#im glad u said this cuz i actually made this post cuz of a saeru take i saw. we suffer together 🤝

[sukifoof]

hi i just wanna say that if u see this post and think about a character this has happened to i absolutely don't mind at all hearing about it on this post cuz it happens to SO many characters and i think we should all yell about it together 🤝 if anything its just more proof that lovelessness is widely deemed as something to be ashamed of and its nice to see others who see the fault in amatonormativity

i talked about this earlier but there's something really upsetting to me about posts that declare a character as inhumane because they struggle to understand love and have ptsd, especially when there's several actual things that the character has done that are fucked up like. idk. murder.

i tend to really enjoy characters that act out due to trauma and struggle to understand love because those are things i've personally dealt with. i understand why others may not like them but pinning their "inhumanity" on struggling to understand love is just. seriously?? amatonormativity is so deeply ingrained in peoples brains and it's really upsetting to see as a loveless aro. lovelessness seems to be a bigger crime to people than murder when it comes to character analysis lol

there's so much that can go into loveless character analysis. for example flowey struggles to understand love due to trauma and because of this he feels extremely isolated in a world where love is considered something that makes people who they are. he feels trapped in a loop as he tries to deal with his trauma on his own because he thinks no one could possibly understand. his decision to exhaust everything he could do in the underground is a product of helplessness, isolation, and untreated trauma that he and his family didn't know how to handle.

so it just feels particularly hurtful and dense when i see extremely complicated traumatized loveless characters labeled as Evil and Beyond Help solely because they struggle to understand love. especially when stories with antagonists like this are typically about coming to terms with your trauma and allowing yourself to move on from the past. these characters act out in situations like this because of ostracization and desperation to be understood and safe.

pretty much i think if you think a character is Evil ask if this is because they have killed people or if you think the issue actually lies in their lovelessness. i keep seeing people look at characters that do bad things and they go "THIS IS BECAUSE THEY CANT FEEL LOVE!! MONSTER!!!" this isn't me saying that you aren't allowed to dislike characters cuz that's perfectly fine i Get It but sooo many times i see a post like "this character killed people :/ theyre EVIL cuz they CANT FEEL LOVE!!!" hey can we maybe focus on the Actual Crimes rather than ur own arophobia if we're talking about reasons we dislike characters thanks