#im not entirely sober rn I might make an addition tomorrow

[babehog]

can you explain how the "im so jealous of your eyebrows" is transmisogyny? /gen. Should i avoid complimenting anyone's thick eyebrows unless im sure they arent trans woman?? I have always loved thick/bushy eyebrows and as tboy im sad mine didn't get much better on T.

I'm by no means the most well-read or articulated person on here to answer this so I encourage any mutuals of mine to add on if they wish.

Anon I would like to first of all say, no you do not have to "avoid" complimenting eyebrows just because the recipient is a trans woman. There's obviously nuance to this. The post in question was using eyebrows as an example but I just as often personally hear these types of comments about my arms, my jaw, my body/facial hair.

So what was the point? It's that TME people, whether they are trans or cis, have a tendency to compliment and appreciate the masculine aspects of trans womens bodies. This isn't necessarily a conscious choice of course but it is a comment that can make a trans women feel othered from a perceived femininity.

I'd also like to give you a chance to reflect on your own preconcieved notions. In your ask you identify yourself as a tboy, and you mention you like "thick/bushy eyebrows" and you end your ask by expressing dissapointment that your eyebrows didn't "get better" on T.

Do you think this phrasing says anything about how you view thick/bushy eyebrows? For example: If you wanted thicker eyebrows because you think that would make you appear more masculine, could framing your compliments through that perspectiv potentially affect how the compliment is interpreted? There is of course nuance here. A trans woman that styles her eyebrows might appreciate having that skill be appreciated. Having aspects of your appearance that are not within your control be judged can be a very uncomfortable feeling and although I personally as a butch woman wouldn't mind having my eyebrows complimented I do recognize that there are a lot of trans women that do not appreciate that.

I hope you genuinely were asking this in good faith and that you read my response.