#if you guys need to tell me something just tell me

[splitinone]

Long post. This is from an ask from another blog.

Anonymous asked: Well, I'm definitely not the person obsessed with incest. Ew. Sadly that's something that is common in this fandom. Other than that, I don't know what ideals that I had or my muses had that could have offended you. So, I must've been annoying in some way. If that's the case, then I apologise. I won't bother you anymore. (^v^)

I think I know you are based on the last emoticon. If you want  to know why then I will post the stuff under the read more.

I wish you the best of luck in the rest of your RPing adventures.

Sorry it had to be in a public space, I did make an attempt to dm you but it seems you’re more comfortable with asks.

(I would have loved to talk on DM, but you have me blocked. I don’t know what you were expecting. You can’t message people who you’ve blocked, apparently.)

I’m guessing you are Stare-Mun

if not then just ignore this okie but if you are

Unfortunately it seems it was a mixed of ideals I do not agree with and frustration which lead to the block.

a very notable one was the odd jokes about the Virgin Mary, I am not catholic but how you handled the subject was something I found very untasteful. I remember you coming to a stream and making similar off putting jokes or topics which lead me to shut it down, and it was the last straw on the camels back.

(I joke about God and Jesus, not Mary. I apologize for that. Also, I don’t know any of you well enough to know what is/ isn’t appropriate for the mood of the situation. It’s very hard to “read the room” when all I have to go on is text. I won’t know unless you tell me.)

the frustration part has to do with the roleplaying aspect, unfortunately it seems your styles did not do will for each other,on my side tho it felt like there was nothing much to work with in the replies, yes they were paragraphs most of the time but it consisted of word fluff and were hard to reply to, or to gain strength to reply to.

(I did mention at some point that I’m bad at rp. This has to do with the fact that I’m very new to the community and I’m still new. If there was someone out there who could teach me, that would be greatly appreciated.)

Another thing I found frustrating during roleplay was that it felt you tried to control the outcome or way the my characters felt about a certain situation. the arranged marriage au is the strongest case for my frustration, it was a modern setting, and it seems we weren’t on the same page

I had Evelyn with a back story that had given her a sense of independence before the marriage, she had a possible love, a career and then she suddenly got thrown into a frightening situation.

(This wasn’t any better for Jaqui, but he wanted to make the most of it. I actually wanted to work with you more on her story and create an outcome where she’s finally free.)

by making the setting be modern that’s what I felt I had to do, she didn’t grow up with the mentality she had to marry someone to secure a position of higher standing.It would have been different if it was Victorian? where girls were kinda expected to be married off but Evelyn was a grown woman at this point, and it felt like she had to marry a kid. I know he was of age in this AU and he was trying to support this family and he scarified himself so his sister wouldn’t have to get married. But it came off that she would have to get over her losing her identity as a person to love someone she really didn’t know or as was scared to know.

(I hadn’t meant to make her feel that way. Jaqui didn’t expect her to love him. If anything, the kindest thing he expected from Evelyn was to not kill him and inherit his money, or something.)

I informed you it would be a very slow burn, and that my muse will hard to woo under this situation , but it felt like you were trying to steer it to something lovey dovey and that Evelyn should have just gotten over it. Both parties didn’t want to get married in the first place.

(I looked at our DMs. All of them. There was no mention of a “slow burn” or a “hard to woo.” It wasn’t my intention to make it feel that way. In Jaqui’s logic, if he was going into this situation, he might as well make the most of it. He thought it would be easier for the both of them to live with each other if they were at least friends. If anything, he wouldn’t be surprised if Evey ran away and married her true partner in secret.)

.Lastly I felt you only liked me for the art, and that maybe if we were good buds I’d draw your oc’s for you. I know this is probably not true but it sure felt like it. Unfortunately man just seeing you on the dash kinda drained me.

(Firstly, of course I like your art! Why wouldn’t I reblog it?! Second, I didn’t follow you for the art, I followed for the rp. I like you, and I like your characters. I don’t know what it is about me, but I guess I have that effect on people. I guess I’m cursed...)

tl:dr

Please, Do not joke about religious figures. read the room or the situation you are in, Do not try to say inappropriate jokes and then say you don’t quite understand it. its hard to tell  if you are being IC or OOC  in  OOC situations sometimes.

(For future reference, when I’m IC, I use “ ” in my replies on chat, for anyone reading this.)

Please do not try to control the other Rper’s characters to feel a certain way about yours. not all characters mesh well, don’t force it.

(It wasn’t my intention to do so. As I said before, I’m not good at rp, I’m still new at it. Jaqui wasn’t trying to manipulate her emotions in any way.)

Try to be on the same page as your RP partner, if they want one liners do so, but if they are writing a paragraph please, let there be at least two things they can respond to that won’t end in a yes or no question.

(I would love to be on the same page as my RP partners. The hard part is communication.)

I hope  this helped a  little to clarify my frustrations and why I decided to block you, You are nice, I know that, thank you for complementing my art and so on but i feel the block was necessary for me.

If you take anything from this at least let it me the

Please, Do not joke about religious figures. read the room or the situation you are in, Do not try to say inappropriate jokes and then say you don’t quite understand it. its hard to tell  if you are being IC or OOC  in  OOC situations sometimes.

thing to heart.

there might some other people that feel the same way but are too shy to say so, just don’t joke about that type of stuff. I know you said you’d stop. but i know it has happened a few more times.

I’m not saying to leave the platform

I’m not saying you’re a horrible person

I’m just giving you the things that made me feel uncomfortable and might make others feel uncomfortable too. Good luck and I hope you get buddies with the same type of plotting style as you so you guys can have fun. I hope you find a lot of good buds out there I really do.

Good luck out there.

(I’m not mad, just disappointed. If they didn’t want to rp with me anymore, they could have just told me. Drop a thread? Fine, just let me know. Having troubles with my replies? Fine, I’ll fix them. Just let me know. I’m not a mind-reader. Stare is. I’m saying something inappropriate? Fine, just tell me, and explain why it’s inappropriate.)