#if he is and got bottom surgery he'd make it big but if he's cis it's absolutely either average or small

[alex-rambles]

How big is Willy's willy take a guess

[metalphoenix]

Trans Dick Grayson Head canons

He knew from super young that he was a boy. Like he was 3 or 4 telling people he was not a girl. I like to imagine his parents just kind of rolled with it. Like they live in a circus. Being weird is like... a prerequisite or something. Maybe Richard is what they were gonna name him if he had been born male so he chose that then found out that Dick was a nickname of Richard and the rest is history.

All this to say, he'd been living as Dick Grayson for years by the time he met Bruce.

This is how I think Bruce found out. So Dick wasn't born in the United States (no idea if this is canon or not but for the sake of this head canon that is the assumption I am operating under). So it would probably take Bruce a bit to get all of Dick's papers like birth certificates and other forms and he's very confused as to why he got a girls birth certificate?

Dick *walking into Bruce's office*: Hey B

Bruce: Oh good, I wanted to talk to you. Do you have a sister or a female cousin you haven't told me about?

Dick: No???

Bruce: Ok well I'm trying to get all your papers sorted and I think Haly may have sent me the wrong ones because these are for a girl named [insert dead name of choice] Grayson.

Dick: What? No, thats me?

Bruce *now very confused*: What???

Dick *confused at Bruce's confusion*: Ya? I was born [deadname] but thats not my name anymore?

Bruce *realizing this means his new tiny son is trans* hnn

Bruce asks him a few days later if he wants him to change his paperwork so it says Richard Grayson and has his sex marker as M. Dick is kind of confused why it matters but is just like sure?

The Puberty Talk is very awkward on Bruce's front. He ends up talking to Dick about hormone blockers to hold off on puberty for a bit which Dick agrees to. He starts blockers at 11.

At 13 he starts on a low dosage of Testosterone under the guidance of Dr. Tompkins and a pediatric endocrinologist.

Bruce does all of his T shots for him and they make a little event out of it. They day they do the shots they take a night off from patrol and order take out and eat it on the couch while they watch a movie. These are also the only days Alfred lets them eat ice cream straight out of the carton. (Bruce still goes on patrol but only after Dick goes to bed. It wouldn't do to have a very noticeable pattern of days he takes off).

Because of this Dick never goes through female puberty, combine that with the fact that everyone knows Bruce Wayne adopted a son, he's pretty much stealth.

When he's 16 he starts talking to Bruce about getting bottom surgery (he doesn't need top surgery seeing as he never grew breasts). He has all three bottom surgeries over the next year.

I like to think that he just... forgets people don't know. Like it doesn't occur to him that to everyone thats not Bruce, Alfred or Leslie he just looks like a cis dude. Maybe when he's like 17 he goes to pride and wears a trans flag or paints the trans flag on his cheek or something. The papparazi take a photo of him and it becomes Big News.

They hold one press conference to be like "ya I'm a trans guy, I've always been a trans guy. No stop asking about my transition that is private medical information"

He becomes more involved in the trans community after that.

Extra: Maybe he is an olympic athlete as well. obviously he competed in mens gymnastics. Imagine the debates that would cause.

[danse--macabre]

trans astarion headcanons

talked to this about a few people individually, and decided to make a big old post.

so for starters: we are talking transmasc astarion. raised in some fancy smancy magical elf town. saw himself as a boy/man from a young age. transition was both easy and culturally accepted: transitioned young, magical t, bottom/top/whatever surgery etc. the works, ka-pow level 9 spell of here's your tits blasted off. he wanted it, he got it. he didn't quite conform entirely to the androgynous elven ideal, so to celebrate being hot and himself, travelled all the way from whatever fancy smancy elf settlement he was from to Baldur's Gate to make his big splash debut as a newly minted t-Man - and ran headfirst into becoming flamboyant law school frat boy, party boy slut who was pulling right left centre like a fucking conveyor belt, they were lining up (hey, what a better way to debut becoming sexy, lads?). still, smart enough to pass his exams despite the wild parties the night before, and well-connected, schmoozes his way into a successful respectable career aged 39 using his fraternity/society/elite men's club contacts to get there (and well, if he previously fucked some of them when in law school, who cares!). he's having the time of his life, enjoying loving his body very much, thank you.

and then he becomes a vampire. and he's frozen in time looking like this.

(cw: discussions of transphobia, misgendering, & trans fetishisation)

and at first, who cares -- this was always what he was supposed to look like, he's immortalised as this - as his peak - and you know the way youth is just lionised, put on a pedestal in queer spaces, he decides he doesn't fucking care. it's a relief.

(the quiet realisation he'll never grow old in his beautiful body, that maybe he had more growing to do, much more of himself to become, sometimes bristles at his subconscious -- but he bats it away in the same way he bats away things like 'hope' or 'optimism'. he doesn't have space for that while being crushed.)

anyway. two narrative possibilities here, in the vampire years:

fetishisation. transness becomes his entire sexual appeal, rather than part of who he is more broadly. lures chasers who are desperate to get their horrible hands on a hot t-boy, who often want him to perform in demeaning ways that may undercut his gender/misgender him. leans into the parts of astarion's narrative where he is often reduced to a sex object.

erasure. people believe he is cis, fuck him like he is cis, expect him to behave like he is cis. and he almost forgets he is trans. he becomes detached from that part of himself almost entirely - were it not for visual signals (e.g. top surgery/phallo scars that cannot fade over time), he'd do so. leans into the out-of-body dissociation elements occurring instead.

anyway, nautiloid happens, game happens. astarion doesn't pretend he's NOT trans, it's just something he tends to dismiss as 'not very important', and straight up won't come up until act 2. this minimising approach allows him some control over his narrative even if it is avoiding a difficult truth: others hurt him because he was trans, objectified him because he was trans, or simply didn't want engage with something they considered unpleasant.

we get to the final choice. a key facet of spawn vs. ascended astarion is acceptance versus denial. ascended astarion convinces himself that being a spawn is a demeaning experience where one would be better off dead, and uses that to justify killing 7k spawn (as well as part of himself). classic "accept oneself; live in pride vs. deny oneself; live in shame" queer dilemma. so it follows that astarion's journey with his transgender identity develops along those lines.

spawn astarion embraces his transness, and makes efforts to be trans in his own terms -- rather than for the gratification of others. he embraces his gender non-conformity and much more and is so much more playful with gender. this could develop into becoming genderfluid/non-binary gender where his particular mode of effeminate masculinity develops into something like 'sometimes I'm a she/her in stockings actually, but I'm never a woman', something he can only really embrace when he is no longer living in crisis mode, can accepts himself as a trans person, and knows he does not need to exist to be desirable to others. regardless of whether he's non-binary or simply gnc, i think it takes a fair bit of confidence & bravery for him to play with gender knowing it might jeopardise people reading him as masc, but he's tired of living for others wants & eyes.

ascended astarion in contrast, lives in denial about his transness. tries to convince you he's a cis man. and yes, he might be able to pass seamlessly, but he's quietly miserable.

[pupplaylogan]

what do u think about the sides' junk. Like I know they're shapeshifters but like. What hc do u have for everyone

WELL. I don't have headcanons the same as everyone else. I notice people usually stick with One Headcanon (ex. "My headcanon is this character is bisexual!") and rarely, if ever, change them for anything. I am the complete opposite. I have HCs for very specific situations and they change a lot. (Like, I headcanon Logan as transfem, but a lot of the times I don't always make her transfem in AUs.) But I'll try my best.

I headcanon Patton as a trans man who hasn't gotten bottom surgery, so typically he has a T Dick. However, if I were to view him as a cis man, I think he has the biggest dick out of all of the sides. Man's packing ok. Fucking massive. Probably trims his pubes into fun shapes.

I also headcanon Roman as an afab trans person who hasn't had any surgery, so he also gets a T Dick! As a cis man, he'd probably be average size, but very thick. I think he's a fat, hairy bear. & because of that he probably has a lot of pubes that he does not trim & its hot

I love hemipenis Janus. I know that's everyone's HC, but... he's got two dicks. In human AUs, it changes a lot, but I think he's above average. & I once read a fic where he had a dick piercing & its honestly my fave HC ever. Probably slender. Don't know why, I think it's the snake thing. (Snakes are slender and long and so is ... his dick.) Maybe curved a little bit.

I recently have been loving uncircumsized Logan. I don't know where it came from, but I am enjoying it. I also usually headcanon him has having the smallest dick out of all the sides. I don't think he shaves or trims anything, he probably thinks there's no point and also he's a very, very busy man (being a little submissive for the sides).

I love big dick Virgil. I think he's like right under Patton and above Janus in regards to dick size. Also, I bet he shaves. I don't know why I think that, but I bet he does. He also has a thick dick. I read an emetophilia fic where Logan gags on Virgil's cock and I can't get it out of my head. He has a big, thick dick. I also sometimes HC him as being an afab trans person & gets bottom surgery. He walks in & the first thing he asks is "how big can you make my dick" /j

AND. I HAVE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT REMUS' DICK APPARENTLY. It kind of just... changes constantly. Which I think is very in character for him. He shapeshifts, you know he is not leaving his dick size alone. Janus walks into the dark side place of the mind palace one day & Remus has made his dick like the size of the fucking room & it takes like 15 minutes trying to make him change it back so Janus can actually walk into the living room.

I ALSO don't think he's leaving it a human dick. He's changed his dick to a million things. C!Thomas learned that ducks have corkscrew penises & Remus immediately changed it to see how it was. Thomas put on The Good Place and Remus changed it to match Derek's windchime dick.

In order of size: Patton, Virgil, Janus, Roman, Logan (& Remus is whereever he wants to be 🧡)

& in order of thickness: Roman, Patton-Virgil, Logan, Janus

[nixie-writes]

Could I get some T4T Vox x Reader?

I headcanon Vox as a trans man 🏳️‍⚧

In my head it's always pride month and I'm blaring J-Pee's "I'm Not Gay" in my mental gay parade. Vox can and could/would/should be a trans-man and if he canonically is not, we still carry this headcanon and if you misgender Vox he will turn you into a was/were. I've got a lot (and I mean a lot) going on in my personal life right now so this will just be headcanons but I do hope this does some justice! I decided to make the reader a trans man as well, I feel like Vox would feel better with someone he can relate to, especially in such a personal situation such as transgender life. However in the scenario someone would like to see this idea with a reader who is cis or has a separate gender identity (trans woman, enby, neo-pronouns and the extra sprinkles) I'll be happy to do that as well! No trigger warnings this time surprisingly so no cut.

I believe Vox, as such an influential Overlord, would have kept his dead name and previous identity as a whole secret from anyone, including Valentino. Valentino would eventually learn, as well as Velvet, but he would not feel confident in telling them. Velvet is very happy to know such a personal thing about him and Valentino is accepting but I mean...It's Valentino. We know what he was thinking.

When his s/o enters his life, he never would have guessed he'd become so close with this new man, much less become an item with said man. Learning that his s/o is also a trans man is a huge shock (pun intended) to him. He immediately feels closer to his male s/o and confides in him with his own struggles as a trans man. Vox isn't exactly an open book so achieving this is major.

Since Vox's s/o entered his life and learned of Vox's gender identity Valentino has misgendered Vox once. Specifically once. There's a reason and his name is [Y/N].

My TV man has had full top and bottom surgery and takes hormone pills. If his s/o doesn't have any of these and states he wants said surgery/HRT Vox will be happy to help his s/o feel comfortable in his body.

If someone misgenders Vox's s/o without knowing his real pronouns Vox will give them a stern explanation as to his s/o's identity and how he should be referred to as. However if someone misgenders said s/o and they're aware of his s/o's identity they somehow are no longer seen. The lights go out for 30 seconds and when the lights come back on they're just. Gone. Vox will wave it off like no big deal but they're gone and they'll wish it had been an exterminator.

Vox will never ask about a dead name or anything pertaining to his s/o's previous identity, however if his s/o chose to tell him he'd pay close attention and know specifically what not to refer to his s/o by. If he knows of a dead name he'll never use it nor tell anyone, that's for his s/o do at his own comfort.

Now if he's with someone who, after getting with him discovers they're trans and identify as a male he will do everything they need and want to help them transition. If they don't want to transition however he's just as accepting, as long as his s/o is happy in his body.

We know Valentino isn't really the most politically correct person, he's got two things on his mind and one of them is cash, the other is what he claims to have had with everyone's mom the night before. Velvet however is very different.

I personally headcanon Velvet as being enby and using she/them pronouns. I imagine she'd be happy using the two options interchangeably and is fine with people using either to refer to her, so of course she understands the struggle of gender identity and body dysphoria. So upon learning Vox's s/o is a trans man she'll be overjoyed and happily share her own identity - Velvet is her current name and her dead name will be left in the grave. (I also headcanon Velvet as a lesbian but I'm happy to write her with a cis or trans male s/o.) So just imagine her with Vox and his trans male s/o during the entirety of pride month. She's an Overlord as well, she'll make sure Vox and his s/o are properly respected on social media, otherwise they've been removed from social media.

Obviously there's going to be some Karens and transphobes (and homophobes) in Hell and if anyone were to say anything to Vox or his s/o about their gender identities or their relationship, Vox has a plan in mind. One hand goes over his s/o's eyes to shield his baby boy from what he's about to do and the other hand has enough electricity to turn the Pacific ocean into a boiling mass of fizzing water.

Oh and of course during pride month a lot of trans and LGBT-themed clothes and other items his s/o wants. Even stuff most would label as "feminine" - hell, he's happy to get his s/o a dress said s/o likes a lot. I don't see dresses that demand boobs or a lack of penises. Let men wear dresses in public.

[cuntwrap--supreme]

Watching a YouTube video on trans shit and it's got me thinking about a lot. For example, I really want to medically transition. Like, I can't stand that I have boobs, but I also know that removing them won't do a damn thing to make me less female in appearance because my hips are so wide, so I'd just look like a titless lady. I would like to be on t, too, but I like my singing voice (one of the few things I actually like about myself) and I'm scared that making my voice deeper would ruin the progress I've made vocally over the years. And then there's the big thing, which is that I feel like I'll be an unlovable monster if I go an alter the way my body formed. If I remove my breasts, if I start testosterone and get more body hair and bottom growth and a deeper voice and most likely a receded hairline, if I actually go by the name I've chosen for myself in public, I will be widely reviled. The people who care about me now won't care for me any longer. I know for a fact my mom would disown me because she makes it clean any chance she gets how much she hates trans people (except a trans woman she works with, but she still calls her a man and whatever, she just tolerates her presence a little better because she's funny). I don't think my dad would care so long as I'm happy, but I'm pretty sure I'd just be a joke to my siblings. And what about the few friends I've managed to make recently? I'm pretty sure 3/4 of them only talk to me because they have a thing for me, and the other one is a gay guy so I doubt he'd give a shit. One of my friends accepts that I'm "gender whatever," but that's with me presenting as female. If I presented as male, would he still laugh with me, would he still push me out of the way to force my water bottle to trigger the lemonade tab instead of water at work? Would he still ask me if I'm doing ok, and genuinely care what the answer is? My biggest fear in transitioning is not regret - which is something that concerns me because I've gotten so good at coping with the pain that it's sometimes hard to tell if it really exists. My biggest fear is not being seen as a person any longer, or being seen as somehow less of a person, as a freak.

It's so much easier to just look female and be vaguely androgynous than to actively change every aspect of my life and have a shot at truly being happy. For some reason, people take it better when you look like a chick and say you're not a chick than if you're a guy who says they were born as a chick. Like, all I want is to be able to look like how I feel I should look, dress how I want to dress, etc. It's really not a lot, but to the cis folks I know, every little thing matters. Hell, my mom cries any time I cut my hair short. If that kind of minor change triggers an "I've lost my daughter" reaction, how could I possibly go along with making any real changes? How could I have top surgery or feel the effects of testosterone without being made to feel regret from it? How could I possibly exist when 95% of the people I talk to would tell me I'm making a mistake or that I've mutilated my body or that I used to be so pretty what happened? And this is largely why I don't think I'd ever be able to transition, even if I were in better health and had infinite dollars, because I'm too socially awkward to be able to just go out and meet people who would accept me for me.