#idk why it translated to shame. i didn’t hesitate bc i didn’t love her i hesitated bc i wanted to make sure i meant it
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i think above all else, i tie my aro identity to my autism. like sometimes i wonder if i’m aro just bc i’m autistic, and ykw that’s totally fine for me lol
and while we’re at it, that might be the case for my gender too. being non-binary is quite literally rejecting the binary, and being aro basically subscribes you to relationship anarchy, which also inherently rejects societal norms
that’s so peculiar to me now looking back on myself as a child. i knew romance and gender weren’t fake, but they definitely didn’t feel real lol. i wonder if other queer ppl felt this early on too, and if being neurodivergent makes a difference
i remember being incredibly frustrated every time gender was brought up with validity. “boys and girls” was like saying “cats and dogs.” it’s a phrase to communicate an idea, but we all know they’re not the only ones. romance didn’t rly frustrate me so much as it felt like participating in a game. it was fun choosing ppl to have a crush on, until i was on the receiving end. like, we’re still playing, right?
ppl always say autism means you don’t get social cues, but i don’t think i was misunderstanding anything. i think i was just questioning their value
#one time in kindergarten i was asked if i loved my mom#it was meant to be a given but i didn’t respond immediately#i just pondered it rly deeply bc i understood that ‘love’ was a strong word and i didn’t wanna just answer unthinkingly#but i was just met with a concerned look and suddenly i was overwhelmed w guilt and just started crying (damn i cry a lot dont i)#bc how dare i make my mom look bad by not saying i loved her? why did i have to think abt it shouldnt it be obvious?#idk why it translated to shame. i didn’t hesitate bc i didn’t love her i hesitated bc i wanted to make sure i meant it#i think from that day on i always questioned this idea of love in every sense of the word#that might be why i’m so obsessed w lovecore and fictional romance too. aestheticizing it naturally invites analysis#and ofc fun lol i do just love love at the end of the day#aro#genderposting#autisms#danbles#hmmm#lovecore
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