overall quality of life. It is important to learn how to manage these negative emotions effectively in order to prevent them from taking control of our lives.

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