#if tiffany gets hate from someone else because of my post then thats my fault and my bad and i acknowledge my actions have consequences

[ascalonianpicnic]

Hey man, I understand your frustration regarding that post, but I feel it was rather unkind to make a long-winded callout-like post in public response rather than approach the OP privately and discuss your feelings that way. I genuinely feel they didn't mean to come off as they did and hadn't intended to cause any insult further harm following derogative terminology as they had. I know some things need to be made aware publicly, but your response felt rather directive to the OP rather than people who are ignorant to such things as a whole.

you know dude? you're probably right. My tone last night was more aggressive than it probably needed to be, and also I failed to warn properly in my long winded rant of a post that the link I was including to that other post contained severely triggering wording and content. I'm gonna be honest, I was triggered stumbling across that post. I linked it to a trusted friend, and they were also deeply upset by the wording and phrasing. I wrote my rant, while kind of having a panic attack and breakdown in my kitchen at 4am. I was angry and it came across in that post, and it was directed at the entire gw2 fandom and tumblr as a whole because I regularly see minor ableism being just passed around haphazardly, and I regularly see posts about how having low empathy makes me and others like me somehow "less" and I am fucking sick of it.

So yeah, I snapped at someone who ended up being the straw who broke the camel's back. I snapped at them for claiming to be an expert in a diagnosis that I learned went out of fashion and was considered wrong and ableist to use way back in 2014. I snapped as two people continued to use a term that is scientifically unbacked and used to demonize mentally ill people. I snapped because the things they were saying are actively harmful and actively endanger mentally ill and neurodivergent people. The demonization of mental illness gets people killed. I was angry. I am angry. I could have handled that post better, but I didn't, because I was scared and I was angry, and I have a right to be angry at people who continue to willfully spread the idea that mental illness is what makes a person evil and dangerous.

commandertiffany is allowed to approach me in private to discuss this. Canid did approach me in private to talk things out, and things are fine there now, we both had a chance to learn a bit from each other. I don't have either of them blocked, my dms are open, my ask box is open, I'm always willing to have a civil private conversation. But I am also sick of seeing neurodivergent people thrown under the bus over and over, and someone who claims to be an expert really should have known better. So I am allowed to be angry in a post on my blog I didn't even tag and that I made so people would know I don't support the post below it. And yes, that anger was directed at someone specific demonizing mental illness, because I'm not angry at the people who didn't know, I'm angry at the person who should have known better and claims to but clearly doesn't