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[maplecatra]

Do they really do the two way mirror thing I’ve seen in your blog? It seems so sue- able... anything else you can earn a 17 year old girl about before I go to college? Thanks

Some places do do it, unfortunately. They can get away with it because no one says anything. If the mirrors are set into the wall, they have a chance of being fake. Flash your phone light through it and you should be able to see if it’s real or fake.

Some Other Tips:

From personal experience, the self defense trick of putting your keys between your fingers is not the best. You should only use it in really desperate measures. Because they don’t have a guard, the keys will also back into your palm with the force of the punch. Invest in a key chain that doesn’t outwardly look threatening but can be used in a pinch, something sharp preferably with a guard. I bought myself a bracelet with a hidden knife in the clasp. it’s not long, but it gives me enough security.

If someone is harassing you, make a scene. Be loud. at most, people will come to your aid. At the least, you will be memorable to witnesses.

An elbow is the perfect size to fit in an eye socket.

If people are hard or tiring to be around, don’t be afraid to let them go. At a certain point, some relationships aren’t worth it. If you are tired and annoyed and drained after every conversation you have with them, consider it.

Be open to new things and enjoy every moment.

If you have problems with coursework and such, have people you can do the work with that will hold you accountable and keep you on track. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.

Talk to new people who you think seem interesting. If you have trouble starting conversations, here are some easy starters. You can talk about your pet, ask if they have pets of their own, what animals they like. You can talk about a common interest that you see them with, like they have a pin on their backpack with a show you’ve wanted to watch. Encourage them to talk about their interests.

If you get overwhelmed, don’t be afraid to contact professors and such. Some may not understand, but some may and propose alternate assignments.

Go to therapy. Even if you don’t think you need it. If you or your parents can afford it, go. Trust me.

Don’t take too much work on. It will cause burnout and stress and bad happenings. Make sure to let yourself rest every once in a while.

Don’t procrastinate. Do the assignment as soon as you can.

Record lectures if you can.

Ask early on what the professors expectations and allowances are. Make any handicaps known, and anything that might cause problems for you in an email.

If you don’t have enough money to buy produce and such, buy fast food. It’s cheap, and getting nutrients is better than getting nothing at all.

Go to class, pay attention, take notes.

Don’t sign up for classes too late

Find someone in class you can work with, using the conversation starters above.

Don’t drink ANYTHING you haven’t handled or gotten yourself or kept your eye on the entire night. It can happen to anyone.

A template for emailing a teacher about new names:

Hello [Professors name],

How are you? I hope this email finds you in good health. I am one of your students in [time of class and name of course]. The name you have on your roster should be [deadname and last name]. Currently, I go by [first and last name] and use [your pronouns]. I would appreciate it if you could remember this, it is important to me that you do.

Thank you very much,

[first and last name]

[name and time of the course]

Here’s a template for nicknames:

Hello [proffesors name],

How are you today? I hope this email finds you in good health. I am in your [class time] class on [course name] and believe I am listed as [full name last name]. If possible, could you call me [nick name]? I appreciate it.

Thank you,

[Nickname last name]

[name and time of the course]

If anyone wants to add feel free :)