#im lkke brainmelt so is this coherent? Idk!

[housecatclawmarks]

I think we forget when we are in spaces we have curated to minimize transphobia and cisnormativity and be comfortabke for us specifically that some issues are like. inter-community. Like I can look at that post saying ‘there’s so much positivity for gnc trans men but what about gnc trans women!’ And lkke. I get what that Means. I see the transmisogyny in tme trans circles, I see the spectacularization of a certain image of what they think trans women look like, I get what the post is talking about. But like what it’s actually SAYING with words I’m like. Hmm. WHERE is there so much positivity for gnc trans men, other than from other gnc trans people? Because I am one, and coming out with that, growing up with that, I can definitively tell you that the things posts that pit us in opposition like that imply about the amount of that acceptance are simply not true. Cis people mock and dehumanize gnc trans men, fetishize us, infantilize us, label our identities with their own words-that’s not positivity. I have dealt with medical discrimination because of this. Additionally, being trans doesn’t erase every other facet of yourself and it doesn’t mean people don’t see other things. I deal with homophobia as a gnc gay man both from other trans men and from cis people. In offline spaces without other gnc trans people in them I am treated in a way that is othering and invasive, regularly. That’s what I mean when I call it an inter community issue when it comes down to comparing treatment of gnc trans women and trans men specifically. Because I do understand and know what it’s talking about and I can’t even disagree. A lot of the stigma I have encountered has been within trans spaces, from other trans men, and sometimes from trans men who are also gnc and are less comfortable with it than I am, I know how little we give each other but for the same reason I’m also fully aware that however little that is, it’s still more than we give to gnc trans women. It’s not an issue of tme trans people giving positivity and acceptance to gnc trans men, it’s an issue of transmisogyny and misogyny in general being so pervasive that it permeates our own community, and tme trans people letting or causing it on the off chance that doing so will somehow raise us up or let us further benefit from male privilege when we should be doing the work to eradicate it from our spaces instead.