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[prettyboykatsuki]

How do you recommend writing fluff. Or idk, just being in love?

okay so 

1. im super sleepy and head empty rn so this will probably be a lil incoherent and have a lot of typos. please bear w me on that but i wanted 2 answer bc i was thinking of this ask all day 

2. i hope this is helpful 

i should preface w the fact i dont think writing fluff is particularly my strong suit. fluff writing requires a lot of immersive and detail oriented writing and i simply don’t excel at it - but i think writers like @/cyancherub @/doinmybesthere and @/ihatebnha are really good at tying details into their work. all of my mutuals r talented but they stick out to me in that way 

but i thought about this question a lot 2day cause i wanted to respond but didn’t know how but i ended up coming to the conclusion that ultimately i can’t answer this for you all the way 

i’ve been in love a few times and i am in love now but im also kind of an apathetic person. ironically for someone who’s enamored by romance - im actually pretty unaffected with most things. i cry easily but i forget easy too. 

your experience with the emotion of love is effected by everything. my personal philosophy love is the origin and center of everything and i mean that in a way that’s completely unrelated to romantic love. i think an important part of writing good love stories is not focusing too heavily on what media has made us believe romantic love is like. 

it’s a big broad concept with alot of depth and a lot of how you write it will boil down to how you view it. when you think of love, when you hear the word - what do you see? and if you see something narrow, broaden your perspective. find your own words to write love and romance and think of the times that you’ve loved someone or they’ve loved you. it doesn’t need to be romantic. but write about that. write about having popsicles on your porch in summer or passing notes in class. 

romantic love is only one kind and true love is often many kinds of love that you can find in just one person. 

for me - my concept of romantic love is heavily molded by the fact i do not think love will make your heart race. 

i struggled with that for a long time because yknow.. romance movies always talk about how lovers make your heart skip a beat. but after reaching two years with my boyfriend - i stopped feeling that way all the time. the honeymoon phase wore off and i was worried that i wasn’t in love anymore. i knew i loved him but it didn’t feel the same 

but you know what he did make me feel? what he does make me feel? safe. i grew up in a really unsafe environment and it’s so exhausting but talkin to him makes me feel so at ease i get sleepy listening to his voice. its so easy to be myself around him i get teary eyed just thinking about it. 

when i write love, in almost every way, that’s the kind i write. and the more i thought about love in my life, all the times i’ve felt it - it’s because those people gave me something i couldn’t have ever before. safety and peace that had felt so inaccessible to me growing up. 

i wont tell you that there’s a right way to write fluffy content or people being in love. but when i write, personally, i think of how a character might perceive love given all the things they didn’t have in their life. 

for bakugou - i think love is wakeup call. for deku, i think love is an act of selfishness. for kirishima, it’s a feeling of security. for todoroki, it’s probably an almost childish purity of feeling. for momo, maybe it’s someone that gives her confidence. 

we mold love with our hands and we shape it based on our lives. i think once you’ve jumped over that hurdle of figuring out what love feels like for you, it’ll be easier to write fluffy stuff and romance scenes.