#im not sure how serious u were when bringing up shownu but

[babieken]

Hwy, am I an arsehole because I don't want to date anyone with depression?

I know that sounds bad but my brother has it (and is abusive and uses it as an excuse) my mum has it and is dependent. My sister has it and gets angry my male friends say "it rules their lives" and I have diagnosed anxiety, so for me I want to date someone that I don't feel the need to tiptoe around ya know? Sorry for info dumping but like help, I just want someone strong and dependable like Shownu to be a partner (should note that out of my family I am the only one taking steps to better my mental health not only with medication but with therapy and stuff)

I mean… you can obv date whoever u want and everyone is entitled to their opinion, however, i will say two things.

1) being abusive, dependand, and having anger management issues aren’t exclusive or limited to having depression. People can have those issues and not have depression and other can be depressed and not have those. Let’s not mix those up.

2) if you have mental health problems yourself that you’re saying you’re making effort towards working through, I don’t see why you’d be activity looking to ‘date’ anyway when you’re supposed to be focusing on your own well-being and mental health journey.

Bonus: good luck finding someone with no mental illnesses in this economy kdkfkdkd