#im tired of people refusing to acknowledge that im also asexual

[pechaberriesandsoju]

If you ever try to insist or imply a person who is feminine presenting or has feminine traits or goes by feminine terms in this community, is cis or cis het with zero context or implications and choose to ignore them when said otherwise? You should pay that person.

If you're going to assume shit about someone based on who they present themselves or describe themselves and actively ignore their gender identity or sexual identity? You should fucking pay them or let them hit you. It's that simple.

[trickstarbrave]

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My point is that there are horrible people on both sides. Sourpunchgay comes to mind, but I point them out specifically because it would sound ridiculous if everyone went around shouting “wow, the gays sure are hateful. Look what this hamtaro-looking-mofo said.” Actually I might of seen something like that but it was called out

yeah except this is repeated behaviors that make asexuals and aromantics feel unsafe in the greater community????? and im a hypersexual aromantic talking about how absolutely fucked up it is and how disgusted i am????????? ‘aspec community’ dont even bother with casually including aromantics unless you’re going to openly condemn the shit i just showed you. 

the issue isnt “OH THE ACE COMMUNITY IS SO MUCH WORSE NO BAD PEOPLE EXIST ANYWHERE ELSE” its the fact that this shit is hardly ever addressed because you all FLAT OUT SAY IT NEVER HAPPENS AND THEN BACKTRACK EVERY TIME SOMEONE SHOWS YOU ITS AN ACTUAL PROBLEM. WHICH YOU LITERALLY HAVE JUST DONE. 

its a huge problem not me ‘strawmanning’ ace tumblr. its not me saying ‘uwu nothing bad happens everywhere else’. its me, a hypersexual aromantic being told im tired of being ‘shallow’ for being sexual at all. im tired of being told my relationships arent as ‘pure’ or that im ‘being aphobic’ to my ace partner for talking about any sexual thing with him and im tired of this giant crusade against a sex disorder while the ace community continues, again and again, to use ‘hypersexual’ in demeaning ways only to be accused of exaggeration and lying when i point it out, because its easier to do that than actually acknowledge a problem and address it. it becomes an issue when you refuse to address it. saying ‘every community has issues’ isnt a solution. its an excuse. how is “well we’re just as bad as every other community ha ha!” make you look any better??? it just shows you don’t care about actually making a safer community so long as you think you can get away with it and deflect criticism 

as for ‘calling out hateful ~gays~’ as you put it yeah that also gets done. i have met many ppl disgusted w other exclusionists and refuse to call themselves exclusionists from the lying (discoursezilla condemning child porn and incest porn despite MAKING AND SHARING IT ON THEIR MAIN) and outrightstupid and hateful banter and i dont say “uwu this is strawmanning i dont see it happen dont demonize an entire community” i call those people out too bc i wont tolerate it.