#in part by this i do mean. the strictest of gender and masculine feminine societal roles and norms
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I've said it before and I'll say it again even though there's people who can say it much better than me. You're allowed to present however the fuck you want, however masculine or feminine or androgynous you want, different every single day or intensely many things at once or always mostly one way literally look and dress However you want. It's your life. Same goes with hobbies, you can be a man who likes doing makeup, you can be a woman who loves working on cars, you can be a nonbinary person who's hobbies happen to align to the gender norms society expects of men like literally just DO what YOU want. How you present in the ways you dress, ways you act, it's whatever you want. The things you spend your life doing, that you're "allowed" to do or not? Are anything you want, whatever you want. Your gender identity for that matter also does not need to fit into any neat boxes. It can if you feel it's right for you, and perhaps even your presentation you feel best with also aligns into the neat box of the particular society you live in. But society changes, and individuals change. And you are valid and awesome exactly as you are, you're real and the way you want your life to actually be matters, and always is something you deserve regardless of where those rigid boxes end up trying to shove everyone. Most people are not going to fit the Top Ideal boxes their society expects of people, you're not broken for not always fitting it, and you have a right to exist the way you want to. For necessitity, survival, to blend in, and other reasons each person may choose to conform and try to blend in with our particular society's boxes. But when it comes to actual identity, you choose it and it is however you feel. There's no hoops you have to fit through or box to smash into to deserve to be who you already are. And you don't have to follow any rules or hide parts of yourself or lie, in order to simply get to be who you are. You already are, the rest of what you do is whatever you want to do and choose to do for your sake given the circumstances we are stuck living in.
#rant#in part by this i do mean. the strictest of gender and masculine feminine societal roles and norms#are determined by the rich. so no most of us will never successfully fulfil them#even if youre born cis man and love masculinity and hate feminine things... newsflash pretty much#every single cis man still needs to LEARN to cry and ask friends or a therapist for emotional support. to live an attempt at a healthy life#on the strictest of gender norms. he isnt allowed or supposed to. which would self destruct him.#on the strictest of gender norms a cis woman should be underweight. to fit the beauty expectation. but thats not good for her health.#very few people Actually fit every gender norm and very few people want to or should.#the truth is? you feel youre X gender? congrats you are.#how do you be X gender? ANY WAY YOU WANT. theres no real rules#this is all me being bad at saying theres no rules you have to follow to be your gender or sexuality okay#if youre a cis woman you are ALLOWED to shave your head and never wear makeup again#if youre a cis man youre allowed to wear a skirt every day forever and hate sports#if youre nonbinary youre allowed to have a beard and dress like a lumberjack#if youre a lesbian youre allowed to be feminine for YOU if you like it and no one else#if youre a butch lesbian uoure allowed to want to use he him and Still identify as a woman if its what you want.
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