#if you think something in my noggin has been nagging me to make sure i dont miss it you are RIGHT!!!

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-climbs in here late with a luke-warm starbucks- ⭐️⭐️⭐️(idk imagine a whole pile of 'em. gimme dustverse thoughts pls and thank!)

Every ⭐️ exchanges for a headcanon about our characters’ (potential or existing) dynamic.

i think you know this already but tech and omens are so sibling coded to me and the most interesting thing about it is how much it isn't shaped like how tech and jack are siblings but it's still sibling coded. and i don't even really know,,, how it happened? i feel like there wasn't a huge amount of buildup i just know that at some point they crossed that invisible line relationships do where they go from being 'person i know' to 'person i care about' and in this case the line got crossed and then also. the nagging. it's relentless. what you said about never pulling punches has been living rent free in my noggin. i'm not sure any of this is properly counts as a HC or if i'm just wharblgarbling about how long we've had characters but they're. brother n sister to me. desert kid and desert kid alike. sand siblings, even. we should get them really drunk at the same and maybe they'll actually talk about Stuff or maybe they'll do something colossally stupid. either way it'll be interesting

anyway actual thought: tech helps out with the lights and sound systems around the club sometimes, when she just drops in the way she does. partly she just likes having things to do with her hands, partly it's the best way she's got of showing her appreciation to the people who tolerate having her around, fixing or improving or (etc.) whatever they've got that she knows how it works. she refuses to let him pay for this in any way (except. yknow. all the times she's crashed or hid out there)

i think tech and wild are kind of like. they mostly see each other whenever they're both at the haven? and almost never cross paths otherwise, unless they deliberating set something up. and the result reminds me kind of like.... you know when you have cousins/relative who, when you're together, you're absolute menaces and besties and inseparable, right, but. you maybe live far away from each other and don't see each other other than when there are family gatherings? almost like that. paths they're on and choices they've made put them in a way they maybe don't get to spend huge amounts of time together (at least in person) but this does not stop them from being sewn at the hip when they do

we were literally just talking about... that the odds of it randomly happening aren't necessarily high but i think tech and boo need to physically fight it out at least one (1) time and i think it will fix them a little bit. like don't get me wrong i think there's a lot of ways they could clear the air but so many of them are such long processes that involve a type of vulnerability that would be pulling teeth levels of grueling with them that i think. if we just let them go really feral for a second and fight it out, my hunch is that this will somehow be less grueling and set them up to figuring each other out in a less bitchy and more empathetic way and at least dial things back if not totally clear the air. alternatively it makes things Worse. but i think it would help.

conversely. i don't know what's going on with ghoul and tech really but i do know we should never ever let them get on the terms to fight-fight cause i think it'd be. bad. for so many reasons.

i'm not sure if this is factually accurate but the concept of tech being (jack/arachnid as a Thing™)'s champion is very funny to me

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*taps mic* Circe’s birthday is tomorrow! ✨🥳

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The Shortcut to How to Become An Irresistible Woman

Everybody has sticking points. Whether it’s work, relationships or life in general. And it’s fine to want to learn the shortcut to how to become an irresistible woman to any man. But that’s fine and dandy because the learning process is what makes us better women.

Perhaps you’re struggling with certain behaviors or fears that might be keeping you from making the most out of your love life. Not to worry though; author Mirabelle Summers has created the ultimate game-free guide on how to do just THAT:

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The “Get A Great Guy Guide” is the thing you need to achieve the breakthrough that you’ve been waiting for. With its sensible, no-nonsense and down-to-earth advice. For the sassy, modern girl, finding AND holding on to a quality man will be a cinch!

Now then – one of the most common stumbling blocks to more romance in a woman’s life is a simple lack of conversational know-now. The good news is that this can be LEARNED and immediately applied in your everyday life!

Especially while you’re face-to-face with a potential lover!

Oftentimes the problem is that some well-meaning girls overlook the importance of having the right communication style. It’s not that they WANT to be boring; they’re merely unaware of how to hold a conversation.

No sensible gal is going to get up in the morning and tell herself, “I wonder how I’m gonna BORE the socks off of that cute stranger I’m going run into at the coffee shop today?”

If you want to become a better conversationalist, it’s important to consider if you’ve grown accustomed to certain patterns of speech that are actually counterproductive. Sometimes, you need to step back and ask if you’ve fallen into certain habits which you’ve numbed yourself to over time.

So the first step towards any form of improvement is SELF-AWARENESS. Think about the way you normally carry a conversation with a guy and ask yourself if your style could use some polishing.

Of course, I don’t want you to start beating yourself up if you feel that the way you talk to men isn’t as attractive as you might want it to be. Like I said earlier, there’s always room for improvement, and it’s definitely a good thing to know EXACTLY which areas can be improved.

With that said, I want you to go over the following tip you can use to enhance your communication style :

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# 1: Rapport is Key

It may sound like the simplest thing in the world to say, but the fact is lots of perfectly adorable women have a hard time doing this. It’s mainly because they only have a VAGUE idea of what rapport is, so naturally you can’t create something you can’t really put a pin on!

So let’s clear up the fog surrounding this topic and identify what it is exactly. In a nutshell, having rapport is about having a CONNECTION with someone.

You know how you hook up your iPod or mobile phone to your computer, and they suddenly have this mutual understanding? It’s kind of like that, but on a DEEPER level.

Let me give you a clearer picture: if you were at a party packed with all manner of gorgeous, articulate and friendly men, which one of them are you likely to REALLY fall for?

Since they’re all visually and mentally appealing, you might have a hard time figuring out which guy suits you. Chances are the one who naturally understands you will be the man you’d want to date.

Why is that? Well, doesn’t it feel just GREAT when a person instinctively senses where you’re coming from?

I’m sure you’ve met at least one person in your life who you inexplicably feel drawn to. That’s because that person seems to perfectly understand and echo back your own opinions or feelings.

That sense of being connected is what rapport is all about. Fortunately, it’s actually not hard at all to do this in your daily conversations.

The first thing to keep in mind is that you need to be on the ‘same page’ as the person you’re talking to. There are easy ways to do this.

For example, keep an ear out for specific concepts or values that are personally close to the person you’re in a conversation with. If he brings up that it’s important to him to have some quiet time everyday, store that away for future reference.

Later on you can echo back that same concept by telling him about how YOU like to spend your alone time: ‘At the end of the day I like to spend an hour or so curling up with a good book and a nice warm cup of chamomile tea. It really helps decompress after a crazy day, you know what I mean?’

Step back and watch his eyes light up like a Christmas tree! By taking something close to his heart and giving it back to him in a genuine way, your words will make quite the IMPACT on him.

So, rapport really has to do a lot with speaking the same ‘language’. Now of course, I don’t mean you have to start mimicking everything he’s saying like a little parrot, but rather do it in an EMOTIONAL sense.

Discovering and talking about the values that resonate with you BOTH is a way to speak the same language. When you think about it, we often adapt our modes of speech depending on the context we’re in.

For example, you wouldn’t talk to your friends, family, colleagues, or elders in the same EXACT way would you?

So don’t think that you’re being a phony by making an effort to speak in the same way that he does. You’re simply getting into the practice of communicating in a way that’s APPROPRIATE to the situation.

And when it comes to chatting up gorgeous guys, a meeting of the minds is best done through rapport-building speech patterns!

# 2: Switch Off Your Brain

Don’t get me wrong, the kinds of guys who are worth your time are into women of SUBSTANCE. And certainly, this next conversational tip is not about acting air-headed or ditzy.

All I’m advising you do is keep your sexy brain from going into overdrive! A common mistake that intelligent women often commit is to think too much about certain things.

They get so caught up in their own world of thoughts that they’ll come off as aloof or distracted, when in reality they’re just petrified from FEAR of not knowing what to say next.

If you don’t want your brain from stalling on you, then you have to quiet your thoughts and shut out the nagging distractions in your pretty little noggin.

The attraction-killing thoughts I’m talking about are those coming from the inner critic trying to sabotage your conversation. Sometimes, we make the mistake of mentally scolding ourselves after saying something that felt out of place or unfunny.

Other times, we’re lost in a maze of thoughts on what to say next or get bogged down in a swamp of self-consciousness.

When you feel your brain going in this direction, acknowledge what’s going on and DROP these mental distractions.

There’s a handy little trick you can do in case your attention is drifting off to la-la land: instead of obsessing about how you look in his eyes or what he might be thinking, simply divert your attention to HIM.

It’s a girl’s best defense against looking aloof or detached from the conversation (or from this plane of reality for that matter!). So remember to shut off this part of your brain, and you’ll do just fine.

On another note however, sometimes it’s the guy you’re talking to that’s feeling self-conscious. If that’s the case, then don’t act or talk in any way that might give away you’re AWARE of it.

Just play it cool and don’t dwell on the vibe he’s giving off. It’ll only make things more awkward if you let his state affect your own.

# 3: Humor is Your Best Friend

Maybe you’re still feeling each other out. And you’re trying to get a handle on how to connect to this hunk of a guy. But the awkward flow of your conversation is creating a major interference in your connection. So you’re having a hard time ‘broadcasting’ your signal.

Fear not, friend! The quickest way to clear up all that ‘static’ is by creating a private joke. Which you can share with him. When you both have some knee-slapping ground to start on, this accelerates the rapport-building process.

My long-time friend Marcus has a great story to illustrate my point. He says:

“One of my first jobs was a freelance product writer for all sorts of health merchandise. During one assignment I was talking with this guy who was telling me about the benefits of a sports bracelet that supposedly reduces muscular fatigue. I had to put on the bracelet and pretended how less tense my arm felt as I was stretching it. Monique, his pretty sales assistant, was visibly chuckling at how funny I looked during the product demo’. Though she tried her best to hide it.

Marcus was then able to use this funny incident as an inside joke when he started chatting up Monqiue. To her delight, he referred to the silly arm-stretching debacle several times during their conversation.

To his benefit, Monique was game enough to tease him about it when they eventually started dating. The moral of the story here is that when used properly, humor serves as a great bridge between two people.

Heck, any doctor knows about the therapeutic effect of laughter. One way to bring on the charm is to put your man on a natural high. By cracking a joke or making a witty comment!

Making people laugh makes people (cute guys included) want to be around you to get a dose of your feel-good charisma.

Of course, there’s a big difference between laughing at a joke and MAKING one. However, appearing to be effortless at humor isn’t as hard as you might think.

Don’t assume you need to transform yourself into a standup comic at the drop of a hat.

Generally, a good punch line is the result of properly setting up the joke beforehand. If you need to explain the punch line after delivering it, it means you didn’t build enough suspense first.

(Think about how some characters on TV bumble a perfectly good joke by explaining too much and adding a “get it, get it?” at the end.)

A good way to build up a joke is by keeping a relatively straight face and suppressing any snickers before dropping the punch line on him. Otherwise there won’t be any escalation.

That’s what comedic timing is all about: buttering up the audience and then BAM, you get the drop on them with a well-placed punch line!

Notice how comedians like Conan O’Brien or Tina Fey churn out the funnies. They like to talk about a mundane news item (the set-up) and then making a zany comment about it (the payoff).

As an aside, avoid making any pop culture references that might alienate or confuse the person you’re talking to. It’s good to be mindful of the particular person in front of you so he can better relate to your “material”.

However, don’t worry about making leaps and bounds in this particular area of conversation. Try adapting these habits of humor little by little into your speech.

Once you hit your stride and finally struck a guy’s funny bone, you’ll notice how easier it is to keep him laughing with a follow-up joke!

One last way to be funny without overdoing it is by doing the “pretend seriousness” routine. A little lighthearted irony goes a long way with certain folks!

Let’s pretend that your friend introduced you to this incredibly cute guy who happens to be just into music as you are. So halfway through the conversation he confesses to not having heard about a certain band you absolutely adore.

Take advantage of this opportunity by *playfully* retorting, “Tell me you’re kidding. Otherwise, I’m gonna have to drag you to my place and make you listen to my (name of band) records until you see the light. Seriously!”

Admittedly, this approach might not work on everyone, but if he seems like the guy who’s game enough to go along with the fun, then give it a shot!

#4: Converse With an OPEN Ear

Some women might think that listening is just a simple matter of hearing what the other person is telling them. Truth is, this basic skill we’ve been taught to use over the years is often taken for granted.

Sometimes, we find ourselves zoning out a bit (refer to tip # 2) when we should PAY ATTENTION in the full sense of the verb. A typical mistake is to listen on a superficial level. And merely use the time the guy is talking to think of something to say.

This might sound like common sense, but I have this to share. You’d have a better chance of saying something worthwhile if you truly listened to what the other person just said.

I’ve told countless friends and colleagues that your genuine attention is a very powerful tool for conversational success! Really listening to his jokes and stories is a simple but effective way to make him feel good about himself.

And what red-blooded man wouldn’t want to be around a sassy girl that he can associate his GOOD FEELINGS with?

The gift of showing real interest is the direct path to greater rapport in ANY sort of conversation you’re in. Although our general interest here is to attract men through a good chat, we also have to consider the big picture here.

An attractive woman is someone who can have a great conversation with just about anybody. When you have a POSITIVE attitude towards the rest of humankind, it’s an indication of how you’d be on a date.

…or as a girlfriend.

If you’re there to talk with ANYONE purely for the pleasure of their company… and NOT because you want their approval… then that sincerity will naturally show.

People (hunks included) just tend you like more when you want to hang out with them with NO strings attached.

So what I’m saying here is that you shouldn’t just limit your awesome conversational skills to men alone. Find an opportunity to flex your social muscles and chat up a storm with the next person you run into!

It doesn’t matter if it’s the nice old lady at the library, the friendly cashier at your favorite coffee place, or your fellow students at yoga class. Every person out there offers a chance for you to become a more sociable person.

Trust me, this mindset is the sure-fire path to becoming drop-dead gorgeous in the long run! What have you got to lose after all?

And part of developing the right mindset is by expanding your knowledge and beliefs about dating. Courtesy of Meet Your Sweet’s “Get a Great Guy Guide.” The Shortcut to How to Become An Irresistible Woman

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6 Crazy Things Your Body’s Doing While You Sleep

Hiya Gorgeous!

I love sleep! If you’ve been following me for a while, then you’ve probably heard me talk about it at least once. What can I say? The more rested I feel, the stronger I am body, mind and creative spirit. The fact is, sleep is critical to our overall well-being.

Recently I was watching an interview with sleep researcher and scientist, Matthew Walker, PhD (he wrote this awesome book), and something he said really resonated with me:

“Sleep has an image problem. We chastise people who get sufficient sleep. We give them this label of being slothful or lazy, and that has to change.”

Damn. He put words to something I’ve been feeling for a while now. We really don’t give sleep the credit or respect it deserves.

Look, I know how it is. When you’ve got a busy life those 8 hours might feel like time lost. You might even start to think about how much more you could fit in if you shaved off just an hour or two of rest. Or maybe you’re losing sleep because some nights, that smart brain of yours just won’t shut off.

But here’s the thing: Getting your Zzzs is about more than just recharging on the surface-level. There’s a lot going on when we’re asleep—and getting enough can be a matter of life or death.

So why DO we sleep, anyway?

The bottom line is this: Your body is busy when you’re awake. It doesn’t have the time or energy to do everything it needs to do to keep you happy and healthy. That’s why it’s gotta do some of that stuff while you’re asleep! Ya know, so it can focus.

6 Crazy Things Your Body Does While You’re Asleep

Here are just a few of the fascinating things that happen when you’re out like a light.

1. Helps you make decisions.

I’ve got a whole new appreciation for the phrase, “sleep on it” after learning about the connection between decision-making and sleep. Have a tough choice coming your way? Don’t stay up until the wee hours stressin’ about it. Instead, get your 7-9 hours so your brain is ready to do some heavy lifting!

Get this: Our brains can even make decisions WHILE we’re asleep. This article describes one study in which participants were asked to group spoken words into two categories. For example, they’d have the option to categorize words like “cat” and “hat” as objects or animals by pressing a button (let’s say right for object, left for animal).

After this task became more automatic for the subjects, researchers continued to give them words to categorize, but this time in a dark room where they were told they could fall asleep. And though they stopped pressing the buttons once they were asleep, the same brain activity required to push left or right persisted. Wow!

And here’s another important way that sleep and decision-making are connected: Research shows that when you’re sleep deprived, there’s more activity in the parts of your brain that analyze positive outcomes and less activity in parts responsible for weighing negative outcomes (source). That means that getting sufficient sleep not only preps you to make decisions, but smart ones. So avoid making any big life changes when you’re exhausted, ok?

2. Saves your memories.

Ever wonder how memories are really made? Well, when we’re snoozin’ away at night, our beautiful brains are hard at work performing a complex restructuring process called “memory consolidation.”

Memory may seem like a simple concept (especially in today’s world of seemingly never-ending cloud storage that can be accessed in an instant), but the information we absorb actually goes on an intricate journey to become stable, recollectable memories.

Say, for example, you’ve just met someone new. When they tell you their name, your brain takes in that information and stores it in your short-term memory. But later when you’re asleep, your brain makes the connections it needs to move that name over to your long-term memory. Think of it like moving blueberries from your refrigerator to your freezer so they’ll last longer.

If you’re curious, check out the video from TED-Ed below—it’ll help you understand what’s goin’ on in your noggin at night when it comes to memory. Plus, it’s a lot of fun to watch.

3. Builds your immunity.

Are you especially prone to catching colds or getting the latest nasty stomach bug that’s going around? Well, let me ask you another question: When was the last time you got a full 7-9 hours of uninterrupted sleep?

Don’t get me wrong, there’s a whole lot that goes into maintaining a healthy immune system. And I know you may have other health challenges, which are important factors to keep in mind. But one thing we do have some control over when it comes to building our immunity is the quality and amount of sleep we’re getting on a regular basis.

Our bodies make cytokines when we’re asleep (source). These proteins support our immune system by targeting infection and inflammation (and you know what inflammation leads to… disease). We simply can’t produce sufficient cytokines to stay healthy when we’re awake, so get to bed, baby!

4. Cleans out your brain’s waste products.

Waste products build up in our brains when they’re busy doing all of that thinking. That’s why we have our glymphatic system—our brain’s waste removal service! The thing is, it’s not all that effective during our awake hours because there’s a lot of other stuff going on up there.

But when we’re asleep, the glymphatic system can more productively flush those toxic byproducts so we can wake up with the space we need to think/feel/do/be our most amazing selves. Yay!

5. Regulates your metabolism and appetite.

Not getting enough sleep can slow down your metabolism. One study found that losing just 2 hours of sleep a night for even a short period of time can lead to noticeable changes. Researchers observed that participants’ cells become more insulin resistant and less able to efficiently take in glucose when they were sleep deprived (source). What’s that mean? Well, if your body isn’t able to process foods at the speed it should, it may lead to weight gain or stubborn weight that you aren’t able to change.

And when it comes to appetite, sleep is essential for making sure you have appropriate levels of hunger-regulating hormones. Research has shown that people who don’t get enough sleep have decreased levels of leptin, a hormone that inhibits hunger, and increased levels of ghrelin, a hormone that stimulates appetite (source). Plus, since sleep deprivation is a stressor, your body makes more cortisol which can increase cravings for sweets and comfort foods. Put these factors together and you’ve got a perfect storm of appetite confusion!

6. Supports your mental health.

According to the National Sleep Foundation, people with insomnia are 10 times as likely to have clinical depression and 17 times as likely to have clinical anxiety. This correlation between lack of sleep and mood disorders is pretty staggering. So what is it about sleep that promotes good mental health?

This one gets pretty complicated because not only is sleep essential to a healthy mental state, but the lack of it can amplify symptoms of anxiety and depression in very serious ways. Sleep and mood are so intimately intertwined, it can be hard to distinguish cause from effect.

Here’s what we know: “Normal” sleepers cycle between two major sleep categories. When that cycle is disrupted, it throws off our neurotransmitter and stress hormone levels—and that can cause all sorts of problems for our moods, including impairing thinking and emotional regulation (source).

Taking care of our mental health is multifaceted and there’s no “right” way to do it. It’s also important to remember that just like with other health challenges, some factors are out of our control. But we can do our best to get sufficient sleep. And hey, if I can do this one thing to help keep myself happy and healthy, you better believe I’m all in. Whaddya say, are you with me?!

Struggling with sleep? I’ve got just the thing…

You might be thinking to yourself, “Ok, Kris, I get it… Sleep is important! But I lie awake at night/can’t calm down before bed/toss and turn/don’t feel tired/etc.”

Trust me—I hear you and I feel your pain. Maybe you’ve got a health challenge or your stress levels are sky high. Either way, I know that not being able to sleep can be super frustrating. That’s why I’m dedicated to providing you with simple, practical resources to help you rest.

Here are some of my top sleep posts:

The Ultimate Guide to Better Sleep (this one links out to lots of other resources!)

How to Wind Down Mindfully and Relax Before Bed

Top 5 Food Tips That’ll Help You Sleep

How to Use Essential Oils for Anxiety, Stress, Depression and Sleep

I encourage you to check these out and bookmark them for later—you never know when they might come in handy! Plus, there’s more where that came from. Just search for “sleep” here on kriscarr.com and you’ll find tons of helpful info.

Do you know what your body’s REALLY up to when you’re fast asleep? Here are 7 reasons snoozin’ is so important to your overall well-being!

Learn how to recharge your energy (and more!) with my free wellness workshop.

I know how hard it is to do your best when you don’t feel your best. That’s why I hope you’ll join me for my free, 4-part wellness workshop.

I’ll cover topics that are critical to your overall well-being, including how to…

Create and maintain the kind of boundless energy you dream of (It probably won’t surprise you to hear that sleep is a key part of this!)

Tackle the nagging cravings that sabotage your health goals (Psst… remember what I said about sleep and appetite regulation? It’s all connected!)

Banish the limiting beliefs that stand in the way of your healthiest, best life

I only host this video series once a year and it goes live THIS THURSDAY, March 28. My team and I will be in the comments ready to chat with you, so don’t miss this chance to ask your most burning health Qs. I really hope to see you there.

My free, 4-part wellness workshop starts March 28! RSVP here:

May you and your incredible, one-of-a-kind body rest well tonight, sweetheart. Mwah!

Your turn: What other questions do you have about sleep? As I said, this is one of my favorite subjects and I want to write even more about it! Let me know what’s on your mind in the comments below.

Peace and satisfying snoozes,

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