#idk what else i could've done in that situation except control my tone a little better maybe but i was really anxious | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

piplupod · 3 months

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sometimes i think maybe it's a good thing i'm so traumatized and fucked up mentally and emotionally bc then i never expect ppl to be kind or even just plain old nice to me, so when they ARE kind or nice i feel overwhelming gratitude and almost a sense of awe HFDSJKL like... i dont know if i would have had this appreciation for each little piece of kindness if i wasn't the way that i am. but also i know thats kind of an absolutely wild way of thinking about this LMAO

#but then on the other side of things i still get really hurt when ppl are cruel or just the usual flavour of mean #like i had a mother with a stroller get huffy and aggressive w me yesterday as i was getting off the bus and that rly stuck w me #idk what else i could've done in that situation except control my tone a little better maybe but i was really anxious #because her stroller was in the way of the aisle and i was trying to figure out the fastest way to navigate around it to exit #bc the bus drivers are always in a hurry so i didnt want to keep anybody waiting while i got around her stroller #so i just said ''sorry i just need to get by'' and i think my tone was not Perfectly Pleasant bc i was really anxious and unsure #but i meant it as a ''sorry if i touch ur stroller as i squeeze past'' dsjfkl i didnt mean it like ''u need to move ur shit for me''#alas. i think she took it as the latter. also im pretty sure she was on edge already bc she knew her stroller would be in the way #anyways i said that and she did the thing where ppl throw up their hands in a really quick defensive/aggressive half-shrug gesture #where they're gesturing like ''what the fuck !!! what are you doing !!!'' idk how common that gesture is dsjkl i see it a lot around town #and i just quickly squeezed past her stroller and tried not to touch it as little as i could and then said thank you and scuttled away #BUT IT REALLY BOTHERED ME THAT SHE GOT SO HUFFY ABOUT IT. i've been trying to figure out what i could've done differently #unfortunately i think its just one of those things where we were BOTH anxious or on edge so she was just assuming i was being aggressive #bc she probably expected ppl to be rude about her stroller so... when u expect that it'll colour ur perceptions of ppls behaviours #so i am not even upset w her at all fsdjkl i simply wish it had gone better. alas!! what a silly little encounter to be ruminating over #ANYHOWDY... I am glad that i can have such appreciation for kindness when it happens fdsjkdl #like i had a little snippet of small talk about bananas with a stranger in the grocery store last year and i still think about it happily #bc idk. it means so much to me. making little connections w ppl! its very very important to me bc i dont get it very often!#and theres some kind things ppl have said to me online that have stuck with me or will stick with me for honest-to-god years fdsjkl #and perhaps i am a sap but ... I'm just glad i can hold these small bits of goodness so close to my heart bc it makes life a little nicer #pippen needs 2nd breakfast

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