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findroleplay · 6 months ago
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Hey folks! I'm once again on the hunt for some fandomless ocxoc rps to satiate my feral apetite for wacky worldbuilding 🙏 my primary preference is for fantasy based settings (and characters) but I'd be thrilled to blend it with any other genre! Modern or medieval, domestic meet-cutes or world ending horror, I want to hear whatever you have the itch for and hopefully we can come up with something together <3
Please please be willing to talk ooc and yell about our characters, help with plotting, make moodboards/playlists/art/and all that jazz with me! mutual obsession over our respective blorbos is what really keeps the inspiration alive and flowing !!
I'm hoping to use some of my many ocs I've yet to really flesh out but I'm not entirely opposed to making a new character from scratch. That being said, I use drawn references of my ocs and prefer you do the same! Picrews and written descriptions are fine but no irl fcs
also! I'm only interested in writing lgbt pairings (mxm primarily) and often as trans/nb characters
Nsfw is all fine and good but not as the central focus and definitely not with bottom-only ocs, sorry!
I'm 28 and prefer writing with others 21+, literate and up (so like at least 3ish paras) and a few replies a week is all I ask but! if we get a frequent back and forth you'll have my undying love and adoration <3 interact and I'll reach out!
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letswritetogetherrr · 22 days ago
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about me:
Hello! I have been RPing for roughly 14 years, and recently came back from a long hiatus. I'm looking for some OC RPs with other adults! I live in CST and can typically reply several times a day.
Some of my interests include maritime history, vampires, and new wave/goth music, and science fiction (star trek!) so if you want to explore any of these things in our RP, that'd be great!
I am trans, bigender and bisexual, and I write most of my characters as LGBT in some way. I'm 25 and use he/they/it pronouns.
about my RP:
In many aspects I like to meet my partner where they're at, so I am flexible on a lot of these things. I prefer to do multipara, well thought out replies that focus on quality over quantity. I won't go down to less than a couple paragraph typically, unless my partner does for rapid fire dialogue type scenarios. I can go up to a couple discord messages worth of writing, although I prefer to only go long if there's good substance to it!
I exclusively RP OCs, mostly fandomless, of many genders and sexualities. I tend to use written or drawn FCs, but will use IRL ones if that's my partners preference.
NSFW is okay, but I want to focus a lot on plot too! I have a lot of kinky characters, but we'll have to discuss limits privately.
I enjoy writing side characters!
what I'm looking for:
- Long-term partners who love to plot things out and get really invested in our characters together!
- Well-fleshed out worlds, characters, plots
- Straight forward and honest communication
- If you can't reply often please don't hesitate to reach out! That said I would LOVE to find someone who can reply several times a day, since most of the time I can :)
Word bubble of things I like:
Messy & toxic scenarios, vampires & werewolves, modern fantasy, enemies to lovers, found family, slice of life, wholesome fluff, organized crime, divorce, musicians & artists, morally corrupt characters, western, sci-fi, pirates, 70s & 80s, religious themes (Judaism!!!), road trips, working class characters, silly and unrealistic scenarios, polycule drama, gay shit!
Possible hooks/plots:
- Character A finds character B bleeding face down in the mud, kicks the body to check if they're dead. Turns out they're very much alive!
- Character A is a serial dater who loves telling ridiculous lies to first dates, assuming they'll never meet again. Turns out they were terribly charmed by Character B, but now they have to walk back all the lies they told.
- Character A recently moved into a new house, and is pretty sure it's haunted....It is! Character B is a ghost, stuck in the apartment, and glad to finally have some company.
- Character A is a vampire. Character B has always wanted to be one, and is trying to convince A to change them. The only problem is, A is a bad vampire, and doesn't know how to change them.
- Character A is a vampire. Character B is a human, with the most delicious blood A has ever tasted. Now B has a problem - A can't get enough of them.
- A is a line cook, B a waiter. One night it's just the two of them closing the restaurant together, when they come across a slight problem: The world outside the restaurant seems to have ceased to exist.
If any of this catches your eye feel free to reach out!
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findyourrp · 6 months ago
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Hey folks! 🦊 I'm once again on the hunt for some fandomless ocxoc rps to satiate my feral apetite for wacky worldbuilding 🙏 my primary preference is for fantasy based settings (and characters) but I'd be thrilled to blend it with any other genre! Modern or medieval, domestic meet-cutes or world ending horror, I want to hear whatever you have the itch for and hopefully we can come up with something together <3
Please please be willing to talk ooc and yell about our characters, help with plotting, make moodboards/playlists/art/and all that jazz with me! mutual obsession over our respective blorbos is what really keeps the inspiration alive and flowing !!
I'm hoping to use some of my many ocs I've yet to really flesh out but I'm not entirely opposed to making a new character from scratch. That being said, I use drawn references of my ocs and prefer you do the same! Picrews and written descriptions are fine but no irl fcs
also! I'm only interested in writing lgbt pairings (mxm primarily) and often as trans/nb characters
Nsfw is all fine and good but not as the central focus and definitely not with bottom-only ocs, sorry!
I'm 28 and prefer writing with others 21+, literate and up (so like at least 3ish paras) and a few replies a week is all I ask but! if we get a frequent back and forth you'll have my undying love and adoration <3 interact and I'll reach out!
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dark-roleplay-finder · 1 year ago
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Hi hi! I'm looking for someone 20+, adv literate (in reply length and grammar), mlm Discord rper who uses irl fcs and is open to brainstorming and fleshing out a plot together! 🐚🫧🕊️
Lately I've had a bit of a brainrot for a merfolk (or aquatic dragon hybrids, even) rp! I'd love to play the prince of an underwater tribe coming of age and being given the customary present of his kind – a harem all to himself! I have two of my ocs in mind for this, one rather cocky and definitely eager to get some action, the other one rather sweet and shy with a suppressed dominant streak!
For the first oc, I think the best fit would be an equally sassy guy chosen to be in his harem and either a) being super comfortable with that and treating it like it's his due, enjoying the amenities and all, or b) hating their new position and doing everything they can to rebel. Either way, he quickly becomes the prince's favorite and all other harem members are disbanded or ignored!
The second oc would probably get on better with a more soft-spoken partner, maybe a childhood friend or longtime bodyguard/advisor who was surprisingly chosen for the harem? Someone who knows the prince well and tries to reassure him when he gets anxious about the entire thing. Maybe there's even a bit of a surprise once the prince gets comfortable and shows his true dominant colors!
I'd love for there to be eventual romance either way, but I am willing to include aaaaaall the kinks we can think of, too! (My limits are. Very limited themselves.) So, depraved people cometh forth! We can discuss anatomy and all that, but I'd really love for there to be oviposition, feral behaviour, possessiveness, the works! We can even slap some omegaverse in there if you want to!
Push the little heart and I'll come talk to you!
Like this post and the asker will reach out!
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darkdoverpseeker · 1 year ago
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Hi hi! I'm looking for someone 20+, adv literate (in reply length and grammar), mlm Discord rper who uses irl fcs and is open to brainstorming and fleshing out a plot together! 🐚🫧🕊️
Lately I've had a bit of a brainrot for a merfolk (or aquatic dragon hybrids, even) rp! I'd love to play the prince of an underwater tribe coming of age and being given the customary present of his kind – a harem all to himself! I have two of my ocs in mind for this, one rather cocky and definitely eager to get some action, the other one rather sweet and shy with a suppressed dominant streak!
For the first oc, I think the best fit would be an equally sassy guy chosen to be in his harem and either a) being super comfortable with that and treating it like it's his due, enjoying the amenities and all, or b) hating their new position and doing everything they can to rebel. Either way, he quickly becomes the prince's favorite and all other harem members are disbanded or ignored!
The second oc would probably get on better with a more soft-spoken partner, maybe a childhood friend or longtime bodyguard/advisor who was surprisingly chosen for the harem? Someone who knows the prince well and tries to reassure him when he gets anxious about the entire thing. Maybe there's even a bit of a surprise once the prince gets comfortable and shows his true dominant colors!
I'd love for there to be eventual romance either way, but I am willing to include aaaaaall the kinks we can think of, too! (My limits are. Very limited themselves.) So, depraved people cometh forth! We can discuss anatomy and all that, but I'd really love for there to be oviposition, feral behaviour, possessiveness, the works! We can even slap some omegaverse in there if you want to!
Push the little heart and I'll come talk to you!
like if interested!
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petriichvrs · 1 year ago
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𝙷𝙾𝙶𝙶𝙻𝙴𝚂𝚆𝙰𝚁𝚃  𝙰𝚂𝙺𝙴𝙳  :   3, 4 & 5  !
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3.   FACE CLAIMS YOU ARE DYING TO USE : archie madekwe and sun yihan are TOP of my list, but i also really wanna use london thor, madchen amick, diego luna, oliver jackson cohen, skeet ulrich, savannah lee smith, nadia hilker, chandler kinney, maia reficco and derek luh ! some have ideas attached for nox / aurora / lumos, but most are just ... waiting for their chance :(
4.   FACE CLAIMS YOU ARE DYING TO PLAY AGAINST : oh i don't actually know ... i think pedro pascal has been on my opp list for a WHILE, but the only other people coming to mind are havana rose liu and melanie lynskey. maybe derek luh should be here too because i REALLY like him for astoria's oldest sibling ? but that's about it !
5.   YOUR FAVORITE ORIGINAL VERSE OC (OR ONE OF YOUR FAVORITES) : ok she really might not count towards this because of being from a disney / marvel / next gen type group ( depends on your definition of original verse honestly, but since they were super au and set in a made up universe that i fleshed out i feel like all the characters there DO count ) but my number one forever is going to be rylie natalia barton. i've written her on and off since 2014 and she was originally a willa holland fc, though i recasted her for recent musings with my friend as diana silvers, because i think she's a great cast for a 'modern' rylie of a similar age to when i first wrote her. she's the daughter of clint barton & bobbi morse ( & step daughter of natasha romanoff ) and kicked off my whole barton cinematic universe that now includes uncle barney and his only kid, monica barton, and natasha's legal ward, ziva mizrahi. i just ... love her. this is her pin board & three songs from her inspo playlist that i think get her vibe are miss america by james blunt, tightrope by lp and hymn by kesha. she went through a LOT during her original run and was the character i did a three irl year alcoholism arc on that i am still like ... a little proud of, weird as that is to even say, because i feel like i wrote it well, and i just think that her character arc was one of the best things i ever did, tbh. she's always been the character i understood best and for a long time understanding her best and loving her most meant that i was going to give her a gruesome, too soon death, but as i've grown up and gotten myself into a better place and went on my OWN journey, she's now this character that i just want the absolute best for all of the time, even if she can only get to the best through a little more trouble. rylie is inspiration for a lot of characters i have written, but i've never been able to recreate her exactly, nor would i want to. she will always have a lil part of my heart and nobody else can ever take it<3
𝚁𝙾𝙻𝙴𝙿𝙻𝙰𝚈𝙴𝚁 𝙰𝚂𝙺 𝙼𝙴𝙼𝙴  »  currently not  accepting  !
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estrellahecho · 4 years ago
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Anyways have some sketches of Pandora, Mortem, and Cerebum while I work on some icons.
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honcybadgerarchived · 6 years ago
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...i’ve barely played sta.rde/w val/le.y to the point that i’m on day 15 and i straight up wanna make a blog for the farmer(aka player) even when i’m 99% sure there’s like no active blogs... and i’d probably have to make my own icons
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elfyourmother · 3 years ago
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22, 27, and 30 for the FFXIV asks, please!
22. You obtain one in-game item to use/wear IRL, what do you pick and why?
Fat Cat is the only possible answer to this question. Because Fat Cat.
27. You now have the ability to add in one character and one dungeon from any Final Fantasy title prior to XIV, who/what do you pick and why?
I get that if it was gonna happen it would have been during Stormblood but this game is in desperate need of an ex-imperial general who was genetically engineered and experimented upon so that she could perform magic and then subsequently defected and fell in love with a thief treasure hunter with the resistance is all I’m fucking saying.
CELES CHERE WHEN.
As for dungeons I am still kinda salty that in an expansion rife with FFIV love that featured 2 of the iconic dungeons from that game (albeit one of those was really in name only *side eyes Tower of Babil not using The Music*), the Giant of Babil was nowhere to be seen--that’s still one of the iconic sequences in the franchise, certainly in the SNES era. but I comfort myself with how at least it looks like we’re getting Theo & Co for the trial storyline this time around.
the Via Purifico from FFX is an honorable mention though, it’s such an underrated dungeon imo and I actually brought it into my personal worldbuilding in Giseleverse as being the secret dungeon beneath the Vault that people get disappeared to. It’s actually where Aymeric was imprisoned after confronting Thordan during 3.0 MSQ and it’s going to figure into that post-Dragonsong Law & Order: Special Heretics Unit fic with Ysayle that’s on my long list of things I wanna write (the Inquisition finds out she’s alive and being sheltered by Aymeric and puts her on trial for her crimes).
30. What do you hope for in the next expansion?
That Gridania actually gets some plot focus, hopefully being forced to reckon with its many, many issues the way Limsa, Ul’dah, and Ishgard have. I mean my Elezen is a Wildwood who only got that way after being reborn from another shard and I started in Ul’dah so I literally have no dog in this fight but it really feels like the Elementals clashing with the revamped cosmology for ARR resulted in Gridania basically getting put on a bus, and I don’t think it helps at all that the Scions who had it as their territory got virtually no screen time after the ARR story branches converge, then we lost them both.
The Tank role quests helped give Kan-E some much needed fleshing out but it’s wild to me how this major city-state gets so little attention. I shouldn’t feel like I chose “correctly” as an Ul’dah player. And the little I did see of that place on class quests made me feel like the place is long overdue for a reckoning the way Merlwyb finally got called to account for the tribal issues Limsa got at the end of the ShB patches. That society is actually so fucked up once you look past the pretty trees
Also like...as a severe understatement I have a lot more faith in Yoshi-P, Ishikawa et al than Blizzard but previous experience makes me Wary when MMOs wrap up major, years-long storylines and start having to come up with new plots. I don’t want to see this game take a nosedive the way WoW did when they ran out of WC RTS plots to followup on post-Wrath of the Lich King. I also hope the next expansion sticks the landing because I have the unpopular opinion that EW peaked with Elpis and never really recovered (UT was just...not good)
Also also: Radz-at-Han housing district, outdoor item limits raised for smalls, “fc room” type instanced housing in Fortemps Manor or the Meghaduta, and something better than this absolute horseshit lottery system
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huozhi · 3 years ago
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     ──          I ETCH MY OWN FACE UPON MY WICKED FLESH. I AM MY OWN DEVASTATING GOD.         A PRIVATE AND SELECTIVE WRITING BLOG FEATURING        YU AZULA        OF THE   AVATAR: THE LAST AIRBENDER   FRANCHISE.       PORTRAYAL IS PRIMARILY DRAWN LARGELY HEADCANON - BASED WITH PERSONAL INTERPRETATIONS, INSPIRATION AND LORE DERIVED FROM CHINESE CULTURE.
  ⁽ 𝒊. ⁾   𝓓ossier.    ⁽ 𝒊𝒊. ⁾  𝓟rompts.    ⁽ 𝒊𝒊𝒊. ⁾   𝓢tudies.  
I AM THE KNIFE WHICH WILL SLAUGHTER HEAVEN. HEAVEN IS FULL OF BLOOD. SOON IT WILL SNOW. 𝐀𝐅𝐅𝐈𝐋𝐈𝐀𝐓𝐄𝐒, ₀₁ HUOZAJI. ⁰² HUODAO. ₀₃ LJESAW.
▍18+ only.   mutually exclusive.     softblock when breaking mutuals.
        * i utilize memes as a way to write starters and initiate interactions. please do not send memes if you have no intention of continuing at least some of the ones i answer.
▍basic dni criterion apply, but specifically do not interact if you are a multi and primarily use east asian fcs    ( especially if they are korean )    because that screams fetishization to me ( there are exceptions and it's pretty obvious when it's normal vs gross behavior. i'm east asian and the way some of y'all treat east / southeast asians is atrocious. );    write historical or real muses;     use youtubers/influencers as fcs;     and / or solely focus on sexual nsfw / fetishizing mlm.
MOST IMPORTANTLY, atla is a story inspired by and for asian / indigenous cultures. i will not entertain nor follow blogs that disregard this. refer to this post for further context, if needed. azula has non - atla verses, so don't feel discouraged in following.
        * by default, expect most potentially triggering content to be referenced in some way or form on this blog. anything from the show and comics is fair game here. azula is ... azula. at her worst, she's a literal war criminal, and at her best, she's an abused young woman grappling with mental illness. don't follow if themes of mental health and war are particularly triggering to you. it's quite literally atla's entire franchise and by nature, is less likely to be tagged unless overtly graphic in visuals or written nature.
▍while this blog is multiship,  shipping is the last thing i'm concerned with for azula. if anything, she utilizes romance but the likelihood of it being genuine is low. by nature, i'm selective with romantic shipping as this would rely heavily on chemistry and plotting. however, toxicity is more than welcome! just don't expect it to turn out good for everyone involved </3 with that said, romance is typically not top priority for me and i tend to prefer other forms of dynamics:     antagonistic,   platonic,   familial,   etc.
        * the droyi coire and venkari lore presented on this blog, while inspired by numerous media sources, is original and completely created by myself and associated friends. please do not steal anything. we'd love for more people to make verses in either world, so please don't hesitate to ask one of us!
▍macy, she / her, 24, discord avail for mutuals. i have the worst habit of blog hopping or disappearing due to irl, so you can always find me on my multi otherwise.
        * just a note, considering the rpc's general demeanor towards atla muses. i've watched atla since the characters were older than me and i've grown with them over the years. i've written azula on and off since 2013, and prefer to focus on her post - show trajectory. she's 21 by default in most verses, and can be written in her 80s for lok blogs. sexual topics may occur in discussions regarding her sexuality and relationships, and i'd really like for people to not be weird about this. it's normal. it's not sexualization. however, smutting will not occur on this blog and will opt for fade - to - black in the unlikely event should threads even lead in that direction.
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gray-morality · 3 years ago
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Let's talk about that new character of mine xD
Fakhri started as a joke. I didn't have plans to make a male Viera at all. Then I said, jokingly, if I make one he'll be old and done with life, he's done with people's shit, but also he discovered humanities vices and he indulge waaaayy too much. He sees the bottom of a bottle most of the time, he's a chain smoker, he lives on the street. Then everyone in my FC was like  DO IT! so I took on the challenge lol I've spent at least a month fleshing out this character as I went through the MSQ at record speed with him and lv a few jobs (and hunt for glamour, the true endgame). And while I haven't roleplayed with him yet, he's already a walking meme. So much silly things have happened on the side with my FC and this future Viera it's hilarious.
For instance how it became canon that he sells rats: I bought a bunch at the npc vendor one day, saw people sold them for 40k + on MB while they cost 2400 gils from the npc (granted it's locked behind e Fates). so I tried to make the MB price go down, placing rats 10 at a time on there. I jokingly told my FC that Fakhri hunted rats in the garbage and sold them. One FC members wanted to troll our FC leader a bit so he bought all my rats and all the rats on the MB - over 60 of them!! and placed them in the FC bank. He then later on gave them to me thus I sold soooo many rats at 10k that it paid for 2 full sets of Exarchic gear lol so now it's canon, Fakhri sells rats. Another silly thing, since Fakhri is basically an alcoholic, I named his pets based on their color and alcohol. Thus his rat is named Arak (“A colorless and milky, licorice-flavored drink considered a specialty of the Gyr Abanian region.” This alcohol exist also irl Arak or araq (Arabic: ��ﺮﻕ‎) is a Levantine translucent, unsweetened distilled spirit in the anise drinks family.) His pet weasel is named Barley and his chocobo, which is dyed orange, Whisky. It also has the Bozjan barding that has two oversized flasks attached to the saddle.
But, like any of my characters, they have deeper meaning or a story to tell. Nothing is what it seems. They have their own demons, they are the way they are for a reason. I also love symbolism and all that. So when came the time to choose a voice claim for him, I went the deep and gravely voice (also because he's a chain smoker) and tried to find a few singers that could fit the bill. Obviously I always check in what I already listen to so I went with Matthias Braun from Surrender the Crown BUT, as I searched further and Spotify wanting to be helpful and suggest artists, I found about Nathan Wagner. And I fell in love. Especially the song linked in this post, which describe Fakhri sooooo very much. So yes, spoiler, it's the root of his problems. It's why he sleeps in the gutters, why he drinks and smoke to numb his senses. Because above the chain smoker, the alcoholic, the drug addict and the con artist, Fakhri has a gift of prescience that's very real and very invasive. And he just feels too much for one person to bear. But enough rambling for one day lol
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for-remembrxnce · 4 years ago
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7, 17, 23 anddddd oh oh 24
7.  Bio RPs, Skeleton RPs, or Appless RPs?
Bio or skeleton, depending on the genre.  I’m not great at creating ocs most of the time, so I tend to prefer pre-written bios for those, but I also love taking a skeleton and turning them into a fully fleshed-out character from there, and for literature based roleplays, I like to be able to write my own bio so that it’s entirely my interpretation of the character, as opposed to my interpretation of the admin’s interpretation, if that makes sense?
17. Name an FC you wish people used more
I’ve always loved Angel Coulby, and I feel like I never really see her?  Also Greta Onieogou, who I use for Guinevere, is possibly the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen, and I had literally never seen or heard of her until I started using her, despite the fact that she has plenty of resources, so I think more people should definitely start using her.  And I want to see more of John Cho in everything, including the rpc.
23. Has an FC ever been “ruined” for you because of another player?
None that I can think of?  Nothing bad enough to turn me off of any particular fc completely, at least, but I also forget what fc people used half the time, so my experiences usually aren’t tied to the fc anyway.
24. Have you ever met someone IRL from RPing?
Nope!  I’m kind of awkward with ooc conversation, so I usually don’t get close enough to people to meet them irl, unfortunately.
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cherrykisscs · 5 years ago
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upcoming muses! bc if i dont make a concrete post like this they will possibly never move away from being anything more than bulletpoints on a microsoft word document
kennedy!
human
youtuber
heavily inspired by michael reeves n william osman 
high intelligence low wisdom
a danger 2 the human race if left unchecked 4 too long
edit adding a camerawoman oc too cant stop me
unnamed werewolf!
, werewolf
detective or pi i am not sure
heart of gold . gryffindor incarnate
far more intuitive than she seems or actively recognizes
once got hissed at by a horse girl n it scarred her 4ever
estar guars girls!
theres 2 of em n only one has a name dont look at me
bounty hunter n bounty hunter but for objects instead of ppl
one hates the jedi order the other one doesnt care
10/10 will kick ur ass thank u
bnha oc(s)!
might fuck around and make a sideblog bc so far i dont think ill use irl fcs for them n idk how tht might clash w me ~aesthetic
only got one mostly fleshed out but knowin me n my hyperfixations ill make more than 1
lov her...... lov symbiote.....
only hero in a villain family
owns a cat cafe
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roguewitxh · 2 years ago
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Bleeding through the seams and weaving them back together
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I find myself at a loss when I read rules about strict separation between out-of-character (OOC) and in-character (IC) matters in roleplaying communities. The oft used metaphor is bleeding, when the emotional affect from storytelling seeps through the seams of OOC life causing a prophesied cataclysm. On one hand, I don't blame people for their anxiety. Discord communities and Free Companies are fragile enough as it is without romantic drama setting flames to a community. I've seen such drama dissolve several thriving and beautiful communities I had once called home. On the other hand, it seems myopic, doesn't it? Like, absolutely clueless to the fact that a person's emotions do not stop at the bright pixels on their computer monitors. We can't fully stand outside of ourselves. We can't be apathetic puppet masters of our characters.
The argument is often told like this: "We are just here to tell stories in a fantasy world, what your character does and feels stays with your character. Do not mistaken a story for real life". It's told as if the digital world in-and-of-itself is somehow unreal. Well, my dear, behind every story is a human being defined by their emotions and writing their hearts and souls into their characters. No matter how we parse it out, make believe is still believable because there is a very fuzzy line between real and pretend.
I want to make this *abundantly* clear: I understand the premise behind these rules. There are some, including my little sprout ass, who can become way to emotionally invested in another person's character. Without taking precautions, people can mistaken these emotions shared between characters as somehow IRL. And when rejected outside of a scene, it can be a painful (and worse, dramatic)  experience.
This isn't to say that all bleeding is bad: a make believe story can quickly become a strange (and oft-times wonderful) OOC relationship.  I've been in a few of these. They've never lasted, but I cherished every moment of them. Except for the ones that became abusive. A topic for another post.
The problem is that when expectations and boundaries aren't clearly communicated, someone can fall in love. And if that isn't reciprocated, hearts get broken and tensions boil over.  And that's where my problem lies, if we pretend that our emotional affect in IC relationships are nothing but the whimsy of storytelling and fiction, we can easily ignore important conversations on the ethics of love and intimacy. An abusive partner can brush away accountability with the excuse of *it's just a game dude, get over it*. Ignoring how our affect bleeds from storytelling too OOC can actually be a machinery of drama itself, rendering rules against bleeding counterproductive. The very fact that we need to talk about bleeding in the first place is a testament to it's existence.
I've spoken with friends who's hearts were shattered when an rp relationship ended. They were thrown sideways with pain and anguish. They cried, they were lonely, they felt empty. These emotions are real. I experienced some pretty intense emotions from rp relationships myself. I was shattered; I shed no shortage of tears.
I think a more nuanced view is in order. If technology is an extension of our sense of self and identity, does that mean our tether to our internet lives are no different from our flesh bag lives? Instead of acting in definitives when we talk about bleeding, we should be actually talking about consent and communication. Instead of believing that make believe isn't real, we should urge caution around making assumptions instead of pretending it doesn't exist.
Take for example a rule of thumb I wrote for an FC I help administrate:
"Blurring the lines between in-character and out-of-character is only acceptable if you have prior consent from all the people involved. Leave your tensions and dramas at the Lament’s door. Sometimes characters have IC issues between them. Yes, that cute Miqo'te might sneer at your character whenever you enter a room. Don’t take it personally. That said, if you’re having problems, chat with an admin. We want everyone to feel safe and happy. Treat your FC members with respect. If you need some extra help, hit up our conflict mediation suggestions."
Establishing Free Company and Discord rules that allow for elasticity between the shared emotions and intimacy role-players might pen into their stories creates a refusal to ignore the real-ness of our interpersonal emotions. Instead of playing ignorant, we can pop some mitigation on those potential dramatic moments by offering conflict mediation and urging healthy practices of consent and communication. If a problem bleeds into OOC, offer a moderation service to help those members work through their issues and find compromise.
When we bleed through the seams as an affectual reflex to the theater of intimacy that leashes our characters to our sense of self, the outcome can magical. Sometimes bleeding through the seems can strengthen and revitalize the weaves that bind our characters together. And sometimes bleeding through the seams can weaken and tear the weaves that hold those fabrics together. But if we who build communities and foster a sense of belongingness in our fantasy worlds provide avenues for conflict mediation, we can help stitch those fabrics back together. But first we need to acknowledge the root of that problem.
This is how we do better. This is how we build communities and families that make FFXIV (or other MMORPGs) that are safe, stable, and full to the brim with shared intimacy.
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darkdoverpseeker · 2 years ago
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[ 20+, they/them ] — ☔️ looking for an ocxoc omegaverse rp where i can use my alpha oc! i’m still in the process of fleshing him out, but basically he has a lot of trauma and i really want to dig into that. think slice of life with themes like hurt/comfort, slow burn dynamics, heavy tlc and unlikely couplings.
i really want to pair him against an unconventional omega or another alpha, maybe even a beta! gender doesn’t matter. i do want to deviate from traditional a/b/o dynamics though, so no turbo sub omegas please. otherwise, i’m happy to spitball ideas back and forth! plot will take priority, but i’m nsfw-friendly.
literate, multi-para, can (usually) expect weekly replies. discord only. i’m not comfortable with irl fcs. i don’t mesh well with dry writers, so please be able to match my energy! if you’re interested, just give this a like and i’ll reach out.
like if interested!
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aegresitmedendo-blog · 6 years ago
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Alright guys, it’s time.
I’ve been away for a couple weeks while I was sorting out some irl stuff, and now that I’ve had the time to really step back from things and look at it all with a more logical point of view, I think I’ve been able to come to a decision about my future in FFXIV right now, and the future of this blog.
Unfortunately, Avidia’s going to be going away for a while, that much is certain. Right now my plan is to have her return by 5.0. I will be writing up a short for people who are involved in her personal story, and who she is also involved with, in order to wrap things up. But for now she is going away. I’m also stepping out of the plot with the Faceless. While They’re awesome, and I think it’s a really cool event, I don’t have the time or the attention span to be able to handle all of that right now, so I don’t anticipate jumping back into it.
I’m not stepping away from RP however. I plan on returning to it soon, especially since I just quit my old job, and will have a lot more free-time now, especially in the evenings. I have a new character who I will be introducing soon, right now I’ve just been fleshing her out into a character I wanna play and feel comfortable playing. Sadly, my phone recently bit the dust, and with it went my FFXIV security token, and I don’t have my emergency removal password on me, so I have to wait for support to get back to me before I can make her into a proper character. She will be becoming my main, and she’s also an Imperial (what a surprise, I made another sassy Garlean).
The url of this blog will most likely change, as will the theme and all of that, but it’s still going to be me running it. From time to time I might post Avidia aesthetic pics as they come across my dashboard, but the focus isn’t going to be on Avidia anymore. Sorry if you came here for her, but I hope you guys like this new character just as much as you liked her.
Thank you for having patience with me through all of this. I’m looking forward to being able to hopping back into things with everyone! I’m probably gonna be looking for a new FC, so if anyone has any recommendations for a good FC, especially ones that accept Imperials, hit me up! And as always, you’re always free to send me a message at any time. If I’m not working I should get back to you pretty quick. I’m always down for some chit-chatting or a game of Overwatch.
Thank you all for hanging around this blog!
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