#im just thinking out loud that what are considered tropes are what is argued about

[quippecker]

i think one reason this is so complicated, is that of Course its gross to conflate that word and other words that are specifically for fetish p*rn with IRL gender, but it is SO PROMINENT that it seems there needs to be some visible indication that it MUST be tagged, or it WILL inevitably be visible on the directory, un/mistagged, for ppl that need to have it blacklisted. 

but then you run into the subjectivity of when it becomes fetishistic making it so hard to enforce, bc of people that would rather dig their heels in and die on that hill than to do the bare minimum to make other users more comfortable. that is the pitfall of an anonymous site, the comfort of being invisible also means a lack of accountability for the same reasons

the best thing i can think of as a middle ground is to maybe have some sort of section for indicating what sort of verse or trope or whatever youre looking for?

again, idk how it could be enforced better than a general warning tag, or what infinite number of checkboxes one might have to come up with in order to make using that section mandatory, because including a none/gen tag presents the same issue of subjectivity and choosing not to use the obvious tags

i imagine you could feasibly have an extreme p*rn trope section to put things like: f*ta, c*ntboy, a/b/o, these verses where ppl put things in the gender tag that dont especially belong. 

there are just SO MANY types of p*rn that are offensive to varying degrees, and we would probably then just start arguing about what should and shouldnt be on THAT list, as well. the thing is that those three things in particular are VERY prominent on this site, VERY frequently fought about, and so if we want to wrangle those maybe having their own section is worth considering in some way, with at least these verses/tropes being a place to start