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all social media has sort of this inalienable layer to it where you’re trying to make your life appear a certain way to your friends/followers but imo there are definitely some forums that are more of a performance than others, and it depends entirely on your audience. facebook and instagram are definitely the biggest ones here, so is “local twitter,” that insular ring of people who only seem to follow high school and college classmates and various others who live in the same area as them, even though that one tends to get a little more personal. when the audience shifts to a group of people who largely dont know you irl, your social media presence becomes a little more honest, or at the absolute least, dimensional. you don’t want the whole football team knowing about your existential grief, but you don’t have shit to prove to, like, jessica from portland, because your interactions are confined to a virtual platform and what she thinks of you will probably have very little effect on your day to day life. people who know you irl are much more likely to be active participants in it, so putting your baggage out in a place where you know theyll see it isnt something a lot of people do. granted, some people are especially open about their personal struggles on facebook because they want to elicit certain reactions from (usually specific) people on their friends list, but most are very selective about the content they put up there.

i say it pretty often but whenever i see people posting a lot about their relationships on facebook, it always makes me feel like they’re trying to prove something to others. it’s weird to see men writing scathing, horrible things indirecting a woman they were gushing about a week before. it’s weird to see people tagging the SO that they live with in sappy memes instead of just showing them. it’s weird to see shared images about relationship goals that were clearly posted to guilt the other party. it’s weird that anyone would feel the need to showcase or legitimize their courtship to people who were in algebra II with them. are you guys okay?