#im hyperverbal and that includes text

[polychaeteworm]

I'm not trying to reopen this, as I've blocked the person in question. I just know a lot of people who follow me but not Saira know the person claiming he's vague posting about them and I want y'all to see that Saira isn't talking about that person, since as far as I know, they haven't admitted that they were mistaken. If they did I would be silent right now. I will delete this post if someone informs me that they have. I'm just bothered when I see lies being traded around behind the back of the alter I look after, my friend and lover who has tried so fucking hard to even be able to speak.

After investigating, yeah, the mistaken person made a post with the word "embarrassing" in the cripplepunk tag in a similar time period to when Saira made the vague post about a coworker.

Sorry! Whoops. But also like why am I apologizing for a coincidence?

I think I remember seeing the post in question in passing but we didn't even see the tags on it. It is indeed kind of embarrassing to talk about ventilators to someone on one. My(and Saira's) actual opinion on how that completely separate argument was handled isn't even important because our shared human body is not on a vent. (And tbh I feel like that's the post in question? It's just genuinely not what Saira was griping about so I really don't know.) They really didn't say anything comparable beyond the word "embarrassing".

I'm not screen capping what Saira was talking about because it's long gone now, I'm not digging through the blog of someone I've long blocked, nor do I remember the exact wording/spelling of the tag to search it, but the tag Saira is actually talking about said something like "#having this poor of a reading comprehension must be sooo embarrassing" it was someone we knew IRL who claimed to be for disability rights. He's allowed to be upset about that kind of thing in a tag where people vent, sometimes angrily, about ableism? I thought? (Really sincerely wondering where the "cripples don't have to be nice, don't tone police people" folks are rn)

This other person whom I am not following nor are they following me, popped out of nowhere like 'i wasn't talking about reading comprehension".

Ok. So maybe that's prime evidence that Saira isn't talking about you? Why make an assumption about a stranger without asking first? I'm unsure how polite he needs to be to a stranger making an assumption and a false accusation about him when this is literally a flavor of trauma he's been through and you came out of nowhere.

Like confrontation from strangers bothers him a great deal and surprisingly he was actually more polite than he usually would be. You can see his comments on this post. No name calling, just a little frustration and "please leave me alone" .

This is someone in therapy working on the right way to express emotions. Maybe he was clumsy, but he was far from mean. He mentions he's a traumatized alter to say "I'm trying, I barely believe I exist" I'm still teaching him that people see that as an excuse. He doesn't really know how to say "I feel harassed" or "I don't understand" or "your assumption is triggering me" but it's a process.

I woke up ready to do damage control and apologize yesterday but I was busy trying to find a job for my chronically ill body, and now after having a look I'm not sure that I even need to or should say sorry to this person??(Genuine apologetic confusion)

I'm just blocking because I don't think this person is worth spending the spoons to interact with.

Talking to them will possibly just upset Saira more and I am more concerned about not doing anything to destabilize him during our job search.

if you aren't mutual with me then I ask, kindly, respectfully, please dont interact with this post. It is untagged and purely only so my own followers know what happened if they also know this person. Also if you do know who I'm talking about, please do not bother them about this, I'm sure they also have bigger issues and they would like to move on too.

I love you all have a great day sorry if we did anything at all to offend anyone.

Unfollowed another person who thinks it's just fucking chill to call people not fully communicating their point "embarrassing" in the tags.