#if this is patronising or weird lmk i have tried not to do this

[sweetthinggg]

i will say it does feel a bit strange to me sometimes that many of the femmes i'm mutuals with on here are like 20, bc i'm almost 25 and it's like oh! the person i was when i was 20 was very different to the person i am now. which is not at all to say that any of u seem particularly young or naïve or anything, it's just weird to be aware of, along w the fact that i've been active in queer spaces online and irl for like 10 years now.

idk part of me feels like i should be cultivating a "cool femme older sister who u can come to for advice" vibe on here, bc i have certainly been around the block a few times, but likee several of my younger foomfs (femme oomfs xx) have given me advice on things already so that very much does not seem like the dynamic! plus i think people who position themselves in queer online spaces as a community's mom/older sister/cool aunt/"elder" are often deeply annoying and patronising and not even remotely as wise as they think they are.

idk this post doesn't really have a point i am just rambling and tired..... all this just to say i love u my femme oomfs and i am holding ur hands in solidarity and love from the other side of being in ur early 20s xox