#implying lack of penetration is a lesbian thing is uncomfortable too

[garetthawke]

still annoyed by that post that was like "bottoming isn't a personality trait its a sexual position" and someone replied "i don't associate bottoming with penetration bc I'm sapphic, i see it as a mindset" like fucking FIRST OFF maybe don't shove a sapphic pov onto what are primarily gay men's terms lmao, and secondly, you can have sexual positions without penetration, are you kidding me.

the excuses ppl come up with so they can ascribe feminine personalities to "bottoming" instead of viewing it as a simple position that ANYONE can prefer is mind boggling. acting like your choice to do that is about decentralizing penetration is a fucking JOKE when the first one to bring up penetration is YOU. to top it off, acting like ppl associating penetration with a GAY SEX TERM is worse than associating a sex position to a personality trait based off heteronormative roles, is absolute insanity. what are you on.

like, penetration is a thing for gay couples, men and lesbians. we created terms to talk about that, because unlike with het couples, there is no assumptions we can make based on predetermined roles about how sex is going to function, and who is going to perform what part.

calling yourself a "bottom" or "top" is a specific indicator towards your preference regarding sex positions, and more typically, PENETRATION, because we needed a way to communicate it! if ur out here calling urself a bottom and getting mad that people are percieving it to be about sexual position/penetration rather than your personality, that's YOUR problem lmao. come up with your own words if you don't like the subjects of the ones you're coopting.

or better yet, use the ACTUAL terms that refer to what you mean, because i swear to god half of y'all literally just mean "sub" or "pillow princess" but can't be bothered to care about how you affect gay people when you misuse our terminology instead.

"bottoming" isn't a fucking mindset, or personality. it's a specific indicator coined to refer to preference in sexual positions that has a connotation regarding penetration. if you don't like what it means, stop using it. you don't get to rebrand it and then pretend like it's some progressive lesbian thing, fuck off.