#idk man we're shitposting today

[mooni]

[velvetvexations]

Since we're talking about forcefem, here're most of the forcefem-related asks I've had in my inbox, some of which are a few days old on account of technically going in the vexatious tag if not exactly kink asks. I wanted to answer one from today on it's own which I'll get to later but I wanted to get to the older ones and also get to a few of the others from today while I was at it.

i just saw a post where a trans guy was showing some messages where someone was (unconsensually) basically roleplaying forcefemming him. despite him telling them that he did not want that and that it was very much transphobic, and he atill got a message boiling down to "you're not a man, silly, you're a girl :D" and. to be honest. this was the thing that stopped the brainworms of "what if the whole concept of transandrophobia is actually transmisogynistic and i am entirely wrong" bc at least some of these people will just say the most bog standard transphobic shit to trans guys and not register it as transphobia. so why the fuck would they be right about anything transmascs experience also on that note thank you for being so outspoken in favour of transmascs getting to discuss their oppression. it's really helpful to see trans women stand with us here, especially when it comes to aforementioned brainworms

congratulations to that transphobe for creating a new transandrobro

the 'forcemasc isnt revolutionary' shit is the most annoying iteration of stupid tumblr discourse. like im going through the tag trying to read some horny shit and oh look. theres someone being stupid and hypocritical. in my horny tag.

people are getting tribalist about kinks and it's depressing

Every time people are saying that trans men & mascs cannot possibly fathom being objectified & fetishized, I think on all of the posts I’ve seen that did that exact same thing. And yeah, some of it might have been kink, so no hate no judgement I dabble in that tag too, but I’ve also seen “get in the dress” type posts that seem to be genuinely calling for trans men to be more feminine, untagged & in the wild, enough where I’m like — am I just imagining this? Like am I crazy? Am I missing something, or was that extremely detailed post about why I MUST stay feminine — or become more — for someone else’s benefit being 100% serious? And, again — if it’s kink, all the power to them, I love that for them, I even occasionally love that for me. But I have encountered enough people who were dead serious that I sometimes want no one but trusted friends & advisors to ever witness me again. And then I look at statistics & feel genuinely ill. And yeah, I’m gnc — and there’s the rub, because while I feel genuine joy being fem as well as masc, I want it to be a Choice, not something forced upon me.

people need to be fucking normal

Yh like ik a lot of shitposts don't have any tags but people have. Really gotta tag forcefem. I've blocked a large amount of people making these jokes + filtered their names n I still see it

I'm sorry, anon. <3

Fuck thank you so much for talking so openly about forcemasc. I’m so dumb I thought there wasn’t a name for that kink that I’ve been into for years, albeit my version is way more weirder. It would be like a… forcemascfem??? Like first it’s forcemasc and then it turns into forcefem and then right back to forcemasc…. And then back to- Idk my gender is weird and my kinky fantasy for that is weird

Cross as many boundries as you want, that sounds rad. Forcefem has a lot of infrastructure to jump off of.

“I’m doing a kink in a non kink way so it’s not kink blog!” Sorry this pisses me off It’s still a kink. Like. If someone made an I-suggest-BDSM blog and tried to claim it wasn’t a kink blog I’m sure more people would see how silly this is but because it’s the transfem approved virtuous forcefem they just let it slide??? Like. You are engaging in a kink and thats fine. You can say there won’t be anything explicitly sexual! But it will still be a kink blog because it’s a blog about a kink! A kink blog if you will! It doesn’t matter if you’re not getting off to it, it’s still a kink! That you are participating in! On your blog about that kink!

It SHOULD piss you off! It's extremely fucking scummy!

what the hell? for like one solid minute(longer than that but i like saying it this way) all the forcefem on my dash was tagged and i could blissfully not have to see it every other post and then just today i had to unfollow a buncha people for an assload of untagged forcefem :/ like im transmasc i think its understandable that i do not wish to see that anyway hope your day is goin well miss velvet

yeah it's praxis to not tag kink anymore

trfs are perfectly aware what the "force" bit means when forcemasc comes up in conversation

strange how that works

[little-shadows-story]

About Tumblr and AI companies and having to opt out of it + Tale 2 of "Little Shadows"

In case you haven't heard, this is what's happening. I've already opted out in all of my blogs here, but man. This sucks a lot.

I guess the biggest problem for me is: how long have they been doing this? Not knowing frustrates me to no end. I decided tumblr would be one of the main places to put my experimental writing precisely because there was no AI third parties involved, but if this is how they're gonna play now I have to reconsider uploading my stuff here.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not gonna leave Tumblr. This is one of the only social media I actively use unlike FB or IG that I have but are basically dead, and I left twitter waaay before the beginning of the fall, way before Musk even bought it iirc. But I'm not comfortable anymore uploading and sharing my writing here, and it sucks. I wanted tumblr to be sort of an archive for my writing (besides my own archiving in my computer) but I'm having second thoughts now.

Tale 2 of Little Shadows was supposed to come out today, but now I'm secong guessing wether I really wanna post it here or not. I have Royal Road, and I have my own blog via Blogger too -and now that we're talking about this, idk if Blogger also has a deal with AI companies or not, fuck- so maybe I'll just. Upload there? I saw a while ago an iniciative for a new tumblr like site, I gotta look thru my likes and reblogs to find it, so maybe I'll go there? Ugh. Like, I'll still use tumblr for doing updates on my progress or shitpost, but when it comes to sharing my writing, even the experimental one.... yeah i don't know about that man.

So I guess. I guess this is it for this blog, huh? Wow, that sucks. I won't delete it, and I while I thought I can use it for promoting the links to the Royal Road chapters, I now think my main blog is better for that, since I have more followers there. I'm sorry. I just can't keep posting here in good faith for the time being.

So again, FYI: I won't delete this side blog, but I probably won't post more in here unless something happens that makes me come back.

If you liked Little Shadows so far, thank you so much!!! Here's the link to Tale 2 in Royal Road. From now on, if you'd like to continue getting news and notifications about when a new chapter comes out, please consider following my main @mary-is-writing, or give a follow to the wip in RR itself.

Thanks for the support so far, and I hope I see you again someday soon. This blog will go to sleep now.

[butchamy]

Was thinking about this post again while out on a walk today. Like (I assume) a lot of butch trans women, I spend a lot of time thinking about what really makes the difference between a butch woman and a cis man without resorting to some dumb gender essentialism shit. (Obviously self-identification is the major factor but I still think that begs the question of why the distinction is made to begin with, and how people use those labels - in particular I think of a lot of posts that are like "I thought this was a butch woman but it was actually (cis male celebrity)".) (There's definitely a lot that can be said about how said men (including David Byrne) are almost universally skinny and white but that's beyond the scope of this personal post)

And that made me think about why I made this post - it really wasn't a non sequitur shitpost, it was something I genuinely felt during and after watching Stop Making Sense (not trying to transvestigate David or anything, it's just that the way he looks and acts on stage is kinda #goals for me as a butch woman).

I think what on a broad level differentiates butch women and cis men, definitely from an outsider's perspective, is the fact that for a butch woman, they are deliberately performing (a certain kind of) masculinity. (I wanna emphasize the word performing because I think this is very different from, say, 'replicating') (I like this way of looking at it because it's an analysis that can equally apply to trans women like me, who have already spent a long time in a 'masculine' body and in 'masculine' dress.)

And a lot about what David Byrne does on stage is, well, performance. He is not just singing lyrics or playing instruments. He is presenting in a very deliberate way. (I think this speaks to another corollary between myself and Byrne - we're both very visibly autistic, so in a sense any interaction with others is a form of performance.)

And I feel in Stop Making Sense particularly it's a very masculine performance. Not masculinity in the macho sense, but- you know, the slicked hair, the suit (both big and small). It feels very butch to me in a way that I can't really describe better than I already have.

Idk this feels even more rambling than my usual posts but I just wanted to get my thoughts out there

David Byrne is a beautiful butch woman. to me

[mirapunk]

My sister said that no man in Germany pees standing. That's where we're headed in this country, my friend. The president of the US pees sitting down. We got a bunch of preachers & leaders who don't stand up and piss against the wall like a man. That's what's wrong with America today. If you think I'm being vile, then God's being vile, because the Bible refers to men as "he who pisseth against the wall". 400 years ago, pastors used to preach how to be a man & that a MAN NEEDS TO BE A MAN.

idk if this is a shitpost or what but what the heck did I just read

tho I gotta say this feels slightly transphobic tbh?? like the thing of equating maleness with pissing standing up is really :/ espec since I’m a trans man