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My exploration of the science of cybernetics convinced me that the so-called "subconscious mind" is not a mind ~t all, but a goal-striv- ing servo-mechanism consisting of the brain and nervous system, which is used and directed by the mind. The most usable concept is that man does not have two minds, but rather a mind (or consciousness), which operates an automatic, goal-striving machine. This automatic, goal- striving machine functions in much the same way as electronic servo- mechanisms function, but it is much more marvelous, much more complex, than any electronic brain, computer, or guided missile ever conceived by man. Pg15
PRESCRIPTION
Begin collecting scrapbooks on persons, past or present, who exhibit both the qualities of character and personality and the life achievements to which you aspire. Select a different representative for each characteristic, each aspiration. Become the reigning expert in these peoples' lives by collecting and reading their biographies, autobiographies, articles about them, speeches made by them, others' analyses of them that can be found in books like Dr. Lundrum's, Napoleon Hill's, and others. Discover the almost uni- versal absence of predisposition (from genetics and often from their early environment and upbringing) for the personality they developed and the accomplishments of their lives. Ferret out the forces, thoughts, and influ- ences that actually shaped them. By making this your hobby, you will feed your imagination with valuable raw material that it can utilize to build the stronger, more goal-oriented self-image you require to achieve your life aspirations. Pg23
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MENTAL TRAINING EXERCISE
Pick someone to thoroughly study for a month, to get so intimately famil- . iar with the way he or she thinks that you can sit down and have a conver- sation with the person and solicit advice and coaching in your imagination. Pg24
You, As Creator of Your Own life Experiences
(1) Consciqus Mind Decision + (2) Imagination
Communicates Goal/Target to (3) Self-Image
=
(4) "Work Order"lnstructions to
Servo-Mechanism
pg27
Of course, many people waste much of their imagination power,
frittering it away on aimless daydreaming and fantasy, with no real
appreciation for what it might do if applied purposefully.
The sun's light, diffused, is gentle warmth; directed ' through a
magnifying glass in a certain way, it is incendiary.
pg28
Many writers and speakers, for example, tell
me of giving their subconscious instructions about their need for a
good anecdote, story, joke, or forgotten details of a story for a writing
task or speech, then taking a nap, to awake with exactly the material
they wanted "on their minds."
pg33
You can give problem-solving or idea-getting tasks to your
servo-mechanism, send it off on a search while you do other
things, even while you sleep, and have it return with useful
material you didn't know you knew and might never have
obtained through conscious thought or worry.
This becomes a common experience and great benefit for those
of us who regularly rely on Psycho-Cybernetics. It occurs because the
servo-mechanism has access to a much more expansive storehouse of
information than the conscious mind.
The famous composer Schubert is 'said to have told a friend that
his own creative process consisted in "remembering a melody" that
neither he nor anyone else had ever thought of before. Many creative
artists, as well as psychologists who have made a study of the creative
process, have been impressed by the similarity between creative inspi
ration,
sudden revelation, or intuition, and ordinary human memory.
pg36
My own analysis of everything I've read about Albert Einstein is
that he was a great practitioner of Psycho-Cybernetics. He acted as if
a theoretical idea was a factual conclusion, then turned the "figuring
out" over to his own servo-mechanism as well as to other "worker
bees." I am convinced he connected with intelligence outside the
realm of his own . stored data through his imagination. He was a brilliant
target setter. His accomplishments stand as testament to an individual's
opportunity to rise above and beyond his or her stored
knowledge, education, experience or skill through the power of imagination.
You can too.
pg37
So What Exactly Is Psycho-Cybernetics?
You might think of Psycho-Cybernetics as a collection of insights, principles,
and practical methods that enable you to do all of the following:
1. Conduct an accurate inventory and analysis of the contents of
your self-image.
2. Identify erroneous and restrictive programming imbedded in
your self-image and systematically alter it to better suit your purposes.
3. Use your imagination to reprogram and manage your self-image.
4. Use your imagination in concert with your self-image to effectively
communicate with your servo-mechanism, so that it acts as
an Automatic Success Mechanism, moving you steadily toward
your goals, including getting back on course when confronted
with obstacles.
5. Effectively use your servo-mechanism as something like a giant
search engine, to provide precisely the idea, information, or solution
you need for any particular purpose-even reaching beyond
your own stored data to obtain it.
In a way, Psycho-Cybernetics is a communication system, for
effectively communicating with yourself.
pg39
PRESCRIPTION
Read this chapter through at least three times per week for the first 21 days.
Study it and digest it. Look for examples, in your experiences and in the
experiences of your friends, that illustrate the creative mechanism in action.
Think about limiting ideas about yourself that may be held firmly in the
self-image, that may be the "cause" of "effects" you no longer desire.
pg40
MENTAL·TRAINING EXERCISE
Memorize the following basic principles by which your Success Mechanism
operates. You do not need to be a computer genius or a neurophysicist to
operate your own servo-mechanism, anymore than you 'have to be able to
engineer an automobile in order to drive one or become an electrical engineer
in order to turn on the light in your room. You do need to be familiar
with the following, however, because, having memorized them, they will
throw "new light" on what is to follow:
1. = AIM Your built-in success mechanism must have a goal or "target."
This goal, or target, must be conceived of as "already in existence
now," either in actual or pote!ltial form. It operates either (1) by steering
you to a goal already in existence or (2) by "discovering" something
already in existence.
2. = TRUST The automatic mechanism is tele-Iogical; that is, it operates
on, or must be oriented to, "end results," goals. Do not be discouraged
because the means may not be apparent. It is the function of the automatic
mechanism to supply the means when you supply the goal.
Think in terms of the end result, and the means will often take care of
themselves.
3. = RELAX Do not be afraid of making mistakes or of temporary failures.
Ail servo-mechanisms achieve a goal by negative feedback, or by going
forward, making mistakes, and immediately correcting course.
Automatic course correction is one of the many benefits of PsychoCybernetics.
4. = LEARN Skill learning of any kind is accomplished by trial and error,
mentally correcting your aim after an error, until you achieve a "successful"
motion, movement, or performance. After that, further learning
and continued success are -accomplished by forgetting the past errors,
and remembering the successful response, so that it can be "imitated."
5. = DO You must learn to trust your creative mechanism to do its work
and not "jam it" by becoming too concerned or too anxious as to
whether it will work or not, or by attempting to force it by too much
conscious effort. You must let it work, rather than make it work. This
trust is necessary because your creative mechanism operates below the
level of consciousness, and you cannot "know" what is going on
beneath the surface. Moreover, its nature is to operate spontaneously
according to th,e present need. Therefore, you have no guarantees in
42 Chapter Twa
advance. It comes into operation as you act and as you place a demand
on it by your actions. You must not wait to act until you have proof.
You must act as if it is there, and it will come through. "Do the thing
and you will have the power," said Emerson.
With all this in mind, select a "target"-whether that is a thinner, healthier
you; a more confident, persuasive you; a you free of constant worry; a sales
professional free of procrastination who begins each day with an organized
to-do list and ends each day with it completed; or a golfer who hits perfectly .
straight drives. Devote just ten or fifteen minutes every day to taking that
mental picture from a vague idea to a good sketch to a finely detailed, fully
fleshed out and colored vision that occurs to you exactly the same way
whenever called upon. If it helps to write out descriptions, or to draw illus-
. trations on paper, or to collect relevant pictures from magazines, do so. Just
stick to ten- or fifteen-minute sessions, when you close your eyes to the
outer world and open them only to this picture's continuing development.
Try this little experiment for 21 days, and see what happens.
pg41
Your nervous system cannot tell the difference between an imagined
experience and a "real" one. Your nervous system reacts appropriately
to what you think or imagine to be true.
This phenomenon that can be produced as a practical joke or by
a hypnotist on stage for entertainment is actually identical to, or illustrative
of, the basic process that governs much of our behavior, and
that can be taken ahold of and deliberately used to advantage.
pg46
Dear Dr. Maltz,
... since I had the luxury of several weeks to prepare for our first meet
ing
that would take place behind closed doors, I immersed myself in prepara
tion
by studying everything I could obtain about this man. I read a book he had
written, books and articles about him, watched video tapes of interviews with
him from TV networks and programs, analyzed his biography, and ultimately
produced a walking, talking replica of him in my imagination, so that I could
carry on conversations with him. I did not have means to have someone else
ably act as this person in actual role-play, as politicians do when preparing for
debates, so instead I created an imaginary clone.
Frankly I chose not to let any of my associates know exactly what I was
doing, for fear of having the men in white coats called! My client might have
had second thoughts about entrusting this high-wire negotiation to a someone
who had an "imaginary man" he was talking with for hours each day.
instru~tions
Anyway, I followed the
I found in your book, Psycho
Cybernetics,
as inspiration for my approach. After constructing this imaginary
person, I then spent hours in what you call "The Theater of the Mind" actually
playing out the meeting and dialogue we would have, myself the scriptwriter,
director, lead actor and observer, which I found difficult at first, but less diffi
cult
as I stayed with it. Soon I found my imagined clone actively raising issues,
questions and arguments on his own. Once I recall sitting in my easy chair, eyes
closed, immersed in this imaginary meeting, catching myself losing my temper
and pounding my fist on the arm of the chair!
As this evolved into a 'mental movie' with a successful outcome, I transi
tioned
into re-playing that identical movie repeatedly. I even went so far, after
many viewings, to write it out word for word, as if a courtroom transcriptionist
was there to accurately record our conversation word for word.
Here is what is remarkable: when the actual meeting took place, not only
did it follow my script in order and flow, and not only did I voice things exactly as I had many times in the mental movie as you might expect, but he also per
formed
as if working from the very same script!
pg56
Use Mental Pictures to Get a Better Job
The late William Moulton Marston, well-known psychologist, recommended
what he called "rehearsal practice" to men and women .
who came to him for help in job advancement. If you have an important
interview coming up, such as making an application for a job, his
advice was: plan for the interview in advance. Go over in your mind all
the various questions that are likely to be asked. Think about the
answers you are going to give. Then rehearse the interview in your
mind. Even if none of the questions you have rehearsed come up, the
rehearsal practice will still work wonders. It gives you confidence. And
even though real life has no set lines to be recited like a stage play,
rehearsal practice will help you to ad lib and react spontaneously to
whatever situation you find yourself in, because you have practiced
reacting spontaneously.
Pg57
The Final Word on Imagination Practice
It doesn't
matter what religious, spiritual, or philosophical background
or viewpoint you come from. It doesn't matter how you describe it:
imagination practice, visualization, mental picturing, or using my ter
minology,
Theater of your Mind. "What's important is that you do it!
If you
will choose a target to apply this to, and give it a solid, honest
21-day trial, you will be so gratified with the results that you will cer
tainly
choose to continue using this tool for the rest of your life, and
benefit enormously by doing so, just as countless athletes, entertain
ers,
doctors, lawyers, business leaders, and· others have before you.
Here are a few exercises to get you started:
MENTAL TRAINING EXERCISE
Your present self-image was built on your own imagination pictures of
yourself in the past, which grew out of interpretations and evaluations you placed on experience. Now you are to use the same method to build an adequate
self-image that you previously used
build an inadequate one.
Set aside a period of 30 minutes each day where you can be alone and
undisturbed. Relax and make yourself as comfortable as possible. Now close
your eyes and exercise your imagination. Many people find they get better results if they imagine themselves sitting
before a large motion picture screen and imagine that they are seeing a
motion picture of themselves. The important thing is to make these pictures
as vivid and as detailed as possible. You want your mental pictures to
approximate actual experience as much as possible. The way to do this is to
pay attention to small details, sights, sounds, objects, in your imagined
environment. Details of the imagined environment are all-important in this
exercise because, for all practical purposes, you are creating a practice experience.
And if the imagination is vivid enough and detailed enough, your
imagination practice is equivalent to an actual experience, insofar as your
nervous system is concerned.
The next important thing to remember is that during these 30 minutes you
see yourself acting and reacting appropriately, successfully, ideally. It doesn't matter how you acted yesterday. You do not need to
try
to have faith you
will act in the ideal way tomorrow. Your nervous system will take care of
that in time-if you continue to practice. See yourself acting, feeling, being
as you want to be. Do not say to yourself, "I am going to act this way
tomorrow." Just say to yourself, "I am going to imagine myself acting this
way now-for 30 minutes today." Imagine how you would feel if you were
already the sort of personality you want to be. If you have been shy and
timid, see yourself moving among people with ease and poise and feeling
good because of it. If you have been fearful and anxious in certain situations,
see yourself acting calmly and deliberately, acting with confidence and
courage', and feeling expansive and confident because you are.
This exercise builds new "memories" or stored data into your midbrain and
central nervous system. It builds a new image of self. After practicing it for
a time, you will be surprised to find yourself "acting differently," more or
less automatically and spontaneously, without trying. This is as it should be.
You do not need to take thought, or
try,
or make an effort now in order to
feel ineffective and act inadequately. Your present inadequate feeling and
doing are automatic and spontaneous, because of the memories, real and
imagined you have built into your automatic mechanism. You will find it
will work just as automatically upon positive thoughts and experiences as
upon negative ones.
Step One: Take pad and pen and write out a
outline or description of the mental
movie you intend to construct, experiement
with, develop, and view in the Theater in the Mind.
Step Two: Set aside 30 minutes a day, preferably at the same time each day, to find
a quiet, private place, relax, close your eyes, enter your Theater, and begin playing,
editing, replaying your movie.
Step Three: Gradually "massage" your movie so that its ''star'' (you) performs
exactly as you desire, and achieves the experience and results you desire. Strive to
arrive at this point within the first 10 days.
Step Four: For the remaining 11 days, play and enjoy that movie repeatedly without change.
Pg66
MENTAL TRAINING EXERCISE
(To be practiced for at least 30 minutes daily)
Seat yourself comfortably in an easy chair or lie down on your back.
Consciously "let go" the various muscle groups as much as possible without
making too much of an effort of it. Just consciously pay attention to the
various parts of your body and let go a little. You will find that you can
always voluntarily relax to a certain degree. You can stop frowning and let
your forehead relax. You can ease up a little on the tension in your jaws. You
can let your hands, your arms, your shoulders, your legs become a little
more relaxed than they are, Spend about five minutes on this and then stop
paying any attention to your muscles. This is as far as you are going to try
to go by conscious control. From here on you will relax more and more by
using your creative mechanism to automatically bring about a relaxed condition.
In short, you are going to use "goal pictures," held in your imagination
and let your automatic mechanism realize those goals for you.
Mental Picture 1
In your mind's eye see yourself lying stretched out upon the bed. Form a
picture of your legs as they would look if made of concrete. See yourself
lying there with two very heavy concrete legs. See these very heavy concrete
legs sinking far down into the mattress from their sheer weight. Now
picture your arms and hands as made of concrete. They alsp are very heavy
and are sinking down into the bed and exerting tremendous pressure
against the bed. In your mind's eye see a friend come into the room and
attempt to lift your heavy concrete legs. He takes hold of your feet and
attempts to lift them. But they are too heavy for him. He cannot do it.
Repeat this process with your arms, neck, etc.
How to Dehypnotize Yourself from False Beliefs 81
Mental Picture 2
Your body is a big marionette doll. Your hands are tied loosely to your
wrists by strings. Your forearm is connected loosely by a string to your
upper arm. Your upper arm is connected very loosely by a string to your
shoulder. Your feet, calves, thighs are also connected together with a single
string. Your neck consists of one very limp string. The strings that control
your jaw and hold your lips together have slackened and stretched to such
an extent that your chin has dropped down loosely against your chest. All
the various strings connecting the various parts of your body are loose and
limp, and your body is just sprawled loosely across the bed.
Mental Picture 3
Many people will find this the most relaxing of all. Just go back in memory
to some relaxing and pleasant scene from your past. There is always some
time in every one's life when he felt relaxed, at ease, and at peace with the
world. Pick out your own relaxing picture from your past and call up
detailed memory images. Yours may be a peaceful scene at a mountain lake
where you went fishing. If so, pay particular attention to the little incidental
things in the environment. Remember the quiet ripples on the water.
What sounds were present? Did you hear the quiet rustling of the leaves?
Maybe you remember sitting perfectly relaxed and somewhat drowsy
before an open fireplace long ago. Did the logs crackle and spark? What
other sights and sounds were present? Maybe you choose to remember
relaxing in the sun on a beach. How did the sand feel against your body?
Could you feel the warm relaxing sun, touching your body, almost as a
physical thing? Was there a breeze blowing? Were there gulls on the beach?
The more of these incidental details you can remember and picture to
yourself, the more successful you will be.
Daily practice will bring these mental pictures or memories clearer and
clearer. The effect of learning will also be cumulative. Practice will
strengthen the tie-in between mental image and physical sensation. You
will become more and more proficient in relaxation, and this in itself will
be "remembered" in future practice sessions.
pg81
Then ask yourself these four questions:
1. Is there any rational reason for such a belief?
2. Could it be that I am mistaken in this belief?
3. Would I come to the same conclusion about some other person in a
similar situation?
4. Why should I continue to act and feel as if this were true if there is no
good reason to believe it?
Don't just pass these questions by casually. Wrestle with them.
Think
on them. Get emotional about them. Can you see that you
hard
have cheated yourself and sold yourself short, not because of a "fact,"
but only because of an irrational and erroneous belief? If so,
to
try
arouse some indignation or even anger. Indignation and anger can
sometimes act as liberators from false ideas. Alfred Adler "got mad" at
himself and at his teacher, and was enabled to throw off a negative definition
of himself. This experience is not uncommon.
Pg92
MENTAL TRAINING EXERCISES:
1. Have a heart-to-heart talk with yourself and honestly assess whether you
have any problems you're no longer attempting to resolve only because you
have accepted as "fact" that they cannot be solved, whether you are living
out circumstances in your life that are unfulfilling or even demeaning to
you because you have accepted as fact that you cannot alter them.
Reconsider! Apply current rational thought to challenge these beliefs and
then use your imagination to "shop around" and try out new and different
possibilities.
Consider the questions I suggested in this chapter about each of these
"facts" you uncover in your heart-to-heart:
"Why do I believe that I can't?"
Then ask yourself, "Is this belief based on an actual fact or on an assump
tion
or false conclusion?"·
"Is there any rational reason for such a belief?"
"Could it be that I am mistaken in this belief?"
"Would I come to the same conclusion about some other person in a simi
lar
situation?"
"Why should I continue to act and feel as if this were true if there is no
good reason to believe it?"
2. Out of all this rational thought, you may identify a new target (goal) to
assign to your Automatic Success Mechanism.
If so,
review the exercises
provided at the end of each of the prior chapters as means of getting started.
Chapter Five
Summary Checklist of The Uses of Rational Thought
1.
It is the job of rational, conscious thought to examine and analyze incoming messages,
to accept those that are true and reject those that are untrue.
2.
It is the job of the conscious rational mind to form logical and correct conclusions.
3.
It is the job of conscious rational thought to decide what you want, select the goals you
wish to achieve, and concentrate on these rather than on what you do not want.
4.
It is the job of your conscious mind to pay strict attention to the task at hand, to what
you are doing and what is going on around you, so that these incoming sensory mes
sages
can keep your automatic mechanism currently advised of the environment and
allow it to respond spontaneously
pg99
He has made a point of mastering the application of
Psycho-Cybernetics for this purpose, so that he can go to sleep at
night, then awake and instantly sit at his computer keyboard and "pour
out" the writing work that has been done "for him" as he slept. While
others tell of writing being enormously stressful and difficult, for him
is virtually free of stress.
~t
Dan Kennedy says he was first inspired to attempt this by my
writing about Bertrand Russell's experience in the original edition of
this book. Bertrand Russell said:
I have found, for example, that, if I have to write upon some rather diffi
cult
topic, the best plan is to think about it with very great intensity-the
greatest intensity of which I am capable---':for a few hours or days, and at
the end of that time give orders, so to speak, that the work is
proceed
to
underground. After some months I return consciously
the topic and
to
find that the work has been done. Before I had discovered this technique,
I used to spend the intervening months worrying because I was making
no progress; I arrived at the solution none the sooner for this worry, and
the 'intervening months were wasted, whereas now I can devote them to
other pursuits." (Bertrand Russell, The Conquest of Happiness)
pg104
Five Prescriptions for Freeing
Your Creative Machinery
1. Once a decision is made, focus on supporting it, not second
guessing
it.
In the original book, I told of the business executive with a pen
chant
for gambling on roulette, who gave me the idea: "Do your wor
rying
before you place your bet, not after the wheel starts turning. "
I happened to quote to him the advice of William James, men
tioned
earlier, to the effect that emotions of anxiety have their place in
planning and deciding on a course of action, but that, "When once a
decision is reached and execution is the order of the day, dismiss
absolutely all responsibility and care about the outcome. Unclamp, in
a word, your intellectual and practical machinery, and let it run free."
Several weeks later he burst into my office to report,
"It
hit me
all of a sudden," he said, "during a visit to Las Vegas. I've been trying
it and it works."
"What hit you and what works?" I asked.
That advice of William James. It didn't make too much of an impression
when you told me, but while I was playing roulette it came back to me. I
noticed any number of people who appeared not
worry at all before
to
placing their bets. Apparently odds meant nothing to them. But once the
wheel started turning, they froze up, and began to worry whether their
number would come up or not. How silly, I thought. If they want to
worry or be concerned or figure odds, the time to do that is before the
decision is made to place a bet. There is something you can do about it
then, by thinking about it. You can figure out the best odds possible, or
decide not to take the risk at all. But after the bets are placed and the
wheel starts turning, you might as well relax and enjoy it. Thinking about
it is not going to do one bit of good, andis wasted energy.
Then I got to thinking that I myself had been doing exactly the same
thing in my business and in my personal life. I Qften made decisions or
embarked on courses of action, without adequate preparation, without
considering all the risks involved and the best possible alternative. But
after I had set the wheels in motion, so to speak, I continually worried
over how it would come out, whether I had done the right thing. I made
a decision right then that in the future I would do all my worrying, all my
conscious thinking, before a decision was made, and that after making a
decision, and setting the wheels in motion, I would "dismiss absolutely all
care or responsibility about the outcome." Believe it or not, it works. I
not only feel better, sleep better, and work better, but my business is run
ning
much smoother.
I also discovered that the same principle works in a hundred different lit
tle
personal ways. For example, I used to worry and fume about having to
go to the dentist and other unpleasant tasks. Then I said to myself, "This
is silly. You know the unpleasantness involved before you make the deci
sion
go. If the unpleasantness is all that important to cause so much
to
concern, and not worth the worry involved, you can simply decide not to
go. But, if the decision is that the trip is worth a little unpleasantness, and
a definite decision is made to go-then forget about it. Consider the risk
before the wheel starts turning." I used to worry the night before I had
to make a speech at a board meeting. Then I said to myself, "I'm either
going to make the speech or I'm not. If the decision is to make it, then
there's no need in considering not making it-or trying to mentally run
away from it." I have discovered that much nervousness and anxiety is
caused by mentally trying to escape or run away from something that you
have decided to go through with physically. If the decision is made to go
through with it-not to run away physically-why mentally keep consid
ering
or hoping for escape. I used to detest social gatherings and go along
only to please my wife, or for business reasons. I went, but mentally I
resisted it, and was usually pretty grumpy and uncommunicative. Then I
decided that if the decision was to go along physically, I might as well go
along mentally-and dismiss all thoughts of resistance. Last night I not '
only went to what I would formerly have called a stupid social gathering,
but I was surprised to find myself thoroughly enjoying it.
One of the many conversations I had with business leaders after
the publication of Psycho-Cybernetics focused on this story. I was con
ducting
a seminar for the giant insurance corporation, Metropolitan
How to Relax and Let Your Automatic Success Mechanism Work for You
Life, and on a break, one of the top executives mentioned the story of
the man who worried too much after his decisions to me, and he said
something I believe to be profoundly liberating:
"Dr. Maltz, the truth is that there are few inherently right deci
sions
or wrong decisions. Inst6ad, we make decisions, then make them
right. That's what leadership is all about."
The chairman of the world's largest ad agency, McCann
Erickson,
Nina DiSesa, was named by Fortune Magazine (in 2000) as
one of the 50 most powerful women in American business. "You can
always correct a poor decision, but if you do nothing, you can never get
the time back," she says.
PRESCRIPTION
Strive for greater decisiveness and finality in small matters, to build the evi
dence
shown to your self-image that you are the kind of person who makes
If
a firm decision, then ceases to worry over it.
in a restaurant with friends,
do not be the person who agonizes over choices, even changes his mind after
If
ordering. Pick something and close the menu.
shopping, pick and buy.
MENTAL TRAINING EXERCISE
Consider creating a useful little mental picture or mental movie to use,
immediately after reaching a decision, whether an important business or
personal decision, choosing the golf club to use, or picking a tie to wear
with your tan sports jacket. In the 2000 Presidential elections, in a differ
ent
context, Vice-President AI Gore became so famous for overusing the
word "lock box" that television comedy programs and imitators had weeks
of fun with it. "Lock box" is a good visualization for this: As soon as you
make a decision, see yourself taking all the information, concerns, and pros
and cons you sifted through to make it in a big pile into a storage room,
putting it alUnto a large box or container of some kind and locking it shut.
Then see yourself taking a sheet of paper on which the decision is written,
sealing it in an envelope, marking "Done" with today's date and time, then
putting the envelope in the "Done" file cabinet drawer and locking it away
as well. Finally, see yourself brushing your hands off like a man does after
doing some kind of satisfying manual labor, turning out the light in the storage room, and walking out of the dark room into sunlight, like the ship
sailing from dark into light in the painting given to me by Salvador Dali.
After viewing this movie a few times, for the sake of speed, you can cut it
up into stills or slides and view them quickly-click, click, click, click.
2. The secret of focusing only on the here and now.
There is a need to consciously consider goals, evaluate progress;
and construct plans, but such thinking needs to occur at appropriate
times and places, set just for such purposes, The rest of the time, con
sciously
practice the habit of "taking no anxious thought for tomor
row"
by
giving all your attention to the present moment.
Your creative
mechanism cannot function or work tomorrow-or even a minute
from now. Only right now. It can only function in the present-today,
the present moment. Make plans for tomorrow. But don't try to
live
in
tomorrow or in the past. Creative living means
responding
and
reacting
to environment spontaneously. Your creative mechanism can respond
appropriately and successfully to present environment only if you have
your full attention upon present environment and give it information
concerning what is happening now. Plan all you want to for the future.
Prepare for it. But don't worry about how you will react tomorrow or
even five minutes from now. Your creative mechanism will react
appropriately in the now if you pay attention to what is happening
now. It will do the same tomorrow. It cannot react successfully to what
may
happen, only to what is happening.
1 once dined with a president of a large corporation in a very
pricey gourmet restaurant, He wolfed his dinner down quickly and
still had a plate full of food. When 1 asked him about it he said, "I
never taste food. I'm too busy thinking about other, more important
things." Well, he might as well get his nutrients from a pill. Someday
1 imagine it may come to that. But there are two troubling things
about Mr. Dynamo's approach: First, he is denying himself the great
pleasure of a fine dining experience, of sipping the wine, tasting each
morsel, relishing how perfectly prepared is the cut of meat, how crisp
and fresh the tomato. One can assume he misses out on many other
sensual enjoyments of life as well. Second, his preoccupation is a con
ceit,
not a" genuine display of superior commitment, executive discipline, entrepreneurial zeal, or time efficiency. People cannot function
at their best if moving at the fastest possible speed aU the time, with
out
relief or recovery. It is a safe wager that he rarely is in the moment,
fully focused and involved with only one thing or one person, and
while that may impress others with his busy-ness, it will not lead to
maximum utilization of his wisdom and capability. The following
morning, based on my diagnosis, I called my broker and sold the
shares of stock I held in the company captained by this fellow.
You will have a far more enjoyable life and be a far more effective
individual if you learn to mentally s-l-o-w yourself down enough to
savor your expenences.
MENTAL TRAINING EXERCISE
After you have left a place, such as a restaurant or shop, stop and see how
much of it you can recall and describe in copious, exacting detail. In order
to sharpen your powers of observation for this challenge, you will auto
matically
slow yourself down and be more "there" (wherever you are).
If you have read the accounts of the fictional (yet fact-based) detective
Sherlock Holmes, you know that he demonstrated remarkable observatory
powers, recalling and analyzing the minutest details. In one of these stories,
the author, Arthur Conan Doyle, has the Dr. Watson character say to
Holmes: "It seems obvious your faculty of observation and your peculiar
facility for deduction are due to your own systematic training." Doyle knew
that the ' person he modeled Holmes after, his pathology professor at
Edinburgh University, was well-known for his extraordinary powers of
observation and had taken great pains to train his mind to capture all the
minute detail of a scene, an experience, or a person.
3. Try
to do only one thing at a time.
Another cause of confusion, as well as the resulting feelings of
nervousness, hurry, and anxiety, is the absurd habit of trying to do
many things at one time. The student studies and watches TV simul
taneously.
The businessperson, instead of concentrating on and only
trying to "do" the one letter that he is presently dictating, is thinking
in the back of his mind of all the things he should accomplish today, or
perhaps this week, and unconsciously trying mentally to accomplish
them all at once. The habit is particularly insidious because it is seldom recog
nized
for what it is. When we feel jittery, worried, or anxious in think
ing
of the great amount of work that lies before us, the jittery feelings
are not caused by the work, but by our mental attitude, which is, "I
ought to be able to do this all at once." We become nervous because
we are trying to do the impossible, and thereby making futility and
frustration inevitable. The truth is that we can only do one thing at a
time. Realizing this, fully convincing ourselves of this simple and
obvious truth, enables us to mentally stop trying to do the things that
lie next and to concentrate all our awareness, all our responsiveness,
on this one thing we are doing now. When we work with this attitude,
we are relaxed, we are free from the feelings of hurry and anxiety, and
we are able to concentrate and think at our best .
. If you
watch much football on television, you have seen receivers
drop balls that pass right through their hands, and hear the commen
tators
explain that "he was running before he caught the ball" or "he
must have heard footsteps." In other words, instead of being totally
focused on catching and securing the ball, he was worrying about
other players converging on him, where he would go once he had the
ball, even prematurely moving his body away from the ball.
There's a relatively new word for this in the occupational
world-"multitasking" -and for most people, most of the time, it is an
empty conceit. Be careful whom you emulate, the herd or the leader.
Top performers stick with focus rather than multitasking. While many
run-of-the-mill sales professionals talk with their clients on their cell
. phones while driving through traffic or even walking down a busy,
noisy street, you will not catch the top sales pro doing that; you will
find that when she has to make such a call, she does so in a place and
at a time where she can give it 1 00% of her attention. While many
run-of-the-mill executives permit continuous interruptions by phone,
intercom, or walk-ins while they are meeting with someone or review
ing
important information, the most successful executives I know tol
erate
no such chaos.
The Lesson of the Hourglass
Dr. James Gordon 9ilkey preached a sermon in 1944 called "Gaining
Emotional Poise," which was reprinted in Reader's Digest and became a classic almost overnight. He had found, through many years of counseling,
that one of the main causes of breakdown, worry, and all sorts
of other personal problems was the bad mental habit of feeling that
you should be doing many things now. Looking at the hourglass on his
desk, he had an inspiration. Just as only one grain of sand could pass
through the hourglass at a time, so could we only do one thing at a
time. It is not the job, but the way we insist on thinking of the job that
causes the · trouble.
Most of us feel hurried and harried, said Dr. Gilkey, because we
form a false mental picture of our duties, obligations, and responsibilities.
There seem to be a dozen different things pressing in on us at
any given moment; a dozen different things to do; a dozen different
problems to solve; a dozen different strains to endure. No matter how
hurried or harried our . existence may be, said Dr. Gilkey, this mental
picture is entirely false. Even on the busiest day the crowded hours
come to us one moment at a time; no matter how many problems,
tasks, or strains we face, they always come to us in single file, which is
. the only way they can come. To get a true mental picture, he suggested
visualizing an hourglass, with the many grains of sand dropping one by
one. This mental picture will bring emotional poise, just as the false
mental picture will bring emotional unrest.
Another similar mental device that I have found very helpful to
my patients is telling them:
Your success mechanism can heIp you do any jo.b, perform any task, solve
any problem. Think of yourself as "feeding" jobs and problems to your
success mechanism as a scientist "feeds" a prob.lem to an electronic brain.
The "hopper" to your success mechanism can handle only one job at a
time. Just as an electronic brain cannot give the right answer if three different
problems are mixed up and fed in at the same time, neither can
your own success mechanism. Ease off on the pressure. Stop trying to
cram into the machinery more than one job at a time.
PRESCRIPTION
Purchase an hourglass and place it where you work most of the time, where
it will catch your . eye often. Place a small placard on it or next to it, on
which you have written "One Grain at a Time." 4. Sleep on it.
If you have been wrestling with a problem all day without making
any apparent progress, try dismissing it from your mind and putting
off making a decision until you've had a chance to "sleep on it."
Remember that your creative mechanism works best when there is not
too much interference from your conscious "I." In sleep, the creative
mechanism has an ideal opportunity to work independently of conscious
interference, if you have previously started the wheels turning.
Remember the fairy story about the Shoemaker and the Elves?
The shoemaker found that if he cut out the leather, and laid out the
patterns before retiring, little elves came and actually put the shoes
together for him while he was sleeping.
Many creative workers have used a very similar technique. Mrs.
Thomas A. Edison has said that each evening her husband would go
over in his mind those things which he hoped to accomplish the next
day. Sometimes, he would make a list of the jobs he wanted to do and
problems he hoped to solve.
Edison's well-known "cat-naps" were far more than mere respites .
from fatigue. Joseph Rossman, in the Psychology of Invention, says,
"\Vhen stumped by something, he would stretch out in his Menlo
workshop and, half-dozing, get an idea from his dream mind to help
him around the difficulty."
Henry Ward Beecher once preached every day for 18 months.
His method? He kept a number of ideas "hatching" and each night
before retiring would select an "incubating idea" and "stir it up" by
thinking intensely about it. The next morning it would have fitted
itself together for a sermon. .
5. Relax while you work.
MENTAL 'TRAINING EXERCISE
In Chapter Four you learned how to induce physical and mental relaxation
while resting. Continue with the daily practice in relaxation, and you will
become more and-more proficient. In the meantime, you can induce something
of that relaxed feeling and the relaxed attitude, while going about
your daily activities, if you will form the habit of mentally remembering the
nice relaxed feeling that you induced. Stop occasionally during the day-it
need only take a moment-and remember in detail the sensations of relax ation. Remember how your arms felt, your legs, back, neck, face.
Sometimes forming a mental picture of yourself lying in bed or sitting
relaxed and limp in an easy chair helps to recall the relaxed sensations.
Mentally repeating to yourself several times, "I feel more and more
relaxed" also helps. Practice this remembering faithfully several times each
day. You will be surprised at how much it reduces fatigue and how much
bettet you are able to handle situations. By relaxing and maintaining a
relaxed attitude, you remove those excessive states of concern, tension, and
anxiety, which interfere with the efficient operation of your creative mech
anism.
In time, your relaxed attitude will become a habit, and you will no
longer need to consciously practice it.
pg109
I then suggested that he memorize a saying of Epictetus, which
has always been a favorite of mine: "Men are disturbed," said the sage,
"not by the things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that
happen."
Happiness versus Unhappiness
=
Facts versus Opinions
pg122
The essence of Psycho-Cybernetics is the accurate, calm,
and ultimately automatic separation of fact from fiction,
fact from opinion, actual circumstance from magnified
obstacle, so that our actions and reactions are solidly
based on truth, not our own or others' opinions.
pg123
PRESCRIPTION
Form the habit of reacting aggressively and positively toward threats and
problems. Form the habit of keeping goal-oriented all the time, regardless
of what happens. Do this by practicing a positive aggressive attitude, both
in actual everyday situations and in your imagination. See yourself in your
imagination taking positive, intelligent action toward solving a problem or
reaching a goal. See yourself reacting to threats not by running away or
evading them, but by meeting them, dealing with them, grappling with
them in an aggressive and intelligent manner. "Most people are brave only
in the dangers to which they accustom themselves, either in imagination or
practice," said Bulwer-Lytton, the English novelist.
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The word "habit" originally
meant a garment or clothing. We still speak of riding habitS and habil
iments.
This gives us an insight into the true nature of habit. Our
habits are literally garments worn by our perso.italities. They are not
accidental or happenstance. We have them because they fit us. They
are consistent with our self-image and our entire personality pattern.
When we consciously and deliberately develop new and better habits,
our self-image tends to outgrow the old habits and grow into the new
pattern.
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MENTAL TRAINING EXERCISE
Habitually, you put on either your right shoe first or your left shoe.
Habitually, you tie your shoes by either passing the right-hand lace around
the left-hand lace, or vice versa. Tomorrow morning determine which shoe
you put on first and how you tie your shoes. Now, consciously decide that
for the next thirty days you are going to form a new habit by putting on the
other shoe first and tying your laces in a different way. Now, each morning
as you decide to put on your shoes in a certain manner, let this simple act
serve as a reminder to change other habitual ways of thinking, acting, and
feeling throughout that one day. Say; to yourself as you tie your shoes, "I am
beginning the day in a new and better way." Then consciously decide that
throughout the day:
1. I will be as cheerful as possible.
2. I will act .a little more friendly toward other people.
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3. I am going to be a little less critical and a little more tolerant of other
people, their faults, failings, and mistakes. I will place the best possible
interpretation on their actions.
4. Insofar as possible, I am going to act as if success were inevitable, and I
already am the sort of personality I want to be. I will practice acting like
and feeling like this new personality. .
5. I will not let my own opinion color facts in a pessimistic or negative way.
6. I will practice smiling at least three times during the day.
7. Regardless of what happens, I will react as calmly and as intelligently as
possible.
8. I will ignore completely and close my mind to all those pessimistic and
negative "facts" that I can do nothing to change.
Simple? Yes. But each of these habitual ways of acting, feeling, and thinking
has beneficial and constructive influence on your self-image. Act them
out for thirty days. Experience them, and see if worry, guilt, hostility have
. not been diminished and if confidence has not been increased.
p133
Sense of direction
Understanding
Courage
Charity (compassion)
Esteem
Self-confidence
Self-acceptance
pg136
PRESCRIPTION
Earlier in this book we covered a number of ways to put your imagination
to work, to come up with a new or more clearly defined target or targets for
you
focus on, and assign your Automatic Success Mechanism. This is a
to
good time to do so. Get yourself a goal worth working for. Better still, get
yourself a
Decide what you want out of a situation. Always have
project~
something ahead of you t~ look forward to-.:.-to · work for and hope for.
Look forward, not backward. Develop a "nostalgia for the future" instead
of for the past. The nostalgia for the future can keep you youthful. Even
your body doesn't function well when you stop being a goal striver and have
nothing to look forward to. This is the reason that very often a person dies
shortly after retirement. When you're not goal-striving, not looking for
ward,
you're not really living. In addition to your purely personal goals,
have at least one impersonal goal or cause, which you can identify yourself
with. Get interested in some project to help your fellow man, not out of a
sense of duty, but because you want to.
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PRESCRIPTION
Look for and seek out true information concerning yourself, your problems,
other people, or the situation, whether it is good news or bad news.
Adopt the motto, "It doesn't matter who's right, but what's right." An automatic
guidance system corrects its course from negative feedback data. It
acknowledges errors in order to correct them and stay on course. So must
you. Admit your mistakes and errors but don't cry over them. Correct them
and go forward. In dealing with other people, try to see the situation from
their point of view as well as your own.
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PRESCRIPTION
Be willing to make a few mistakes, to suffer a little pain to get what you
want. Don't sell yourself short. "Most people," said General
R.
E.
Chambers, once Chief of the Army's Psychiatry and Neurology Consultant
Division, "don't know how brave they really are. In fact, many potential
heroes, both men and women, live out their lives in self-doubt. If they only
knew they had these deep resources, it would help give them the self
reliance
to meet most problems, even a big crisis." You've got the resources.
But you never know you've got them until you act-and give them a chance
to work for you.
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PRESCRIPTION
The prescription for charity is three-fold: (1) Try to develop a genuine
appreciation for people by realizing the truth about them; they are children
of God, unique personalities, creative beings. (2) Take the trouble to stop
~f
and think
the other person's feelings, viewpoints, desires, and needs.
Think more of what the other fellow wants, and how he
m~st
feel. A friend
of mine kids his wife by telling her, whenever she asks him, "Do you love
me?" "Yes, whenever I stop and think about it;" There is a lot of truth in
this. We cannot feel anything about other people unless we "stop and
think" about them. (3) Act as if other pepple are important and treat them
accordingly.
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PREsCRIPTION
Stop carrying around a mental picture of yourself as a person less capable
than others, by making unfair apples-to-oranges comparisons. Celebrate
your victories small or large, recognize and build on your strengths, and
continually remind yourself that you are not your mistakes.
The word "esteem" literally means to appreciate the worth of. Why do men
stand in awe of the stars, the moon, the immensity of the sea, the beauty of
a flower or a sunset, and at the same time downgrade themselves? Did not
the same Creator make us? Is not the human being the most marvelous cre
ation
of all? This appreciation of your own worth is not egotism unless you
assume that you made yourself and should take some of the credit. Do not
downgrade the product merely because you haven't used it correctly. Don't
blame the product for your own errors like the schoolboy who
childis~ly
said, "This typewriter can't spell."
But the biggest secret of self-esteem is this: Begin to appreciate other peo
ple
more; show respect for
human being merely because he or she is a
any
child of God and therefore a thing of value. Stop and think when you're
dealing with people. You're dealing with unique, individual creations of the
Creator of all. Practice treating other, people as if they had value, and, sur
prisingly,
your own self-esteem will go up. For real self-esteem is not
derived from the great things you've done, the things you own, the mark
you've made, but from an appreciation of yourself for what you are-a child
of God. When you Come to this realization, however, you must necessarily
conclude that all other people are to be appreciated for the same reason.
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PRESCRIPTION
Use errors and mistakes as a way to learning; then dismiss them from your
mind. Deliberately remember and picture to yourself past successes.
Everyone has succeeded sometime at something. Especially when begin
ning
a new task, call up the feelings you experienced in some past success,
however small it might have been.
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PRESCRIPTION
Accept yourself as you are and start from there. Learn to emotionally tolerate imperfection yourself. It is necessary to intellectually recognize our shortcomings, but disastrous to hate ourselves because of them. Differentiate between your self and your behavior. You are not ruined or worthless because you made a mistake or got off course, anymore than a computer is worthless because it makes an error, or a violin because it sounds a sour note. Don't hate yourself because you're not perfect. You have lots of company in imperfection: No one else is perfect and those who try to pretend they are become imprisoned in misery.
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MENTAL TRAINING EXERCISES
Awareness, acknowledgment, and prompt reaction to a slumbering
Automatic Failure Mechanism awakening and attempting to distract you
with F·,A·I-L-U-R-E is important.
Glance at Negatives, But Focus on Positives
Automobiles come equipped with "negative indicators" placed directly in
front of the driver, to tell you when the battery is not charging, when the
engine is becoming too hot, when the oil pressure is becoming too low, etc.
To ignore these negatives might ruin your car. However, there is no need to become unduly upset if a negative signal flashes. You merely stop at a
service station or a garage, and take positive action to correct the problem.
A negative signal does not mean the car is no good. All cars overheat at
times.
However, the driver of the automobile does not look at the control panel
exclusively and continuously. To do so might be disastrous. She must focus
her gaze through the windshield, look where she is going, and keep her pri
mary
attention on hergoal-where she wants to go. She merely glances at the
negative indicators from time to time. When she does, she does not fix on
them or dwell on them. She quickly focuses her sight ahead again and con
centrates
on the positive goal of where she wants to go.
How to Use Negative Thinking
We should adopt a similar attitude about our own negative symptoms. I am
a firm believer in "negative thinking" when used correctly. We need to be
aware of negatives so that we can steer clear of them. A golfer needs to
know where the bunkers and sand traps are, but he doesn't think continu
ously
about the
he doesn't want to go. His mind glances at
bunker~where
the bunker, but dwells on the green. Used correctly, this type of negative
thinking can work for us to lead us to success, if:
1. We are sensitive to the negative to the extent that it can alert us to danger.
2. We recognize the negative for what it
undesirable, some
is~something
thing
we don't want, something that does not bring genuine happiness.
3. We take immediate corrective action and substitute an opposite positive
factor from the Success Mechanism. Such practice will in time create a
sort of automatic reflex that becomes a part of our inner guidance sys
tem.
Negative feedback will act as a sort of automatic control, to help us
steer clear of failure and guide us to success.
Take , a few.minutes toward the conclusion of each day, or midday and at
day's end if you can. Find a quiet place, close your eyes, enter your imagi
nation
so as to revisit the day's events and your behavior. Congratulate
yourself on all your Automatic Success Mechanism reflective actions but
take note of Automatic Failure Mechanism warning lights quietly flashing
on the dashboard! Tell yourself that Automatic Failure Mechanism behav
ior
is "not you" and is not to be tolerated.
If
corrections can be made for
any that occurred, by all means make them. Be the bigger person by calling
or going to see anyone who may deserve your apology, your gratitude, or
your congratulations. Analyze your thoughts and actions of the day in terms of contributing
toward achieving your goals, even measure your ratio of Automatic Success
Mechanism-versus Automatic Failure Mechanism-driven activity; then
resolve to improve that ratio.
Do not fear self-analysis. Stick with self-coaching, avoid self-loathing.
Conclude your private critique of the day by identifying positives you can
build on and the recommitment to your goals and ideals.
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MENTAL TRAINING EXERCISES
By far, the most challenging and rewarding exercises of all suggested in this book are these involving forgiveness. Choose one or two persons for whom you've long carried resentment over past slights and find a way in your heart to truly, completely forgive them, no strings attached, and ultimately do so via your actions toward them. Also, identify some past error or situation you have been carrying a grudge against yourself for, and forgive yourself, and finally, once and for all, banish this from your thoughts. This may very well require considerable work in your imagination factory. Invest 30 minutes a day for 21 consecutive days on quiet reflection, working on this with yourself, in solitude.
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MENTAL TRAINING EXERCISES
1. Don't wonder in advance what you are going to say. Just open your
mouth and say it. Improvise as you go along. Gesus advises us to give no
thought as to what we would say if delivered up to councils, but that the
spirit would advise us what to say at the time.)
2. Don't plan (take no thought for tomorrow). Don't think before you act.
Act and correct your actions as you go along. This advice may seem radical,
yet it is actually the way all servo-mechanisms must work A torpedo
does not "think out" all its errors in advance, and attempt to correct
them in advance. It must act first-start moving toward the goal-then
correct any errors that may occur.
3. Stop criticizing yourself. The inhibited person indulges in self-critical
analysis continually. After each action, however simple, she says to herself,
"I wonder if 1 should have done that." After she has gotten up
courage enough to say something, she immediately says to herself,
"Maybe I shouldn't have said that. Maybe the other person will take it
the wrong way." Stop tearing yourself apart. Useful and beneficial feedback
works subconsciously, spontaneously, and automatically. Conscious self-criticism, self-analysis, and introspection is good and useful if
undert~ken perhaps once a year. But the continual, moment-bymoment,
day-by-day, sort of second-guessing yourself-or playing
Monday-morning quarterback to your past actions,-is defeating. Watch
for this self-criticism; pull yourself up short and stop it.
4. Make a habit of speaking louder than usual. Inhibited people are notoriously
soft-spoken. Raise the volume of your voice .. You don't have to
shout at people and use an angry tone; just consciously practice speaking
louder than usual. Loud talk in itself is a powerful disinhibitor.
Experiments have shown that you can exert up to 15% more strength
and lift more weight, if you shout, grunt, or gr~an loudly as you make
the lift. The explanation of this is that loud shouting disinhibits and
allows you to exert all your strength, including what has been blocked
off and tied up by inhibition.
5. Let people know when you like them. The inhibited personality is as
afraid of expressing "good" feelings as "bad" ones. If he expresses love,
he is afraid it will be judged sentimentality; if he expresses friendship, he
is afraid it will be considered fawning or apple polishing. If he I:;ompliments
someone, he is afraid the other will think him superficial or suspect
an ulterior motive.
Totally ignore all these negative feedback signals. Compliment at least
three people every day. If you like what people are. doing, or wearing, or
saying, let them know it. Be direct. "I like that, Joe." "Mary, that is 'a very
pretty hat." "Jim, that proves to me you are a smart person." And jf you're
married, just say to your spouse, "I love you" at least twice a day.
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PRESCRIPTION
Stop thinking in terms of fear, anxiety or nervousness, and think only in
terms of excitement. It is fine to be a bit excited before you step into the
spotlight in whatever you do.
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MENTAL ThAINING EXERCISE
Creating 20/20 hindsight as foresight is yet another immensely valuable and
creative use of your imagination. Stop and recall a few situations from your
past that seemed of dire, earth-shaking consequence at the time but have
proven inconsequential over time. Then project yourself three, four, or five
years into the future, looking back on today's event, and consider how you '
will feel about it and how much impact it will have had on your life.
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MENTAL TRAl:NING EXERCISE
Change negative self-talk, the voice of the Automatic Failure Mechanism to a positive affirmation: "I am the kind of person who ... " Repeat the affirmation as a personal mantra until it becomes an automatic response to any sliver of self-doubt that slips through the door! Here are a few examples: I am the kind of person who ...
effectively pJans the day ahead, sets goals, and accomplishes them. Listens carefully, then communicates confidently and persuasively. Takes the initiative in solving problems and suggesting ideas. Stays calm under pressure. Prefers fresh 'fruit and other healthy foods to "junk food."
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(ɔꞅ̟c͛o c̟ɒ̇̈ıı̇ꞇıcꭇ)
: Psyċo-Cybeꞅneꞇıcs :: Sɑıꝺ̇ceo-Sꞇıùıꞅıċ ::
ɔꞅᴉͼo-cᴉσeꞃνeꞇıcς :: ꞅ·ıꝺ͛ċo-ꞅꞇıɩ̣̀ıɹ̈ıc͛ ::
I'm ſuckınᵹ ıncꞅeꝺıble::
Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those
who dared believe that something inside them
was superior to circumstance.
-Bruce Barton
"Once ꝺıſſıculꞇ, now eɑsy::"
Wıllpoweꞅ ıs noꞇ ꞇ̇e ɑnsweꞅ:: Selſ-ımɑʞe mɑnɑʞmenꞇ ıs::
Ꝺeep ꝺown I wɑnꞇ *moꞅe* lıſe:: We ɑll ꝺo::
Ꝺeeɔ ꝺoшν ı шɑνꞇ *moꞃe* lıƭe:: We ɑll ꝺo::
Ꝺ̇̇ɔ ꝺoƿıı ı ƿ·ııꞇ *ɩ̤ö̇* lı̷̇ɾ:: Ƿ̇ ·ll ꝺo::
book; Pꞅescoꞇ Leckey, Selſ Consısꞇency, A Ꞇ̇eoꞅy oſ Peꞅsonɑlıꞇy::
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