#im not sure if going on t will fix my self-esteem issues

[deeisace]

I'm too tired to cook and to have a shower, but if I don't now then I won't

Sudden case of self-image woes, I'll probably be fine by morning

Once I get food and a shower

[cant-think-of-a-username]

Hi!! I have never gotten this before so I thought it would be super cool to ask for one ahah

may i be matched to a haikyuu character? 🥺 thank you!! <3

Pronouns: she/her

Gender Preference: male

MBTI Type: I just took it for the 1000th time a few days ago and got INFP-T (but I would tend to also get ISFP dsfkjs)

Astrology Placements: Scorpio Sun, Pisces Moon, Gemini Rising, Sagittarius Venus, Pisces Mars (if it helps)

Physical Description: long straight black hair that reaches the middle of my back, dark brown eyes (that apparently makes me look like i have eyeliner sometimes) with long thick black eyelashes, light-medium neutral skin, 5'5", i apparently have long legs, thick thighs, cute butt (LMAO im just listing wut ppl have described of me too sdfkj), soft hands with quite long fingers, pretty basic body i would say sdfjhsd, and i apparently make things look expensive (i love fashion) i would say the best way to describe what i wear is probably (dark) academia but i like just wearing whatever i like--i don't like to limit myself to a certain aesthetic.

Personality Description: with new people/in first meeting, i tend to be quiet or generally don't speak much but once i warm up to you, im a really playful person or at least i really enjoy acting that way.

im honest but i should remember that my words can cut sometimes (rip), ive been described to be incredibly kind (sdfkh)... maybe because i tend to put so much energy and effort and time into other people or my relationships (friends, family, literally anyone that comes into contact with me for a decent amount of time)

i tend to act or do things according to how i feel but despite having that trait of mine or having that inclination, i can still very much be realistic. as i act according to how i feel, i have been described to act younger than my age and i doooo and i aint gonna deny it pfftt ima OWn That sHiT

i have no problem with acting like a child. i love rain, i love water, i love the ocean, i love cafes or the smell of coffee, i love the smell of fresh laundry and feeling the warm fabric (caused by drying in the sun or from a dryer lmfao) of whatever it may be (clothes, bedsheets) on my fingertips..

i love self development or just trying to be better and combined with me loving or liking a lot of different things, i try a lot of things--therefore not really becoming a master at anything dkjfhfsd. and because of that.. (i think) because i try a lot, putting quite a bit of effort into my.. goals (i have perfectionistic and overachieving tendencies) i guess.. when it fails (ofc) im incredibly disappointed, and become pretty... fucking sad hhh and when that happens.. i start to become more lazy/complacent 🤡

..bonus (if u wanna sprinkle some "angst" i guess LMAOO): i overthink a lot (so i start to have difficulty making smarter decisions or thinking of strategies to solve my problems + i still have a sprinkle of self-esteem issues of course... feeling incredibly incompetent is not foreign to me) so i could exaggerate my troubles or make a problem out of nothing 😶, im quite emotional, i have the "dismissive avoidant" attachment style, feeling hopeless quite often aint foreign to me either 😭

bonusbonus: (wow dont i love talking about myself? sdfknsd) i love corgis

Hobbies: dancing, witchcraft, astrology, divination, spirituality, reading fan fiction (LMAOOOO), reading visual novels/playing otome games, painting, drawing, looking into psychology in some type of manner, netflix, swimming, watching anime i guess, trying new things, learning something (new)

Ideal Date: tbh going to a concert of an artist we both enjoy, an arcade or an amusement park (im like a scaredy cat but im almost 100% sure im more likely to go for the “scary” rides if i was with someone i enjoyed hanging out with anyway), probably going on a tropical vacation (cus, beach anddd water activities), water amusement park !!

A Must Have in my Partner: they have to be okay with me pursuing my goals lol; i already have a problem with putting too much energy into others that i dont get to direct that energy onto myself.. so someone who has my best interest in mind + being considerate of me (because.. of that dismissive avoidant attachment style i would say--im just saying this because its the best that i can describe it) and they should be okay with my childlike actions/tendencies lol (like... they shouldnt be repulsed or something like that--that they treat me unpleasantly because of it or something) (oops i just realized thats more than one when u asked just.. one)

extra information: a short drabble would be amazing !!

sorry this was pretty messy and i pretty much just babbled LMAOO

but again, if ever you get to do this (or even if u dont..)

thank you so much!!!

i hope you have an amazing rest of your day hihi <3

sorry it took me a while ! i was just really busy lately and barely got time to write 😅

hope u enjoyy :)

I ship you with..

Nishinoya Yuu !!

- You are the most gorgeous person he knows ;)

- he literally shamelessly approached u the moment he laid eyes on u

- even with ur somewhat quiet first impression, he never gave up making u eventually warm up to him

- doesn’t really mind brute honesty, in fact he thinks of it as a form of bravery

- he also loves seeing your childish side since he himself has one too

- wanna dance around in the rain ?? he will 100% join u !!

- he loves how determined u are to get better and will constantly tell u how proud of you he is for it

- even if things dont go ur way sometimes he will comfort u and tell u that its completely normal to fail sometimes

- there is no overthinking on his watch !

- noya knows how bad it feels and that u definitely deserve a little break but he wont let u laze around too much, trying to help u get back up on ur feet and regain ur confidence is something he never fails to do

- he loves watching u do what u love and is always willing to join u (not that he is always fully understanding of what he is doing)

BONUS :

Cheering you up on a bad day..

You were getting frustrated trying to fix a mistake you made on one of your paintings. You let out a loud groan hiding your face in your hands in exhaustion, finally giving up. Hearing a loud knock on your door, you tell whoever is outside to come in. “HEY, HOW WAS YOUR- ....day ?” noya looks at you with concern in his eyes. “are you okay ?” “yeah i’m fine, its just that this painting won’t look right no matter what i do” you sigh.“maybe i should just throw it away” “you are not gonna throw it away” he says, his tone completely different from before, more serious in fact. “you might just be tired now, so don’t you dare give up now. you can always try again tomorrow” he says walking towards you and holding your hands in his, a little smile forming on his face. “how about you take a break for now ? the sun is really warm and it’s still early; wanna go swimming ?” You look a little unsure. “you still haven’t used that corgi beach towel i got you” he says, wiggling his eyebrows. You chuckle at that, proceeding to look him in the eyes with a small grin forming on you face, “sounds like a plan”...

[datingadviceonreddit]

Hey guys this is my first time posting so bear with me. Im sorry for the long rant.My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years now, going on 5. So far were pretty settled in our relationship. We're both attending college working on our degrees. We have a plan laid out. We have talked about marriage and having children. You know, typical things every couple goes through.I know he loves me to death, I know he tries to put me first and make sure im taken care of. Hes an amazing guy and I think hes a real catch.But as of late, I havent been feeling sexually attracted to him... or maybe I'm insecure about myself. Either way, I've been putting off sex with him for weeks. Every night we keep trying but I cant seem to put out. We've tried different positions, sex toys, roleplaying, or maybe like doing it in the car (at home of course) but it doesnt feel nice for me.When we have sex, I feel like I could simply lay there and read a book because it feels like nothing. But despite these issues, i tried to initiate sex more often for about 5 months. Unfortunatley, he kept rejecting me or whenever he finally agreed, he never wanted to do. We thought he had ED or something of the sort. This of course took a toll on my self-esteem and I havent been feeling well about myself. Mind you, Im a bit on the heavy side, but I was this way when he first met me and we'd have a lot of sex. Anywhere between 4 to 5 times in a day.But time has passed and we're lucky to have sex maybe once a week. As of late he's been trying to initiate. But every little thing turns me off now days. It could be too cold or my cat meowing. But most of all is my boyfriend doesnt take care of himself.He will go 3 weeks without washing his hair so its always oily, long, and always in his face. He doesnt take the time out of his day to comb it. He looks really sexy when he washes his hair and ive voiced this to him several times and I make sure to compliment him when he does wash it.When he kisses me, he produces so much saliva that when he shoves his tongue in my mouth. I have a mouth full of spit and its actually pretty gross. So I make it a point to not french kiss him. But I cant chsnge that about him. Its also because he doesnt brush his teeth...ever. I always see food stuck in his teeth, his breath always smells and he taste bad. I have brought this up and sometimes he'll go brush his before he has sex...but keep in mind we have sex maybe once a week.Last but not least. I hate giving him blowjobs. Ive walked in on him bathing and he does not clean himself. He will lay there in the tub for hours on his phone and doesnt wash himself. The other day we tried to have shower sex and I went to give him a BJ. But I immidietly stopped and pulled away becaude his pubes smelled HORRIBLE. Ihad to clean his pubes, but I was turned off for the rest of the night.It was never like this back then. I loved giving him BJ's. It turned me on. He would dress nice for me and well his hair has always been an issue but he would dress up and he wouldnt pass gas in my face every day. But ive been staying with him for the summer. He stopped dressing up for me and wear the same thing everyday. A white T-shirt and oversized baggy jeans that does not fit his body figure.We are very communicative and he is not ugly by any means. When he attempts to take care himself, he looks classy and sexy. But he is very lazy and Im having a hard time with this. I know he feels rejected and hurt, I want to have sex with him, he has a big/amazing heart and I want him to be happy. But im also afraid to hurt him even more if i come out and tell him im not sexually attracted to him. I need help and dont know how to fix this.TL;DR Boyfriend is husband material, personality-wise. But sexually unattracted to him because he doesnt take care of himself. How do O fix. via /r/dating_advice