#in fact it's been some of the safest and most welcomed I've ever felt

[princelylove]

To be honest with you Your Highness, I have always felt afraid of Bruno for some reasons. When I rewatched part 5 with my best friend, they kept commenting how hot he was and all, I tried to imagine him but he scares me. I feel like he hides so much that sometimes it slips away, I would be totally afraid of staying near him even if he was smiling

Your fear is warranted, but displeases him greatly. It stresses him out, I should say. He's never displeased with his darling amore, but he'd much rather have you welcome him with loving arms than freeze when he so much as breathes in your presence.

The foundation of Bruno- of Bruno Bucciarati- is the fact that he is a good man. End of sentence, end of thought.

He's just trying to help. He loves you, he's just trying to take care of you. The rest of the team loves Bruno- he's great! They wouldn't be here if it weren't for him- he's not the type to do some crazy shit randomly, you're probably just mixing reality and whatever nightmares you're having from joining the mafia.

You like Bruno, the husband, but dislike Bucciarati, the mafioso, surely. Bruno's true self- the mix of both, Bruno Bucciarati- is not something easy to figure out at a distance, because he doesn't like the idea of his darling, or anyone else for that matter, looking into him beyond how he presents himself.

You're not really encouraged to look into mafiosi in general. Especially not a capo. Don't snoop, for your own safety's sake.

Despite strongly disliking liars, Bucciarati can lie through his teeth and sleep soundly at night. Bruno, however, feels a sort of discomfort in lying to those he holds in high regards- it's sort of cruel. The least he can do is be honest.

Most of the time, he is. Bruno is not a quick thinker, nor is he innately creative, making him a just-alright type of liar. His lies have to be thought of in advance- he wishes conversation was more like combat. Combat is easy, you survive and you protect, at all costs. Conversation is a mental battle he never trained for- he's a sociable man, but he's been surviving off of letting other people fill in the gaps for him. There's also the fact that the people Bruno finds himself interested in aren't to be lied to.

Bruno has a type, actually. I think most yanderes that fall into Bruno's niche (Jotaro, Risotto) would want someone that needs them. Someone smaller, someone weaker, someone that isn't capable of living without someone else. Of course you don't have to hit every box for Bruno to take interest, he could fall for someone taller, but he can't help but think the size difference with a smaller darling is oh-so-adorable. He has this habit of getting as close as possible and looking down at the both of your shoes, which, he could always just be checking his footing, but it's apparent he's gauging your size difference when he's only doing it with you.

Bruno prefers someone that is only pretending to be independent, or is just openly dependent. Bruno can only survive if he feels needed. Being loved is debatable, you'll always love the hand that feeds you, in a way. You can fall in love down the line once you get over these fears, Bruno's willing to prove that he's the safest man you'll ever meet.

Of course, if this isn't mutual, it's creepy as hell. The real reason that Bruno frightens you, besides from everything else I've described as off about him, is the fact that he does not, and will never, respect your boundaries. He's constantly pushing, whether you want it yet or not.

Bruno is not a man that will ever bend or break. There's nothing that can deter him once he has his mind on doing something- he shares such logic with plenty of other yanderes, but Bruno is a special case, because of his willpower.

Bruno lost his willpower before canon takes place. He has no motive to move elsewhere within the famiglia, his main motivation to get out of bed in the morning is caring for his little family- his famigliola, as he's tried to tell you- and honestly, majority of them are independent types and too old to be coddled. And even then, they're kind of odd, his youngest acts like the oldest and his oldest acts like the youngest, he has no idea how to handle them sometimes. Fathers are only good for spoiling and disciplining, not really any of the actual raising part. You do fun things with daddy, he doesn't make sure you're eating actual good dinners- that's where his darling comes in!

To Bruno, fighting meeting Giorno was like getting a second wind. He was in a massive rut emotionally, and was losing the sense of justice he clung to. Meeting his darling, after that. . . it was like breathing air for the first time. Regaining his soul.

So he can't just fold. It isn't over until it's over, and it's only over when he goes back to dust.

Bruno doesn't really understand what he's doing wrong. He has everything he needs to be appealing. He takes care of himself, he knows how to speak to people, he can provide both financially and emotionally, really, what is it?

When Bruno finds himself starting to feel agitated instead of hopeful you're coming around, then you may be afraid. Perhaps a little fear is good for you, long-term.

[doberbutts]

I have deep philosophical conversations about gender and sexuality with the cis gay men in my life regularly. Not people I just know online. People I work with. People I went to school with. People involved in GSAs. People in my community. People occupying the same physical spaces as I am.

It is not wishful thinking or simply a fetish for me to say that I have more in common with these cis gay men than I do with anyone else. I know this to be a fact. They have told me this themselves. 

“I never really was sold on the whole being a man thing.”

“I’m gay before I’m a man.”

“I don’t dislike my male body, but I’ve never been in love with the idea of being a man.”

“I suppose I’m attracted to masculinity, rather than body parts.”

“There are men with perfect Adonis bodies, and those are hot, but there’s also just... men. Of all bodies, all types. I like those too.”

“Don’t get me wrong, dick is nice, but there’s more to a man than that, you know?”

“It’s different, when a man likes a woman compared to when a man likes a man. We show it different. We express it different. We love them different.”

“I find myself uninterested in what straight men have to offer. There’s just something different about a gay man, how he acts, what he’s like.”

“I don’t really consider [sex with transgender people] like that. There’s something different about the way a trans man wants it than the way a woman wants it. The woman I have no interest in. The trans man, well... depends what he likes. Usually it’s what I like.”

All of these are word-for-word quotes from cis gay men describing their attraction to men. I want to be clear that not all of them considered themselves available to a transgender partner, at least not one pre-op, and yet still not only agreed that the way many gay trans men approach gender and sexuality was very similar to their own, but also agreed that because of this, gay transgender men had the right to be there, sharing space with them.

I am far more willing to listen to the men who have welcomed me into the fold, the men I personally know outside of the internet, off the computer, those I’ve hung out with and see daily at work and kiss and fuck, than some rando woman online who has never been involved in any of these communities and has no idea what she’s talking about. Don’t speak over the lived experiences of these cis gay men you claim to care so much about. Often times their relations to things are much different than what the internet would tell you.